Tips and techniques for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm

[Dan7373]

Believe me, although all the sex books never mention it, it can be a problem to last too long. ...

According to one survey, 80% of both men and women wanted their sex to last longer than it actually did. And popular Men's and Women's magazines are both full of advice about how to make your sex last longer.

http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/09/how-...ally-last.html

I think it's much more common for men to orgasm too quickly, rather than not quickly enough. Lasting longer than you want is so unusual that sex and health experts don't even talk about it in the media.

But it's true that if you are using a condom and your lube dries out, then you can potentially injure the lady due to too much friction. It's a problem with poor lubrication, rather than sex lasting too long. Because poorly lubricated sex is bad for the lady, even if it lasts only for one minute.

Some articles on this subject say that the woman's vagina can absorb water from the lube, and that's what causes it to dry out. And such water absorption is even more of a problem during anal sex. Because the rectum normally absorbs water. And of course, the way to solve such a problem is to spread more lube on your condom and splash on some water too, before you go back inside for another ride. All you need is some water in there to rehydrate the lube and make it slippery again.

Nobody wants unpleasant sex to last for any length of time. But when the sex is pleasant, then it's only natural that people want to make it last longer. Because virtually everybody wants their pleasure to last longer, regardless of whether this pleasure is sexual or not.

I've always had a problem with lasting less than I wanted, which is the kind of problem most men have, according to the media. It is a disappointment to meet some new hot chick, look forward to nailing her with your dick, but then you last with her less than 5 minutes, and she is finished with you. This is the more usual scenario to have. And I'd say from my own experience that it's even more difficult to last, when the lady is really hot, and you are doing it with for the first time ever. Because you are so excited about nailing her, that you simply can't last with her.

It's true that if you just stay inside the lady with your cock, without moving at all, then you aren't going to cum with her. It's your nailing of the lady that makes you cum with her. I've tried slowing down with the lady to last longer with her. But I found that this usually doesn't work for me. I always end up nailing the lady too hard and too fast anyway and cumming with her right there and then.

The only thing that worked for me is stopping inside the lady completely and taking a break inside her pussy, without moving my cock inside her at all. But then I ran into another problem. The lady asked me what was wrong, when I stopped and waited inside her pussy with my cock. This wasn't a good situation for me to start explaining myself to her. So, I just started banging her again, I quickly lost control inside this sexy girl, and I didn't last with her at all.

I think the trick is to make it pleasant for the lady, when you take a break inside her pussy with your cock. In the doggy position and in the reverse-cowgirl position, you can easily massage your lady's clitoris with your fingers and hand to keep her entertained, while you rest your cock inside her pussy. And you have a good alibi, if the lady asks you, "Why did you stop? You can tell her that you aren't good at multi-tasking. You can either finger her clit and hold her tit or nail her pussy, but not both at the same time.

And of course, it's often a bad idea to withdraw your cock from the lady's pussy and take a rest this way. You need to stay inside her pussy, if you intend to nail her some more later on. Because once you withdraw from the lady, then you might not be in a good position to penetrate her again. Language and communication problems can arise. And you might lose your erection with her, by the time you sort this out with her.

When you are inside the lady, then you have her consent and her permission to keep nailing her for as long as you stay inside her. But once you withdraw your cock from the lady and she goes out of position with you, then you need her consent, her permission, and her position all over again. It's like you've worked so hard to get your cock inside her pussy, and you don't want to risk ending your sex prematurely with her, due to some misunderstanding.

The only time it might okay to withdraw from the lady is when both of you agree that you need more lube, and she will take you back inside for another ride. This is something to agree upon, before you withdraw from the lady.

[Syzygies]

I was appalled to read that one of the top complaints among women is their guy lasting only 5-15 minutes with them during sexual intercourse. Because I've seldom lasted longer than 5-10 minutes. This has always been a problem for me, because I like the lady so much that it's hard for me to slow down with her.

