Tips and techniques for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm

[Dan7373]

A handjob from the lady is actually much safer, than having unprotected oral sex with the lady. Because all medical authorities I could find on this subject say that diseases can be transmitted through unprotected oral sex.

Perhaps getting a handjob is an acquired taste. But I've tried it myself with several ladies, and I actually like it more than oral sex. Because the lady's hand is stronger, more skillful, and has more endurance than her mouth and tongue. The lady still needs to know how to do it and learn it well from her experience. But once the lady is good at it, then this becomes a very safe and enjoyable way to do it.

I found some GIF clips where ladies do their guys with their hands. And it's something you might want to download and show to your Thai lady, if you want her to do you in a safe way and make it enjoyable for you. One of the ladies actually does a handjob on the guy, while he is wearing a condom. And another pair of ladies do a handjob on a guy with plenty of soap. Which are even safer ways of doing it. Here are the clips:

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[Dan7373]

I found a good 5-minute video that shows you how to last for a reasonably long time with your massage lady, even when she is hot and good in bed with you.

Reverse-cowgirl. And you masturbate the girl, while she rides your cock. The lady can't do you hard and fast in this position. And that's why you last with her.

And another way is cowgirl. As long as you don't pound the lady from below and let her do the riding, then you will also last with her. Because ladies are usually slower and nicer, when they take a guy with their pussy, than a pounding guy on top of her would be. Here is the video:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/1756941944

[Dan7373]

I found a short video (3 minutes) that shows how a guy brings a woman to orgasm with his finger.

The guy pinches her nipples, while he does this. So, this is some multi-tasking. But other than that, it looks very easy for the guy. And of course, it's safer than oral sex, because you are unlikely to get infected, when your skin is intact and you wash your hand well afterwards.

Here is the video:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/1639047261

[Dan7373]

I found a good article, where real porn-stars talk about their bad experiences with condoms and why they prefer not to use them.

Nina Hartley, who was a popular big, sexy-ass porn-star in 1980's and early 1990's, says that condoms are a far greater risk to women than they are to men. The reason: friction.

Chanel Preston, who is still a porn-star now, says that porn sex lasts anywhere from at least 30 minutes several hours. And she says that in this situation, condoms "cause a lot of friction. If I used condoms daily, it would be extremely painful for me. " Nina Hartley adds to this, "Erection is manufactured from the outside in. To keep mechanical stimulation going, he thrusts vigorously, thrusts harder and longer, which creates friction and burns".

And it's not just the porn-stars who are saying this based on their personal experience. A sexual psychophysiologist and neuroscientists Dr. Nicole Prause says, "The performers are right. Condoms do increase friction and, if you know your infection status, condoms can increase the risk of other bacterial infections. ".

These other infections, that the Doctor mentions, usually affect only women and not men. Condoms can promote yeast infections in two ways: Those with a spermicidal lubricant often contain nonoxynol-9, which affects the vaginal ecosystem and likely makes it easier for yeast to take advantage. Being allergic to latex condoms also increases risk, although this is less common. According to Dr. Nicole Prause, "Condoms increase the presence of at least three bacteria in the vagina and increase erythema (redness) associated with tearing.

Here is the whole article, where this information and the quotes above come from:

http://www.medicaldaily.com/keeping-...ndustry-363810

I think the key lesson to learn here is that condoms are more than just an issue of pleasure and sensitivity for women. Condoms can cause real health problems for women, especially when you want a Porn Star Experience with the lady and last for a long time with her.

Guys wearing condoms is probably the real reason why many Thai P4P ladies complain about big Farang dicks. A big dick for the lady wouldn't be a problem on its own. Because the woman's vagina can stretch to accommodate different sizes. Women normally give birth through their vagina. Which shows you just how much a woman's vagina can adjust. But the thing women's vaginas can't adjust to is friction from condoms. This is what hurts P4P ladies causes them all kinds of problems.

