Stupid Shit in Tijuana

[Member #4730]

I have been dating an ex HK bar girl for past 2 months and boy has it been a roller coaster. Overall I'm happy with the life experience, but it has not been without many challenges and learning more about myself and my own insecurities. We first started out with an "arrangement" where I "help" her out with $300 per week and live with her 5 days a week in Tijuana.

At the beginning I was hesitant and I think she wasn't too sure of what to expect since she has never lived with someone else besides her family and amigas. She said I may view her differently once we move in together. I said we could give it a try and I rented an Airbnb for 2 months just in case the arrangement went south. She was cooking and cleaning 2-3 meals a day and we had sex 4-5 times a day. At my age, I can only keep up that pace for so long and then eventually run out of Gogo juice.

She started to invite me to meet friends, cousins, and aunts for card games and various family events. I wasn't quite sure what to make of this as I thought you would only invite someone that you are serious about committing to. All of the extended family and friends seemed receptive and knew about the age gap, which I'm almost twice her age. Also they probably wonder why she is dating a gringo with limited Spanish ability, but they all seemed enthusiastic in trying to communicate with me in English.

Some thoughts that come to mind when I think age gap is attire. I don't really care to dress up as I'm older and don't really give a crap about other peoples opinions. She dresses up like a 20 year old college student wearing outfits that either show side boob or waist and jeans with numerous tears and rips. Sometimes she wears heels just to go out to eat. I find it funny, but also tell her she should dress more conservative and she doesn't need to display her natural puppies to the public. She also spends hours putting on makeup sometimes depending on the event. Not sure if it is just her need for attention or normal for Latina women. My ex didn't really care for makeup and dressed more conservative, but maybe due to her growing up in a different social class household.

Another thing that I can recall is I wrote numerous one page letters that were translated with Google translate to ask her questions about life, past, present, and future. She probably should have left me numerous times when I kept bringing up the past and probing about her life, but I need to know who I am dealing with and what her true intentions are with the relationship. I even gave her an ultimatum on one letter that asked to see her cell phone to a certain date when we were meeting more often and she was telling me she loved me (te quiero) and she stopped working.

It is always in the back of my mind that she is going to keep working for the "fast money" as she says she averaged $500 a night and I wasn't quite sure why she would quit since that is more than I make since my income is taxed. I often told her to reflect on what she wanted in life and if this "relationship" was right for her at this moment in time. She kept reassuring me this relationships is what she wants. We all are at different stages in life and timing may be off for one or the other.

The connection we have is unreal and I never felt something was off, but the constant text notifications on her phone started to set off alarms and my intuition was telling me something else might be going on. So I started probing more about her life and past and she seemed annoyed and I asked if she still sees "clients". She said no and that she doesn't use her business account on WhatsApp as she has a personal and business acct. I accepted her answer at face value, but still had a feeling as I felt uneasy when I was away from the apartment.

Eventually I saw more texts notifications all throughout the day and told her I would be cutting the "support" to $600 and I felt like I had one foot in the door and one out the door as I was trying to make sure I don't get played. She would tell me about various family issues that required money and I told her I couldn't help her out to which she seemed annoyed. I started to question if it was about the money and she said she would still be working instead of living with me if it was about the money.

Around Thanksgiving, she said she wanted her mom, sister, and brother to visit Tijuana. She wanted them to meet me and a cousins baby. I said sure and paid for them to fly to Tijuana. Before picking them up I got them some drinks and snacks as I know I hate coming off a flight famished and thirsty. They seemed to genuinely appreciate the effort. I took them to eat at Tacos el franc and at the end of the meal I left a normal 20% tip, but the mother pushed it back to me and put a smaller amount as a tip. I found it odd, but he sister and my girlfriend kind of laughed as it is common for her to leave a smaller tip. I find out her mother works at a taco shop so she must know the standard acceptable tip.

It was an enjoyable time with her family minus the verbal communication was nonexistent, but they seemed to enjoy the visit. I voiced more of my concerns to my girlfriend and she seemed annoyed that I'm probing more when her family is visiting. She actually became sick with migraines and stomach issues and not sure if it was due to all of the stress I caused with the questions and ultimatums, but I don't like things to rest on my mind and have to get it off my chest.

