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05-04-13 15:37 #21
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05-03-13 22:58 #20
Posts: 156Am I going to be scammed?
guys,
i am visitng phil in a few weeks time. i will cut short the details about the passion and messages exchange with this lady but believe me its very real to me. i met this gal online on cb. she is less than half my age. we sweet talked each other a bit once or twice on chat without webcam and she agreed to meet me and maybe travel with me (not sure what she had in mind but she said her aunt is like her local guardian and she is quiet liberal about it). the idea is that we might get married. then her aunt came online one day on webcam to see me. she said she was going to play chaperone on the trip and i could only kiss her and nothing more. her demeanour is quiet seductive which i fell for instantly. not like she tried to seduce me, but very soon she had to excuse herself and attend to work for half an hour, and i just fell head over heels as i watched her talk and laugh repeatedly to a male colleague at her desk on webcam all this while. after a little bit of chatting when she got free again, i complimented her on being so sexy and how i was falling in love with her and how i would marry her instead. before we knew it we were in a passionate and dirty chat with each other. at this stage, i was so driven by a long time erotic fantasy that i immediately mentioned the fantasy about me living with both women, one married legally the other secretly. now she says she would really love to marry me but will respect her niece and not hurt her. she then actually came eagerly on webcam the same night in a surprise to pop this question (if i would forget then niece and marry her instead) and we got dirty on cam too. i refused and explained to her why i wanted both and how important it was to my fantasies dreams and happiness. she then agreed to have me as a secret husband while i get to marry her niece.
we've now agreed to go sight seeing for a few days with her daughter (she is a single mom in her 30s) and niece so i can get to know them when i am there. initially she said book two rooms one for them and one for me and i could only steal her love secretly when the niece was baby sitting her daughter. we chatted scenarious of stealing each others love without the niece knowing about it, while she acted like a chaperone, quiet like a victorian era erotica novel. after a weeks chatting and exchanging personal mails, she now concedes, the niece can sleep with me at night. over the phone, although she is very jealous. because the niece loves me kinda and "we are going to be married next year anyways". i had asked her a few times on mail (in passion filled exchanges about our love triangle) if i could pop the niece's cherry but she never replied to it in writing on mail or chat. we see each other on webcam maybe thrice a week for 3 to 4 hours at a time exchanging passionate love notes with each other (and my jhonny is upright all the 4 hours!). i gaze at her as she goes about her office work and we are so passionate about each other, she is going to fly down to meet me when i land in mnl secretly for a few days to steal my love first. she literaaly begged me because i refused at first. (i wanted to monger in angeles, for some variety before hitting her). she says she hasn't made love in 3 years because she is a one man woman and is saving her puss for the right man. and she keeps demanding a promise that iwont sleep around. we are going to stay together and she flies back after a few days and then i make an appearance to her home town to greet her nieces parents. i want to believe our passion for each other is real and because she is the jealous kinda woman who likes her vanity and narcissm to be nicely stroked and i did just that very nicely on the chats. i don't beleive her feminine narcissm is at an unhealthy level at all mind you. she had spontaneously showed me her small tits on webcam the first night of camchat, like a real family woman stealing time with me (while her tiny daughter was fast asleep besides her) to gauge my reaction (if her narcissitic love supply would stop or continue to flow from my side) and if i would still like her and made noises about me making her horny on the day of her heaviest flow. my love talk really appears to turn her on. i beleive i really got her hooked. it feels real. and a few days back while chatting from office she was eager to check out my penis and made me show it to her. i mean i saw in her that real curiousity about how her lust is going to be satiated (as i've been promising her. that i needed to make love to her 4 times a day to be a happy lover.). i know it was not just a calculated dirty talk to arouse me.
the aunt claims she fell in love with a bad guy who made her really dirty and spoilt her sexually and how none of her nieces in her family would follow her example and how strict she is with them. now he has left her to be a single mom. she also claims to be a degree holder in business and an auditor working for government on contract. her talk and speech is smart and edcuated for sure. i've seen her paper work spread all over her desk and overheard her talking to colleagues, and she is for real. but she is also into a secret money lending business for her boss. the niece's brother is a money collector (goon?). on the webcam, i overheard her about filing a police case on someone.
now i am too tempted to let go of this chance. i am fit, look more than 10+ years younger, never fall sick and a good looker and they both like what i've described about me. the niece is a dream, she doesn't speak much english looks well behaved, maybe even coached on the occasional cam chat session but not too secretively, more with a helping hand by aunt. and all her cousins and relatives wanted to see me from a beach computer on a cousins birthday outing one day. i adore the aunts daughter and want to adopt her as my own. in fact to be honest, i am sure its not just my love talk but my strong expression of fatherly feelings for her daughter that has impressed her. i mean a very real reason for me looking for marriage so late in my life now (early 40ish) is the heartbreak i feel on seeing little one or two year old girls and not being a daddy myself. i get to play instant daddy with this arrangement and also have a beautiful young innocent wife although immature, together along with a sophisticated older and sexy woman as a secret lover in the house, someone who oozes sexuality in every little mannerism. (even her voice is so sexy, i feel like wow!)
