Thread: Safe sex in The Philippines
+
Add Report
Results 226 to 240 of 372
-
02-11-13 19:51 #147
Posts: 6848Like MLK
Originally Posted by Pete Benetar [View Original Post]
-
02-11-13 17:45 #146
Posts: 458Originally Posted by Westcoast1 [View Original Post]
-
02-11-13 17:34 #145
Posts: 420More filipina thinking
I had to laugh when I read WC's story about vasectomy and potency, etc. Couple of things I have heard from filipinas:
-When they get fucked a man puts "air" into their bellies so if their bellies seem bigger after fucking, its the man's fault for putting air in there. My solution was to tell her that I can let the air out by squeezing her belly button (now this girl was a more educated one from manilla)
-Another story. One said I "took her ass" because I fucked her doggy style. In the pussy. Tried to explain that was not anal sex. But she was insistent. We meet in Singapore in March. So may try to introduce her to real anal sex hehehe.
-I have been successful in teaching a few of them how to use continuous oral contraceptives (so they don't get their menstrual period, which most of them think is dangerous, but I have worked on convincing them this is OK). So they use OCs and since I'm not vas safe, I can still cum in them.
GG
-
02-11-13 16:45 #144
Posts: 6848Originally Posted by Red Kilt [View Original Post]Originally Posted by Paul Kausch [View Original Post]
-
02-11-13 08:18 #143
Posts: 3230Originally Posted by Pete Benetar [View Original Post]
I actually wasn't directing my general comments about "having babies" to you in particular (just so it's clear). I was talking about the "generic" older guys who find places like the Philippines later in life.
-
02-11-13 08:09 #142
Posts: 1617Don
Originally Posted by Red Kilt [View Original Post]
Having said that. When I got cut, it was one of the best decisions I ever made. It's never gotten in the way of any of my relationships. I didn't breakup with the girlfriend who wanted a baby with me over that; and since then she has not had a child. I've had a number of young girlfriends over the years who said they loved the fact that I didn't have to use a condom and they didn't have to worry about getting pregnant. Even though many were on the pill they said they liked the fact that preventing a pregnancy was not entirely up to them and they could be absolutely certain it would not happen. After all, even the pill is not 100% effective. Almost, but not quite. They were adamant that it made the sex much more enjoyable for them, and more willing to try new things I might add. Yes, in addition to not having to worry about getting pregnant, bareback feels better for the woman too! One lady told me fucking with a condom was like shaking hands wearing a glove.
If you're a monger and inclined to ride bareback, personally I think it is irresponsible unless you've had a vasectomy. If you want to risk contracting an STD, that's your business so long as you take care of it promptly and don't spread it around. Of course I realize you may have sex with other women before the symptoms appear, so I take that back, but this string of posts is about vasectomies and unplanned pregnancies, so I'll try to stick to the topic. The point is most STD can be treated and cured. Terminating a pregnancy is another matter. Sure she can get an abortion, but realistically how likely is that in the Philippines?
-
02-11-13 07:28 #141
Posts: 458Originally Posted by Red Kilt [View Original Post]
I don't feel an iota of guilt; my present girl has made it clear she is interested in having children eventually. Several years from now if I decide that's not going to happen, we may part ways and in that case I am fully confident both the lass and myself will be better off; me with some very good years of companionship and she with a new life and citizenship here.
-
02-11-13 07:01 #140
Posts: 3230Originally Posted by Pete Benetar [View Original Post]
The obvious candidates are the "older" guys who suddenly discover the Philippines with its abundance of young women who want a mestizo baby and who do not have the will-power / discipline / balls (whatever the word is) to just say to her "let's be friends but if you want a baby then I am NOT your guy".
I make this clear to any woman who hits on me in chat or anywhere else and talks about having a "loving family". I have one at the moment who is sexy as hell and whose profile is dripping with "Brady Bunch" scenarios.
I told her upfront before we even met about no family and no babies. It didn't faze her at all. She was still good to go, and obviously realised that all that sentimental stuff could come later after she had some fun with the foreigner.