But of course I would never say that you should stop using condoms and go bareback with P4P ladies. Because this would be a really stupid thing to do. It makes no sense either for you or for the lady to risk your long-term health and your life for some short-term pleasure or money.

I found from my experience with condoms that water-based lube on them doesn't last very long. Some of the water in the lube gets absorbed by the woman's body. And some of this water quickly dries out, when it's exposed to room air in an air-conditioned room. Because air-conditioning acts like a dehumidifier. It removes moisture from the air and makes everything dry quickly.

But there is a solution for this problem. It basically involves bringing an extra bottle of water-based lube with you, using it to lubricate yourself and the lady, and most importantly splashing some water on your lubed parts once in a while to re-hydrate this lube and make it slippery again.

You really need to do this kind of stuff, if you want to last for a long time with your lady. Or else your dry condom will start hurting the lady, and she will need to stop you, no matter what you say or how much you pay.

You need to look at it from the lady's point of view and not just from your own. For you, the condom might be just an issue of sensitivity and pleasure. But for the lady, this is an issue of health and safety. Your dry condom can really hurt the lady and put her out of commission for a while.

[Dan7373]

When I go to see a hot massage lady for a 2-hour session with her, then I fully intend to take it easy with her and last for a long time with her. I steel my will-power and promise myself that I'm not going to do this lady hard-and-fast, because I want to last.

But once I get there and see all the hot ladies, then I'm not so sure anymore that I can stay in control with her. My resolve weakens a little, when the hot lady drops her cloths in the private room with me. She then massages me with her pussy, tits, and ass, until I can't stand it any more and I go for the ride with her. At this point, I still remember my promise to take it easy with the lady and last for a long time with her. But I just don't have the will-power any more. The hot lady's pussy, tits, and ass massage on me took the last of it from me. I end up pounding her hard-and-fast. And I don't last. The clip below is a good illustration of how I end up doing the lady at this point in time.

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It took me a while to understand that will-power is a limited resource. If you rely on your will-power too long and too much, then you are bound to lose your control with the sexy girl and end up pounding her with your dick. This is a serious limitation that can keep you from taking the hot chick the way you want with your dick.

I think the trick is save your will-power and use sex-positions to control your dick with the chick. Basically, you need to take the lady in sex positions that make it physically impossible for you to pound her with your dick. Your lady does all the work. And it works well this way, because ladies don't usually pound guys with their pussies. They do it slower and in a different way. Instead of making you go in an out of her a lot, the lady tends to grind you with her pussy, which feels more pleasant for her. Here are some examples of what I'm talking about:

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Many porn movies show guys pounding their ladies and lasting for a long time with them too. But this is just an illusion, rather than the real thing. Because if you watch closely such scenes, then you will see that the film is all cut up and spliced together. Those pounding moments last for a minute or so. Then the film is cut to a different view. The guy could literally have a 15-minute break in between these cuts.

Pounding a hot lady with your cock feels pretty good for a guy. I'll admit this much. But you need to take breaks in between. Or else you aren't going to last long enough to really enjoy it. Some ladies might let you pound them periodically like that. And I would call this a Porn Star Experience (PSE). Because that's how porn-stars do it in real life, when they are filming their scene. But most ladies won't let you take them like that. And in that case, you need to use sex-positions to control your dick with the chick. Or else, you won't last with her.

Pounding the lady periodically, the way guys do it in porn-movies can work too. Because you are saving your will-power, when you let yourself go and just pound the lady. You aren't try to restrain yourself at all with the sexy girl.

But you need to watch yourself and recognize when you are getting close to the point of no-return with the lady. And once you recognize this, then you need to use your saved up will-power to withdraw from the lady quickly and take a short break by massaging her or doing something else with her.

And I say you need to withdraw from the lady quickly, because it takes a lot of will-power to withdraw from the girl when you are on a wild roll. If you take too long to take out your big dong, then you might exhaust your will-power and go back to pounding her. Which is a bad thing to do, when you are close to the point of no-return. It's like you doom yourself to a premature ejaculation right there and then.