so on one hand everyting looks good with an arrangement that will satisfy both my paternal instinct and erotic fantasy, if i make this happen next year and relocate (which i likely won't because i expect better money in other countries, which will make it a part-time triangle with only my would-be-wife living with me except on family visits back home). she particularly likes my promise of raising her daughter like my own. and i am also happy if this erotic love triangle is lived part-time just on vacation (in practical terms).
on the other hand i am paranoid about being scammed! what if the police come knocking after the aunt has let me sleep with her for a few nights when on the out of town visit? what if the aunt denies ever granting me permission? she now knows my real name address and arrival and departure times from phil. i had hidden it until a family webcam session from home showing the child sleeping and aunt supervising the nieces chat. somehow i decided i could trust them and explained my reason for the fake name and details. what do you say guys? please advice if you smell a scam. should i bail out? frankly i am not going completely, the only thing i might hold back is not popping her cherry if i get real paranoid, but that will be such a sorry few days for me to sacrifice the temptation.
the lightest scam i can live with, and i see it coming (i am not all convinced you see) is the living on dole scam. i wire a monthly fee to them to cover their parents cost of living (we've discussed supporting her parents) and the trick being getting many men to pay an annual fee to sleep with her for just a few days. but a large part of me really wants to believe and invest a little in this little dream. at least for a year until i go back again to marry her. (if it turns out real and she's still around for me). i can live with that to find a future with her.
its the potential [CodeWord123] charge that frightens the shit out of me.
peeman
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03-12-13 00:47 #19
Posts: 1749Originally Posted by mc don [View Original Post]
mongering is for the horny, but it does not take any bravery to get a cbj from an upscale safe well reviewed sp in canada. otoh, there is coming to the philippine islands to bang ignorant bar girls in the ass without a condom. that takes bravery, or should i say a love of wild adventure, a don't care attitude, foolishness or a death wish?
Originally Posted by mc don [View Original Post]
there was a recent report of three such incidents in the angeles city thread. following are a number of other reports of similar scams in the pi over the years, which may just be the tip of the iceburg as to the actual numbers occurring there:
http://www.sexwork.com/philippines/rapebribe.html
http://www.sexwork.com/philippines/contents.html
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08-23-12 05:08 #18
Posts: 1191Originally Posted by Stroker Ace88 [View Original Post]
So far, I've been Ok, just met honest Pinay. Maybe this trip I might meet a scammer.
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08-22-12 07:00 #17
Posts: 864Originally Posted by BrainDrain [View Original Post]
Generally speaking filipinas have ALOT of patience. In fact most people in the Philippines have patience in excess. I don't think you have ever been inside a Pag-Ibig, Veco, NBI or DFA office.
When you walk in you are handed a priority number (example- number 582 but they are currently serving number 195). No one complains, no one screams, no one gets upset at the lack of customer service and a potential 6 hour wait to talk to someone. Acceptance is the name of the game and the guards have guns and everyone learned a long time ago it's futile to complain. After all the guy sitting next to you will have his number posted soon, while you will have a 4 hour wait only to realize you will not be served. The guard tells everyone at 5pm to leave and come back the following day. You ask the guard if you can have a low priority number for the next day. He tells you it's not fair, just line up at 3am with everyone else. A 6hour wait before the office even opens, now that's patience.
If you think a filipina will lose patience sitting and talking to a chatmate for an hour or two after you bought her a meal or drink, think again. Of course YMMV.
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08-21-12 00:28 #16
Posts: 1191Anyone having any scam issues at present?
Of the Cebu ladies I've met on dating sites there is one lady hat concerns me. She works in an internet cafe and when we do webcam s=chat there is a community of 2-3 girls chatting and sharing stories with the chats ie they will check translations and replies with each other."Wow. This guy said he wants to go here, anyone know where that is?" Just seems strange to be sharing her info like that.
I know it is a numbers game, for the number of people that they, the number whom promise to meet etc, how do they know I'm genuine as well.
This lady is still quite pretty and tidy body. 21 ish.
I'm still up for meeting her just to see that tight body up close but will employ the standard MO:
Lock valuables away in the hotel room.
Meet in a neutral place (Ayala or SM)
Talk for too long and test her patience.
Enjoy myself.
Really looking forward to getting back there.
