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10-31-08 13:41 #36
Posts: 1337Powerful women
Originally Posted by Pizdyets
Fucking complicated.
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10-31-08 12:27 #35
Posts: 499Originally Posted by Doctor_Skank
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10-31-08 09:28 #34
Posts: 2626Originally Posted by Stravinsky
Actually my lament is the result of some soul-searching (yes we mongers do that sometimes) I've had to do following my most recent trip and to a certain extent, my last few trips.
To quote NIN: the Downward Spiral.
Essentially 2 things have occured simultaneously:
1) I haven't been getting the response I've desired and been accustomed to from both existing girls and new girls
2) I have lacked the motivation and/or finesse to get what I want
It isn't one particular girl, although there are 3 that I particularly like I can think of off hand that have triggered my realization.
I've been in the mongering/girlfriend management business for more than a decade, and as such I am no stranger to both hot streaks and droughts and am well aware of some of the hazards of mongering:
1) falling in love/emotional crisis
2) time mismanagement
3) cost control
4) friendship maintenance
5) emotional attrition
6) complacency/laziness
Last week I spent 3 nights each in St.Pete and Moscow, meeting both some existing gf contacts, fresh gf contacts and new girls. I did not participate in p4p, due to lack of time and motivation, not to mention the prohibitive costs of the take home/outcall variety, which I vastly prefer over salons/in call.
In St.Pete I was with existing gfs Marina (23), Julia (24) and Natasha (19), as well as meeting a cute new 19-year old contact Anastasiya, whom I managed to only kiss after some afternoon sushi.
In Moscow I was with existing gfs Dasha (23), Katya (19), Anna (23), Vika (30), Sasha (24), Olessia (20), Masha (25) as well as 31-year old Tania, a new contact with amazing tits I managed to kiss and suck before she ran off into the night, thankfully just in time for the afore-mentioned Katya to show up for a sleep-over.
It is not that I wasn't getting enough sex, nor can I complain about the quality. It was the response in some of the girls that bothered me.
I'd noticed following trends, certainly not among all, but among some:
1) lack of commitment to meet/scheduling problems
2) apparent suspicion of my true intent in our relations
3) disappointment in status/direction of relation and/or my person
Realizing that such trends existed, I sought the reasons for them and came to the conclusions listed in my previous post. Essentially, I realized that I had been making mistakes in my relationship management, that I was slipping. Curiously, this slippage was due to contradictory factors, both my lack of motivation/commitment to the cause (or to the particular relationship/girl) as well as my own laziness/comfort in the relationships, which had become too lax.
In any case, I am in the process of collecting myself and setting impulses to restart solid into 2009. I've already taken some measures which have shown positive affect. Essentially, I've hardened up... of course without losing the human/soul touch that the girls love. I've just returned it to it's shell and not left it hanging around my neck. I hope that made sense.
Again, complacency kills.Originally Posted by StravinskyOriginally Posted by Stravinsky
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10-31-08 09:27 #33
Posts: 2626Originally Posted by Pizdyets
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10-31-08 08:26 #32
Posts: 499Originally Posted by Doctor_Skank
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10-31-08 07:38 #31
Posts: 2626Originally Posted by Cruiser DOriginally Posted by Pizdyets
You are good enough that women are fucking you: she made a good choice
She is good enough that you are fucking her: she made the cut
Nonetheless, they don't like it rubbed in their faces. In moments of weakness I've made the mistake a few times and although it rarely led to direct conflict, it did set some currents in motion I didn't like.
However, the higher up the female food chain the girl is, the less likely she is to accept this. Her reputation is at stake as well... and in cities like Moscow, she has numerous choices herself.
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10-31-08 06:24 #30
Posts: 499Originally Posted by Cruiser D
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10-31-08 05:23 #29
Posts: 1454Doc,
Excellent advice, I imagine you could apply it to most women, anywhere. Sounds like you went through some changes this last trip. Is it possible a single girl inspired all this elightenment? Or was it a combination of factors?
it is important to be good. It is just as important to be "bad", exciting. Kindness and generosity as previously mentioned are important... just as much so is the occasional "no" and the occasional conflict.
opening yourself emotionally to women and can be very positive. However the line between opening yourself and appearing weak is easily crossed. Once crossed, it's a long road back.
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10-30-08 23:03 #28
Posts: 1381I was having a date with a girl I have known for about three years, she didn't interact with foreigners too much so her english skills were rusty. So I invited another female friend of mine who sometimes translates for me. The girl I was with had found a local man about 2 or so years ago and became very serious with him. The topic came up about if I was in his place if I would allow her to go out to meet a male 'friend' such as myself. I told her that if a girl belongs to me I expect her to act that way. That to ask such a thing would be unacceptable. The look of lust and approval on both the girls’ faces was quite self satisfying.
