Seeking Arrangements

[CarloRogue]

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[Midwestern]

Steve, you made a comment a couple of weeks ago that really hit home for me. You said something like you don't like to fly too close to the flame because it can be depressing to get close to their real lives. Maybe you are getting too close with Kayla?

I recently saw an ex SB from a couple of years ago. Today, we met for sex and lunch. The sex was great, but a part of me was not into it, and that's because I know her life very well, and it is mostly a sad and tough life. So even though she was in a good mood, I was sad when I was with her.

It goes the other way around too. I used to have a great SB GF that lasted for almost 10 years. But for some stupid reason, I recently started to tell her about my life, especially some difficult aspects to it. And now, she knows me very well. And so, the last time that I saw her, the sex was not amazing nor magical. It was much better when we just treated each other like fuck toys and objects.

Knowing that there's a real person underneath their flesh somehow kills the thrill for me. I thought by knowing each other, it would make the sex more magical and more loving, but man, I was totally wrong.

And it is not just about sex gettting stale with the same person. I now realize that if I barely know the person, then I can fuck her for years. But once I get to know them, I lose interest fast.

Man, I am being so philosophical today, LOL.

Overall Kayla and I had a spectacular few days and great period sex (never done a lot of that not as messy as I expected). And honestly for being on her period she was pretty fun. But one night she was pretty bitchy. Dinner went great but after that we got lost for a long time and lost our buzzes and things just kinda sucked the rest of the night. You could tell she was in a bad mood and little I could do about it.

We ended up packing it in without even having sex! What? Yeah I could just tell it wouldn't be good given her mood. She apologized the next morning and we had some great sober brunch sex. But it made me think about the two ends of spectrum here. No I am not being escorted but I am at the far end of the spectrum now with Kayla where not every day is a good day and I have to play a bit of supportive boyfriend. I got girlfriended! LOL.

Totally worth it but there is a certain appeal to those one and two night stands where you avoid getting too familiar or comfortable.

[KingOfPoverty]

I just got back from Cartagena and I tried out SA for the first time in that city. Sure the P4 P is more prominent there, but having used SA for the better part of a year it is my preferred way to meet girls who provide a satisfying GFE. I've tried straightforward P4P and these encounters are not as satisfying and rarely ever get me in the mood. One amazing session per day that hits all my emotional triggers beats out several sessions with clock-watchers for me. I'm impressed some of you guys have multiple sessions in a day, even with the best sugar babies I can only have two sessions. Mongering in the US is not an option since I have a lot to lose so all my adventures are in locations where the scene is legal. Since I can only make about 3 week-long trips a year, I do my best to reconnect with past contacts when I make a return.

For my Cartagena excursion I used my typical campaign by messaging three weeks preceding the trip to screen for good company and ultimately connected with two amazing girls in their early 20's who agreed to stay with me 2 days each for less than $100 a day. Essentially the time was ecstasy since we dined, toured the city, and had amazing BBFS whenever we made it back to the hotel room. They still text me and want me to return, but schedule wise it is not feasible for at least another 6 months. I had somewhat similar luck in Tijuana, but not to the same GFE or attentiveness as in Cartagena so I extrapolate different cities offer different SA experiences.

Although Tijuana is more practical for my tight schedule, I will make sure to save Colombia for longer vacations since the experience was so life affirming. Do you veterans have any suggestions about other destinations that could replicate my time in Cartagena? I would love to find girls who I can wife up for a couple days and have the time of my life. Been trying to do this in Mexico but it seems only a few of the girls I've met do overnights. I have been contemplating trying this out in Medellin, Bogota, Lima, or Guadalajara to start. Focus is in Latin America since I can speak above average Spanish and I like the attractions there. Since I only make 3 trips a year I try to keep the budget at $4-5 k for all trip expenses so I assume money will not be a barrier for any suggested destinations.

[Steve 9696]

So on the transactional end of the spectrum Janni got "escorted" and on the far end I got "girlfriended" one night. And I don't mean in the good sense. Overall Kayla and I had a spectacular few days and great period sex (never done a lot of that not as messy as I expected). And honestly for being on her period she was pretty fun. But one night she was pretty bitchy. Dinner went great but after that we got lost for a long time and lost our buzzes and things just kinda sucked the rest of the night. You could tell she was in a bad mood and little I could do about it.

