Thread: Stupid Shit in Tijuana
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12-19-21 18:26 #1717
Posts: 558Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
I've been back to HK multiple times with no intentions of getting laid and I have no interest, as she rocked my world in the club. Like you've mentioned, it will be difficult to replicate with another. I've come to realize how blessed I am and how good of a place I am in life. It is sad that I had to go through all of this to find peace with myself. I even told her that I'm content and happy with everything in my life either with or without her. My issues may have seemed plentiful in a first world country, but pale in comparison to third world issues. I have a roof over my head, don't miss meals, and healthy.
I have no right to judge her for being a sex worker as I am complicit in my actions and she is just trying to survive and ensure her family is able to keep head above water. She took them on their first family vacation out of her hometown to Puerto Vallarta, got them a car so they could transport her abuela in case of emergency, trying to tile the barren floor in their home, add a new room for her little brother as she has to share a bedroom with him since home is small, renovate the kitchen without cabinet doors, and list goes on. She has good intentions and just trying to do the best she can with the limited resources. I could only imagine her life if she didn't have an abortion at 17 after being raped by her boyfriend. Most of her amigas have children with absent fathers and limited options to ensure their children are taken care of. Fucked up situation all around, but maybe I needed this to open my eyes.
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12-19-21 18:18 #1716
Posts: 1933Originally Posted by LuvMexicanas [View Original Post]
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12-19-21 18:16 #1715
Posts: 1933Originally Posted by DramaFree11 [View Original Post]
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12-19-21 18:01 #1714
Posts: 558Originally Posted by Sol12 [View Original Post]
The boyfriend back home would have to be a secret from the family as they seem to like me. I'm sure they would let me know if she was running game on me, especially the mother. Supposedly only 3 other guys have met her family. I work remotely and can pretty much set my schedule so we spend our times cooking, watching movies, going to movies, restaurants, etc. I'd definitely consider a prenup as the age gap marriages have high failure rate statistically. She did mention kids, but maybe in 5-8 years and I told her it isn't in my near term plans.
Like you mentioned, she did discuss the not meeting my family and friends last week and I'm not quite sure I want them to meet her just yet as the relationship has been strange to say the least. She has been great minus the trying to setup dates behind my back. I have my own family I want to spend Christmas with and I told her New Years is the best I can do. She mentioned her cousins asked if I was going to visit for Christmas and I told her I'll try to see her hometown next year. Also don't feel bad discussing this with other bros on the board as my friends are married and not sure they would understand this situation or probably tell me I'm crazy hehe.
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12-19-21 17:59 #1713
Posts: 2794L. Mudd you have all my contact information, but you leave that out of your reports. I am waiting for you in M. City. You keep spreading your crazy lies. You never say anything nice about anybody, you just complain, you are very rarely with a girl. Hopefully one day Admin will suspended you.
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12-19-21 17:40 #1712
Posts: 2794Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
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12-19-21 16:49 #1711
Posts: 1933Originally Posted by ScatManDoo [View Original Post]
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12-19-21 16:28 #1710
Posts: 2794Originally Posted by BigMagick [View Original Post]
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12-19-21 16:01 #1709
Posts: 1933Originally Posted by PedroMorales [View Original Post]
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12-19-21 15:32 #1708
Posts: 3230Originally Posted by KoolBeans [View Original Post]
I dated and got engaged to a Venezuelan girl who was cute but when she took off her clothes, she may have had the best figure I have ever seen. Her ass was a work of art. So we broke it off, and the reason was the same as yours. She was hanging out with men looking to make more money. She was actually looking at trading more than selling her body, but it was kind of the same thing, inappropriate conversations and behaviors, and I cut her off and blasted her behavior. After I did that, she broke it off with me.
I was going to fly and meet her to try to win her back and could not do it. I wound up in Colombia versus where she lived in Peru. I was determined to find someone as hot as her, and no one I found could match her. Finally, a year later I bedded a Venezuelan in Mexico who was more than her equal looks wise and in bed, but I felt like she was an out and out ho. I used seeking.com and bedded even more beauties but there was always something off: too greedy, too stupid, too crass. Finally, after 2 years of looking, I found someone better in bed, more striking, and way nicer. The hardest part to get was that my Venezuelan gal really loved me. The sex was easily replaced, the looks, compatibility, and intelligence were harder still, but the hardest was the love, real love that is not faked.
I am glad that things did not work out with the Venezuelan gal. I just do not like the knee jerk, screaming response I had when seeing she was hanging with another guy and she lied about it. She needed more money than I was giving her, and she was doing what she had to do. I should have been more understanding than enraged. I have no regrets that we broke up just about how I reacted. Cutting a woman off money wise is a john move, and like you, I did it.
So she tried the currency trading and failed as I predicted. I told her that she would look at all her options, see that finding another guy was best and go back and hook up with a rich guy, and she did. The new guy is more generous than me, and that is what I meant when you say you get to pay for her. Would another guy pay more for being with her than you would? If so, you are getting a bargain.