Believe me, although all the sex books never mention it, it can be a problem to last too long. I have difficulty to cum and often take a long time. Sometimes girls have had enough before I get there. Some girls are very sensitive and can cum inside two minutes from DATY or other means. Some girls can have 3 to 5 orgasms and then have had enough, when I may not have reached even one pop yet. Of course other girls are very difficult to cum, not sensitive, and many working girls almost never cum with customers. The girl is more focussed on providing a service in many cases, and customers may not have the patience to try for a long time.

My technique to overcome my problem is which I had to discover for myself. After fucking too long, I become desensitized. I have found that if I stop and leave dick totally unstimulated for 5 minutes or so, the sensitivity returns. Then restart and can usually cum with 5 to 10 minutes, like a normal person. During my 5 minutes rest I can do things for the woman such as DATY or hand stimulation. If the woman is stimulated but has not yet cum, she often appreciates a DATY toward the end of the session, even more than at the start of a session. I find a woman cums more easily from DATY after normal sex than from DATY as foreplay.

[Dan7373]

It might come as a surprise for some guys that their kind of porn can be a turn on for women too. I've read some interviews of female porn-stars, where the guy asked the women what kind of porn they watch, if any. And some women mentioned lesbian, anal, DP, and gang-bang as their favorite scenes to watch.

None of these women mentioned the "porn for couples" that you often see at porn websites. And this was a revelation for me. Because this "porn for couples" idea makes you think that women are too sensitive and too delicate to be shown the graphic sex acts that guys like to watch. It's a kind of sexist attitude towards porn-watching.

Perhaps P4P ladies are similar to porn-stars, because they are professional sex-workers, and they are more into sex with guys than other women are.

I think showing the lady a short porn-clip on your smartphone to tell her what you'd like to do is a good way to turn her on and avoid communication problems with her. And it's a good way to show the lady what other women can do, so that she will try to do it too. It can be like a sex-education kind of porn-clip for the lady, if it's something she hasn't done before.

A gif picture or a short clip on your smartphone can often show the lady positions and sex-acts that are hard to explain with words. And it can be a turn-on for the lady too. When you show the lady what some other hot woman has done with a guy, then this might turn-on your lady and get her to try it, even if she hasn't done it before.

[Dan7373]

It's normal for guys to start masturbating themselves, when they see a hot lady get naked in a porn film. But doing something like this in front of a lady who gets naked with you is a lot more difficult to do. You really need to lose your inhibitions to be able to do something like this. But according to some women, it's a turn on for them to see a guy masturbate himself in front of them.

One woman says,

"I know it may sound strange, but watching my boyfriend get himself off is such a turn on. I'll start by lying down naked next him, my body against his, and play with his member until he gets hard. Then I put his hand down there and just rub my body against him and watch. I think it makes me so hot 'cause it's kind of taboo, something he would do in private, but I also like actually seeing how much I turn him on. "

Leslie, 25.
http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex...-of-real-women

Of course the trick is to look at the woman and not at some porn picture, when you masturbate yourself in front of a lady. Because you want to show her that you like her and not some other lady. You liking some other lady can be a turn-off for her.

[Dan7373]

I was appalled to read that one of the top complaints among women is their guy lasting only 5-15 minutes with them during sexual intercourse. Because I've seldom lasted longer than 5-10 minutes. This has always been a problem for me, because I like the lady so much that it's hard for me to slow down with her.

Here is what the author says about this complaint among women:

He orgasms too quickly.
Size doesn't matter nearly as much as you think it does. Longevity matters much, much more. A quickie in the bathroom at the Pulse or on the hood of the car in the middle of the woods should last 5-15 minutes, but anything in the bedroom/shower/one the floor/kitchen counter needs at least 45. If you can't help getting off quick, you have two choices: masturbate before you go, and you'll last longer, or be prepared to go again in 15 minutes.
http://www.angelfire.com/nc3/subchao...omplaints.html

It's easy to say that you should last longer. Doing it is a lot harder, at least for somebody who doesn't know how to do it.

But now that I think about it, I recall one time when I took a Thai lady from a go-go place for short-time in the room upstairs. And while I was there, I could clearly hear some guy above me really nailing his sexy lady. My Thai lady kept pointing at the ceiling and giggling about it. Because she said that it was her friend who was getting nailed like that.

