Married and Mongering

[Oiste]

That's very interesting thread indeed. And I was thrilled reading it from the beginning up to the last post. Now I will tell my point of view, which is somewhat similar with some posters and opposite to others.

I believe, that if to generalise, a man is seeking three basic things from a woman: love, sex, and friendship. Those guys, who thought they found all those things in one woman, got married. They were thinking it will last like that forever. That was very wrong to think so.

Real friendship requires time and both you and your lifemate must overpass together a lot of obstacles and challenges which life gives us to be sure whether a human is your best friend or just a piece a cr#p. You never know in advance. Only being together for over decade or even decades you can make a right conclusion. Some of us became disappointed in this regard, bot others learnt in time, that fat old wife, who became like that eventually, still is much more reliable, than anybody else on this earth. So opposite opinions could appear, because you never know in advance who is who.

Let's define the word "love" now. It is a feeling, which takes your breath away, when grass looks greener and sun shines warmer. When you are in love, you loose an ability to think soberly. And that is one of the strongest feelings ever. That's how word "love" could be defined by some people. But in my opinion that is wrong definition. I would call it passion and infatuation, which some of us mix up with love. Infatuation can't last for long. Sooner or later it fades away and eventually will be completely gone.

Now some words regarding sex. An instinct which drives us crazy to pump a hotty. When you are in love, I mean under the influence of infatuation, you could mistakenly think that just one single pussy could substitute multiple ones. Later on, when infatuation is gone already, you understand that it was just delusion. Wife gets old and she doesn't attract you sexually anymore. And you become a monger.

This is the Bible. Every word you wrote should be tattooed backwards on our foreheads, so in the morning when we brush our teeth we could read it clearly in the mirror. I just want to add what I think is the best solution: the compromise. If you have lived so many years with your wife there must be a reason, and if you no longer have sexual attraction for her, but she is your friend, don't make my mistakes. Especially after a certain age these wives can accept occasional escapes, aware, however, that then we return home. The alternative of abandoning everything and living a few years as a savage has a price to pay, loneliness. The ugly old age that will come when we too get tired of the WG.

[Hargow20]

I don't necessarily have any problems so long as one does not let it interfere your marriage. The problem is that there there is far fewer working girls so you would cruise at odd times to find a SW. This is especially true in the on the US west coast. You essentially have to cruise late evening or late at night. Trying to explain to your wife why you are out a 10 pm or 2 am would be almost impossible. Back in the 80's I could find a good SW day or night. Sadly this is no longer true.

[Chocha Monger]

My opinion, being truthful to our partner that is very important to keep the relationship steady. At first it would be awkward but better than she knows later that you have been with other women behind her back.

It sounds like a nice principled idea, until she uses it against you divorce court. Unless you have a written prenuptial agreement permitting you to fuck other women, your dick will be writing a check that you can't cash.

[XMen2099]

My opinion, being truthful to our partner that is very important to keep the relationship steady. At first it would be awkward but better than she knows later that you have been with other women behind her back.

[Tagalog2016]

That's very interesting thread indeed. And I was thrilled reading it from the beginning up to the last post. Now I will tell my point of view, which is somewhat similar with some posters and opposite to others.

I believe, that if to generalise, a man is seeking three basic things from a woman: love, sex, and friendship. Those guys, who thought they found all those things in one woman, got married. They were thinking it will last like that forever. That was very wrong to think so.

Real friendship requires time and both you and your lifemate must overpass together a lot of obstacles and challenges which life gives us to be sure whether a human is your best friend or just a piece a cr#p. You never know in advance. Only being together for over decade or even decades you can make a right conclusion. Some of us became disappointed in this regard, bot others learnt in time, that fat old wife, who became like that eventually, still is much more reliable, than anybody else on this earth. So opposite opinions could appear, because you never know in advance who is who.

