Stupid Shit in Tijuana

[Member #4730]

In the back of my mind I still wonder if she is in this just for the trip and she'll end it after that. Especially with the school excuse.

I also think you went to fast with this whole thing especially since you just got out of a marriage and you just wanted that void filled.

I have some other concerns but don't want to fill your head with more negativity. Especially since you aren't with her for Christmas. Best of luck.

We have another month in Tijuana after the trip and she is going to try private university route for transfer. If not, then I might be traveling once a month to her hometown. Not sure what other concerns you can think of, but would appreciate it since you might have been through similar situation. One time she wanted to see my WhatsApp of the regular I was seeing to make sure it wasn't one of her friends and she said "she is ugly" and promptly deleted the contact from my phone. She was visibly upset and not sure what to make of it. She wants me to visit her hometown so maybe in Feb.

Also with as much psychological shit Ive put her through, she should have walked numerous times. One time I was halfway out the door and she pulled me back and then the other time she was packing her shit and I told her not to leave. I told her Id cancel the trip numerous times all the way back until October. She said she didnt care about the trip and could go by herself in the future if this relationship didnt work out. The most recent fight, which involved me violating her privacy and seeing the WhatsApp texts, she said she still wants to go on the trip with me and wants to make it work.

[DramaFree11]

I agree life is short and glad I didn't die this year when I totaled my truck. I pay her $600 per month, food, and rent. When I found the chats of her trying to setup dates, then it changed things slightly, but I told her I understood her predicament since she asked me if I could help her with family issues. I declined those requests and always think how she will help the family when I decline offering assistance. Now I know, she is put in between a rock and hard place since she doesn't "work". I always told her to let me know if the relationship isn't right for her at this time in her life as she is young and I don't want to feel like I'm taking the best years of her life.

Some Mexican guys were sending her mother flowers for her birthday and others were talking about paying for her to fly to different places for vacation. It confused me why she would pick me over the other guys, but it may be the connection we have even though it is sort of fucked up. She has friends that own restaurants, in Banda bands, and have businesses in Mexico, so it isn't a lack of qualified men in her life. They are also closer in age to her and speak her language. Those are the guys that worry me about the relationship since she has history with them..

When I was hanging out at HK there were very few girls making $500 a night, on the weekend, maybe. During the week it can be tough for those girls, How would not believe that for a second. If she was truly making that kind of money why is she broke now?

[DramaFree11]

I agree life is short and glad I didn't die this year when I totaled my truck. I pay her $600 per month, food, and rent. When I found the chats of her trying to setup dates, then it changed things slightly, but I told her I understood her predicament since she asked me if I could help her with family issues. I declined those requests and always think how she will help the family when I decline offering assistance. Now I know, she is put in between a rock and hard place since she doesn't "work". I always told her to let me know if the relationship isn't right for her at this time in her life as she is young and I don't want to feel like I'm taking the best years of her life.

Some Mexican guys were sending her mother flowers for her birthday and others were talking about paying for her to fly to different places for vacation. It confused me why she would pick me over the other guys, but it may be the connection we have even though it is sort of fucked up. She has friends that own restaurants, in Banda bands, and have businesses in Mexico, so it isn't a lack of qualified men in her life. They are also closer in age to her and speak her language. Those are the guys that worry me about the relationship since she has history with them..

I do not think anyone cares where you met her. We are all guilty of the same thing. Unless you guys quit the game playing, end the jealousy and stop asking her about the past it will never work. When I was living in Ukraine and spending time in Russia, people always talked about moving forward in life and not focus on the past. We as Americans live in the past, especially American women. The past is the past, who cares. Let it go.

[PedroMorales]

Some Mexican guys were sending her mother flowers for her birthday and others were talking about paying for her to fly to different places for vacation. It confused me why she would pick me over the other guys, but it may be the connection we have even though it is sort of fucked up. She has friends that own restaurants, in Banda bands, and have businesses in Mexico, so it isn't a lack of qualified men in her life. They are also closer in age to her and speak her language. Those are the guys that worry me about the relationship since she has history with them..

You don't speak Spanish. You know Jack shit about Mexico or Mexicans. Ever hear the expression: one born every minute. Ever think it might apply to you?

