Sexual Wellness and other Sex related discussions

[Ssseeking]

Even with a super sexy girl, if I wear condom I loose erection. I am too afraid to go unprotected sex. Any hope for me?

[CrazyIndie]

In spite of homeopathic treatment and some ointment, my Molluscum contagiosum warts o penile foreskins are not going away. Can anyone help?

[Rambuta]

Are penis rings good? Or they harm us?

Both I would say. If you are going to use it for short time then it's good say for half an hour or so. But don't take it if you have taken a blue pill or used some performance enhancers. It just blocks the blood flow back to normal and you run the risk of hospitalization.

[Tamsam]

Are penis rings good? Or they harm us?

[Ssseeking]

Hello forum members,

Please take some time to help me out. I am posting here after exhausting all other sources, hoping to get some valuable advice.

I am 34, working and IT. My department is literally a heaven to pick girls. The atmosphere is very open, with the director himself having an affair with 3 of his managers. In our parties, outings, guys get girls drunk and touch them. Long story short, it is a casual workplace. I am someone who is got a very high libido, but have been a virgin. Being in the said atmosphere, I thought of venturing into mongering. Got to know of ISG & visited a girl. Since it was my first experience, it did nto go well. I did not.

During this Covid-19 times, when it is unsafe to venture out, please take sometime out to advice / help me. Did you have any such experience and how did you overcome it? Do you recommend any tablets (apart from anti depressants that I have already tried) that can help me get back my libido?

Hey, advice will be you need to increase your testosterone level and some simple life style changes:

1. Try not to give fuck. Libido and ED have negative feedback cycles. If you feel you are loosing it during session, just ignore and enjoy time with the girl as a companion. Also suggest don't go to only shot places. Ask around for girls who give good GFE and behave well in your city and go to them. Don't go for pure looks and shots only.

2. Visit spas and try to make conversations with girls. You need to be comfortable talking with girls. You need to be confident around females. They are normally soft spoken and respectful.

3. Now avoid porn as much as possible. This will not happen in a day. Try to schedule it after a couple of days. You will see the quality of the orgasm will also increase. I have personally jerked off 4-5 times a day and also one a week to experiment. You will see the difference. On day 6, you will see what horniness is.

4. Start working out no matter how fit you are. It increases testosterone and you will see the difference. More than cardio, do strength workout. Don't take covid as an excuse and buy a couple of pair of dumbells which are just challenging enough, not too difficult. There are plenty of youtube programs. Even Johny Sins has a fitness channel. Well he can't be wrong.

5. Try to eat cleanly. Start eating more protein based food and kesar milk. Do your research and try to change your food habit. I have seen many of these implications on myself.

But remember point 1. I had many first had experience, where I got limp and due to anxiety it went worst. Just think the WG / Girl is also a humans with blood and flesh and all humans have short comings. You can also try little bit tantrik stuff and orgasm control. Google them.

[Tamsam]

Did you have phimosis problem? Or just tight skin?

Hi bro,

Even I had skin tight problem. Work it ASAP. As you are from Chennai, please visit MetroMale clinic. PM me if you have any other doubt.

[Abhisheen52]

Any doctors in this forum request for help.

Can msg in private.

[HardLance]

I don't know what iam experiencing due to covid I can't even go to see doctor. My penis tip skin (uncircumsised) was tight and it has swelling one side half.

While I am applying coconut oil it get relieved; but not cured fully still having it

Iam experiencing pain sometimes / randomly in tip of penis; before these problems came I feel an vibration feeling in tip of penis for 5 days and it stops automaticaly then it all happens while urinating it feels good.

Please help me guys is it an sti?

Hi bro,

Even I had skin tight problem. Work it ASAP. As you are from Chennai, please visit MetroMale clinic. PM me if you have any other doubt.

[KevinDsu]

I don't know what iam experiencing due to covid I can't even go to see doctor. My penis tip skin (uncircumsised) was tight and it has swelling one side half.

While I am applying coconut oil it get relieved; but not cured fully still having it

Iam experiencing pain sometimes / randomly in tip of penis; before these problems came I feel an vibration feeling in tip of penis for 5 days and it stops automaticaly then it all happens while urinating it feels good.

Please help me guys is it an sti?

Maybe you have injured yourself unknowingly or in your sleep. If it's swelling then blood must have accumulated which is sign of injury. You must visit a doctor and get checked. Or if due to covid you are unable to go then try to call and seek advice either by phone or online.

[KevinDen]

I don't know what iam experiencing due to covid I can't even go to see doctor. My penis tip skin (uncircumsised) was tight and it has swelling one side half.

While I am applying coconut oil it get relieved; but not cured fully still having it

Iam experiencing pain sometimes / randomly in tip of penis; before these problems came I feel an vibration feeling in tip of penis for 5 days and it stops automaticaly then it all happens while urinating it feels good.

Please help me guys is it an sti?

[Tarantula]

Well, first of all, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, it must be very difficult for you. I kind of agree with what CactusJack said. What might help is a loving partner who can help you gain your confidence back. I unfortunately don't know how one goes about doing that. You could find a sugar baby who cares about you, but in India they are difficult to find. You could perhaps travel and find someone in a different country but I'm not sure if you have the means and / or the interest to do that. Hopefully you'll get a GF who could help you out.

I had a similar situation after a difficult time in my life, but I came out of it by myself. That should give you some hope.

The answer that he might be looking for is to how to prevent his mind from going for masturbation. You need to understand masturbation itself is not harmful until done in excess. Once a week or once a mont is good. And if a person doesn't have a GF, there are a variety of ways to keep oneself busy. I always advice people to do things which will tire them physically so that they don't get time to open their laptops and watch porn. I understand because of lockdown many people are doing that. But instead you can be a volunteer and help people in these difficult times. Not everyone can afford a GF, and will having a GF comes additional headaches.

