Stupid shit in Medellin

[Mr Enternational]

All I know is she said old people usually tend to smell LOL. She said she just feels bad for the young girls who have to deal with it.

A youtube channel that I subscribe to went over this a couple of years back. It is not them personally that smell. It is more so their houses due yo shit having been sitting around for 40 years.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4BBcpa4aTO8

[Mr Enternational]

I don't think your "almost" 60 year old family member is being dishonest with you. (But you know her better than anyone here). BUT she may be expressing an opinion that is based on her life experience and the cultural norms of where she has spent her life.

That is why I advised him to ask a woman that does it. If I want to know about cooking with onions I am not going to ask a person that does not like onions. My grandfather was in his 60's when he died. I remember at the time he was dating a 19 year old chick from the projects where I was born. My grandfather was not rich and did not have a bunch of money to pass out. He was on dialysis and in worse shape than my father who is in his 70's is now.

[Mr Enternational]

Why are the Medellin threads always filled with constant arguing? I mean, why are you wasting your time arguing with strangers on a forum meant to help others?

LOL. When I first started reading the Medellin thread it was under permanent moderation. No idea what was going on then but must have been worse than what is going on now.

[Anthony2023]

Here's a question because I think my lady question got removed.

And let me remind the mods this is "stupid shit in Medellin" thread so I think it's appropriate. I'm also not trying to offend anyone with this question, I'm just curious to know how the older gentleman in this hobby really feel.

So my question is are you older folks 55+ that are still in the game seeing pros, semi pros, sugar babies, "gfs" young enough to be your grand kids age. Are you truly happy with your situation? Would you recommend this lifestyle at your age? Do you see yourself continuing to do this till you physically can't anymore?

Or would you had preferred to have settled down with your old gal or at least someone closer to your age spending time with your great grand kids like some fairy tale ending?

I'm curious because I'm not sure what path I would prefer at this point. For now I'm just enjoying my freedom and youth but I know time goes fast and not sure if it will still be fun.

[Anthony2023]

Ah. So you actually believed that as men age, just touching their skin will burn young people? You do understand pH right? Does it become more acidic, or basic? Do we need to use lye, or hydrochloric acid to prevent our bodies from dissolving?

Now try this one. Get 2 pictures to show your chemist family member. 1 is an aging actor. 70-75 years old. The other of a young actor, 20-25 years old. Make sure both pictures are similar. No shirts. What's her reaction?

Not sure sir that's why I asked.

All I know is she said old people usually tend to smell LOL.

She said she just feels bad for the young girls who have to deal with it.

The subject came up because I over heard her watching a tiktok talking about Leonardo's 19 yr old GF LOL.

[JjBee62]

I was talking with a family member who's almost 60 and I asked her what does she think when she sees a 60 yr old man with a 20 yr old women?

She told me she just feels bad for the girl because she has to put up with that old man's smell for the money LMAO.

I said how so? And she explained to me how it doesn't matter how many products you use on your skin, when you age there's no way to avoid the ph levels in your skin. I said what do you think about men who think women prefer them over younger guys, she laughed and said they are delusional.

You have a sense of smell? You live in a place where there are 60 year old men? I take it you don't grasp the basic principles of science.

You had a 60 year old in front of you and you didn't notice the horrible odor? How are opinions from strangers on an anonymous internet forum your goto for answers that are literally right in front of your nose?

Let's say your relative is correct. At a certain age prior to 60, all men begin to stink. How in the fuck haven't you noticed it? Why hasn't a single company making hygiene products, perfumes, herbal supplements or anything else jumped on the "all old men stink" gravy train and rode it to untold riches? Just look at the success of Febreze.

Do you know what my brothers and sisters think about me having a 20 year old girlfriend? Remember, 3 of the 4 have met her and the other apologized for avoiding her. Want to know what they said when I asked them?

2 are fundamentalist Christians, very outspoken on religion. 1 is hardcore ultra right wing, white supremacist, anti-immigrant Republican and the last is a more soft spoken Christian with a grandson only 2 years younger than my girlfriend.

Any guesses?

I never asked them. I don't care what they think about it. I'm an adult and do what I want, instead of running around like a child and asking permission. Or going around like a nutjob asking others whether they approve of choices made by complete strangers.

I know. You're just sharing your opinion and aren't judging anyone.

Your opinion has been noted. In about 5 hours, after I get home, I will file it in the appropriate place, when I flush after adding my own shit to the file.

I will add something. 1 brother, who I shared a house with for 4 years, behaved rudely when he met her. It didn't help that he was drunk. The next day, in his passive aggressive way, he indicated his disapproval. He's done that before and I've called him out on it. This time I just started looking for an apartment and let him know I'd be out at the end of the month.

I don't require anyone's approval, but I demand they treat anyone I'm with, with courtesy and respect.