BD
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03-21-12 01:31 #15
Posts: 864Originally Posted by FurryFriend [View Original Post]
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03-20-12 13:17 #14
Posts: 993Well, As a guy from third world country, I was born into corruption and much worse than PH. I agree with furryFriend the best way to deal with any situation is to meet the first guy itself and not take it upwards, the more people get involved the worse it will become for you. Even if you are right. Move on and pay up.
You have to understand the reverse hierarchy in corrupt countries. The more corrupt you are the higher the position you will have. Its simple. The higher you go up fighting your case, the more psycopaths you will meet on your way. If there was a single good guy on top. The corruption would have been routed ages ago. The police or officials you will meet are often newbies and learning the game at low level. So better smile, take them to corner and pay up.
Some tips.
1. Smile a lot and agree with him a lot, give respect, admit your mistake even if you are right. Psychologically, you have to make him feel important 'because he is been bossed around by his superior all day.
2. Admit your mistake, say sorry, say it will never happen again, you are new to PH, you love PH etc etc.
3. Never ever pay him infront of his superiors or anyone around. Always, take him into a dark corner and pay up. But it should not sound like you are paying a bribe. Say something softer. Like you work too long sir. Its for holiday, an early x'mas gift. The lower level guys have not yet lost their souls, they still have some consciousness in their hearts.
In my experience, corruption is everywhere, in developed countries its not in your face, they call it "lobbying" and in other ways you pay up in higher taxes & lawyer fees etc. Crime to Crime. You will actually pay less in PH than back home.) and you will be out lot sooner without any hassle. Trust me on this. More often than not. 90% of the time. Corruption works in your favor, IF ONLY YOU KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT.
P. S I'm not endorsing corruption. We all know its bad but you have to ask yourself. Whats better for you and why you are here. To prove honesty is the best policy, sticking with principles. In that case, you should not have come on a mongering visa but on a missionary visa to save the people from satan but wait we already have a guy doing that for 2000 yrs and look where it got PH. We should live people to make their own choices and not impose our value on them. As you guys say in the west. When in Rome.
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03-19-12 09:08 #13
Posts: 389Originally Posted by Aussie Jo [View Original Post]
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I'm going to share a personal anti-corruption countermeasure.
I always carry a few 1000 won banknotes (the currency of South Korea). Each banknote looks impressive. But 1000 wons is only equivalent to 35 pesos.
Click here to see how a 1000 won banknote look like:
http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5271/...008058af0e.jpg
I have 12 such banknotes. If extorted by cops, immigration officers or some random Filipino, I can offer a few thousand wons and make a quick getaway.
Warning: as Koreans are becoming more prevalent in the Philippines, more and more Filipinos may know the true value of wons. It may be worth switching to another country's banknotes printed in high denomination (but low worth). The Vietnamese dong may be a good candidate. US$1 = 20, 000 dongs.
I'm more likely to get away with passing wons because I'm Chinese-American. They probably can't tell a Chinese from a Korean. But if you're some white guy, your extorter may question why you have South Korean wons. So prepare some phony story about how you were visiting South Korea before coming to the Philippines.
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03-19-12 00:55 #12
Posts: 120Originally Posted by FurryFriend [View Original Post]
Ditto for not calling the embassy. I wonder at what point 3, 5.10 days, it might be worth calling them if not making any luck by myself. I'm not sure that I'd be tough enough on my won after 21 days in a Phils police station watchhouse.
I'll certainly take up the 200 peso note with my I'd strategy in the meantime.
AJ
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03-16-12 22:49 #11
Posts: 3074Originally Posted by FurryFriend [View Original Post]
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03-16-12 22:20 #10
Posts: 389As the person who wrote the opening post to this thread (voted POST OF DISTINCTION by Senior Members) , I should say that cases of extortion and scams are often exaggerated in the Philippines, especially outside Manila and Angeles City. In Cebu, these kinds of scams are rare. So it's not worth getting paranoid and certainly not worth avoiding the country.
Nevertheless, even if it's rare, certain dodgy situations obviously merit the exercise of greater caution. When on vacation, it's easy to let your guard down. This is a dangerous thing to do in a third-world country like the Philippines. If you're unlucky enough to become entangled with their legal system, you're pretty much fucked.
Most of the recommended actions on the opening post do not require you to spend money. So you have nothing to lose by employing some of the suggested countermeasures for certain higher-risk activities. Telling a monger "if you can't take a risk, go home" is not a helpful suggestion. Even in the safest cities, one should practice precautions from being a victim of crime.
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I also came across an interesting video today on how to deal with corrupt Philippine cops:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uNaAT...eature=related
He makes the following points:
- Always pay the first cop who extorts you. If you refuse and he brings you back to the police station, more cops will become involved and the amount you'd need to pay will increase.