I didn't think much about it at the time. But now I realize that this guy was nailing his sexy lady when I came into my room, and he was still nailing her when I left close to an hour later. He really took his time with her and lasted for a long time with her.

I think the reason why this guy lasted for such a long time with his lady is because of the way he nailed her. From what I could hear, he pounded her like a stormy ocean pounds the beach. He would come at her like a big wave, and nail her hard-and-fast. Their bed would be creaking all over the place. Then he would slow down with her, and the bed creaking would almost stop. You might think that he is finished. But no, he comes at her again like another big wave and pounds her hard-and-fast.

He was basically banging his lady hard enough to come close to orgasm with her, then he would stop to decrease his arousal with her and wait until he could bang her hard-and-fast again and come close to orgasm again. He was repeating this pattern again and again, and that's how he managed to last for such a long time with his lady.

I think any guy can do this kind of thing. You don't need any special powers to last for a long time with your lady like this. A lot of guys probably masturbate like this, when they watch porn, so that their pleasure lasts for a long time.

I can say for myself that I usually pick a lady who is good-looking enough to be out of my league. And that's where my problem starts. I feel like she is doing me a favor, and I need to finish quickly with her to avoid offending her. I don't have enough self-confidence to nail her for a long time, the way that guy nailed his lady.

Self-confidence is probably the thing to work on for guys who can't last for a long time with their lady. Because there is nothing difficult or complicated about the way that guy nailed his lady for a good hour or so. Any guy can do this. But you do need to be confident with the lady to nail her like this.

[Dan7373]

One sex-advice you get on the Internet is that you need to multi-task with the lady to make it extra pleasant for her. Because according to Barry Komisaruk, PhD, a behavioral neuroscientist at Rutgers University and author of The Science of Orgasm, stimulating different erogenous zones activates different pleasure centers in the woman's brain. Which means that one pleasure adds to another and makes it more pleasant for the lady.

http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex...-world/slide/7

And I can say from my own experience that when a woman has sensitive breasts, then I need to massage her pussy and clit with one hand, while I'm hold one of her tits with my other hand and suck on her nipple. This is the only way I know how to make it pleasant for the woman with sensitive breasts. I think this might be the thing to do with every lady. Because not every woman with sensitive breasts will complain or show discomfort. Some women might hide it to please the guy.

The only thing I don't like about such multi-tasking is that it makes my tit-sucking experience less than optimal. I can't hold both of the lady's breasts at the same time and focus my full attention on them. And recent research actually says that there is no such thing as true multi-tasking. People just rapidly switch their attention from one task to another, which often leads to increased mistakes and decreased efficiency.

http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0, 20707868_2,00. Html.

Perhaps a better way to multi-task with a pretty lady is to go after her tits, when you have your cock inside her pussy. You are still going to get distracted and probably slow down inside her pussy. But this might actually be something you need to do once in a while. Because to achieve your peak pleasure with the lady, you need to bang her hard-and-fast for increased stimulation. But then you need to slow down with her and take it easy for a short while. Or else you won't last long with her.

[Dan7373]

You are saying the clitoris is above and the G spot is below the pelvic bone, and the 2 are separated by it?

So if you apply pressure on the pelvic bone, you are stimulating both the clit and the G Spot?

The girls in my experience can get orgasms by this stimulation. The Hitachi wand on top of the bone probably works wonder.

If it works in pleasing the women, then whether you call it G-Spot or clitoris makes no difference.

It's only scientists and medical doctors who need to know for sure what exactly is in there. Because this can make a difference for surgery and other medical treatments.

I'm just surprised that so many people insist on believing one gynecologist from 1950, rather than a number of modern doctors and researchers, who have much better technology and more knowledge, than Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg had in 1950.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ernst_Gr%C3%A4fenberg

[LukeSkywalker]

You are saying the clitoris is above and the G spot is below the pelvic bone, and the 2 are separated by it?

So if you apply pressure on the pelvic bone, you are stimulating both the clit and the G Spot?