We ended up packing it in without even having sex! What? Yeah I could just tell it wouldn't be good given her mood. She apologized the next morning and we had some great sober brunch sex. But it made me think about the two ends of spectrum here. No I am not being escorted but I am at the far end of the spectrum now with Kayla where not every day is a good day and I have to play a bit of supportive boyfriend. I got girlfriended! LOL.

Totally worth it but there is a certain appeal to those one and two night stands where you avoid getting too familiar or comfortable.

Ps I had previously declared her body a ten and I am sticking with it. Shes never satisfied and has been toning her abs further. Omg her body is just perfect. I am not a huge fan of cowgirl but it is absolutely breathtaking to watch her ride.

[J Janni]

So, just about to ban myself from SA for a while with my plans for this week sorted (shit is addictive, spending all day getting girls chatting you up.) I get a message from a nearby girl, again, not great pictures. Just blurry, don't show much. Profile claims 19 and 5'0. Take the conversation to Whatsapp. Get sent some pictures and videos. Black hair, sultry brown eyes, olive skin. Tight as a drum all over. She looks Bulgarian / Romanian. Literally stunning. Confirmed with a quick videocall she's actually the girl in the pictures and is English.

She's less than an hour away. I have a meet set with her on Wednesday, at a cheap hotel (her suggestion.) £100 for a 'couple of hours' and BBFSCIP. She's too lovely, it's too cheap and it was too easy.

It's definitely my project for the week, my 'punt' (in both senses of the word.) I'm 90% sure I'll get a flake, transport scam, whatever.

But maybe. Just maybe, lightning will strike twice!

[J Janni]

Loved that 'flashback' Steve. Definitely an SA experience I'd love to have. I intend to add SA to my mongering repetoire when I'm in a country where using it 'properly' is a little more within my budget.

Not in London though, so my experiences of SA may be different from my Southern brethren. I'm ideally placed between Liverpool, Manchester and Birmingham. Can get to all three within about an hour. Cities with lots of poor areas and students. So, kind of perfect for me.

I've got two girls I'm currently interested in (well, three technically.) A lapdancer who is offering an oily, full naked lapdance as part of the arrangement. And a profile with two girls (been on there a few months, I think the scammers / sellers get picked up quickly) who are offering a bisexual BBFSCIP threesome.

My kind of trashy girls but certain they're all escorts. To be honest, the way I'm using SA isn't really practical for most unless you've got all the time in the world like I have to deal with the flakes, fake profiles, video sellers etc.

[Steve 9696]

I love Janni's recent coining of the phrase "he got escorted" meaning a WG posing as an SA girl. As he delves into the London scene I thought this FR from early 2020 right before Covid might be a fun read. This is surely the only time I've met a girl at my room and she wasn't an escort. Just wanting to be discrete. LOL. Anyhow a ton of fun in good old London. Enjoy!

London Calling. Chrystal Birthday Surprise.

So even though the pro scene in London is wonderful (see the London chapter for the rest of those adventures), the SA scene seems very solid and I hit a home run recently.

As previously described, I look for girls that have less experience on the site and are more about the experience than high $$. This way you get a "real girl" not a pro. I guess I started working London two weeks back and had some quality engagement. I had probably 6-8 girls who engaged on WhatsApp, which are very strong numbers.

I was taking a very aggressive opening like "I'm going dancing in Soho on Wednesday want to join me?" And the hook rate was much higher than normal. I know from Nanpa, that girls want a strong lead, but also maybe they are tired of endless SA chat and ready to rumble. In any case, I'the say I moved Suspects to Prospects at about 70-80% success rate, which is super high. So I might try this more in the future.

Had several girls signed up but eventually had to put them off when a late-comer I'the written off, suddenly appeared. Wow! Super pretty Viet. And a really nice balanced chat. Each was prepared to walk away at various points and, as we discussed later, this confidence was alluring in both directions. We agreed a couple days in advance to meet up and I kept her warm with texts in the meantime.