[Dan7373]

I found some online advice for guys, who want to last for a long time with their lady.

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love...x-last-longer/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...tips-treatment

I think it's interesting to see that some of this sex advice confirms what guys that have been saying in this forum in the past.

Masturbating your dick, before you go to see the hot chick is one such example. Cosmopolitan magazine says, "Ejaculating an hour or two beforehand makes it harder for a man to come quickly. " Lisa Thomas, a sex-therapist says, "Men who masturbate in the mornings and then have relations with their partners in the evening tend to be able to last longer because they have had an orgasm within the same day. You can also masturbate at night and have sex in the morning with the same effect. ".

The trick isn't just to masturbate your dick. You actually need to cum, before you go to see the lady. And this is especially the thing to do, when you are going for a 2-hour session with the lady, who gives you only one-cumshot with her. Two hours sounds like plenty of time to get to know a hot chick with your dick. But that one-cumshot deal is liable to spoil your action, unless you prepare yourself for the lady, before you even go to see her.

Another thing Lisa Thomas advises is having multiple cumshots with your lady. She says that after you cum your first time, then don't stop the action. Just start pleasing your partner with massage or oral sex, until your erection returns. Then ride her again. And second time around, you will probably last longer with her.

I find it interesting that almost all Bangkok ladies at www.smooci.com website offer you two shots with them. It's like a standard offer there. And you really need it too. Because holding back your dick on a hot chick is easier said than done. When the hot lady is new for you, and she is someone you really want to do, then you are so excited to do her, that you end up pounding her. Pounding feels good. But you don't last. You really need that ride and second cumshot with the lady. Or else, you don't fully enjoy it with her.

Using plenty of lube is another thing Lisa Thomas advises. Because when you have more lube, then you have less friction and less stimulation. Which enables you to last longer with the lady.

This advice about the lube is true. But from my own experience I would say that you need to do more than just use more lube. You also need to splash some water on your lubed parts once in a while. Or else it doesn't work well.

The problem with water-based lube is that the water in it gets absorbed by the body, and it dries in the air too, especially when the room is air-conditioned. Because air-conditioning takes humidity out of the air and makes everything dry faster, including your lube. Water based lube is really slippery, when you add some water to it and keep it hydrated by splashing some water on it once in a while. But if you don't add water to the lube, the it soon become ineffective and doesn't do much for you.

[Dan7373]

I found a video that shows you how you can last for a long time with your lady.

Basically, you sit on a chair, and the lady mounts you with her pussy from the front. And she is the one who rides you, while you sit there and enjoy it.

And the reason why this position works is because, you can't pound the girl at all, while you are sitting on a chair like that. The lady does all the work. And ladies are usually slower at this, than guys are. That's why you will likely last for a long time with her this way. Here is the video:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/ph58f9fb2d0a4ec

I think the main reason why many guys can't last for a long time with their lady is because they end up doing her too hard and too fast. Which is possible to do, even when the lady is on top of you, in the cowgirl position. That's why this chair position is so effective. Sitting on the chair makes it physically impossible for you to pound the lady. Which forces you to keep your control with her and last for a long time with her.

[Dan7373]

I found a good example where the guy holds his lady's clit with his hand, while he bangs her pussy with his cock from behind.

This kind of thing makes it more interesting and more pleasant for the lady. And it doesn't take much effort from the guy.

I'd say this is something to do, whenever you take your lady in doggy. Here is what I'm talking about:

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[Dan7373]

I've read some articles about women's orgasm, and some women say that orgasm for them is easier to have, when the guy pleases them in a relaxed way, like he is going to do it as long as it takes. There is no hurry and no urgency to make the woman orgasm.