[JjBee62]

I don't think your "almost" 60 year old family member is being dishonest with you. (But you know her better than anyone here). BUT she may be expressing an opinion that is based on her life experience and the cultural norms of where she has spent her life.

If there is one thing that I routinely see here in Colombia, it is Americans who expect their values are universal and anyone who thinks or acts differently is odd / strange / wierd etc etc etc.

In Latin America there is a machismo mindset that still exists today. It was pretty universal in the US until the 70's /80's. Let me give you an example. Years ago in anticipation of retirement I started taking Spanish lessons from a well known professor here in Medellin. She told me she graduated from a University with a degree in Engineering. She said she finished 2nd in her class of 35 (I'm generally remembering what she told me). Well the job offers came piling in and she was offered a position with a salary commensurate with the lowest male graduate in her class. She was furious and pursued a career in teaching languages (English to Spanish speakers, Spanish to English speakers and Portuguese to either group).

Women are urged to be very receptive to older successful men. Why? Because it is a cultural norm that dates back many centuries. Even in a world where women are granted much more latitude in their career options. Machismo still dominates. I have gone out to restaurants with many younger women (20's-30's) and I never get as much as a raised eyebrow. One reason may be that my companions have been very judicious in their choice of clothing. If she is dressed provocatively like a street-walker we are absolutely not going out anywhere.

BTW I see many young attractive women eating with Colombian men who are clearly older. That too draws no attention. Many young women are taught to choose a companion who is successful and who can help the family when needed. The thing about older men having a smell is patently ridiculous. There is a modern invention that takes care of that. It is called soap and water.

So just to summarize. If you think that being in your mid to late 30's gives you a big advantage in dating women here, well, not so much. The big factor that will really differentiates someone younger versus someone like me is that I live here. Dating someone who is here for two weeks and then gone makes it a more transactional process.

When I was with the cam studio the owner and her boyfriend took me and my roommate out to eat. A mid 50's man (me), mid 30's man and 2 mid 20's women. This happened once per month. Without fail the waiter would bring me the check, even though the other guy was the one calling over the waiter, placing orders, obviously in charge of the group. It's just the way the culture works.

Of course he forgot to make his questioning fair. Why didn't he ask her what she thinks about him flying to different countries to fuck impoverished prostitutes? Where's her reaction to that one? Why not ask her if the prostitutes he sees are just seeing him because he's only 15 years older than them? Or does it have something to do with the money?

And the ultimate question. Ask her, if she was going to pay someone for sex, would she pay an 80 year old man, or a 40 year old man?

If nothing else, should make Thanksgiving dinner interesting.

[JjBee62]

I was talking with a family member who's almost 60 and I asked her what does she think when she sees a 60 yr old man with a 20 yr old women?

She told me she just feels bad for the girl because she has to put up with that old man's smell for the money LMAO.

I said how so? And she explained to me how it doesn't matter how many products you use on your skin, when you age there's no way to avoid the ph levels in your skin. I said what do you think about men who think women prefer them over younger guys, she laughed and said they are delusional.

Ah. So you actually believed that as men age, just touching their skin will burn young people? You do understand pH right? Does it become more acidic, or basic? Do we need to use lye, or hydrochloric acid to prevent our bodies from dissolving?

Now try this one. Get 2 pictures to show your chemist family member. 1 is an aging actor. 70-75 years old. The other of a young actor, 20-25 years old. Make sure both pictures are similar. No shirts. What's her reaction?

[Anthony2023]

Why are the Medellin threads always filled with constant arguing? I mean, why are you wasting your time arguing with strangers on a forum meant to help others?

The Bogota threads actually have advice that you don't need to scroll through pages to find. Like I wouldn't have tried SA if it wasn't for guys like Elvis recommending it in Bogota and I used it again to great success in Medellin. So much so that I returned to Bogota a month after my first trip and I'm returning to Medellin this Friday after my first trip in December.

I agree it's pathetic to see, I guess it's true what they say about older people starting to behave like a babies, worse than housewives gossiping, I thought I would see more people sharing useful information.

[Anthony2023]

Anthony, what do you think the women say to us about guys your age? Do you think they say, "Well, we settle for you because we cannot get younger."

They tell us you are video game playing, lazy, overly sensitive, insecure, cheap, possessive immature twerps.

Do you know how many times I have had sex with a woman and had her young loser boyfriend text or call me? "She is my girlfriend. She is not fucking other guys. Stay away from her. She does not want you to call her" after she just got done sucking my dick? Plenty.

But it is no surprise that you hear only what you want.

Elvis. Elvis. Elvis. Oh man I can see why so many pick on you, everytime you comment you say some really dumb irrelevant comments. From beauty and the beast to video game playing, are you drunk when you post?

Anyways cool story bro, that's great those are your observations but like many have told you not everything applies according to you. I don't even remember the last time I played a video game, heck I wish I had the time and patience to play video games.

