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03-31-24 19:30 #5632
Posts: 2732Marriage Minded
Originally Posted by FilthyBeaver [View Original Post]
Monogamous and Brasileira don't go in the same sentence. Brasileiras esp the pretty ones are going to have multiple lovers. Two girls I "dated" got engaged a month or two after we fucked. So that should tell you something.
I'the go at it honestly. And say "I know you are looking for long term and I respect that. But in the meantime I think we might have a lot of fun. " Something like that. I've def had some convos this way.
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03-31-24 12:53 #5631
Posts: 362What to do about marriage minded profiles
I've seen quite a few in Sao Paolo that say they are either marriage minded or even go so far as to say if you're not looking for a monogamous marriage then don't bother contacting them.
I'm old enough to know that anything can happen but I've got to be really skeptical of someone overtly requesting this on a sugaring site. So what do you guys do? Some of their pics show that they are really desirable and I'm inclined to throw a bunch of money and time their way just to get them in the sack bit I can't help but think it may be futile. Thoughts? Experiences?
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03-30-24 19:15 #5630
Posts: 2813Elvis, I read your recent post on Bogota. I never understand why the guys that like the street girls get, so upset about SA. I do not remember any of us not telling guys not to hook up with street girls, unless they provoke us or make fun us. Honestly, I think it is the opposite we say you should you all the resources. (On-line, Escorts, Dating Apps, Day Game, Friends, hell whatever works use it).
Honestly, I think it is the opposite we suggested guys to hand out cards, and meet girls on the street. I also, talked about how my Italian Friends in Ukraine and Russia were all about the day game. They would spend hours trying to meet girls on the street, at restaurants and gyms. It was amazing to watch, and many had success, but in the end most ended up paying one way or another.
I do not care how much someone pays or how they get girls. As long as they give decent information, I would l will never say a word. Now, there are guys in Colombia and Ukraine that blatantly lie. Both places you can get hurt if you make a bad decision.
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03-29-24 16:29 #5629
Posts: 596Originally Posted by VulcanSx [View Original Post]
But I also know my wife is an intellectual equal. I might not find her super attractive but we have long engaging conversations and she is well read and highly educated.
I am just barely mature enough to know that is hard to replace. It makes her a high value woman.
I ama also just immature enough to always need young fresh women in bed with me. The kind I stare at at the mall and then want to peel the clothes off of. And do through seeking.
And so here I am in the cycle. Just like that.
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03-29-24 15:17 #5628
Posts: 60Originally Posted by BallsDeep1980 [View Original Post]
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03-27-24 23:12 #5627
Posts: 2Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
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03-27-24 04:00 #5626
Posts: 596Most of us were thinking it. Somebody had to say it. Thank you.
Originally Posted by Gfefan [View Original Post]
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03-26-24 01:47 #5625
Posts: 2813Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
Him.
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03-25-24 20:13 #5624
Posts: 241Futile
Frankly, I have lost track of this "debate".
Here is my simple approach:
Want a relationship, lasting as long into the future that I cannot predict? I will go to regular dating.
Want a fuck that doesn't feel like a whole girl (although technically it is), and allows me to live a fantasy life for however long it lasts. I go to SA.
I simply don't see the point in comparing and trying to draw parallels (or opposites) between the two worlds. One is real life other is fantasy life. Call it I have MPD. Who cares?
Now, anyone had a good bang off seeking of late? Please post.
Originally Posted by NoBuglyFitches [View Original Post]
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03-25-24 19:00 #5623
Posts: 59Using Seeking to Improve Vanilla Dating
Originally Posted by GoingDumb [View Original Post]
Sure, you're not needy, creepy or worried about the outcome in vanilla if you got your p4 p backup. But on the flip side, you're less motivated, less persistent, and she can probably sense that you're not that interested in her.
Going on seeking dates let's you practice for vanilla dates but isn't it better to just go on more vanilla dates? And if you are only getting a few vanillas a year then it'd be more productive to focus your efforts on improving that; seeking won't help you to get more vanilla dates.
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03-25-24 08:26 #5622
Posts: 3281Originally Posted by NoBuglyFitches [View Original Post]
https://www.knowledgeformen.com/unde...ngarrangement/
According to the USA Census, there are roughly 113 million people in the United States between the ages of 18 and 44. And roughly 51% of this population is female.
So now, we have an estimated 60,180,000 women between the ages of 18 and 44. And of those women, roughly 6,700,000 are on Seeking Arrangement. And that number is only growing.
Take out the married woman, the women in relationships, lesbians, trans women, women who have a SD who are off the site, and add in the women who are using other sugar sites and the women doing sugar things not on line, and I think you are at one in two women looking for a SD. And based on what I have seen, most guys will take the SB half of women over the other half all day every day.
Another quote, What surprised me most about my time on Seeking Arrangement was how seemingly "normal" most of the women were. It wasn't like I was talking with uneducated women, amateur porn stars or drug addled strippers trying to earn money in between performances. Some of these women I even had mutual friends with on social media.
In fact, most of the women I met seemed like your typical "girl next door" mostly worried about their tuition, student loans, making rent or just wanted extra cash to fuel a better lifestyle. Many of them were college educated, some of them graduates from top tier universities and, in several cases, held graduate degrees.
And that is EXACTLY my experience. Here is more:
After several months of this experiment, I found that nearly 80% of the women with whom I went out would eventually bring up money between the first and third encounter, expressing their desire for a specific dollar amount or monthly allowance and they would not lower their price.
As for the other 20% of women, as long as I paid for a fun night out, the conversation of money never surfaced. Perhaps this was because I was already spending money on the date, just not directly handing it over to them.
That was my percentage in Mexico. It was a little higher in Colombia and 0% in the USA. Here is more:
But to be honest, the main reason I experienced as much (unpaid) success as I did was that I've spent the better part of a decade refining and honing my dating and social skills. Learning how to hook a woman's interest, be non-needy, pass tests, physically escalate, sexualize interactions, and create the emotionally high adventurous times that few women experienced.
Without these skills, I have no doubt that all of my interactions would have resulted in women shamelessly trying to convert me into their loyal sugar daddy and requesting a "sugar baby allowance" at the end of each date.
The bragging is nauseating, but the point holds: a man can score on seeking with game and not just money.
Back to the article:
On Tinder, Bumble or Hinge, where the dating market is skewed heavily in women's favor as the selector, most men, even successful men, are something of a disposable item on those traditional dating apps. Responses go unread for months, matches go cold in a matter of days, and, on the rare occasion you do strike up a conversation with someone whom you're attracted to, the odds of it turning into a date hover around 15% (and that's good!
Oh yeah, sign me up for that.
I want to quote this because I think it is so funny.
If you want to learn how to develop these skills and successfully date high-quality women without giving up your hard-earned income to pay a sugar baby's monthly allowance and all the expensive dinner dates then grab a copy of The Dating Playbook for Men on amazon which is the best book on the subject.
If relationships increasingly revolve around a man's wealth and his ability to provide lavish experiences, it is unlikely that men will feel motivated to engage in the necessary internal work required to sustain a meaningful relationship with a quality woman.
At that point, it is just more mental masturbation about how terrible sugar dating is. Yes, it is so much purer to give this guy your money than the women. LOL.
As for those wonderful meaningful relationships, take a look at the 8 minute mark on this video, and you have the prize at the end of the "real" relationship: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WcJnBM9g9SA.
Keep in mind that her marriage is in the the top half of marriages as she still is technically married, and at her age, this woman is easily in the top half with looks. She even admits to being a sugar momma where she pays for sex. And the woman before this one on the video openly says the more flowers she gets from her BF, the more blowjobs she gives him. To me, this shows that most American women are hookerish, and this author of the article is trying to sucker men into courting these hookerish women.
With seeking, you can meet loads of women and in essence are starting at third base. With "regular" dating, you are most likely to be in the dugout and you are lucky if you even get up to bat and have a swing. You can't work on your game if you do not get practice.
If you want my history, I got suckered into marriage. I was covering all the household expenses and my crazy wife was making me feel badly. I would pay women on the outside to feel good. I took my financial lumps and thought marriage was crazy and devoted myself to the sugar world, and I was very happy in that world.
I think the biggest issue with the book the game is that the goal is the one night stand and most one night stands suck. Usually one party feels horribly afterwards. Guys tend to recall their great escorts experiences too but most are bad or average. Guys think a newer woman will be better but she rarely is. You need to know what you want not just go for new.
With SBs, I got to learn what kind of woman made me happy longer term and what were my no gos and my red flags, and I said "okay if I am going to be monogamous, here is a list of qualities I would need". The list was so high that I never thought any woman could match them. There was a lot of fun and bumps along the way. That woman I thought I would never meet? Yeah, I met her.
As for what happens next with you, for a few weeks, you will sulk as you hang onto your version of reality. And then you will realize you cannot counter one thing I said factually. Not one. Then you will say eh, what is the harm in trying to get a seeking woman in bed without money? And it will take time and many dates, but you will learn what works and does not work for you, and you will eventually succeed.
And you know what you will tell yourself? I am glad I thought of the idea of getting a seeking woman in bed without paying. This is not my first rodeo with this topic.
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03-25-24 02:33 #5621
Posts: 362For the record
At my age I have neither the constitution or drive to date everyday, platonic, sexual, or otherwise. Some of you would consider me young and some, old. Seeing my SB at home once a week, maybe 3 x / mo works for me. When I'm mongering elsewhere on the planet, some strange every 2/3 days is about right, maybe slightly less (or more if I find someone I want to see more than once or have good chemistry with).
Originally Posted by NoBuglyFitches [View Original Post]
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03-25-24 01:38 #5620
Posts: 59Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
Also, "top shelf women" know the score and skillfully monetize their pretty privilege. If you are sugar dating such a woman / women, you're generally overpaying for sex in terms of frequency, duration, condoms, threesomes and so on.
Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
Even if she likes me and has sex without payment on the 2nd date, after we have dinner and a night out clubbing, she'll still be back on seeking selling pussy to some other old guy. I get it, she's got bills to pay but it's not "regular girl" behavior.
Back to the question I asked earlier: did you actually have sex without paying money for it? And with a girl who doesn't expect or accept money? That's what the OP was asking about. (And by the way, FilthyBeaver just reported $300-1500 per date; that's $100-200 K a year to have sex every day!
This debate is starting to feel a tad less cordial, so it's time for me to leave this topic. Thanks for your posts; they helped me clear up my own thinking on all this. I look forward to your parting thoughts if any.
GoingDumb: I will post my $02 on using sugar to get better at vanilla.
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03-23-24 23:41 #5619
Posts: 3281Originally Posted by NoBuglyFitches [View Original Post]
As for the men women want, I had a sugar baby who had a BF of that type, 6 pack abs and 10 inch cock, the kind of guy every woman wants right? Well, after a while, she got tired of all that female attention and she later found out, he was fucking other women on the side. She said she would never date someone more attractive than her ever again.
And there was the time that a stripper had a squirting, shake the wall kind of orgasm when giving a lap dance to me. She refused to dance for me again. Finally, she tried once and got turned on and quit and said, "I do not trust myself with you. " I was so confused and a friend of hers explained to me that she had not had that kind of orgasm with her husband and that feeling scared her. You never really know how the men who look like they are the types women want perform in bed.
In the USA with seeking, I never had a woman not set a price but when I did not mention price in Mexico and Colombia, there were times I got fucked without a promise of cash. I never had an escort go bareback with me in Mexico or Colombia, but I got BB more often than not from the women I met on seeking. Even if I offered escorts more, they would not do it.
Originally Posted by NoBuglyFitches [View Original Post]
Originally Posted by NoBuglyFitches [View Original Post]
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03-23-24 03:16 #5618
Posts: 59Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
I don't know what you mean by a "top shelf woman. " I just look for a someone that I'm personally happy with, sexually and otherwise.
Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
Originally Posted by Elvis2008 [View Original Post]
No one can argue if you say that the "game" is not for you personally, but unless you tried it and succeeded, you can't really give advice to others.