I haven't found any examples of a guy doing a lady this way. But I did find a lady doing a guy's cock with her mouth like that in the video below:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/ph5a0baab5d2607

I think women often have trouble orgasming, because the guy keeps checking if they've orgasmed yet or not. He doesn't just relax and enjoy the action. And this urgency and impatience to make the woman orgasm can make it so difficult for the woman to orgasm, that it might not happen at all.

A part of reaching orgasm is being relaxed and not thinking or worrying about anything. And that's why you need to relax with the lady and do her like you are doing her for your own enjoyment, and it's up to her to orgasm or not. I think that's how the lady in the video above does her guy. And this is a good example how you can do a lady. No hurry and no pressure. Just do it for your own enjoyment.

[Dan7373]

I've come across a study about sex-work titled:

"Decriminalizing Indoor Prostitution: Implications for Sexual Violence and Public Health".

This is a study about sex-work in the State of Rhode Island in USA, where indoor prostitution was accidentally legalized for a period of 6 years, from 2003 to 2009. The authors of this study say that "reported r_a_p_e offences fell by 30% and female gonorrhoea incidence declined by over 40% during this 6-year period in Rhode Island.

https://academic.oup.com/restud/adva...rdx065/4756165

I think this study is important to know about. Because anti-prostitution crusaders usually claim that they want to make it better for women. And this study shows that it's the opposite. They are making it worse for women, rather than better.

[Dan7373]

I found a 10-minute video, where the guy orgasms a hot asian lady with his mouth and fingers.

It takes him almost 10 minutes to bring her to orgasm, which happens some time between the 9:00 and 10:00 marks in the video. And I think he has a pretty good technique for orgasming this chick. Because when he puts his fingers inside her vagina, then he uses them to push against her clitoris from inside there, even while he is licking her clitoris from outside. This two-prong approach is what makes it so pleasant for her.

Of course, you can adapt this technique to do it all with your hands and fingers, rather than with your mouth. Which would be a safer way of doing it. You can even put latex gloves on your hands, lubricate them well, and do the lady in a totally safe way.

I think this is a realistic video. Because it shows you how long it takes for a guy to orgasm his lady, even when he is very good at pleasing her. Porn films often show the guy play the lady's clit for 20 or 30 seconds, and then he goes on to do something else. Which isn't nearly enough to bring the lady to orgasm.

Here is the video:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/ph587d46c359eab

[Dan7373]

One sure way to last longer with your lady is to go nice and slow on the plow. I found a couple of good examples where the guy does it this way with his lady in doggy:

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https://cl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/014/...)14035292a.mp4

One interesting thing the guy does in these clips is that he pulls out his cock from the lady's pussy completely, and then he tries to re-enter her pussy without guiding his cock with his hands.

In the first clip, he misses her pussy on his first try, but he gets her pussy on his second try. Then in the second clip, he does it a lot better, probably because he had some practice.

I think this is something to try for any cocky guy, who wants to last for a long time with his lady. It might be a little boring just to go nice and slow on the lady. But you can make it interesting and even challenging for yourself, if you withdraw from the lady completely and then try to re-enter her pussy without guiding your cock with your hands.

You might be able to do it one time. But can you do it several times in a row, without missing the chick with your dick?

[Dan7373]

I found a new sex-position that I haven't see before either in porn or anywhere else. Here is a 5-second clip that shows it:

https://cl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/014/...)14034842a.mp4

It's a modified reverse-cowgirl position, where the lady sits sideways with her pussy on the guys's cock, rather than with her back towards him. The lady leans back and partly supports her body with the sofa they are on.

This is a very relaxing position for both the lady and the guy. They can probably do it like this for a long time, without getting tired.

And I'd say that the lady in this video would probably orgasm before the guy, if they keep doing it like this. Because she rides his cock with her pussy just enough to make it pleasant for him, but not enough to make him cum. But he is really doing her pussy and clit with his hand, probably enough to make her orgasm, if he does it long enough.