I noticed during our outings she would push her code to her phone in front of my face so one night I got a hold of her phone and started to export WhatsApp chats to my cloud storage and focused on names I knew, archived chats, and recent conversations, probably 50-60% of the conversations. I know a dick move and she should have left me. I started to translate all of it and figure out she has been trying to setup dates and I knew why she didn't want me to see her chats with her "friends". I brought up the conversations to her and she was upset. She said she was ashamed with herself and at me for violating her privacy. I said I understand and she said she never told any of the "clients" that she loved them and only me.

I kind of laughed to myself in my head thinking if that is acceptable, then I could reply that I never told any of the other women I've seen that I love them either. It wasn't until I read the ISG board where some mongers said that it is "just business" and "survival" for them. It made me reflect on the mixed messages I've been sending in the "relationship". I constantly threatened to leave her if I found out she wasn't telling me the truth and I let her know that we need to be transparent and have honest communication. I told her she needs to decide if it is the wrong time in her life for a relationship or if I'm not the right one for her.

It made me question what I did wrong, but she said she didn't go through with the dates and it is "just business". I told her I understood her situation. She asked me what I'd do if I was in her situation. I told her I'd continue working since she makes more money than me, but she says she loves me (te amo) and would cry every night if we separated.

This relationship really fucked up my view on mongering and she fucked up falling in love and introducing me to her inner circle. I still haven't let any of my family know or meet her since they might view it odd since I'm dating someone that is half my age. The WhatsApp conversations were entertaining as one guy has a similar name as mine and she professes her love to him to which he was confused. Another conversation confirmed her fetish and likes in men which I fit and she even mentioned me in other conversations to friends before we started the "relationship". I told her I love her and will try to make it work, but it involves 2 people wanting the same thing. She offered to get a new phone number and delete her business account. I think she deleted her business account, but not sure and will see if she goes through with getting a new number.

I viewed her as having potential wife material and was going to give it 2 years, but I think I'll extend it to 3-5 years since I'm still not sure what she wants in life. I think being college age would be difficult to settle down. For now I'm just enjoying the love she has for me and the journey. Some red flags I should have noticed were when she offered to pay for meals out, clothes, etc. I always thought she was trying to use the money I gave her, but not quite sure what to make of it. Also not sure how they can emotionally detach with "business" and then have romantic feelings for someone. I'll add more about my adventure, but hard to compress 2 months into a post. Maybe others have had similar experiences, but yeah I fucked up and fell in love with an ex HK bargirl.

[LuvMexicanas]

That is why L. Mudd should be on the Colombian Page. He would fit right in.

Similar to the MDE poster Blackthought mentioned, numb nuts never addresses the actual issue. As shown in the screenshot I already posted, he bold face lied about his alleged 20-30 trips to Tijuana. Pure and simple. Insults are all he is capable of because behind the facade, there is no substance.

[DramaFree11]

LOL Captain's pissing off a lot of mongers in the MDE thread. The mongers in that thread need to loosen up, they act like he's bashing their mom / sister.

That is why L. Mudd should be on the Colombian Page. He would fit right in.

[LuvMexicanas]

You text me on WhatsApp, I stand corrected and you screwed that up.

Again, untrue. You have a compulsive lying issue. Example below.

[DramaFree11]

You text me on WhatsApp, I stand corrected and you screwed that up.

[BlackThought]

LOL Captain's pissing off a lot of mongers in the MDE thread. The mongers in that thread need to loosen up, they act like he's bashing their mom / sister.

[ScatManDoo]

L. Mudd I am on the way to M. City you can join me and buy me dinner. This will make up for all the lies you say about me and others. You can go through my password, emails, Airbnb, WhatsApp, and see. See. Of course you will not do, because that would require to get off your computer, spend money and have some fun. You can also send Rog. In your place or some of your Role Models.

You seem to be a Drama Freak11 in many threads all over this board.

[LuvMexicanas]

L. Mudd I am on the way to M. City you can join me and buy me dinner. This will make up for all the lies you say about me and others. You can go through my password, emails, Airbnb, WhatsApp, and see. See. Of course you will not do, because that would require to get off your computer, spend money and have some fun. You can also send Rog. In your place or some of your Role Models.

