Tips and techniques for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm

[Member #4591]

Great blog Dan.

Question for you. I would say about 50% of the Thai women I've been with say they don't like DATY. In my opinion, how would they know if they don't let me try? What's your opinion about Thai women and DATY? How about your experiences with Thai women and this?

[Dan7373]

A common complaint among women is that quite often they come close to orgasm with their guy, but then he fails to finish them.

"Fifty percent of women said their partners were almost there but just couldn't quite bring them home. "
https://mic.com/articles/113334/thes...man-should-see

I actually had this problem with ladies too, until I got some practice in masturbating ladies with my hand and learned from my experience how to finish off my lady every time.

I start out by lubricating really well, both my hand and her pussy. Then I massage her pussy in a variety of ways. And I pay attention to her non-verbal feedback, which tells me what technique she finds more pleasant and what technique less pleasant.

It's almost like a checklist for me, that I go through with the lady.

1. Whole hand on her pussy, with her pussy-lips closed:

a) Circular motion.

b) Side-to-side.

c) Up and down.


2. Whole hand on her pussy, with her pussy-lips spread wide open:

a) Circular motion.

b) Side-to-side.

c) Up and down.


3. One finger inside her slit:

a) Circular motion around her clit.

b) Side-to-side to open her pussy-lips one way and then the other.

c) Up and down along her slit, making sure you catch her clit.


I do all of the above at various speeds and applying different amounts of pressure. And I pay attention to how the lady reacts. Some ladies like it this way, and some like it that way. Some ladies like it harder and faster. Some like it gentler and slower.

Once I get a sense of what the lady likes and doesn't like, then I start doing her the way she likes. But I still vary my pussy massage technique with her within the limits of what she likes. This makes it more interesting and exciting for her. Because she never knows what I'm going to do next with her pussy. Am I going to spread her pussy-lips wide open with my whole hand and do her side-to-side, or up-and-down, or in a circular motion around her clit? I actually do all of the above. But I keep switching it on her. And she can't predict how I'm going to do her pussy next.

This is an excellent way to bring a lady close to orgasm. But once she is close to orgasm, then you need to change your technique with her to finish her off. Basically, you need to stop varying the way you massage her pussy and start massaging her pussy harder and faster with firm, broad strokes that cover her pussy and catch her clit every time. It's harder and faster, and without any variation. And you keep doing her like this, until she orgasms.

This is similar to the way you orgasm, when you are past of no return with the lady, but you still want to pound her some more with your dick. If you stop at this point, then you'll have a weak orgasm. And it won't be satisfying. But if you go all out with your dick on the sexy chick, then your orgasm with her is strong and very satisfying indeed.

That's how it is for the lady, when she is close to orgasm. You need to go harder and faster with your hand on her pussy and make it very rhythmic and repetitive to give her a strong, satisfying orgasm.

And of course, you need to make sure that your every hand-stroke catches her clit along the way every time. The woman's clitoris is equivalent to the man's penis in terms of its sensations and pleasures. Missing her clit is like masturbating the shaft of your cock without touching its head. You might get an erection this way. But you won't experience much pleasure. And you certainly won't orgasm this way. And that's how it is for the lady and her clitoris.

Here are some examples of how you can vary your pussy massage technique with the lady:

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[Dan7373]

I've had one of my best experiences with a Thai massage lady, when I took her the way the link below shows:

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This sex-position is a little hard to describe. But it is very pleasant for a guy. You get lots of intimate body-to-body contact with the lady.

This is like having a body-to-body massage with the chick, while you are nailing her with your dick.

[Dan7373]

Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) is basically orgasming the hot chick with your dick.

I've mentioned it in this forum before. And now I've found the best description yet of how to do it.

http://www.newhealthadvisor.com/Coit...Technique.html

I can say for sure that this is a very good description of how to do it. Because this is something I've done myself with a Thai lady. And I can say from my own experience that it works.

The Thai lady, I did this with, begged me to stop after a while. She said that she had an orgasm, and she needed a short break. So, I just stayed still with my cock inside her pussy for 3-4 minutes, and then I started to nail her again in a more conventional way. Which ended in orgasm for me too.

In this Coital Alignment Technique, you basically rock the lady's clit with the shaft of your cock, rather than pound her pussy in and out. The lady gets a lot more sexual stimulation than usual. While you get a lot less. That's why the lady is much more likely to orgasm before you, when you do her like this. But her orgasm doesn't need to be the end of your encounter with her. The lady just needs a short break, and then you can nail her again.