I think this position is something to try for any cocky guy, who wants to last for a long time with his lady and possibly make her orgasm in the process.

This isn't a difficult position to get into. All it requires is some comfortable furniture. But you might want to save this clip on your phone and show it to your lady, so that she would know how you want to plow. Because this is an unusual position that even experienced ladies might not know about. You might have a hard time explaining it to the lady, unless you show her this video clip.

[Dan7373]

There aren't many examples in porn, where the guy plays his lady's pussy and sucks on her tit at the same time. But I found one at last:

https://dl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/014/...14009012a.webm

This isn't something many guys do with their ladies. But I think it's something to try, especially when your lady has sensitive nipples and tits and normally doesn't like it, when you touch and suck on her tits.

Because I've been with a lady like this, and I was really surprised that she enjoyed my tit-sucking, when I masturbated her pussy and clit with my hand at the same time.

Perhaps women's breasts and nipples have a dual function, breastfeeding and sexual attraction. They can work in both ways. But you need to do it in a sexual way, rather than in a breastfeeding kind of way.

That's why masturbating the lady's clit and sucking her tit works for the lady. But just sucking her tit doesn't work so well. Just sucking probably feels for her more like breastfeeding, rather than sex.

And of course, sucking on the lady's tits and nipples can work well for the lady no matter how big or how small her tits are. It's about sensation for the lady, which is independent of size.

[Dan7373]

I found a porn clip, where the guy grabs his lady's pussy and starts masturbating her, as soon as she is within his reach.

https://dl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/013/...13876462a.webm

I think this is a legitimate way to take a hot lady, when you want to be a baddie.

Some people say that you need to romance the chick and kiss her on the cheek, before you even touch her pussy with your hand or dick. But I think this is just a habit some people develop for doing it this way. Perhaps this works for them. But there is no good reason to say that everybody needs to do it this way.

I can say from my own experience that it's possible to grab a lady's pussy and masturbate her to orgasm within 5 minutes or so. Because I've done this with one Thai lady many times.

I stayed with this lady for a long time. And when I first started masturbating her, then she actually took a long time to orgasm. I had to masturbate her pussy with one hand, massage her body everywhere with my other hand, hold her close to me, and suck on her tits too. I put plenty of lube on my masturbating hand, and I really massaged her pussy and clit. And even in these circumstances, it took her a good 15-20 minutes to reach orgasm.

It was like she would come close to orgasm, then get distracted in some way, and receded from it. And this would happen several times, before she would finally go over orgasmic threshold and have a good orgasm with me.

But this was only at first. I masturbated her pussy to orgasm at the same time every day, when she came to bed to sleep with me in the evening.

My goal was to make it a habit for her, because I thought this might make it better for her. I was even setting my alarm clock to make sure that I masturbated her pussy to orgasm at the same time every day. And develop an orgasmic habit she certainly did. After a while, she was orgasming with me in 5 minutes or less. And sometimes she would get me to masturbate her pussy in the morning too. Because she like it so much. She would just take my hand and put it on her pussy. And of course, I knew what she wanted me to do.

I think having an orgasm in itself takes some practice and learning. Because from what I've read about it, orgasm involves synchronized rhythmic brain waves that involve virtually your whole brain. That's why people often spasm and temporarily lose some control during their orgasm. This is true for both men and women. And since it's a brain function, then it probably takes some learning and practice to work well. That's why my orgasmic lady went from taking a long time to reach her orgasm to doing it very quickly. Having many orgasms probably primed her brain for it and made it much easier for her to orgasm.

A lot of what people think about sexuality in women is nothing more than women's habits and conditioning. A lot of women have been conditioned by their culture and society to do it in a certain way. And based on this evidence, a lot of people think this is the only right way to do it.

But this is just circular logic that discourages experimentation and exploration to find out good ways to do it. If everybody believed this kind of logic, then women would still be stuck in the prudishness and asexuality of the Victorian Era.