Go watch Born on the Fourth of July, the Mexican hooker scenes in particular. Mexico is the land of machism and you imagine made Mexicans treat a Tijuana hooker like the Virgin of Guadalupe. Estás pero si bien pendejo.

[Member #4730]

Its a bummer your relationship isn't going smoothly KB. Its making me question my own sanity going on dates with bar girls. This arrangement doesn't seem very normal too me. If I understand correctly you are paying 1200 $ a month for her to be your live in GF. If she really loves you why the 1200 dollars? But I also understand she needs spending cash for basics. I recently got invited to meet the family of a bar girl. First time that's happened, its a big deal for latin women. On the surface the situation looks bad but all standard stuff in my opinion. She's in her 20's. Don't know about you KB but I was an idiot for most of my 20's. At that age you're older than the teenagers but your still clueless, naive, unsure of what you want etc. Add on top she's a woman and you got someone who barely has any rational long term thoughts in her head. Not saying she's dumb just young. Women like to keep their options open and for her that means her clients. In your gut you knew going into this it was going to be tough but I don't think all hope is lost. Just see what the relationship for what it really is. I stopped contacting my last bar girl because I felt I was falling too hard. Thats a recipe for disaster, at least for me personally because I stop thinking when I'm in love. This new BG I'm seeing I really like but I'm not letting myself fall in love, she's a great time, even better than the last one but I know even if there is genuine attraction / love from her she's still a BG I met at Hong Kong and they arent normal women. Not necessarily bad women but you are not dating some chick you met at the mall in California. Remember to think logically and rationally above all else and you should be fine. See the relationship for what it really is but also don't withhold your love from fear of getting played because that's no way to live but all this is just my two pesos KB.

Dating these girls has changed my view of mongering as well. I recently found out I have a reputation at HK now. Found out from my new girl that the girls talk about me. I guess being there so much word gets around because they can see I'm spending tons of money there. I mean its what they are good at, sniffing out money LOL.

But if we plan to date girls in mexico whether bar girls or civvies they will always see us as the rich gringo, at least most of them will. I say if you are enjoying her company then keep going because lifes short.

I agree life is short and glad I didn't die this year when I totaled my truck. I pay her $600 per month, food, and rent. When I found the chats of her trying to setup dates, then it changed things slightly, but I told her I understood her predicament since she asked me if I could help her with family issues. I declined those requests and always think how she will help the family when I decline offering assistance. Now I know, she is put in between a rock and hard place since she doesn't "work". I always told her to let me know if the relationship isn't right for her at this time in her life as she is young and I don't want to feel like I'm taking the best years of her life.

Some Mexican guys were sending her mother flowers for her birthday and others were talking about paying for her to fly to different places for vacation. It confused me why she would pick me over the other guys, but it may be the connection we have even though it is sort of fucked up. She has friends that own restaurants, in Banda bands, and have businesses in Mexico, so it isn't a lack of qualified men in her life. They are also closer in age to her and speak her language. Those are the guys that worry me about the relationship since she has history with them.

I'll keep trying to ride this until the wheels fall off and not sure where it is going to take me, but it has been fun. The real test for me is when she graduates and if she can hold onto a "respectable" job as she says or start a business. I understand a lot of the other bros feelings regarding sex workers and I never expected to be in a relationships with one.

[LuvMexicanas]

Love Mudd. Just got done with an amazing evening in CDMX. In the last 36 hours I have had 4 amazing sessions. All of the girls are extremely hot, something you would know nothing about. 2 of the girls spent the night.

I am here, catch a flight. You have now been invited to MTY and CDMX, but you leave this out of reports. You have also used my real name in one of your reports. That would require having fun, spending money, and talking to girls.

It is easy to sit behind your computer complaining and making crap up. I and others are having the time of our lives, you should do the same.

You need to lay off the sauce. Also, you posted your own real name you nitwit.

[Sol12]

Well some of what I remember from previous posts of yours was you not paying her an allowance any longer for a reason that I don't remember. When I read that it made me wonder why she would stay with you. Like you said she has been providing for herself since 17 and she has family that relies on her help for them. She supposedly told them that she has an American boyfriend that provides the money for her and later introduces you to family so they think she wasn't lying. So you cut off her income since she is no longer working so if she can't help family like before but the two of you are still together I don't think they would understand. So you kind of forced her to see clients behind your back. If it was me I'd be upset with how you use cutting her off as a bargaining chip that she gets taken away if she doesn't do as you wish. Yet you say you love her and from all the things you have talked about with her you seem to only bring up her beauty and how good she is in bed. So I think your love is not true.

