Tips and techniques for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm

[Dan7373]

Hey Dan.

I thought some of these descriptions were incredibly vivid and helpful.

https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating...gasm-feel-like

Yes, these are interesting descriptions. But I'd say that these descriptions come from women who haven't had much variety in their orgasms, probably because they always did it the same way.

I can say from my own experience that a woman's orgasm can vary a lot from one time to another. It all depends on how you masturbate the lady and whether this is her 1st orgasm or 2nd orgasm during her session with you.

I remember one time, I brought a woman to orgasm with cunnilingus. She lost control and spasmed with her hips up and down in a fucking type of motion. She moaned a little and calmed down eventually. I gave her about half a minute to rest. And then I went after her erect clitoris with my mouth and tongue. I sucked on it, and my every tongue lick on her clit sent her into a wild spasm. It was as if she had a long, continuous orgasm. I kept licking her clit like this. Eventually she had a really wild orgasmic spasm, and she yelled in her orgasm so loudly that for sure, everyone in the house must've heard her. She was really embarrassed about it afterwards. Because her mother was in the house and probably understood what was going on.

This woman's first and second orgasms were quite different from each other. Her first orgasm lasted only a few seconds. But her second orgasm lasted for more than a minute. And her second orgasm was a lot more intense than her first.

I don't do much cunnilingus anymore. I prefer to masturbate women to orgasm with a well lubricated hand nowadays. And from this experience I can say that the intensity of orgasm for the same woman normally varies from one time to another.

And this is probably because I don't masturbate the lady the same way every time. It depends on my mood. Sometimes I just want the lady to orgasm quickly, and I go all out with my hand on her pussy. Which leads to a quick and violent orgasm after about 5 minutes or so. But at other times I want to make it last. So I watch for signs that the woman is coming close to orgasm, and I slow down at the right moment to make her last longer. When I make the lady last for a long time like this, then her orgasm is usually less violent, but it lasts longer.

Quick orgasm for the lady is something to do, when you are planning to make this lady orgasm two times. Because a quick orgasm doesn't fully satisfy the woman. But it still takes some skill to start masturbating the lady for her second orgasm. I'd say you need to keep your masturbating hand on her pussy and continue to stroke her lightly, just to let her know that you aren't quite finished yet. It takes couple of minutes for the lady to get over her refractory period. And she might feel a little uncomfortable at first, when you start masturbating her for real again. But it takes only a few well-lubricated strokes on her pussy and clit, before she starts to enjoy it again.

I found some good examples of my pussy masturbation technique. These examples show women masturbating themselves during anal sex. But I can say from my own experience that this pussy-masturbation technique works really well on its own. Here are some examples:

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[Red Kilt]

Hey Dan.

I thought some of these descriptions were incredibly vivid and helpful.

https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating...gasm-feel-like

[Dan7373]

Somebody from this forum has asked me a question in a private message about how to nail a sexy chick with a small dick. And he asked me to share some GIF pictures to illustrate what I mean. I think this question might be interesting for some other guys too. And that's why I decided to answer it here.

One obvious thing to say is that pounding the sexy chick with a small dick is a bad idea. Because for sure you are going to slip out of her in the heat of the moment.

You need to stay close to the chick and grind her with your dick, rather than pound her. And this means that you need to have a plan, before you even touch the lady's sexy bum.

Doggy position is where you start out with the lady. But you need to make sure that she has room to go forward on the bed with you. Because the next thing you do is enter her from behind, lean forward on her, and put some weight behind your hips on her sexy ass-cheeks to make her go down into the prone position with you. And then you just grind your hips on her sexy ass-cheeks to stretch her sex-hole with your pole and move it around inside her. Here is of what I mean:

http://45.media.tumblr.com/524d6b12f...id38o1_500.gif

http://45.media.tumblr.com/df79a69cf...id38o1_500.gif

http://45.media.tumblr.com/5a009523e...id38o1_400.gif

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http://49.media.tumblr.com/0d39c7872...6z24o1_500.gif

I've done this with a lady or two. And I can say from my own experience that it's very easy to get the lady into this kind of a sex position with you, if you start out in the doggy position with her and then lean forward on her to make her go down into the prone position. And it feels so good for a guy to grind his hips on the lady's ass-cheeks, while moving his cock inside her, that I'd say this is something to try for any guy, regardless of your cock-size.

I think maintaining a lot of body-to-body contact with your lady enables her to feel your lust with every thrust. And this is exciting in itself for the lady. Because your feeling of lust transfers to her through natural empathy, and she feels it too. And you can help the lady feel this even more, when you nail her, if you express yourself to her with some groans and moans during your especially pleasant moments with her.