It was quite an unusual meetup because she wanted to come straight to my room. But just for talk and wine and then see where it goes. This was odd because she's clearly not an escort even more clear now but she didn't want to be seen in public with a stranger. (Ok legit but unusual and pretty ballsy).

Stranger yet, she is 22 years old, but she turns 23 today -- yes today is her birthday and she chose to spend it in my hotel room! Now, it might seem strange for a 22 year old to spend their birthday with an older man in his hotel room. But I did the exact same thing with Thiffany a year earlier. What are the odds that I would get to spend a 23rd birthday with not one, but two hotties in London? Mind boggling.

So she shows at my door and she is drop dead fucking gorgeous. Her pictures do not do her justice. Skin-tight leather pants, spike heeled boots and a face that melts me. OMFG. So we sit on the edge of the bed (it's a tiny London room) and have some wine and just chat. She is super chatty and has a strong Liverpool accent! It is soooo strange to see it coming out of her Viet mouth! She is adopted so no trace of Asian accent.

Fuck if we didn't kill a whole bottle of Rose and TWO HOURS just chatting. It completely flew by! Obviously she's a chatty girl but I could just look at her face for hours. So I did!

So with that amount of chat, this is going to be one slow buildup still not sure if she is DTF (down to fuck), despite being in my room; but I am enjoying every second. Throughout chatting, I am doing light touch escalation, which comes naturally to me. But there is no obvious break where a kiss makes sense. Fortunately, fate intervenes, in the form of her mother. LOL.

As we are chatting amiably, she gets "the birthday call" from her mom and she takes it without missing a beat. So here I am sitting next to this soon-to-be 23 year old on my bed, hopefully about to fuck, as she chats with her mom two feet away. You CANNOT make this shit up.

Well this turns out to be the perfect opportunity to escalate, which I do without even thinking about it. So being a bit bored as she chats on and on, I start unzipping and taking off one of her leather boots. She offers the other foot as she chats away and I take off the other boot, putting both aside.

As she wraps the call with her mom, she excuses herself to the bathroom. When she comes back, I've moved cross-legged further up the bed and she joins me likewise. And at some point I transition it to laying down side by side, me on my back and her on her front.

We continue to chat, but the mechanics of our position-change now leave only about six inches between our faces. At some point I am inspired and close the gap and kiss her. Pretty light exploratory stuff. She continues chatting on after I break. (did I mention she's chatty?) But at some point SHE'S inspired and leans in and kisses me! Well now I engage and open her mouth for full-on tongue mackin engagement which gets the party started.

I work her onto her back and start grinding on top of her while making out. I love this dominance and it seems to get girls equally worked up. She's got on a halter top with a bra under. Again going very slow, I start massaging her tits through the halter and then work my way down licking and biting her naked midriff and even exploring a bit below her waistband with my tongue. This must be the ticket, because she sits up and pulls off her bra and top.

So I work her fabulous firm be cups quite a bit. She likes squeezing and circles and nipple sucking. I again start on her tummy still not knowing if she is DTF or we are just going to play around on this first date. And I reach up to her waistband and start pulling down her tight leather pants. Well her panties come with, but she pulls her panties back up! I am not sure what to make of this; but I am undeterred and will work around this obstacle!

I start by just lick-sucking in that magical little hollow juncture of thigh and body to the left and right of her panties and she starts to grind. Still unsure if I am going to get a "halt" from her, I slide the panties gently to the side and start softly working her clit. OK now I have her going.

She starts to coo and moan and eventually builds to a substantial O. But I am not done and neither is she, as she quickly starts another build. I tentatively slip a finger inside she's super tight but sopping wet. And some clit and gspot work is on. She is a hot wet mess and feels awesome and man does she love the combo tongue and finger work. She is a complete goner. She has at least 2 more Os. And these are not fake escort Os. This is the real deal with a real girl and this makes SA completely awesome!!

Honestly, I would be satisfied to stop right here. I absolutely love to take a sorta shy real girl and get her worked into some crashing Os. Very much like SA virgin Megan in NYC. It's tough work but someone's got to do it!

So we cuddle side by side a bit as she recovers and she says "So should I suck you now?" God I love these fresh new girls. And the answer is absolutely, baby. So we get my boxers off and down she goes. She's quite good on mouth on shaft, but like many SAs I meet, needs some direction to do more licking and ball sucking. To her credit she dives right in and does a quite epic job.