In all your posts and how things have gone I'm just waiting to see what happens after your trip to Paris. In the back of my mind I still wonder if she is in this just for the trip and she'll end it after that. Especially with the school excuse.

I also think you went to fast with this whole thing especially since you just got out of a marriage and you just wanted that void filled.

I have some other concerns but don't want to fill your head with more negativity. Especially since you aren't with her for Christmas. Best of luck.

[LuvMexicanas]

Similar to the MDE poster Blackthought mentioned, numb nuts never addresses the actual issue. As shown in the screenshot I already posted, he bold face lied about his alleged 20-30 trips to Tijuana. Pure and simple. Insults are all he is capable of because behind the facade, there is no substance.

Post a link to one of your 20-30 trips to Tijuana the phony aka Dramaqueef.

[BlackThought]

I had some very beautiful Chinese girls but was unable to communicate with them, got bored fast. Few Pinays were as beautiful as Chinese, but they could communicate in English, making their companies much sweeter and sexier. A few years back I landed in manila in the afternoon. Within 12 hours I pulled 5 girls and popped 7 times. Communication made them felt like real humans, a lot sweeter and more sensuous.

Totally agree. It's difficult to get GFE communicating through google translate jajaja. That's what I really enjoyed about HK club, that I never had to use google translate. In Colombia, it was google translate for everything. Communication is key for chemistry / connection.

Mongering in SEA isn't my thing. Manila is an expensive place to monger, take a bus up to Angeles city and the price is cut in half. They have their own "walking street".

[Captain Solo]

Blackthought.

"Show me a beautiful woman, and I'll show you a guy who's tired of fucking her". Exactly. Even with lots of love, guys will get bored with the same beautiful women years in years out.

Girls' charms, beauty, bodies and feels are all different. They respond and express their sexual pleasures in different ways, some don't express anything at all.

I had some very beautiful Chinese girls but was unable to communicate with them, got bored fast. Few Pinays were as beautiful as Chinese, but they could communicate in English, making their companies much sweeter and sexier. A few years back I landed in manila in the afternoon. Within 12 hours I pulled 5 girls and popped 7 times. Communication made them felt like real humans, a lot sweeter and more sensuous. It's very nice to experience the varieties of spices in life.

I am planning to do a tour of Southeast Asia as soon as countries open up. Thailand will be open to foreign travelers this week with 1 day test and quarantine in a hotel. Reportedly the bars along lower Sukhumvit and Soi Cowboy are open with lots of girls waiting for farangs to come back. I need me a few soapy / nuru massages with hot Thai girls to wake my sensuality back up hehe.

[BlackThought]

99% of mongers would not want to be you. We want to smash different woman. We want to wake up everyday not knowing who we will bang this week. We like Hong Kong and flirting with the woman in the club. Personally I don't see this relationship going on, endlessly. For instance a woman tends to be much happier when younger. They see the good in a guy. As they hit 30, 40, they see the bad. "he's not tall, he's losing his hair, he's not muscular, he didn't take me on vacation for my birthday". So she may hit that point in life when a old gringo doesn't make her happy. She's going to always have that urge to make easy money. I know Mexican woman in Tijuana dating Americans 20, 30 years older than them, who don't pay them any money. But they live in projects, have normal jobs, don't have taste for fine things in life. So you may be better off just finding a regular girl to fall in love with who is happy to live rent free in palayas in your apartment and she probably won't as good as the current one. But at least you can hope for a chance to grow old with her. This current one, not likely.

Exactly, I'm sure majority of us are not traveling to monger destinations to find love / wife. My mission is to have sex with as many hot women as I possibly can, it's a fun and exciting hobby. It doesn't matter how hot the women is, fucking the same box eventually gets boring.

"Show me a beautiful woman, and I'll show you a guy who's tired of fucking her".

[Ctytek]

Gawd this is sad. Why would anyone choose to be in a relationship with a hooker and be a walking ATM for her and her family. You need to really reassess your priorities in life, KoolBeans. If you want a long term relationship. You may wish to look for your partner somewhere other than Hong Kong.