From my own experience I can say that this Coital Alignment Technique isn't nearly as pleasant for a guy to do as just nailing the chick with your dick. Your sensation and your pleasure is limited, when you do the lady like this. But it works really well for the lady, so well that she is likely to orgasm with you.

I'm not sure if I would go for this Coital Alignment Technique, if I have only 15-20 minutes with the lady. But when I have 1-2 hours with her, then there is enough time to do everything with her, including this Coital Alignment Technique.

I think this is an excellent way to prolong your intimate experience with the lady. You get lots of intimate body-to-body contact with her. You get to play around with her tits and nipples, during your Coital Alignment Technique. And then you can change your sex-position with her a little and go all out on her with your dick for your orgasm with her.

[Dan7373]

I think it's important to recognize that P4P ladies often aren't ready for their guys. P4P sex is so quick from you meeting the lady to you nailing her, that the lady often doesn't have much time to get into the mood for it with you.

Mood is contagious. If the lady isn't quite in the mood for it, then you'll probably lose some of your mood too. And that's why you should go out of your way to arouse the lady, especially in a P4P type of situation.

I remember some years ago, I brought a good-looking Thai lady from a Go-Go place to my hotel room. We tried to have sex, without much foreplay. And I had some difficulty with penetrating her. She was tight and dry. And I would've hurt her, if I tried to force my way inside. So, I massaged her pussy and clit with my hand, until I got her juices flowing enough to wet my hand. Then I penetrated her right away. And we were happily on our way for a mutually pleasant ride.

Physical foreplay is the quickest way to get the lady in the mood. And that's what you need, when you've just met the chick, and you want to nail her with your dick.

I found some rare porn examples of how to foreplay a lady in a quick kind of way. And I know from my own experience that taking a lady this way works in terms of arousing her. Here are some moving GIF pictures that show you what you can do:

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The guy in this GIF plays the lady's clit, and he is pretty good at it, judging by the lady's smile.

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This GIF shows the guy continuing to play the lady's clit during his doggy sex with her. And this shows an important point to consider. It's not enough just to get the lady in the mood at the beginning. Because she can lose her mood, if you let up on her. You need to maintain her mood with some clit play, even while you are nailing her.

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This last GIF shows you how the guy gets fresh with the lady. He lifts up her dress, slips his hand inside her panties, finds her clit, and starts masturbating it.

I like this last GIF because this is my approach to P4P ladies. Your time with the lady starts as soon as you enter the private room with her and close the door. And from my own experience I can say that the lady won't slap your hand away, if you go after her pussy and clit right away, the way this guy does in the GIF video.

This kind of foreplay gets the lady wet in a few short minutes. Which is a sure sign that the lady is now in the mood to do you good. All you need to do after this is maintain her mood with some clit play once in a while.

[Dan7373]

Sure there was a lot of bullshit sex advice from experts. Experts did surveys, asked a lot of questions, and were fed a lot of lies from James Bond types, and imaginative women. People did not like to admit how shit their sex life might be....

I'd say that you need to look for evidence and learn from it directly, rather than listen to what people say.

Because it's not just that people can make up stories. People can also misunderstand their experience, learn an incorrect lesson from it, and then give a wrong advice to others.

It's also possible to generalize too much from what some people like or don't like, even when you look at the evidence. You need to recognize the limits of your evidence and experience.

Some women like big cocks for example, while others don't like such cocks. And the reason for this might be anatomical. If the lady had a child or two, which stretched her out, then she might not feel much with the smaller cock. She needs a bigger cock to enjoy it. But a younger woman, who never had children, might be so tight that a big cock feels painful and unpleasant for her.

You wouldn't know this, unless you have a big cock, and you've been with both types of women.

And the thing about learning from evidence directly is that you can get plenty of such evidence from your own experience. All you need to do is try different things with ladies, and their reaction will tell you a lot about how much they like or dislike what you do. You just need to pay attention to the lady's non-verbal body language.

Of course, not everything is relative and individual. There are some universals that apply to virtually all people. One example is the physical pleasure that virtually all men get from having their cocks touched, sucked, and masturbated. And the same is true for touching, sucking, and masturbating women's clits. There is some variation in how sensitive or insensitive women are. And do need to adjust your technique from one woman to another. But it basically works for virtually all women, if you adjust well your technique for each individual woman.

It basically comes down to understanding women's universal pleasure points and adjusting your technique to each individual woman by paying attention to her body language and using this as your feedback.

Because even asking the woman to tell you what she likes or doesn't like can mislead you. Especially in Thailand, people try hide their real self from others and try to put their best foot forward according what's expected in their culture.