- Corruption also works in your favor. If you've done something illegal, it allows you to get off without spending months in detention. If you don't think you haven't done anything unlawful there, think again. Prostitution and [CodeWord908] is illegal. Just by taking a girl out of the bar for an evening of sex is technically an unlawful act.
- Don't call your country's embassy if you've been charged with a crime. If the cops know your embassy is monitoring your situation, the cops will become less likely to accept a bribe for letting you out.
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01-17-12 19:16 #9
Posts: 14Hypocritical nonsense,
Originally Posted by Sammon [View Original Post]
Originally Posted by Sammon [View Original Post]
Originally Posted by Sammon [View Original Post]
Finally, nobody is forcing anything on the girl. It is explicitly asked prior if she would mind keeping her phone in the safe. Most girls won't have issues with it and if they do, THEY shouldn't go with you and we have a choice not to go with them. And if they really want to leave, they can leave, but we did all we can to curtail their negative behavior. There is a point for the bars having TWO rates: ST / LT. Just as the bars have rates for LD and and DLD (Single vs Double lady's drink). Imagine if they start charging you for Double-price drinks every time you ask for LD. Although maybe few dollars isn't much to you, but most of us don't like to be scammed this way. Do you get the drift? Its about getting what you paid for. And mostly likely, judging by your tone, you aren't bothered by this either. And if so, just ring on that bell a few times if you really feel sorry for them and afraid they are being taken advantage of. If girls don't deceive or cheat, nobody would be discussing this here. This is about being scammed and it becoming more and more prevalent. Bar owners / girls aren't in this for charity, they are going to do everything they can to get as much $$$ as they can with every angle they can exploit. I have no issues if they come and say ST / LT SAME price and its up to the girl whether she wants to stay the night. At least I know what I'm in for. On the other hand, nobody appreciates paying LT for ST prices, hence the countermeasures.
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01-17-12 17:40 #8
Posts: 3281Originally Posted by Jorian [View Original Post]
So it is illegal for you to take her phone away and put restrictions on her freedom strictly speaking. You are getting away with this means only one thing. You are forcing your wills on these girls and taking advantage of their poverty and need to support family, child or whatever.
We mongers are one of many they see as boyfriends for the night. There is no intelligent conversation or comradeship. The girls are easily bored. So let them chat away, text away if they want in between the time you need her attention.
Philippine set up is not good in case of emergency like in advanced countries. In western countries if you call 911 everything is taken care of without even 1cent being asked. In Phi it is the family and friends are the first line of defence. Your thinking of calling police to handle emergencies do not wirk in Phi. As we all know emergencies can occur any given time.
So be respectfull of the girls freedom.
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01-17-12 12:01 #7
Posts: 600Paranoia, paranoia. Everybody's coming to get me
i have started noticing furryfrends posts on the philippines board over the last year or so and i am yet to see one positive post about the phillipines. he mentioned he has been to ac couple of times but now prefers thailand. that's cool, and i am all for different opinions and angles that's what forums are there for but i wish he comes out and says what happened to him while in phils. some posts have descent advice granted that but fuck me arguing every positive thing that philippines has to offer, every positive aspect of mongering there even official stats sounds like well paranoia or sour grapes. as simmon said mongoing is for the brave if you are not prepared to take calculated risks then stay home and wack off in front of your screen.
furryfrend please stop spreading crap about ac, blackmail is not common especially not for the visiting punter. in a year there is over million barfines there and at most there is 2-3 cases. for 2011 there were 2 that i am aware of one of a girl that accused a punter (girl was from geckos bar) which was sorted out quickly but we never got to hear what fully happened. from a girl that works in geckos i was told that the girl in question had scars when she went to the cops and the next day in the bar. again this could be just them trying to save their reputation but maybe there was more to it? all we got was one side of the story.
the other was a bar manger that was accused of [CodeWord125] a non bar girl but the whole town relied behind him and he fought the charges and as far as i know they were dismissed. this was a case where the girl tried to save face in front of her family saying that he forced her after the family found out she is no longer virgin. things happen but odds are about 1 in a million in ac and far less in other places.
i don't think setting someone up is as easy and simple as people think it is. we are talking freelancers that have to fuck everyday in order to pay bills, feed their family and survive on day to day basis. for a girl to work out the logistics of a set up is almost impossible. if they operate as a gang then they are more likely to set up someone they know has money easily accessible and has far more to lose then a 2 week tourist. therefore targeting an expat or a local makes far more sense.
i can understand foreign tourists being targeted for small crimes like pickpocketing and so on but this is lol way out there. i am not sure if it was one of ganges or ge's posts that described the western culture as culture of fear, furryfrend is a text book example i guess.
furryfrend, relax, take a chill pill and get laid.