[Elvis 2008]

I was talking with a family member who's almost 60 and I asked her what does she think when she sees a 60 yr old man with a 20 yr old women?

She told me she just feels bad for the girl because she has to put up with that old man's smell for the money LMAO.

I said how so? And she explained to me how it doesn't matter how many products you use on your skin, when you age there's no way to avoid the ph levels in your skin. I said what do you think about men who think women prefer them over younger guys, she laughed and said they are delusional.

Anthony, what do you think the women say to us about guys your age? Do you think they say, "Well, we settle for you because we cannot get younger."

They tell us you are video game playing, lazy, overly sensitive, insecure, cheap, possessive immature twerps.

Do you know how many times I have had sex with a woman and had her young loser boyfriend text or call me? "She is my girlfriend. She is not fucking other guys. Stay away from her. She does not want you to call her" after she just got done sucking my dick? Plenty.

But it is no surprise that you hear only what you want.

[Elvis 2008]

I give up on you learning to read and comprehend. Somehow your comprehension always ends up way different from what the person wrote.

I understand perfectly what you said. You thought I was stupidly throwing my time and money at women who were completely uninterested in me. Or did I miss something?

And when I said it costs money to get a 10, I meant subscribing to seeking, buying drinks, staying in nice places, buying and wearing suits. So it is your comprehension that is off.

And when I said it takes time, that means sending PMs back and forth with women, going on bad dates, getting ripped off, getting stood up. The work is having to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess, but it is obvious that is not something you do. You are happy with the frogs.

I wrote something and you took the most negative interpretation of it possible. That is nothing new. Your comprehension is the one that is off.

[Nounce]

I was talking with a family member who's almost 60 and I asked her what does she think when she sees a 60 yr old man with a 20 yr old women?

She told me she just feels bad for the girl because she has to put up with that old man's smell for the money LMAO.

I said how so? And she explained to me how it doesn't matter how many products you use on your skin, when you age there's no way to avoid the ph levels in your skin. I said what do you think about men who think women prefer them over younger guys, she laughed and said they are delusional.

Why not ask your family member who fit that description? You always seem to ask the question that you can find answer easily.

[Villainy]

I was talking with a family member who's almost 60 and I asked her what does she think when she sees a 60 yr old man with a 20 yr old women?

She told me she just feels bad for the girl because she has to put up with that old man's smell for the money LMAO.

I said how so? And she explained to me how it doesn't matter how many products you use on your skin, when you age there's no way to avoid the ph levels in your skin. I said what do you think about men who think women prefer them over younger guys, she laughed and said they are delusional.

I don't think your "almost" 60 year old family member is being dishonest with you. (But you know her better than anyone here). BUT she may be expressing an opinion that is based on her life experience and the cultural norms of where she has spent her life.

If there is one thing that I routinely see here in Colombia, it is Americans who expect their values are universal and anyone who thinks or acts differently is odd / strange / wierd etc etc etc.

In Latin America there is a machismo mindset that still exists today. It was pretty universal in the US until the 70's /80's. Let me give you an example. Years ago in anticipation of retirement I started taking Spanish lessons from a well known professor here in Medellin. She told me she graduated from a University with a degree in Engineering. She said she finished 2nd in her class of 35 (I'm generally remembering what she told me). Well the job offers came piling in and she was offered a position with a salary commensurate with the lowest male graduate in her class. She was furious and pursued a career in teaching languages (English to Spanish speakers, Spanish to English speakers and Portuguese to either group).

Women are urged to be very receptive to older successful men. Why? Because it is a cultural norm that dates back many centuries. Even in a world where women are granted much more latitude in their career options. Machismo still dominates. I have gone out to restaurants with many younger women (20's-30's) and I never get as much as a raised eyebrow. One reason may be that my companions have been very judicious in their choice of clothing. If she is dressed provocatively like a street-walker we are absolutely not going out anywhere.

BTW I see many young attractive women eating with Colombian men who are clearly older. That too draws no attention. Many young women are taught to choose a companion who is successful and who can help the family when needed. The thing about older men having a smell is patently ridiculous. There is a modern invention that takes care of that. It is called soap and water.

So just to summarize. If you think that being in your mid to late 30's gives you a big advantage in dating women here, well, not so much. The big factor that will really differentiates someone younger versus someone like me is that I live here. Dating someone who is here for two weeks and then gone makes it a more transactional process.

[Anthony2023]

I was talking with a family member who's almost 60 and I asked her what does she think when she sees a 60 yr old man with a 20 yr old women?

She told me she just feels bad for the girl because she has to put up with that old man's smell for the money LMAO.

I said how so? And she explained to me how it doesn't matter how many products you use on your skin, when you age there's no way to avoid the ph levels in your skin. I said what do you think about men who think women prefer them over younger guys, she laughed and said they are delusional.