[Syzygies]

Some of the latest scientific research of women's orgasm is now finding that much sex-advice given by professionals in the past was so badly mistaken that you would've been better off learning about sex from porn-films, than from the so called sex-experts.
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Sure there was a lot of bullshit sex advice from experts. Experts did surveys, asked a lot of questions, and were fed a lot of lies from James Bond types, and imaginative women. People did not like to admit how shit their sex life might be.

However you also have to recognise that porn is not made for the women's pleasure, it is made for best photographic angles to excite all the wankers with dick in hand. Okay There is also more pretty porn for the ladies. There is extreme nasty porn for the Psychos. I asked a girl with a tom girlfriend about "tribbing" and she reckoned it was total bullshit. Just an example. I asked if she used strap-ons. She said no, since her Tom was totally anti-penis and anything resembling one. Her Tom did not know that this girl was actually bi-sexual and liked dick as well (now has a husband and child).

DATY is also portrayed very unrealistically. Porn that even teaches DATY tried to make out that all that was needed for DATY is to suck on the clit. Total bullshit. Certainly there is technique involved and it not exclusively sucking.

I believe the best training in sexual technique comes from the very experienced women teaching us how to do it right for her. Not all girls like the same thing. Very large variation. With a new girl, you really have to try lots of techniques from your long experience, and see which things she really likes. If she is not so shy as to say when it happens to be great, than would be a big help.

Cowgirl is an excellent position for girl to control the rocking movement and stimulation on her clit. Far more likely she can orgasm this way than mish. Mish is probably one of the worst positions. I am seeing that girls like doggy and prone too. These positions all assume the dick is not too big for her to handle.

[Dan7373]

One sex position that I've really enjoyed with a Thai massage lady in the past was the side-by-side, face-to-face position.

I actually didn't know about his position at the time. The lady took me like this on her own, after I acted a little disappointed at her suggested missionary position.

This side-by-side position feels better than the missionary position. Because it gives you and the lady much greater freedom of movement. You don't need to fight against gravity. Which means that you can put your arms around the lady and grab her ass, if you want to be a baddie. You can suck her tits at your leisure, while you nail her with your cock. And the lady can also do some thrusting on you, if she wants to speed up things with you.

This is an extremely rare position to see in porn. But I found one example of it, which you can check out at the link below. It's a 5. 6 MB animated GIF picture that shows you how the lady takes the guy with her pussy in the side-by-side, face-to-face position.

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One thing to notice here is that the lady puts the guy's cock against the opening of her pussy and then pulls on his cock with her hand to encourage his thrust inside her. The guy understands what the lady means. He penetrates her without hesitation. Which makes it a good example of non-verbal communication. And it's a clue for you that when the lady pulls on your cock with her hand, then she probably wants you to thrust in side her.

When my massage lady took me in this position, then I didn't fully understand what she was doing. I didn't respond to her pull on my cock. But she managed to take my cock anyway with a sudden thrust of her pussy. I suddenly found myself inside her. Which was a very pleasant surprise. And from that point on, I definitely knew what to do.

This is a great position for a guy to be in with his lady. But the lady needs know that this is what you want with her. And she needs to know how to do it too. It can be a problem on both accounts. Because you have a language barrier with the lady. And the lady might not have any experience with this position before.

But as the saying goes, a picture is worth a thousand words. And this is especially true for a moving GIF picture, which shows you how to do it. You can save the above GIF picture in your smartphone and show it to the lady, who might do this with you. I think this is a great way to overcome language and possible lack of experience barriers. Just show the lady what to do and how to do it, instead of trying to explain it to her.

[Dan7373]

The Internet is full of sex-advice for cocky guys about how to please a woman. And one common theme that comes up again and again is that you shouldn't touch the woman's clitoris directly. Because most women are too sensitive for this kind of touching.

On the surface, this advice seems to make sense. And in a way it's true. But the problem with this advice is that I fails to mention the fact that the woman's clitoris is normally covered up with a kind foreskin or hood. Which means that when you touch the woman's clitoral area, then you are actually touching her foreskin that covers her clitoris, and you aren't touching her clitoris directly. That's why it's okay to massage a woman there and make her orgasm this way.

To touch a woman's clitoris directly, you need to pull back her foreskin that covers her clitoris. Here is an example of this:

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Only after you pull back the woman's foreskin, then you can touch her clitoris directly. And this is the kind of touching that might be uncomfortable for many women, if you do it too much or too roughly.