After a good bit of that (I don't blow my stack because I was with Diva escort, Mermaid, just a few hours before) she comes up for air and we are side by side. Again, believe it or not, I am still questioning if she is DTF or we are going to stop short here. She asks me what I'm thinking and I say I'm thinking I want to do more other stuff (don't know why I am quite so circumspect LOL) and she says you mean have sex? And I say absolutely! So we suit up. Yay!

A lot of girls like to start on top to control first penetration. I'm a pretty thick guy and she is super tight so this would be a good idea. But instead she rolls on her back and we start in mish. I definitely have to go slow and less than full engagement till we get the fit going and then it's slippery slide time! Wow.

We do some great mish and cowgirl fuck she's a fine sight riding high! Doggie with me standing at the edge of the bed. Pretty much everything. I show her the Andy pillow under the butt position and we get her legs up on my shoulders, me on my knees, and wow fuck she likes that. She goes through two more crashing Os. Honestly I think she would fuck forever, but I'm getting pretty tired!

Even though she feels great, the condom isn't going to get it done and we go back to BBBJ which feels heavenly. Nonetheless I prove perilously hard to finish. She soldiers on, which I LOVE and we finish me hand-on-shaft and her on BLS. She's not afraid to dive quite a ways down there and it feels wonderful. Eventually I shoot a hard shot on my stomach. Wow!

So we pillow talk some more what a great girl. And at some point she asks the time she knows I have a dinner thing (actually I'm seeing Hanna. What a horn dog! I say it's coming up 7 and she is like OMG I thought it was like 5 pm! Seriously. She has been so taken with the whirlwind of our adventure that time has flown by and that makes me feel like a million bucks.

Indeed we continue chatting in a naked cuddle for another half hour, spending 4. 5 hours together in the room! And really she only leaves because she knows I have to go. We wrap it up with a parting kiss and agree we MUST spend time together when I am back in London and likely even hit the town a bit now that I'm not a stranger! Wow what a girl!

This brings me to the other great thing about SA. It's a relationship if you are lucky. Yes NSA, but a relationship nonetheless and it continues past the sex. So the following week we chat a little here and there on WhatsApp -- you know, the sexy flirt chat stuff -- and I float the idea of a weekend in Zurich and she is totally down for it. We are literally planning the weekend and the flights. Had Covid not intervened, it might have been the best weekend of my life. Instead, I will have to have that with Alexa in Miami a few months later.

We continue to this day to stay in light touch on WhatsApp. Shes always in an evening dress with champagne nearby. Shes involved in the London fashion scene somehow. Still feel like the luckiest guy in the world to have bedded this goddess and I hope to see her in London or make that Zurich trip some time.

[Steve 9696]

Thanks Janni, in addition to the FR on your adventures, for a new word. Uniquely British no doubt like "bespoke" or "bollocks". Had to lookup "chav". Great word tho very funny that we needed a word for that! Enjoy those chavs buddy!

[J Janni]

Dude so your first SA experience is bareback with a hot spinner! Nice way to get your SA groove on!

Second girl I've met from SA, first that I'd call an actual 'SA' experience.

I think what gave it that intangible 'SA' quality I was looking for was; she was a little nervous at first, she was actually wearing clothes (escorts in the UK hate wearing clothes, see enough, you get sick of the sight of a girl in cheap lingerie answering the door. Much more fun to slowly get her clothes off), the being in control of the progression of events (the other girl was an experienced escort who stage managed everything very slickly). And the indefinite time limit.

Don't get me wrong. She wasn't a nubile, elegant and intelligent student you'd see yourself wine and dining to get into her knickers. Think 'trashy hot' chav teen you'd bend over in a nightclub toilet and you'll get the vibe.

But I am totally into that vibe.

[Steve 9696]

Dude so your first SA experience is bareback with a hot spinner! Nice way to get your SA groove on!