The translator who is also very interested in me has told me a number of times that I would be perfect for her once I stop fuc king around with sluts. I said well, if I’m fucking around with so many sluts doesn’t that make me as bad as them, a male sl ut myself? She said, no, it is different for a man.
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10-30-08 22:06 #27
Posts: 2626Originally Posted by SlutLover
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10-30-08 21:42 #26
Posts: 105Masculinity, Russian style!
Absolutely, you'd be regarded as a лох, a guy they disrespect and use for their purposes. In Russia, the man is supposed to be in charge, rather than tell her stories about his emotional state.
For those who speak Russian, go to the Smotri website, watch a girl's broadcast and see how the guys in the chat there talk to the women, and what women are willing to accept. It will open your eyes. But those who speak Russian well enough to understand probably already know
Originally Posted by Doctor_Skank
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10-30-08 20:47 #25
Posts: 2626Originally Posted by Solntsa Yada
I've been in a couple of relationships which were in various stages of intimacy, where a real relationship in the sense of partnership had developed, albeit with clearly defined operative roles. As our emotional intimacy had reached a level beyond comfort, I revealed too much, too often. The relationship went on, but things changed.
Eventually, the "sizzle" was gone.
As much as I think I know certain females, I still have occasionally made the mistake of not thinking, or simply forgetting, that they don't play by our rules. I also believe that utilizing this cultural difference and relating on those terms she understands, the Russian system if you will, can be used by us to great affect and is in some ways a nice way to run a relationship. Some ways. Others not. But it certainly is simple in it's structure.
As for freebies being emotionally or effort free, nobody ever claimed that. The only thing freebie means is that you didn't pay her for sex in the traditional sense of the word "pay".
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10-30-08 14:44 #24
Posts: 25Originally Posted by Doctor_Skank
2) women are not your friends. Once they become your friends, they're not your lovers.
4) opening yourself emotionally to women and can be very positive. However the line between opening yourself and appearing weak is easily crossed. Once crossed, it's a long road back.
8) show, not tell. She'll notice without you telling her.
9) almost any women can be replaced. Sometimes it is better to just let things end. Charity does nobody a favor.
It begs the question. What the F* is going on with Men, and Parenting. I vow to train my boys (if/when I get them) in these rules of life, Its what being a friggin parent is about, and the majority of western society seems to have forgotten all about this.
10) scoring new freebies is work. If you don't take pride and passion to work, you need a new job.
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10-30-08 13:30 #23
Posts: 2626The hazards of complacency
Just back from a week long trip to Russia, I have had to exercise a degree of self-criticism. Perhaps others have experienced the same.
The last months have been good to me on the freebie front. So much so in fact, that I have allowed my skillz to deteriorate. Laziness might be a better word.
I have noticed a trend among my recent encounters, both with regular gfs and with new contacts, that reminds me of a simple fact:
We can never become complacent.
When a system of success yields results, it is easy to rely more on the system rather than the persons involved. It is easy to rely on carrying out certain tactical maneuvers rather than allowing the moment, and the passion, to take it's course.
And moreover, it is easy to allow oneself to slip back into the cultural behavior patterns one grew up with, in my case American/European.
In the past week, the following deficiencies come to mind:
1) focus on the girl. Talk about her, ask her questions, figure out who she is. Women need to be treated as individuals and not cattle, even if they do know you have other women.
2) women are not your friends. Once they become your friends, they're not your lovers.
3) sex is secondary to women. Focus first of romance, kissing, atmosphere. The sex will come... and will be better if you do your homework first.
4) opening yourself emotionally to women and can be very positive. However the line between opening yourself and appearing weak is easily crossed. Once crossed, it's a long road back.
5) it is important to be good. It is just as important to be "bad", exciting. Kindness and generosity as previously mentioned are important... just as much so is the occasional "no" and the occasional conflict.
6) women, despite their cultural similarities, are individuals. Adjust accordingly.
7) sometimes sex is just sex. There is no need to blur the boundaries if she doesn't want to.
8) show, not tell. She'll notice without you telling her.
9) almost any woman can be replaced. Sometimes it is better to just let things end. Charity does nobody a favor.
10) scoring new freebies is work. If you don't take pride and passion to work, you need a new job.
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10-25-08 02:07 #22
Posts: 365From what you've described, my best guess is that she might have misunderstood and thought that you had told him specific details ("and then she does this thing with her tongue!")
Sorry for jumping on you, my bad. Glad it's smoothed over.