Let's define the word "love" now. It is a feeling, which takes your breath away, when grass looks greener and sun shines warmer. When you are in love, you loose an ability to think soberly. And that is one of the strongest feelings ever. That's how word "love" could be defined by some people. But in my opinion that is wrong definition. I would call it passion and infatuation, which some of us mix up with love. Infatuation can't last for long. Sooner or later it fades away and eventually will be completely gone.

Now some words regarding sex. An instinct which drives us crazy to pump a hotty. When you are in love, I mean under the influence of infatuation, you could mistakenly think that just one single pussy could substitute multiple ones. Later on, when infatuation is gone already, you understand that it was just delusion. Wife gets old and she doesn't attract you sexually anymore. And you become a monger.

Actually that is how everything happens. That is how all a wife, a mistress and prostitutes can exist in your life at the same time. They are not a substitute one to each other. They are additions one to each other, which make you feel complete.

A right wife is your life mate, your partner and best friend. Some disagree, but that is understandable. They just haven't met a right one. And since you never know in advance who is who, it's like a lottery, whether your wife will become your best friend in time, or opposite you will hate her as soon as your passion and her appearance fade away.

A mistress reminds you a feeling of a butterflies in your stomach. She could seem a true friend and a great lover, but in fact you are just under the influence of infatuation, which makes you feel so.

But girls. Well, they freeze the time. You are forever young and so they are. To be a monger is just a basic instinct of a male. You would want to get a sweet tight wet pussy for free of course, but that's unreal and you are willing to pay for that. Just so that to stick your dick in delicious meat.

The question is how to deal with all of that? How to combine everything? And the answer is simple: there is no way to do that without lie, betrayal or compromises. Everyone decides for himself, whether to be unfaithful, to divorce for the sake of immediate and short time pleasure, or to fight your lust and to jerk off watching porn. There is no right answer exist what should you sacrifice. Everyone has his unique features and circumstances.

[Chocha Monger]

A British man ran away from his home and lived in the woods for 10 years all because his wife nagged him too much.

Malcolm Applegate, 62, of Birmingham, opened up about his new life and his old one in a blog entry posted on the Emmaus Greenwich website. Emmaus is a "homeless charity" that gives people a home "for as long as someone needs it and meaningful work in our social enterprise," according to its website.

Applegate wrote he was a gardener for 25 years and enjoyed his job until he got married. He wrote the more hours he worked, the "angrier" his spouse became.

"She didn't like me being out of the house for long periods of time. The controlling behavior started to get out of hand and she demanded that I cut my hours," Applegate wrote.

After he tried to work it out with his wife, Applegate wrote he left without saying anything to anyone. For a decade.

The gardener wrote he lived in the woods near Kingston for five years and tended a garden at a community center for the elderly. Applegate decided to apply to live at Emmaus Greenwich after a friend told him about it.

Applegate reported he was happy in his new home and recently got in touch with his sister, who thought he was dead.

"I'the like the people who donate to Emmaus to know that I am grateful for being given a second chance at life. I have a lovely room, I am able to work and I can still lead an active social life I love it here my life is officially back on track," Applegate wrote.

His wife, who was not named, has not come forward to comment on her husband's new life, Yahoo reported.

[Chocha Monger]

Japanese women seem very prone to philandering and the men say mongering is just like going to a restaurant for a meal and service. So, mongers might want to expat in Japan and marry there if they don't mind being cuckolded in order to have access to all the loose women. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ENscSDOsodE.

[KyleThompson]

A lot of married mongers are running for the hills due to the fallout from the Ashley Madison (AM) data breach disaster. AM promised these guys discretion and pleasure but left them with their balls firmly in the vise grip of their vengeful wives. The saddest part of the whole fiasco is that they will be down on their knees begging forgiveness for trying to cheat when in reality they never stood a chance of getting laid. Over 90% of the female profiles on the site were fakes and the ratio of men to women was 6:1. That means the better looking women on there probably had over a hundred guys trying to bang them on any given day. AM figured out how to make millions of horny sexually frustrated married men pay hundreds of dollars each just for a slim chance that they might get laid and it profited nicely from it. There is talk of suing the company but there probably wouldn't be a lot of married mongers willing to show up in court.