[J Janni]

I'm either at work, or I'm mongering. So there's my work life balance. I can't afford to 'monger' as much as I'd like in the UK unfortunately. There is something to be said for less = more. Coming towards the end of this sex-filled leave period, it isn't as. Exciting as it was at the start. I've probably done what. 50-60 different girls (with lots of repeats) in three different countries since July. I'm enjoying the sex much more in the 'wow this gorgeous girl is letting me do this' than the 'eyes rolling into the back of my head' physical enjoyment at the start.

That being said.

Met an SA girl today. I'd set a date to meet her last week and got cold feet, actually blocked her on SA and deleted our chat on Whatsapp, so lost all the chat history. Pertinent details I recalled were 200 ppm and she was a little cagey on the condom issue ('We'll see. ') Profile was a little sparse, pictures weren't that great and videochat was hurried and hushed in a dark room. Figured I was getting set up for a scam. (Wait till I get to the meet location and am invested, ask to send taxi money, no show, try and sell videos etc). Had more or less forgotten about it until an hour before, when I got a message from her confirming. I was close by, so drove to the city. I've got lots of prospects there, so decided to grab a dayroom and if she no showed, try and get another girl or gasp. An escort.

Communication was good. Five minutes before she was due to arrive, I went down to the second lobby to collect her. Pretty good location in that the place has two entrances on two street levels. One with a reception, one without. Keycard needed to use the lifts. Can book on dayuse rooms with no ID or card details, nothing to pay up front. And signing in at reception, no ID and cash payment accepted. Pretty much a perfect ST hotel I stumbled on.

Anyway, I'm sat in the second lobby and an absolutely tiny, tight (4'10 and 90 lbs') blondie late teens / early twenties spinner walks past me to the lift. Pretty, a few blemishes though. But still very much a teen dream. I almost call out to her but I genuinely figure there's no way in hell I've been that lucky and having blocked her irreversably on SA and deleted her chat on whatsapp, I can't actually remember her name, so what the hell would I call out, "Hey, are you the girl who's going to fuck me?" So I message her instead. "I'm in the lobby. Where are you?" Blondie Spinner's phone bings. YES.

Her profile claims 19, student, height was wrong. If she isn't 19, she fooled me. I was expecting a girl of 5'4 from her profile. But as I've said before, surprise spinner is a winner! Awkward chat in the lift on the way up, just the usual bullshit.

In the room, she's straight away to stripping off. She turned up fresh, but wearing the typical student lounging around attire of sweatpants, tanktop, big hoody. I'm kind of into it, so I stop her. Snog by the bed for a while, before she asks me to sit down as she's on her tippy toes to reach me! More snogging, getting my hands all over that tight little body. Spin her around, push her down over the bed and skim her sweatpants and tiny little pink thong down. (She later revealed she has to shop in the kid's section) She's got a few tattoos on her legs, but I'm into it.

Pretty, perfect and smooth little pussy and asshole. Seems rude not to so I spend a little time rimming her and fingering her from behind. Throw her down on the bed, get the rest of her clothes off. She isn't shy about kissing me after rimming her, good girl. Kissing, teasing, exploring each other's body. Go down on her and spend an age licking that tiny, tight pussy. Moans start off rather early and fake. But I persevere and she gets much, much wetter, I can feel her clenching inside, feel her stomach muscles flexing and the moans are believable. There's no explosive moment, but when my tongue gets tired and I come up for air and ask 'How close were you?' she swears blind she came twice and says in that sexy Northern accent of hers 'you'se a dream at that. '.

Lie next to her, kissing a little while she plays with my dick. Eventually, she clambers over me and is giving me a handjob while rubbing the head of my dick on her pussy. No mention of condom and clearly it's going to be bareback at this point. Eventually, she settles down on it and I'm heaven. Take advantage of spinner status and throw her around into various positions before ending up back in cowgirl while she rides me and herself to a very convincing orgasm. Top five moments in mongering, cumming inside her. After a while, she slides off and doesn't make the classic rush to the bathroom.

Lie chatting for a while, kissing, idly playing with eachother. Poor maid is definitely not going to enjoy changing that bed. I'm playing with spinner's pussy, coaxing my jizz back out of her. We're chatting idly about SA experiences. It's quite superficial and I'm trying to discover. And still trying to discover. Why, when she's a quality of girl that, with a few decent pics on her SA profile, would be having guys willing to pay her to go on dinner dates with no guarantee of sex, she agreed to meet me, a guy clear on his intention to fuck straight away and not keen on using a condom? Maybe she was horny? Maybe she's not that bright? No idea still. But there's a saying about gift horse's and mouths. She did say at one point, "I don't know about youse, but I fuckin' love sex me. ".