I think dirty talk can be distracting, because it requires some thinking and understanding. But your animal sounds of pleasure is something for the hot lady enjoy and to talk about with her lady-friends afterwards.

[Dan7373]

You can change the tightness of her vagina by filling her rectum.

There is a very thin wall between the two. So if you put a medium to large butt plug into her ass, that will squeeze her vagina, and she feels like a virgin.

But you may need to be slow about introducing her to the butt plug experience.

My lady has grown to love it. So she is happy with either a medium butt plug, or a fairly big soft rubber dildo in her ass while we are fucking.

Try it. You will probably love it.

G

Yes, your idea works. But in most P4P type of situations, you need to be quick with your dick to nail the sexy chick. You don't have a lot of time to persuade the lady.

Having a butt-plug in her ass during vaginal sex is like double-penetration for the lady. Most women probably consider this more difficult to do, than just having anal sex. Because even in porn, some women do anal, but they don't do DP's.

I did some research on this topic, and I found a quote in a forum, "A female friend told me once that with her you either get to have a big dick or have anal, but not both. Either way the guy should be happy with himself. ".

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/338052.page

A lot of women in this forum say that they prefer to have anal sex with a smaller guy. Which sounds to me like the smaller guy actually has an advantage, when it comes to nailing the asses of hot lasses.

Perhaps that's the thing to do, when you have a smaller dick-size. Be the anal guy. It won't be that hard for you to persuade the lady to do anal with you. You just need to remember the lady's pussy and clit with your hand, while you nail her ass with your cock. Here is what I mean:

http://www.daporngifs.com/gif/anal-at-its-finest.gif

[Dan7373]

I had a 20 YO wechat girl in HCMC.

She's about 130 lbs just slightly overweight, but her pussy was so loose, I did not feel my dick was penetrating anything. There was no sensation at my dick. It was a waste of energy, time and money.

So the girl's pussy size does matter. If it's too big or too loose, there no use sticking your dick into it. Conversely, if the dick is too small for the pussy, you would not feel anything.

I think it's best for the male and female to be roughly the same size, perhaps with the male slightly bigger than the female. Then the genitals would fit perfectly and bring the best sensations to both.

What you say is true only if you bang the lady in a straight line, in and out, without bending your dick inside her.

Straight in and out is the easiest way to do it in most sex positions. But in some sex-positions, you can actually move the chick with your dick. And when you do it this way, then you bend your dick inside her and you get plenty of stimulation during your penetration, even when your dick is smaller than her vagina. Here is what I mean:

http://x.imagefapusercontent.com/u/c.../Smothered.gif

https://49.media.tumblr.com/a11ca9cb...1u5po6_500.gif

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[Gangles]

You can change the tightness of her vagina by filling her rectum.

There is a very thin wall between the two. So if you put a medium to large butt plug into her ass, that will squeeze her vagina, and she feels like a virgin.

But you may need to be slow about introducing her to the butt plug experience.

My lady has grown to love it. So she is happy with either a medium butt plug, or a fairly big soft rubber dildo in her ass while we are fucking.

Try it. You will probably love it.

G

I had a 20 YO wechat girl in HCMC.

She's about 130 lbs just slightly overweight, but her pussy was so loose, I did not feel my dick was penetrating anything. There was no sensation at my dick. It was a waste of energy, time and money.

So the girl's pussy size does matter. If it's too big or too loose, there no use sticking your dick into it. Conversely, if the dick is too small for the pussy, you would not feel anything.

I think it's best for the male and female to be roughly the same size, perhaps with the male slightly bigger than the female. Then the genitals would fit perfectly and bring the best sensations to both.

[Dan7373]

Is it true that size of penis matters for a womans orgasms. ,?

The key woman's orgasm is effective clitoral stimulation. And vaginal sex alone usually doesn't provide enough such stimulation.

http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/carli...vely-stimulate

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/1.../ca.22471/full

The trick is to use your fingers and hand and not just your cock. Here is what I mean:

http://www.daporngifs.com/gif/the-ol...-and-twirl.gif

http://45.media.tumblr.com/85ae4d4e8...oo8_r1_400.gif

http://www.daporngifs.com/gif/brunettes-orgasm-face.gif

http://www.daporngifs.com/gif/sexies...tar-period.gif

[LukeSkywalker]

I had a 20 YO wechat girl in HCMC.

She's about 130 lbs just slightly overweight, but her pussy was so loose, I did not feel my dick was penetrating anything. There was no sensation at my dick. It was a waste of energy, time and money.

So the girl's pussy size does matter. If it's too big or too loose, there no use sticking your dick into it. Conversely, if the dick is too small for the pussy, you would not feel anything.

I think it's best for the male and female to be roughly the same size, perhaps with the male slightly bigger than the female. Then the genitals would fit perfectly and bring the best sensations to both.