I've read some mainstream media sex-advice, where the author criticizes the way clit-rubbing is shown in porn as being totally unrealistic. But I say that this author is ignorant. Because what you see in porn isn't direct touching of the woman's clitoris. It's masturbation of the woman's clitoris through her foreskin. Here is one example of this:

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[Dan7373]

I've posted the picture below before. But some people probably couldn't see it. Because before, it was a large GIF file that did not load well for people with a slow Internet connection. The GIF below is only 1 second long (9. 2 MB). But it shows you enough how to make cocky love.

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This picture shows you how to take a lady in the missionary position in a way that stimulates her clit. It's basically playing a double-role with your pole. You ride her pussy and clit at the same time. You spread your legs over hers and bring your body up on her. This enables you to press the shaft of your cock on her clit, with every thrust, until you go bust.

I found from my experience that when the hot lady is out of my league in terms of her good looks, then I often end up doing her in the missionary position. Because my bargaining position with such a lady is very low. I'm just glad I get to plow the lady who is out of my league. But once I'm inside her, then I can adjust my very conservative missionary position with her and really give it to her, the way the guy in the above GIF picture does.

[Dan7373]

Some of the latest scientific research of women's orgasm is now finding that much sex-advice given by professionals in the past was so badly mistaken that you would've been better off learning about sex from porn-films, than from the so called sex-experts.

One glaring example of this is described at the link below. Basically, the researcher has conducted some sex-experiments with women and has found that physical exercise, just before sex, increased the woman's sexual response and arousal. And this is completely the opposite to the advice given by so-called sex-experts even now on the Internet. The author of this study says, "For years we were told, 'Have a bubble bath, calm down, listen to relaxing music, do deep breathing exercises, chill out before sex'. But my research shows the opposite, that you actually want to get women in an active state".

The author of this study says that men do indeed need to relax and take it easy before sex. Apparently, men and women are opposite in this regard. But so-called sex-experts in the past have assumed that women were the same as men in their sexual response, and they didn't bother to check if this was true or not. They just made it up and used their positions of authority to pass it on as expertise.

Another medical doctor is quoted in the article below about what he was taught about sex in medical school. He says, "I completed a residency in obstetrics and gynaecology that was 20,000 hours. I had one 45-minute lecture on female sexual function and I can tell you what was said during that 45 minutes was almost all completely wrong".

http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-38170324

I suppose, one lesson you should take from this is that you should trust your experience and look at all of the evidence, both positive and negative. Trusting the authority of experts and taking their word for it is an iffy kind of thing. Because experts can be so badly mistaken, that their conclusions are no better than fraud and superstition.

[Dan7373]

I got a message from somebody in this forum that the internet links in my posts aren't working for him. And I suspect that this might be the case for some other people too.

The reason why my GIF picture links might not work for some people is because these pictures are composed of many picture frames, and they are very large in size. The GIF pictures that I post are anywhere between 15 MB and 40 MB in size. Which means that if you have a slow internet connection, then these pictures might take a very long time to load. And this would make the link look like it's broken, and it's not working.

Unfortunately, there isn't much I can do about this. A still picture would load a lot faster. But a still picture doesn't really show you how to do something, the way a moving picture does.

The best I can do to deal with this problem is explain in words what the picture shows, so that you can still understand what I mean, even if the link I provide doesn't work for you. And that's what I'll do in my future posts here.

Of course, another possible reason why my links might not work for you is Internet censorship in your country. Some time ago, I've lived in a country where the government censored the Internet, and almost all porn-links were blocked there.

[Dan7373]

There is an old saying, "Getting started is being half-way done. " And that's how it is for a guy with the lady he likes.

When you start out with the lady and she undresses with you, then her legs are still close together and her pussy is closed to you. What do you do in such a situation? You can't just go for penetration. You need to get this lady in the mood, before you do her good.

I found from my experience that rubbing one finger along the lady's closed pussy-slit is a good way to get the lady started and get her to open up her legs for you. One finger up and down the lady's slit really does it. One time I even orgasmed a Thai lady this way, because she kept fooling around with me and kept her legs close together with me, just for fun. But the usual situation is that the lady starts to open up soon after you start sliding your finger up and down her pussy-slit. And once she opens up, then you need to up your game and use more than just one finger on her.

I found a good example of what to do, when the lady's pussy is closed to you, and the lady isn't quite ready:

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And below are some examples of how to do the lady, after she opens up. These are ladies masturbating themselves. And the important thing to notice here is that all of these ladies focus their rubbing on the top part of their pussy, which is where the woman's clitoris is. The woman's clitoris really is the key in all of this:

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[Dan7373]

A recent study published in the journal of Clinical Anatomy has found that women vary in their ability to orgasm during sexual intercourse due to differences in their anatomy.