Well, I did have a profile on Ashley Madison once, but when realized I had to pay to read private messages, I shut the account down without having used the site. However, I've been sent e-mails from different addresses saying that they had my personal data and that they would reveal it if I don't pay 1 bitcoin in 3 days.

This was the original message:

Unfortunately your data was leaked in the recent hacking of Ashley Madison and I know have your information. I have also used your user profile to find your Facebook page, using this I can now message all of your friends and family members.

If you would like to prevent me from sharing this dirt info with all of your friends and family members (and perhaps even your employers too?) then you need to send 1 bitcoin to the following BTC address.

Bitcoin Address:

1 JeDGwyWQpuQZE6 mfj2 M7 M1 BWuAoLG4 tE3.

You may be wondering why should you and what will prevent other people from doing the same, in short you now know to change your privacy settings in Facebook so no one can view your friends / family list. So go ahead and update that now (I have a copy if you don't pay) to stop any future emails like this.

You can buy bitcoin using online exchanges easily. If the bitcoin is not paid within 3 days of 25 Sep 2015 then my system will automatically message all of your friends and family members. The bitcoin address is unique to you.

Consider how expensive a divorce lawyer is. If you are no longer in a committed relationship then think about how this will affect your social standing amongst family and friends. What will your friends and family think about you?

Sincerely,

Karen.

It's been a couple of weeks since I got the e-mails and I'm still alive. Whatever, I don't even have Facebook. I am not worried, but I wonder if somebody took this threat for seriousand paid.

[Chocha Monger]

A lot of married mongers are running for the hills due to the fallout from the Ashley Madison (AM) data breach disaster. AM promised these guys discretion and pleasure but left them with their balls firmly in the vise grip of their vengeful wives. The saddest part of the whole fiasco is that they will be down on their knees begging forgiveness for trying to cheat when in reality they never stood a chance of getting laid. Over 90% of the female profiles on the site were fakes and the ratio of men to women was 6:1. That means the better looking women on there probably had over a hundred guys trying to bang them on any given day. AM figured out how to make millions of horny sexually frustrated married men pay hundreds of dollars each just for a slim chance that they might get laid and it profited nicely from it. There is talk of suing the company but there probably wouldn't be a lot of married mongers willing to show up in court.

[Strong Bad]

After reading a couple of posts in this thread I would like to share this video I stumbled across on youtube. Its a video of a woman asking the world to feel sorry for her because she went through a divorce. The thing I found interesting is that through out the video she keeps saying her memory is bad, so basically she's saying she is lying.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tGe4uWEvwe8

[TellAll]

Sorry these Mongers are total pussies!

You can divorce and pay zero alimony.

Declare bankruptcy, change your name, change your SSN, and move.

There are plenty of countries with zero diplomatic relations with USA who would love an "American Consultant" to help them.

There are books, blogs, forums, Lawyers, etc to do this. If your saying these monger prefer watching TV, eating fast food and staring at an obese wife and 1 mongering trip / year then then they have no one to blame but themselves.

To live in a prison is for lazy or stupid.

Agree. First they fall for the myth, love til death do us part. They don't protect their finances and surprised when their tired old hag shows here true colors.

There is always a way to get out of a relationship like that with minimal damage. First is to get out at first sign of trouble. Don't do counseling or waist your time with other fixes. All that does is keep you there longer and make leaving more expensive. If you spend ten twenty or thirty years in a bad marraige then only you to blame. Who would spend ten years in a dead end job?

Get out early, get out fast first sign of trouble.

[TellAll]

Excellent advice, not only for this sorry-assed sucker but for many other situations. It's amazing how many people put up passively with [CodeWord140]-poor performance!

Way to late for that now. The time for that was when it first start happening. That woman is dug in now and the kids are on her side.