[Wolvenvacht]

Is it true that size of penis matters for a womans orgasms. ,?

No, not really. Penis size is not that much different generally speaking.

Some ladies like a penis that has more girth and it seems that is more important than length. There are not that much nerves deep inside her vagina, so getting that extra cm only has a marginal effect. A more thick penis may give her a better "filled" feeling, but again the differences are small and it will also depend on who big or small, loose or tight her pussy is.

But in the end it is more about how you use it rather than its absolute size.

[HydMong]

Is it true that size of penis matters for a womans orgasms. ,?

[Dan7373]

Asian guys are really into fondling hot ladies in porn and in real life too. Japanese porn has a whole genre, where guys fondle the heck out of a really sexy lady. Here are some examples:

http://45.media.tumblr.com/4aad67030...iafjo2_500.gif

http://www.llamarepublik.com/hashbro...f?m=1410501736

http://45.media.tumblr.com/25249e4e4...iafjo3_500.gif

And this isn't just porn. One time I took a minibus from Issaan to Bangkok. There were only two women on the bus, my lady and another hot lady, who looked and dressed like she worked at a massage parlour in Bangkok. Not long into our trip, the hot lady in the back complained to the driver, and he yelled at the guys in the back and got the lady to move to the front seat, where I was sitting with my lady. Apparently some guys were fondling her, and that's what this trouble was about. I ended up getting sandwiched between the two ladies. Which I liked of course, but was I concerned that this looked really unfair to the guys behind me. So, I switched places with my lady to sit beside the window. Which probably looked like I was afraid of getting fondled by that sexy lady.

But in any case, fondling the sexy lady is a big thing in Asia and in Thailand too. This is something hot Asian women are very familiar with. And they are okay with it too in a P4P type of situation. It's doing it for free that they don't like.

It actually took me a while to learn just how much Thai P4P ladies will let you touch and fondle them. There was one really hot Go-Go lady, whom I took to my hotel room several times. It got to a point where I would just plunge my hand inside her panties and start masturbating her pussy and clit, as soon as she closes the door behind herself in my hotel room. Her pussy, tits, and ass I really enjoyed touching and fondling. And she was okay with it too, because I made it pleasant enough for her to orgasm her with my hand every time. It was orgasm for her first, and then I would nail her with my cock for my own orgasm. Ladies first, they say. And that's the way I did it with her.

There is something to be said for fondling your sexy Asian lady to make sure she is hot and ready.

I've read some complaints from guys in this forum that they've been in a situation, where the massage lady kept going back and forth doing various things for half-an-hour, before their massage even started. And then her heart wasn't in it during the remaining time.

Perhaps what this lady really needed was some serious fondling from her guy. His hand inside her panties and on her pussy, every time she walks by.

[Dan7373]

A lot of sex-positions require good balance, strength, and endurance. Such positions might tire you out and prevent you from lasting with the lady for as long as you want, even when you are in good shape.

I think it's important to plan ahead and choose a relaxed type of sex position with the lady, when you want to last for a long time with her. Here are some examples I found:

http://49.media.tumblr.com/8412273f8...8qefo1_500.gif

http://45.media.tumblr.com/6059a910e...89juo1_400.gif

http://45.media.tumblr.com/270266288...941jo1_400.gif

[Dan7373]

I think you can learn a lot from women, when you watch them fuck a guy. This is especially true when the woman is in control during the ball, and she rides the guy the way she wants.

One common theme I found in such GIF pictures is that the lady bends her guy's cock and moves it around, rather than just pound. And I think the lady does it this way to stimulate her so-called G-Spot, which is between her clitoris and vagina. I believe that G-Spot is just another name of the internal part of the woman's clitoris. But in any case, I think that women do it this way because this is what feels most pleasant for them. Here are some examples I found:

http://bestsexgif.com/wp-content/upl...ts-oil-ass.gif

http://ridingporn.net/wp-content/upl.../teen-porn.gif

http://x.imagefapusercontent.com/u/b...Cowgirl_71.gif

http://33.media.tumblr.com/550ac640b...tnjdo1_500.gif

http://www.daporngifs.com/gif/fuckin...arys-floor.gif

http://www.daporngifs.com/gif/revers...-some-cock.gif

Of course, a guy can't bang a lady this way. You need to adapt and stimulate your lady's G-Spot with your cock in another way. And the most effective advice for guys in this regard is to put a big pillow on the bed, and have the lady relax on top of it in a semi-doggy position. Then you can just relax on top of her, enter her pussy, and press down with the shaft of your cock against her G-Spot, which is between her pubic bone and her vagina. You can put some weight behind your cock and really ride her G-Sot with the bottom shaft of your cock, every time you slide during your ride.