I've forgotten more about CDMX than you know. You're the only liar and the veteran posters on the Tijuana threads all know it so stop pretending.

[LuvMexicanas]

L. Mudd. Good to see you are back and angry, complaining and a jealous as ever. I am in MTY at the airport on the way to CDMX, having a great time. I was here last weekend, but you selectively leave out details in your reports, like calling me, yes, I am making everything up. Get a life.

You need to have some fun and stop complaining. You would fit in Colombia perfectly most of those guys have low standards and complain a lot. Yes, it is S. Hole, definitely not Paradise. There is natural beauty and cheap if you live there long term. I will say one thing Colombian women make me appreciate American Women, so that is another good thing about Colombia. Keep up the jealousy and being angry, I will keep having fun / banging hot women, something you know very little about.

I called you? That is the lie of the century.

[DramaFree11]

L. Mudd I am on the way to M. City you can join me and buy me dinner. This will make up for all the lies you say about me and others. You can go through my password, emails, Airbnb, WhatsApp, and see. See. Of course you will not do, because that would require to get off your computer, spend money and have some fun. You can also send Rog. In your place or some of your Role Models.

[DramaFree11]

L. Mudd. Good to see you are back and angry, complaining and a jealous as ever. I am in MTY at the airport on the way to CDMX, having a great time. I was here last weekend, but you selectively leave out details in your reports, like calling me, yes, I am making everything up. Get a life.

You need to have some fun and stop complaining. You would fit in Colombia perfectly most of those guys have low standards and complain a lot. Yes, it is S. Hole, definitely not Paradise. There is natural beauty and cheap if you live there long term. I will say one thing Colombian women make me appreciate American Women, so that is another good thing about Colombia. Keep up the jealousy and being angry, I will keep having fun / banging hot women, something you know very little about.

[LuvMexicanas]

We all pay for it one way or another. There was one fake monger in the MDE thread that claimed getting "free pussy" because he's an "alpha", turned out he's actually never been to Colombia and got called out by several members. Now he spends his time in the "American Politics" thread jaja.

We have a similar situation here. He's not as bad as what you shared, as I do believe he's at least been to Tijuana but he posted one hell of a lie claiming he'd been to Tijuana 20-30 times during a one year period when his post history totally contradicted that.

[LuvMexicanas]

We all pay for it one way or another. There was one fake monger in the MDE thread that claimed getting "free pussy" because he's an "alpha", turned out he's actually never been to Colombia and got called out by several members. Now he spends his time in the "American Politics" thread jaja.

That's exactly the point man. Too many fake mongers whether it's making shit up or not paying. This is ISG not a free pussy website.

[BlackThought]

On another note regarding guys who claim they don't pay and say they have "game", I always wondered why they post on a monger board.

We all pay for it one way or another. There was one fake monger in the MDE thread that claimed getting "free pussy" because he's an "alpha", turned out he's actually never been to Colombia and got called out by several members. Now he spends his time in the "American Politics" thread jaja.

[Triple 777]

As I get older and hopefully wiser, at times we need to agree to disagree. I am not looking to piss anyone off.

This form is to help all of us in ways too many to list here. Which is why we post. Not for approval but to help all of us.

Regardless what your position is on any subject, you can heed the advise of seasoned mongers or not to your distain in many cases.

If you end up being on the positive side, we are all happy for you. Newbie or not.

Unfortunately, a lot of mongers, do some really stupid shit, that in the end, if they admit it, they should have heeded the wisdom listed in this forum.

None of us plan a trip for no sex. Any advantage we can gain by the experience of others helps all of us. Which club to go to, action in the alley, best Ladies on the streets, and best escort services, etc.

To each his own. This is not about a popularity contest, it is about using everyone's information for the benefit of all.

After each trip, we all think of what we could or should have done better.

The point of this forum and this content is to ensure all of us have an enjoyable sexual time, as safe as possible.

Please, stay focused on giving factual reviews, locations of hotties, and complete trip reports for the newbies and the seasoned mongers. Every time I try and post a review, someone has beaten me to it. I tip my hat to them.

Final comment, I will not get baited into a debate on here. If you wish to do your best to piss me off, your wasting everyone's time. Just ask my three ex wife's!