I have been dating an ex HK bar girl for past 2 months and boy has it been a roller coaster. Overall I'm happy with the life experience, but it has not been without many challenges and learning more about myself and my own insecurities. We first started out with an "arrangement" where I "help" her out with $300 per week and live with her 5 days a week in Tijuana.

[DramaFree11]

Love Mudd. Just got done with an amazing evening in CDMX. In the last 36 hours I have had 4 amazing sessions. All of the girls are extremely hot, something you would know nothing about. 2 of the girls spent the night.

I am here, catch a flight. You have now been invited to MTY and CDMX, but you leave this out of reports. You have also used my real name in one of your reports. That would require having fun, spending money, and talking to girls.

It is easy to sit behind your computer complaining and making crap up. I and others are having the time of our lives, you should do the same.

[Big Magick]

Its a bummer your relationship isn't going smoothly KB. Its making me question my own sanity going on dates with bar girls. This arrangement doesn't seem very normal too me. If I understand correctly you are paying 1200 $ a month for her to be your live in GF. If she really loves you why the 1200 dollars? But I also understand she needs spending cash for basics. I recently got invited to meet the family of a bar girl. First time that's happened, its a big deal for latin women. On the surface the situation looks bad but all standard stuff in my opinion. She's in her 20's. Don't know about you KB but I was an idiot for most of my 20's. At that age you're older than the teenagers but your still clueless, naive, unsure of what you want etc. Add on top she's a woman and you got someone who barely has any rational long term thoughts in her head. Not saying she's dumb just young. Women like to keep their options open and for her that means her clients. In your gut you knew going into this it was going to be tough but I don't think all hope is lost. Just see what the relationship for what it really is. I stopped contacting my last bar girl because I felt I was falling too hard. Thats a recipe for disaster, at least for me personally because I stop thinking when I'm in love. This new BG I'm seeing I really like but I'm not letting myself fall in love, she's a great time, even better than the last one but I know even if there is genuine attraction / love from her she's still a BG I met at Hong Kong and they arent normal women. Not necessarily bad women but you are not dating some chick you met at the mall in California. Remember to think logically and rationally above all else and you should be fine. See the relationship for what it really is but also don't withhold your love from fear of getting played because that's no way to live but all this is just my two pesos KB.

Dating these girls has changed my view of mongering as well. I recently found out I have a reputation at HK now. Found out from my new girl that the girls talk about me. I guess being there so much word gets around because they can see I'm spending tons of money there. I mean its what they are good at, sniffing out money LOL.

But if we plan to date girls in mexico whether bar girls or civvies they will always see us as the rich gringo, at least most of them will. I say if you are enjoying her company then keep going because lifes short.

[Dogers69]

I have been dating an ex HK bar girl for past 2 months and boy has it been a roller coaster. Overall I'm happy with the life experience, but it has not been without many challenges and learning more about myself and my own insecurities. We first started out with an "arrangement" where I "help" her out with $300 per week and live with her 5 days a week in Tijuana.

At the beginning I was hesitant and I think she wasn't too sure of what to expect since she has never lived with someone else besides her family and amigas. She said I may view her differently once we move in together. I said we could give it a try and I rented an Airbnb for 2 months just in case the arrangement went south. She was cooking and cleaning 2-3 meals a day and we had sex 4-5 times a day. At my age, I can only keep up that pace for so long and then eventually run out of Gogo juice...

99% of mongers would not want to be you. We want to smash different woman. We want to wake up everyday not knowing who we will bang this week. We like Hong Kong and flirting with the woman in the club. Personally I don't see this relationship going on, endlessly. For instance a woman tends to be much happier when younger. They see the good in a guy. As they hit 30, 40, they see the bad. "he's not tall, he's losing his hair, he's not muscular, he didn't take me on vacation for my birthday". So she may hit that point in life when a old gringo doesn't make her happy. She's going to always have that urge to make easy money. I know Mexican woman in Tijuana dating Americans 20, 30 years older than them, who don't pay them any money. But they live in projects, have normal jobs, don't have taste for fine things in life. So you may be better off just finding a regular girl to fall in love with who is happy to live rent free in palayas in your apartment and she probably won't as good as the current one. But at least you can hope for a chance to grow old with her. This current one, not likely.