-
02-11-13 04:43 #139
Posts: 458Originally Posted by Red Kilt [View Original Post]
The modern vas techniques I bet do enhance success of reversal, but an experienced microsurgeon should be able to cut away the scarred tube and re-ligate. They may only need to fix the vas end to end, but if the vas is blocked most ways, then the surgeon has to do an anatomosis between an open stretch of the tube into the epidydimis itself, which is small stretch of coiled tubing that matures the sperm on top of the testicle. That also reduces technical success.
All this to say there are a lot of variables that complicate the end goal of pregnancy success. I look at technical success more because at that point I know the guy is at least then on live fire. The best thing a user can do is make sure the surgeon has trained / is certified in microsurgery and how many reversals the surgeon has done.
-
02-11-13 04:11 #138
Posts: 1617Vasectomies and getting tutored
Originally Posted by Red Kilt [View Original Post]
Did the young lady think you had been castrated and had fake balls inserted? Know a guy who had testicular cancer who's walking around with fake balls.
All of this reminds me of a funny cartoon. Dog is in the back seat of a car pulling out of the drive way. Dog's head is hanging out the rear window. Dog says to his next door beagle buddy,"Hey Ralph, guess what! They're taking me to get tutored.". Well I thought it was funny.
-
02-11-13 03:05 #137
Posts: 3230Originally Posted by Pete Benetar [View Original Post]
I understand that nowadays they cut and put a small cap over each end and so reversal is more straightforward but I do not know anyone who had had a successful reversal, despite Pete B's no doubt well-researched statistics quoted above.
I had to undergo a quite thorough Q & A session before I had the operation, and the doctor insisted my (now ex)-wife accompany me so that he was reassured that we were both in agreement. We had a medical reason (on her side) for having the op so it proceeded. If you go in for a vasectomy with no good reason other than that "you want to fuck your brains out with many different women and don't want them to get pregnant" then it is possible only "shonky" doctors will do it (for the fee of course). If you go in for a vasectomy and immediately start talking about a possible need to have it reversed in the future you may find that a doctor will want to know if you really do want to have the operation. Of course, having a vasectomy may also leave one more prepared to indulge in bareback sex which has its own set of additional risks but that's another topic (discussed endlessly on most chat boards).
BTW, filipinos (men and women) have this false impression that a vasectomy changes your masculinity (like having your balls removed). When I told a woman recently that I was "safe" because I was vasectomised she said "Oh, so we cannot have sex then. Vasectomy makes you impotent". I needed to disabuse her that there is a difference between "impotent" as in not having sperm and erectile dysfunction which means not getting hard. After a practical session she eventually understood the difference, but so many people, and not only in the Philippines, do not understand that it has no effect on the libido. In fact, for me, it increased it. Just sayin.....
-
02-11-13 02:46 #136
Posts: 1617Originally Posted by Pete Benetar [View Original Post]
-
02-11-13 02:36 #135
Posts: 458Originally Posted by Luvpuss [View Original Post]
-
02-11-13 01:58 #134
Posts: 1617Originally Posted by Luvpuss [View Original Post]
I wish to underscore Luvpuss' comment about vasectomies. I had mine in my mid-30's after my second child was born. One of the best decisions I ever made. Never had to worry. Condoms were only necessary if I was worried about an STD. In my forties I was going through a divorce and having an affair with a much younger wench. Well surprise, surprise one day she tells me she's pregnant and I'm the father. Fuck off I said. When I was in my mid-50's I was in a relationship with a great lady in her late 30's. She was a physician, making great money in her specialty, very independent and a great lady. She thought it was a shame I had a vasectomy, otherwise she wanted to have a baby with me. Thought the fetus would get a double dose of great genes (which I took as a compliment). A year later we stopped seeing each other. One of the things that want through my mind at the time was how much more complicated it would be if we had an infant to take into consideration. A problem I didn't want to deal with as a man approaching 60. Guys, unless you really want children and are prepared to be an involved father, get a vasectomy.
It's a simple out-patient procedure; extremely low risk of complications; done under a general; minimal discomfort if any after the procedure; your quickly back in business. And as Luvpuss points out, if you want to cover your bases, just make a deposit at a sperm bank.
-
02-11-13 01:19 #133
Posts: 1440Originally Posted by Red Kilt [View Original Post]