I know how you are. You have the money but you do not want to feel cheated. Again, that is a john mentality. If she is your woman, you want her to feel loved and cared for. All the guys calling you a sucker do not get it. When you spend money on the right woman, it is really not a cost but an investment that will pay you much more back.
But I will be honest that is not the problem. The problem is your insecurity, You are thinking you are not good enough. Why else would you go through her phone or cut her off or be making the comments about your ages? You do not have have the mind set that you are the best thing could have happened to her. Sure, in my case, the Venezuelan found another guy but she went through two years of hell before then, and something is still off with her.
What that 2 year period really was for me was a journey getting rid of my insecurities. I think the interesting thing was time and again I learned how getting a beautiful woman was nothing especially in the Latin world and how many were dead ass broke.
I have a stunning female friend who married and divorced a famous rock star. She showed me how many of her friends were so broke. I said she could go into any club and bang any rich guy. She said she could, but that rich guys were assholes and while they would fuck her that they would never introduce her to their parents. She banged athletes and found they were egotistical and lousy in bed, and I heard the same story from so many like her. I had so many hooker types tell me I was good in bed, and I just thought they were lying. Now I wondered, were they really?
You think your gal has so many options and she does but so many of them are terrible, unknown, and unsafe. In that two year period, I had three women say they loved me and showed me they did. The best one was the last one. She was more cute than hot but outside of that, she really had it all. When she told me I was the best lover she ever had, I actually believed her. A friend of hers made a comment on the 30 year difference in our ages. I told her if that was going to be a problem for her, I would find a woman where that was not a problem. She said in a scared voice it was not, and I never heard about the age thing again. Still, something was not right. I felt like there was still better out there.
I almost lost out on my current gal because I thought she was too good to be true, that she had to be running some kind of game but because at this point in my life, I was secure enough to think I was worthy of a woman like her, I was open to the fact that maybe, maybe she was not running a game. I almost blew it with the best woman I ever met because of my insecurity. That is what I am afraid of with you. When a hottie really is crazy about you, you think she has to be running a game.
But who knows? Maybe you need a 2 year journey to deal with your insecurities too. Maybe she is not the right one, but if you do break it off with her, just make sure it is not because of your petty insecurities. That is the part you will regret the most.
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12-19-21 10:52 #1707
Posts: 120More red flags than a chinese communist party
The writings on the wall for you KB. I have told you this before but you should break up with this girl. Everyone else I'm sure agrees. At this point I don't think you are going to listen to reason. If any relationship caused me this much drama I would have walked away, especially one that's a few months old. Cut your losses and move on. A blind man could see this is a bad situation. I was really rooting for you too but just being purely objective here. Theres new girls at the bars everyday. I'm sure you can find one that doesn't cause this much headache, or better yet a non working girl. If you're posting this for us to give you advice guidance than this is it. Break it off. This relationship is bad for your health and wallet. But I don't think you are going to listen.
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12-19-21 08:22 #1706
Posts: 1081Concern
Originally Posted by KoolBeans [View Original Post]
The second concern I have is more of things that have been talked about on many boards before that I was on just talking about Tijuana. Many talk of girls having their true love usually still living in their home town. It seems odd she would be completely alone at 17 and not have a boyfriend that she was with. When girls are at that age and in love it's hard for them to get over it. So she could be working in Tijuana and helping him until they can be together again. Now I don't know how hard it is to transfer schools in Mexico but seems like she is apprehensive to leave.
Unfortunately my personal experience is much different than yours and when I read of your situation the only thing that I really relate to is just giving up your life in the US to live in Tijuana. The relationship stuff is a lot of people I have known that lived or married bar girls or how friends of my ex would treat guys. Also being able to speak the language helps a relationship and since your girl doesn't have a kid I wonder how you spend most of your time since you don't seem to have a normal job that you go to each day, so the both of you AR stuck at home together for long periods of time and I just wonder if you both enjoy it or if you or her find yourselves trying to find reasons to leave the apartment from time to time just to getaway.
I've said it many times that nothing any of us say should matter as every situation is different and those if us that have read your whole story are aware that you didn't go looking for this to happen it just did. If you really love her and want this just do what you can but don't give up all your money to win her, and if you get married you need a prenup. Had a buddy that had money and he was smart so when she left just after them getting married he wasn't out very much.
Now in her defense I'd say you've been unfair to her in some ways especially not making any effort to have her me t family or friends of yours. In her mind I would think she wonders if you are really married or you are ashamed of her and she's not good enough for you to meet your family.
Not sure if any of this has helped. I do feel bad that the only people you can talk to about this are guys on this board, I was lucky to have a group of friends in Tijuana that were all in a similar situation to relate to and learn from.
One last thing if you really love her and want this to work I would think of surprising her and showing up for Christmas.
Good luck.
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12-19-21 06:00 #1705
Posts: 749Originally Posted by KoolBeans [View Original Post]
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12-19-21 04:22 #1704
Posts: 558Originally Posted by DramaFree11 [View Original Post]
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12-19-21 04:17 #1703
Posts: 558Originally Posted by DramaFree11 [View Original Post]