Dump them all and go start a new life.

[KaveMan]

A lot of married mongers are in a similar place. They know the alimony will kill them, so they are stuck in loveless sexless marriages. They are terrified at the prospect of spending their retirement years eating generic catfood and stale bread. The wife has the power to put them in the poorhouse and this keeps married mongers in line. Sure, they can sneak out and purchase pussy under false pretense but eventually they must go home to mamma to enjoy the companionship and keep up the appearances of a happy marriage. To the casual observer it appears senseless but in reality it makes sense. Those mongers are locked in for life unless they opt out like Robin Williams.

Sorry these Mongers are total pussies!

You can divorce and pay zero alimony.

Declare bankruptcy, change your name, change your SSN, and move.

There are plenty of countries with zero diplomatic relations with USA who would love an "American Consultant" to help them.

There are books, blogs, forums, lawyers, etc to do this. If your saying these monger prefer watching TV, eating fast food and staring at an obese wife and 1 mongering trip / year then then they have no one to blame but themselves.

To live in a prison is for lazy or stupid.

[Screaming Beaver]

Alimony killed Robin Williams! He had paid over $30 million to his two ex-wives in alimony payments and was sued for $6.2 million by a cocktail waitress he gave a healthy dose of herpes in her snatch while cheating on his first wife. Williams loved pussy and did not limit himself to fucking cocktail waitresses. During his first marriage, he also fucked the live-in Filipina nanny. It really pissed his wife off and she divorced his ass. Williams did not miss a beat and married the nanny. The years went by the nanny grew fat and ugly driving Williams back to his love affair with Jack Daniels and cocaine. His Filipina nanny wife responded by divorcing his ass and taking him for all he was worth because he never had a pre-nup in any of his marriages.

With his career in decline Robin Williams was finding it increasingly difficult to carry the burden of alimony for life. He was already sleeping in different bedrooms with the wife in his third marriage. He realized that the only way out was death. So, he put a belt around his neck and cancelled his alimony payments permanently...

Robin Williams was a national treasure however being a monger at heart he was mostly unable to fulfill his desire to hop on an airplane to Angeles City or any other mongering location just to go bang beaver. His problem was he was too famous and would instantly be recognized. You combine that with 3 money grubbing women who wanted nothing more than to drag him down and take as much money in the process it's no wonder he was in and out of rehab. I hope he infected all of his 3 ex's with herpes of the anus for causing him to take such a drastic measure to do away with his problems mostly caused by those 3 swines.

[Chocha Monger]

Alimony killed Robin Williams! He had paid over $30 million to his two ex-wives in alimony payments and was sued for $6.2 million by a cocktail waitress he gave a healthy dose of herpes in her snatch while cheating on his first wife. Williams loved pussy and did not limit himself to fucking cocktail waitresses. During his first marriage, he also fucked the live-in Filipina nanny. It really pissed his wife off and she divorced his ass. Williams did not miss a beat and married the nanny. The years went by the nanny grew fat and ugly driving Williams back to his love affair with Jack Daniels and cocaine. His Filipina nanny wife responded by divorcing his ass and taking him for all he was worth because he never had a pre-nup in any of his marriages.

With his career in decline Robin Williams was finding it increasingly difficult to carry the burden of alimony for life. He was already sleeping in different bedrooms with the wife in his third marriage. He realized that the only way out was death. So, he put a belt around his neck and cancelled his alimony payments permanently.

A lot of married mongers are in a similar place. They know the alimony will kill them, so they are stuck in loveless sexless marriages. They are terrified at the prospect of spending their retirement years eating generic catfood and stale bread. The wife has the power to put them in the poorhouse and this keeps married mongers in line. Sure, they can sneak out and purchase pussy under false pretense but eventually they must go home to mamma to enjoy the companionship and keep up the appearances of a happy marriage. To the casual observer it appears senseless but in reality it makes sense. Those mongers are locked in for life unless they opt out like Robin Williams.