The key difference is how far the woman's clitoris is from her urethra and from her vaginal opening. This distance varies from one woman to another. And the further away the woman's clitoris is from her vagina, the less likely she is to orgasm during sexual intercourse. This is because the further away the woman's clitoris is from her vagina, the less stimulation her clitoris gets during sexual intercourse with a guy.

According to the author of this study, "Between 70 percent to 90 percent of women are unable to achieve orgasm with penetration alone".

http://medicalxpress.com/news/2016-0...le-orgasm.html

The author of this study and another sex-expert say that you need to stimulate the lady's clitoris either with your fingers or with a sex-toy, while you are having sex with her. Another way to do it is to have the lady on top, so that she rides you cowgirl style. This works for many women, because the woman can grind her clit on your pubic bone to make it more pleasant for herself. But for this to work, the lady needs to understand how to do it. Or else she won't do it the right way.

This study confirms once more what I've been saying in this forum before. You need to stimulate the lady's clit to make it pleasant for her. Sexual intercourse alone feels pretty good only for the guy, but not so much for the woman. You need to do more than just ride the lady to make it pleasant for her.

This is probably the biggest reason why men are more into sex than women are. Ordinary sexual intercourse feels more pleasant for the guy than for the woman. But it doesn't have to be this way. It's not that difficult for a guy to make it pleasant for the woman. All you need to do is play the lady's clit, while you are nailing it.

Here are some examples of what I mean:

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[Dan7373]

According to Reader's Digest, there are at least 5 ways a guy can make himself last longer with this lady.

1. Masturbate to orgasm an hour or two before having sex with the lady:

This is actually something ladies at Annie's Massage in Bangkok do for you. They do oral sex on you, until you cum. Then they rejuventate you and go for the ride with you. There is less than an hour between your first cum and the second. But then you aren't doing it by yourself. The lady helps you do it.

There are some massage place in Bangkok, where the ladies get you to have two cumshots or more. But these places are an exception rather than the rule. Most place allow you only one cumshot. Which means that masturbating yourself to orgasm, before your go to a one-cumshot place might be a good idea. And this is especially true, if they have some really hot chick whom you want to nail with your dick. Because I can say from my own experience that the hotter the lady, the harder it is for a guy to last for a long time with her.

2. Try the stop and start technique:

You can read a description of this at the link below. And it probably works for the guy. But if you use this stop and start technique for nailing the lady, then this probably won't work well for her. Because basically you will break the rhythm for her, just when she might be getting into the act with you. This might be a selfish technique, because it probably doesn't work well for the lady, unless you go for her clit and masturbate it during your stop to prevent a premature pop.

3. Hold off penetration:

This is definitely something to do not just for yourself but also for the lady. Because both you and the lady need good foreplay, before you get on your way. And the lady might need it more than you, depending on how excited she is to be with you. You need to play the lady good to put her in the mood. Or else your experience with her might turn out to be less than memorable.

4. Try the squeeze technique:

This is a variation of the stop and start technique. And I don't agree with it. Because you do it at the expense of the lady's rhythm and pleasure. It might make things better for you. But this won't be much fun for the lady. Which might spoil your experience with her.

5. Do Kegels exercises:

Kegels exercises is basically tensing up your pelvical muscles that among other things control your urination and ejaculation. And I'm not too sure about this advice. Because if you are so close to cumming that you need to hold it back with your muscles, then it is a bit of a torture for the guy to do it like that. A better way to do it is to masturbate to orgasm, before you come to nail her. Then you don't need to hold anything back. You can go all out on the lady and still last for a reasonably long time with her.

http://www.besthealthmag.ca/best-you...e-ejaculation/

Of course, another thing I never get tired of adding to such advice is that you need to be careful not to hurt the lady, when you last for a long time with her. Because I can say from my own experience, that the lube on your condom can dry out. And if you continue to have sex without adding some lube and some water to make it slippery, then you will probably hurt the lady with your dry rubber.

And the thing about it all is that your girl might just grit her teeth and not say anything to you about it. To me this doesn't make sense. But the girl might not understand the reason for her hurt. She might think that your cock is just too big for her. And she wouldn't say anything to you, because this isn't something you can change.

I've actually experienced this kind of misunderstanding with a Thai lady. She got hurt with me like this not once but many times, before she said something to me. And all this time I didn't know that anything was wrong.

That's why I say that this is something to watch out for. And you shouldn't just assume that the lady knows what she is doing, no matter how experienced she is.