[SonicBoom1]

I did not Get an erection. Then, I visited two more girls in a gap of 4 months. Those experiences also did not go well. The girls were dead fishes. Also, my erection was not like the one when I masturbate. After these episodes, I have lost my libido completely.

Well, first of all, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, it must be very difficult for you. I kind of agree with what CactusJack said. What might help is a loving partner who can help you gain your confidence back. I unfortunately don't know how one goes about doing that. You could find a sugar baby who cares about you, but in India they are difficult to find. You could perhaps travel and find someone in a different country but I'm not sure if you have the means and / or the interest to do that. Hopefully you'll get a GF who could help you out.

I had a similar situation after a difficult time in my life, but I came out of it by myself. That should give you some hope.

[Tatankaa]

Hello forum members,

Please take some time to help me out. I am posting here after exhausting all other sources, hoping to get some valuable advice.

I am 34, working and IT. My department is literally a heaven to pick girls. The atmosphere is very open, with the director himself having an affair with 3 of his managers. In our parties, outings, guys get girls drunk and touch them. Long story short, it is a casual workplace. I am someone who is got a very high libido, but have been a virgin. Being in the said atmosphere, I thought of venturing into mongering. Got to know of ISG & visited a girl. Since it was my first experience, it did nto go well. I did not.

Get an erection. Then, I visited two more girls in a gap of 4 months. Those experiences also did not go well. The girls were dead fishes. Also, my erection was not like the one when I masturbate.

After these episodes, I have lost my libido completely. Hard to believe it, but this has happened. I consulted 3 different psychiatrists who have only chided my for visiting girls. They have given anti depressants saying libido will be back to normal. But, that.

"Erection was not like the one when I masturbate". Point to be noted. And if you are 34 and virgin then I will guess that you have been masterbating since long time.

If your brain is too much used to it so you won't feel same situation during the real action. If you jerk off watching porn then you need to completely stop it. The best solution is have a girlfriend and start with intimacy foreplay and then practice the sex, it might take some time but it will be cured for sure. I am not a doctor or sexpert but I have gone through a similar kind of prob in one phase of my life, no meds helped, but I myself overcome it.

[CuuteBoy]

Hello forum members,

Please take some time to help me out. I am posting here after exhausting all other sources, hoping to get some valuable advice.

I am 34, working and IT. My department is literally a heaven to pick girls. The atmosphere is very open, with the director himself having an affair with 3 of his managers. In our parties, outings, guys get girls drunk and touch them. Long story short, it is a casual workplace. I am someone who is got a very high libido, but have been a virgin. Being in the said atmosphere, I thought of venturing into mongering. Got to know of ISG & visited a girl. Since it was my first experience, it did nto go well. I did not.

Get an erection. Then, I visited two more girls in a gap of 4 months. Those experiences also did not go well. The girls were dead fishes. Also, my erection was not like the one when I masturbate.

After these episodes, I have lost my libido completely. Hard to believe it, but this has happened. I consulted 3 different psychiatrists who have only chided my for visiting girls. They have given anti depressants saying libido will be back to normal. But, that.

Has not happened. Visited Victoria Hospital, where the doctor understood & told me these things happen. He has seen legal cases filed by the woman, as the man cannot perform. Such cases come to them (as it is a govt hospital). They conclude nothing.

Is wrong physically, but the issue is at a physiological level. He told me to be strong physiologically and I should come out of it. I was happy to hear this. But, I have waited 8 months since that visit. My libido is as limp as a limp penis. Masturbation attempts also do not cause it to raise. In fact, I have lost my ability to generate erotic thoughts. It is like that part of my mind that can generate these thoughts has gone to sleep. Every cloud has a silver lining. Here the silver lining is my life is peaceful, without a hyperactive libido. But, I am unmarried and want my libido back to get married. Currently denial marriage proposals giving one reason or the other. Cannot tell at home this has happened.

During this Covid-19 times, when it is unsafe to venture out, please take sometime out to advice / help me. Did you have any such experience and how did you overcome it? Do you recommend any tablets (apart from anti depressants that I have already tried) that can help me get back my libido?

[Nishant123]

Shoutout to my senior brothers or Doctor friends here.

While doing the deed with an independent Thai, the Condom broke. She was very dry and the inevitable happened. I was dry too so likely no fluid exchanged and I didn't panic. But it hit me later that this could be serious. She says she gets tested regularly, but better to have my own checks in place.

Not to mention the remote scenario (I know am sounding stupid) that many years down the line, she can come with a child and ask for a ransom.

Any advice would be really welcome. Should I wait for a month and go for STD panel in Lal-Path as usual, or something else is better.

Thanks in advance.

Don't worry bro. If she gets tested regularly there is unlikely that there is a problem.

This is for all the guys out there.

Do all penetration with a condom-oral, anal, blowjob (the really thin condoms advertised have very high chances of rupture).

Get tested every 3 months if you are regular. There is nothing as hiv treatment but today we can manage hiv quite well.

Hiv was first seen in 1990's. Initial antiviral drugs used to cause a lot of side effects. Today a lot of safer drugs are present. The newer hiv patients are living a normal life due to newer drugs.

So, knowing that you have hiv early is very important so that you can start your antiretroviral treatment.

If sometime you discover your parter was positive and you had unprotected sex, there is POST EXPOSURE prophylaxis . These are drugs that prevent you from having hiv. Consult your doctor and have them.