I found some GIF pictures, where guys take their lady almost the right way to stimulate her G-Spot. The only thing that's missing is a pillow under her hips to raise her pussy so much that the shaft of the guy's cock is pressing down on her G-Spot. The thing I like about these pictures is that the guy doesn't break off his contact with his lady's ass. He just grinds his hips against her cheeks, and he moves his cock around, rather than just pound. Which is similar to the way ladies do it, when they get on top of a guy. This kind of a fuck probably feels more pleasant for women, than the way guys usually do it. And maintaining your contact with the lady's ass is definitely something to enjoy for the guy too. Here are these pictures:

http://x.imagefapusercontent.com/u/c.../Smothered.gif

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[Dan7373]

The Internet is full of advice for guys how to get their lady in the mood for sex. One advice you get is that you need to improve the ambience. Another advice is that you need to show her some affection, such as kissing and gently caressing. And this goes on and on, as if you are trying to romance the lady, rather than just nail her good.

I think this is confusing romance with sex. Romance and sex often go together, but it doesn't have to be this way. Both men and women can feel pure sexual lust, where they just want to do it hard-and-fast in a casual encounter with each other.

Sexual lust is what the P4P scene is all about. There are a number of hot women to nail, and you want to nail them all, rather than just stay with one girl. Romancing the ladies in this situation is totally inappropriate, because it's like lying to them and deceiving them. You might want to marry your P4P lady, but this isn't the usual situation to have.

I found from my experience that the quickest way to get the lady to want sex with you is to plunge your hand inside her panties, quickly find her clit, and gently finger it. Once you have your finger on the lady's clit, then you should continue fingering it. And it has to be for her pleasure, rather than yours. You don't do it to feel up the lady. You do it to please her.

I've had a lady tackle me to the floor, when I did this with her. And it wasn't because she was upset. She just wanted to fuck, and she couldn't wait for me to penetrate. Of course, this lady used to work as a policewoman, and she had the training for tackling guys like me. This probably isn't something every hot lady will do with you. But I've done this with Thai P4P ladies too, when we were talking about something non-sexual. And it would literally take less than a minute for the lady to say, "Let's fuck!" And she would start undressing with me.

I think the trick is to know where the lady's clit is, before you even plunge your hand inside her panties. Because then you will find her clit right away, and she will start feeling the pleasure, before she even knows what's going on.

Of course, you need to be careful about the lady's consent in this situation. If you've paid her some money, and she expects you to have sex with her some time during the day anyway, then surprising her like this is okay. Or as was my situation with that ex-policewoman, she got me alone in a secluded place, and then she said to me that she wanted to have sex with me. I was actually confused a little, and I almost talked myself out of it. But she was a good-looking woman, and I wanted her. So, I just plunged my hand inside her panties in a lightning quick move. I found her clit right away and was already fingering it, by the time she fully realized what was going on. I could feel with my finger her clitoris get bigger and harder, and that's when she tackled me to the ground to fuck with me.

[Dan7373]

You often hear people say that you shouldn't learn from porn movies how to nail a pretty lady, because porn is a fantasy and not the real thing. And if you don't think about it too much, then this idea seems to make sense. Because you often see all kinds of stunts in action movies, that will likely get you killed, if you try them at home.

But this anti-porn logic falls apart, when you realize that unlike in action movies, people in porn movies do everything for real. These aren't just illusions, the way special effects are in action movies.

People in porn are real people performing real sex-acts. There is no deception or trickery involved in vast majority of porn movies. The only thing you need to keep in mind is that people in porn movies likely had a lot of practice, which makes them a lot better at it than you, when you do it for the first time. You need to proceed with caution, when it's something you haven't done before. Because watching other people do it doesn't make you good at it. It takes some practical learning by trial and error, before you become good at any sex-act.

I think the real reason why people say that porn is a fantasy and you shouldn't expect this kind of sex with your girlfriend or your wife is because most girlfriends and wives aren't yet sexually liberated enough to try this kind of stuff. And that's why a lot of guys go to P4P ladies for their Porn Star Experience (PSE). P4P ladies are often much more willing to take a porn-type of drilling.

But speaking about masturbation for double penetration, I found a GIF picture where the lady vigorously masturbates her pussy, just prior to being DP'd. This lady already has a guy in her ass, and she is preparing to take a second guy in her pussy. She is definitely doing it for real. Which makes her pussy-masturbation something to watch and learn from.

This is actually the way I regularly go after my lady's pussy with my hand. And it works really well. You basically take the lady's pussy with your hand from behind, so that your hand is in the same position on her pussy, as her hand would be, if she was masturbating herself. And you masturbate her pussy more or less the same way that this picture below shows:

http://www.daporngifs.com/gif/that-l...e-asks-her.gif