The girls in my experience can get orgasms by this stimulation. The Hitachi wand on top of the bone probably works wonder.

The Clitoris originates from the pubic bone, whereas vagina lies in the pelvic diaphragm. The internal part of clitoris can't go in the anterior wall of vagina.

Therefore the clitoris cannot be stimulated from inside vagina and has to be stimulated from outside only. The pubic bone (part of pelvic bone) lies behind the clitoris so when it is pressed it is pressed against the pubic bone, and has no relation with the vaginal wall.

[Raju 1974]

The Clitoris originates from the pubic bone, whereas vagina lies in the pelvic diaphragm. The internal part of clitoris can't go in the anterior wall of vagina.

Therefore the clitoris cannot be stimulated from inside vagina and has to be stimulated from outside only. The pubic bone (part of pelvic bone) lies behind the clitoris so when it is pressed it is pressed against the pubic bone, and has no relation with the vaginal wall.

The thing a lot of guys don't realize about the woman's clitoris is that most of it is internal, inside her vulval tissues. The visible part of the woman's clitoris is only a small part of her clitoris.

Which is my point about the G-Spot. How do you know that you aren't stimulating the internal part of the woman's clitoris, when you find her so-called G-Spot?

[Beno69]

And I realize that many people still believe in its existence. But I find it hard to believe in something that contradicts the latest medical and scientific studies on this subject. Because science is usually right, especially when there are a number of studies saying the same thing and not just one study.

I think this study is more a myth than the G spot!

About 60% of my African Girlfriends are squirting -means I massage them with 2 Fingers about 5-6 cm inside pussy up / down. Something getting swolen, then you start make around the clit with your cock. Soon you will have a lake in your bed. Take enough towels under your Girls body.

In Europe maybe 1 % can squirt, because they are to busy thinking the howl day instead of making good sex.

[BionicMan]

I accidentally clicked the delete link for Beno69's message, when my intention was to reply.
I didn't even realize that I could delete anybody's messages here. I'll try to be more careful with my clicks in the future. Because this deletion happened without any warning or any request for confirmation.

You opened the thread, you control the thread!

[Dan7373]

Dan, they are two different anatomical structures. The G-Spot is pretty easy to find as the tissue feels quite different from the rest of the vaginal wall. It stands out so to speak. I would imagine that the nerves are close but not the same.

All I can say is that I believe medical researchers and scientists a lot more than the opinion of any lay people.

Because science has proven itself so many times that it simply doesn't make sense for me to doubt what scientists say, unless you can point out some flaw in their studies and experiments.

You aren't even trying to point out what's wrong with their studies. Which makes your objection not serious.

Here are some of the studies and their results:

http://www.nature.com/nrurol/journal....2014.193.html

http://www.thelocal.it/20140826/the-...lian-scientist

http://www.livescience.com/17977-spo...ars-study.html

[Goatscrot]

The thing a lot of guys don't realize about the woman's clitoris is that most of it is internal, inside her vulval tissues. The visible part of the woman's clitoris is only a small part of her clitoris.

Which is my point about the G-Spot. How do you know that you aren't stimulating the internal part of the woman's clitoris, when you find her so-called G-Spot?

Dan, they are two different anatomical structures. The G-Spot is pretty easy to find as the tissue feels quite different from the rest of the vaginal wall. It stands out so to speak. I would imagine that the nerves are close but not the same.

[Dan7373]

Actually 2 different sites Dan. The G-Spot in inside the vagina.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot

The thing a lot of guys don't realize about the woman's clitoris is that most of it is internal, inside her vulval tissues. The visible part of the woman's clitoris is only a small part of her clitoris.

Which is my point about the G-Spot. How do you know that you aren't stimulating the internal part of the woman's clitoris, when you find her so-called G-Spot?

[Goatscrot]

I think the so-called G-spot is actually the woman's clitoris. It's a just different name for the same thing. Because if you look at the woman's anatomy picture that I've attached below, then you will see that the woman's clitoris is just below her pubic bone, which is where the G-spot is also reportedly located.

Actually 2 different sites Dan. The G-Spot in inside the vagina.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot