Seeking Arrangements

[Elvis 2008]

Have you guys ever been in the situation where you are just about to get laid, but then the gal says that she suddenly got her period? Happened to me twice recently. When this happens, do you guys think we are being played?
Anyways, just wanted to come on here to vent.

Depending on the girl, I would often just say so what and go ahead and play. She would get a towel and put it on the bed, and I would wear a condom. As long as you do not mind the site of blood, IMO it is not that big of a deal.

Other thing is that it really is not that big of a deal at day 4 or 5 usually. Thankfully, my gal has an implant and has no periods now.

[Steve 9696]

I have been mongering so much this year, fucking about 1-3 times per week on average. My work is suffering big time. I even lost a work gig, and when I reflect on it, it is probably because I spent too much time mongering rather than working. I also have almost no friends now. I used to get invited out for drinks or dinner quite a lot, but whenever I have free time, I use it to monger, and now no one invites me to hang out now.

I am thinking about cutting back on my mongering. In fact, I did not fuck anyone yesterday and today, and I do not plan on fucking anyone for the rest of this week, and maybe for the rest of this month, so that I can catch up on my work.

How about you guys? You guys doing a good job balancing your monger life, work life, and personal life?

I guess my problem is that I treat mongering as my main priority, and I schedule everything else around it.

Normally I advise to make time for your girls life. For me it's the favorite part of my life at this point so I try to prioritize it. But in your case I'the say yes you have gone too far. I thought I was a bit of a horndog but can't imagine trying to work in 1-3 times a week (ok maybe 1 per week). In fact I saw Liz recently and will see Kayla soon. Uma was pinging me wanting to meet and I just told her I couldn't. I would have had to possibly impact work or make another excuse which would have been awkward. So I had to push her out. I am glad I did because my stress level immediately went to zero.

The good news is what one poster once said holds true. "Less sex less sex. More sex more sex". What he meant was when you are having more sex you are always wanting it. And when you have less it seems less important. I've def found this to be true. I'the suggest trying to cut back to weekly (biweekly seems a stretch) and really try to stick to it. I think the most important benefit will not only be work and home life but your stress level. I think you will be surprised how much that makes a difference.

And surprisingly I think you will adjust to the new schedule and even look forward more to your dates which can be a joy in itself.

[Midwestern]

I have been mongering so much this year, fucking about 1-3 times per week on average. My work is suffering big time. I even lost a work gig, and when I reflect on it, it is probably because I spent too much time mongering rather than working. I also have almost no friends now. I used to get invited out for drinks or dinner quite a lot, but whenever I have free time, I use it to monger, and now no one invites me to hang out now.

I am thinking about cutting back on my mongering. In fact, I did not fuck anyone yesterday and today, and I do not plan on fucking anyone for the rest of this week, and maybe for the rest of this month, so that I can catch up on my work.

How about you guys? You guys doing a good job balancing your monger life, work life, and personal life?

I guess my problem is that I treat mongering as my main priority, and I schedule everything else around it.

[Steve 9696]

Yes, this happens to me all the time in MTY, it totally sucks. Each girl handle how they handle there periods differently. This is why it important to always have a back up plan.

I love your post and feedback.

Going to disagree a bit. I used to worry this same thing when it's come up occasionally but I had a friend point out it's prob genuine if a girl is otherwise into you. I mean think about it. If a girl has a three day period chances are 10% your going to hit it. Pretty good odds to miss if you see her one time. But what if she's a four day girl? Unless you are tracking carefully, see her seven times and you are bound to hit it.

Last two times I thought this it was false alarm. One because I could see the string poking out. Maybe she went that far but really? I don't think she dreads sex with me that much. And the next was Kayla. Went to pic up tampons and I thought oh no. But she was on tail end and took it out and let me CIP.

I don't think a girl is going to train ride and then bail on you with chance of being sent home or put on BJ for an hour. Could be wrong. Although I will say since you fuck for hours on end maybe girls do tire of it. All the reason to get a new girl.

[NeilGeorge]

Have you guys ever been in the situation where you are just about to get laid, but then the gal says that she suddenly got her period? Happened to me twice recently. When this happens, do you guys think we are being played?.

Yes, I had a woman who went into my hotel room bathroom and then came out an announced that her period just started and she could not have sex.

[Akibono]

Have you guys ever been in the situation where you are just about to get laid, but then the gal says that she suddenly got her period? Happened to me twice recently. When this happens, do you guys think we are being played?

A few weeks ago, I invited an ex-SB to go on a business trip with me. As she is arriving on the train, she tells me that her period suddenly started. I was stuck with her for three nights.

Yesterday, I was meeting someone that I have had relations with in the past. When we first hooked up, she would not kiss, and I put up with this for a while, but then stopped seeing her. She asked why I stopped seeing her and I told her that I like DFK, and so she agreed to do it. After seeing her some more, I asked her if we could bareback, and she said no. So again, I stopped seeing her, but then she suddenly contacts me and wants to see me. I thought it meant that we were going to bareback for the first time, so I agreed to meet her yesterday, but during her shower, she says oh no my period came.

I think in both cases that I got played. Periods do not suddenly come. Girls have a ball park idea of their period calendar, and they also start to get moody and experience discomfort at least a couple of days before their period comes..

Yes, you got played. OTOH nothing is as bad as a disinterested gal just being passive and not engaging you. Men are always at a disadvantage. Most of the time it doesn't pay to be cheap. The most expensive session is a cheap session.

[DramaFree11]

Have you guys ever been in the situation where you are just about to get laid, but then the gal says that she suddenly got her period? Happened to me twice recently. When this happens, do you guys think we are being played?

A few weeks ago, I invited an ex-SB to go on a business trip with me. As she is arriving on the train, she tells me that her period suddenly started. I was stuck with her for three nights.

Yesterday, I was meeting someone that I have had relations with in the past. When we first hooked up, she would not kiss, and I put up with this for a while, but then stopped seeing her. She asked why I stopped seeing her and I told her that I like DFK, and so she agreed to do it. After seeing her some more, I asked her if we could bareback, and she said no. So again, I stopped seeing her, but then she suddenly contacts me and wants to see me. I thought it meant that we were going to bareback for the first time, so I agreed to meet her yesterday, but during her shower, she says oh no my period came.

I think in both cases that I got played. Periods do not suddenly come. Girls have a ball park idea of their period calendar, and they also start to get moody and experience discomfort at least a couple of days before their period comes..

Yes, this happens to me all the time in MTY, it totally sucks. Each girl handle how they handle there periods differently. This is why it important to always have a back up plan.

I love your post and feedback.

[Midwestern]

Have you guys ever been in the situation where you are just about to get laid, but then the gal says that she suddenly got her period? Happened to me twice recently. When this happens, do you guys think we are being played?

A few weeks ago, I invited an ex-SB to go on a business trip with me. As she is arriving on the train, she tells me that her period suddenly started. I was stuck with her for three nights.

Yesterday, I was meeting someone that I have had relations with in the past. When we first hooked up, she would not kiss, and I put up with this for a while, but then stopped seeing her. She asked why I stopped seeing her and I told her that I like DFK, and so she agreed to do it. After seeing her some more, I asked her if we could bareback, and she said no. So again, I stopped seeing her, but then she suddenly contacts me and wants to see me. I thought it meant that we were going to bareback for the first time, so I agreed to meet her yesterday, but during her shower, she says oh no my period came.

I think in both cases that I got played. Periods do not suddenly come. Girls have a ball park idea of their period calendar, and they also start to get moody and experience discomfort at least a couple of days before their period comes.

Anyways, just wanted to come on here to vent.

[Elvis 2008]

Straw poll. Does anyone believe a beautiful, doe-eyed brunette 5'2 95 lbs 19 year old with a drum-taut body is a virgin? Literally, the girl we all dream of getting into bed. The girl who would have been amongst the hottest girls at your school / college uni.

I don't. And I'm so not after a virgin.

I have been with two virgins. Sexually speaking, it was way below average. Emotionally with one, it was okay. The other felt guilty and later implied she was forced even though I wanted to stop because I could not get in, and she said to keep trying.

So with your virgin question, my answer is, I guess it is possible but if were my gal, I would hope not.

[J Janni]

Seeing a girl next week. 28 year old single mother, a little plain but has bumped herself way up with the quality of our banter together and the tastefully sexy pictures she's sent at just the right moment in conversations.

Simple coffee & a walk date. Definitely no hint of it being more than a 'meet and greet' due to timings and circumstances surrounding childcare. If nothing else, it'll be a good chance to get some experience in chatting up an SA girl.

Kinda' like the girl and she's right on my doorstep, so a convenient prospect. Would my fellow Brit SD's contribute something towards said childcare (babysitter) in this scenario? And what's the classy way to go about it?

No financials have been discussed.

[NeilGeorge]

Recently I have come across (no pun intended) a couple ladies with smelly butt odor, and also smelly pussy odor, especially when performing doggie position sex. Other than cutting them loose, is there a good way to get corrective action and get this cleaned up? I do not want to be rude, but some of these women need to bathe. Showering does not cleanse the butt hole or the pussy hole from the smell. Should I tell them that and risk a confrontation? They may say, well your penis smells too. Urine smell or urine drip and she does not want to perform felatio.

[J Janni]

Straw poll. Does anyone believe a beautiful, doe-eyed brunette 5'2 95 lbs 19 year old with a drum-taut body is a virgin? Literally, the girl we all dream of getting into bed. The girl who would have been amongst the hottest girls at your school / college uni.

I don't. And I'm so not after a virgin.

[J Janni]

Think you are after exactly what is my sweet spot girl who wants to be treated nice and will fuck you if things go well at dinner. I've even had three that balked at the room but managed to fuck two out of three. LOL. (And 28 that went to room smoothly). And yeah agree. Want to undress slowly. A little seduction it's all part of it.

I'the suggest you go to a nice dinner. You drink a lot. You laugh a lot. Next you know she's your girlfriend for the night. Try to go to hotel that night while you have momentum. Don't let it sag over to a second date.

For these girls you can't talk sex and cip and all that. You going to treat them like a date during the SA pickup. Same as you would a girl in a bar. And you will find the right type.

I think you may be right. In fact I'm almost certain you are. I am chatting to some girls like that. The 18/19/20 year old stunners you need to go softly-softly with and would run a mile at explicit sex talk early on. Sorting out the logistics of meeting with a couple of very gorgeous girls. And actually, one 28 year old single mum who I've been having great banter and conversations with, who keeps surprising me with very tastefully sexy pics at just the right moment. Not as pretty or nubile as the ideal, but her personality and ability to turn me on bumps her way up.

HOWEVER. I do have a couple of girls I'm very interested in who are agreeing to BBFSCIP if things go well over a coffee, who are almost as attractive as the Tier 1 girls. If they don't suddenly turn into content sellers or deposit / transport scammers (which I think is highly likely) or complete flakes (highly likely), I'd like to explore it.

I think more than likely I'll end up chasing your sweet spot and have to expend some time, effort and money without guaranteed results.

[Steve 9696]

Met 29 year old leggy single mum today. She matched her pictures (and the videocall duh) so it wasn't a bait and switch. Coining a new phrase, 'getting escorted' - when an SB turns out to actually just be an escort. Some redflags I overlooked wilfully as she was the most convenient girl (close, took my first offer, could meet almost immediately, could host. Which are mostly all redflags themselves) such as wanting to communicate on Kik rather than Whatsapp. With the benefit of hindsight, it was all obvious.

I think she does her business on Seeking exclusively. I can't find a profile in the area that matches her even slightly anywhere else.

Got her place, knocked on the door. And she answered in a dressing gown with just underwear underneath and I immediately knew she was an escort. She took my initial pause as shyness. When really it was an internal debate between my brain 'this isn't what you wanted from SA' and my dick 'you're here, she's hot, why not?

Inside, sit on the couch, cup of tea, perfunctory chat about bollocks where she threw up more redflags to her escorty nature, mostly financial. After maybe 5-10 minutes, at her suggestion, 'Shall we go upstairs?' (and asked for the money. I hadn't immediately handed it over as I was still mentally debating leaving).

Handed it over and went upstairs. Typical escort start, light French kissing (did deepen properly when I succeeded in getting her worked up), blowjob, ok sex, breather, ok sex. Nothing to write home about. Got stage managed out in a way that was far too slick, parted after spending about 2. 5 hours there. I've paid more for far less time with a less attractive girl, so I'm not all cut up about the experience.

Just not what I was looking for on SA. That 'seducing' feeling of the slow escalation of a non-P4 p sexual encounter. If I'm cheeky enough to send her a post match review, I'll suggest she actually wears clothes next time, allows the guy to make the first move and start activities on the couch rather than the change of venue before we've even touched.

I've cancelled with the girl for tomorrow. I suspect it would be more of the same (though as we're meeting at a hotel, at least she'd wear clothes. Am I alone in thinking the slow undressing is a great part of the experience? Hate turning up to see an escort and having her meet me the typical lingerie, stockings and heels.).

Going to try one of the girls a level up who've agreed on a 'coffee / drink, chat and if we're comfortable, to a hotel' to see if that offers the experience I'm looking for. If that's a bust, I might actually have to try one of the girls who won't fuck on the first date.

Think you are after exactly what is my sweet spot girl who wants to be treated nice and will fuck you if things go well at dinner. I've even had three that balked at the room but managed to fuck two out of three. LOL. (And 28 that went to room smoothly). And yeah agree. Want to undress slowly. A little seduction it's all part of it.

I'the suggest you go to a nice dinner. You drink a lot. You laugh a lot. Next you know she's your girlfriend for the night. Try to go to hotel that night while you have momentum. Don't let it sag over to a second date.

For these girls you can't talk sex and cip and all that. You going to treat them like a date during the SA pickup. Same as you would a girl in a bar. And you will find the right type.

Still congrats on ur first closure. Two rounds and 2.5 hours beats an hourly girl. Even if it felt a bit escortish. There are worse things. But U can def find the right girl if u take the right approach.

[Ruch888]

All this back and forth got me pretty damn horny, so on the theory that a pussy in hand is worth two in the Bush as girls are flakey.

Got a date lined up for tomorrow. Tall, slim, pretty brunette. 29. It's 150 ppm but unlike the other girl, she can host so it keeps the cost down. Depends on how it goes, I might pie off the Sunday date.

For anyone contemplating looking into SBs in the UK and concerned about the hotel thing, there's a couple of websites dayrooms.com and dayuse. Co. Uk. You can book a hotel room in the day all over the country. Nothing to pay upfront, occupy from 10 am - 5 pm, cancel by up to mid-day on the day of the booking and pay no fee (not sure how they'd collect a fee if you cancelled after / no showed as they don't have my card details. Maybe just blacklist you if you don't pay). 50% cheaper than overnight rate. My experience so far with SA is it definitely doesn't need to be the trips abroad, fine dining and expensive hotels it might first appear to be.

Even the teen stunners I've floated the idea with seem happy to PPM and straight to a hotel during the day. Whether they'd flake or not remains to be seen.

Thanks for the recommendation I'm in the UK now going to use this site for my sugar dates. What is the average Ppm you're doing? I see 150 £ for the mum I guess? The averages I'm getting are 400-600 for some good ones. Is it because I'm not local and the babes feel that they can take advantage of me being a foreigner? Or is that the standard In London.