Eventually, I'm getting hard again, so she goes down on me with no prompting. Beautiful, slurpy, long blowjob. Spin her around so I can feast on her asshole again and finger her pussy. After a while, I push her down and into position for reverse cowgirl. No messing about with positions again, just reverse cowgirl (she's that tiny, smallest girl I've ever been with), I can basically use her as a human fleshlight, lifting her up and down on my dick. Again, another very convincing orgasm from both of us!

Collapse next to me, more chatter and cuddling, playing. While she's gabbing away, I move her into hands and knees position to rim her (I want to remember that asshole for the rest of my life), periodically breaking off to answer or ask a question, I'm hard again, so I slip it into her pussy. Despite my and her best attempts in vigorous doggy and legs up missionary, a third pop isn't forthcoming. But as I tell her and believe. Sex is still fun, even if you don't finish. Eventually collapse into a cuddle, more superficial chat. She's showing no signs of wanting to leave. Eventually, I'm the one to say I've got stuff to do and am grabbing a shower. She does after, a kiss at the door, vague promises of meeting again and she's off after spending about three hours with me. Message her something nice after, get a lovely message back.

Take a quick nap on the non-wet spot side of the bed, give my keycard back to the receptionist who is grinning in such a way that says 'I know exactly what you were up to' and head home.

At the moment, thoroughly satiated, my interest is being piqued only by pussy pastures anew. I've got a coffee date with the girl I've got great banter with and who has a certain 'I don't know what' sexiness about her, lots of other girls keen to meet (one curvy 'proper curvy, not fat but puts curvy' 23 year old who's into anal and is that keen / desperate to meet, she's dropped her asking price 100).

But that'll change by next week. Going to try and abstain (other than the not ending in sex coffee date) for the sake of enjoying it more and my bank balance, but I can pretty much guarantee I'll be trying to see blondie spinner again.

Though on the 'why me' front. Out of curiosity yesterday, I made a blank female account on SA to see what the 'competition' was up to in a 50 mile radius. Other than a couple of very obviously very, very wealthy guys (helictopers, supercars and yacht types) with well put together profiles that all the girls would be competing for, the rest of the profiles were barely literate with a single picture (think overweight, unkempt thinning hair or bald but not shaved, scruffy neckbeard, ratty old fleece with crumbs on it) that wouldn't look out of place under a headline of 'Local nonce jailed for fifteen years. '.

So maybe that answers the question of why me.

[Elvis 2008]

I have been mongering so much this year, fucking about 1-3 times per week on average. My work is suffering big time. I even lost a work gig, and when I reflect on it, it is probably because I spent too much time mongering rather than working. I also have almost no friends now. I used to get invited out for drinks or dinner quite a lot, but whenever I have free time, I use it to monger, and now no one invites me to hang out now.

How about you guys? You guys doing a good job balancing your monger life, work life, and personal life?

I guess my problem is that I treat mongering as my main priority, and I schedule everything else around it.

Honestly, MW, I was just thinking about it the other day. After I got divorced, I shifted from keeping my mongering life separate to telling people about it. For the most part, everyone was cool about it, and it was a relief to have to keep hiding. For the most part, the people in my life just wanted me to be happy.

However, I thought about a few of the women I brought with me and how ill equipped they were to deal with my friends and family and how awkward it was. The invitations trailed off, and my free time was spent mostly with my women. They all were not bad but enough of them were that the invitations started to drop off. Of course, I have been the kind who goes to parties versus staging my own.

But I will say that the time I spend with my women, especially when I went abroad, was more fun than anything I did with my friends. After my 3 some and 4 some adventures, one of my male friends said that he knew our get together with three of my oldest friends would be a letdown. I had a good time, but those adventures and having a whole month to travel the world and monger would probably rank as the second most fun month of my life.

I am not sure what you need in your life. What I realized is that it was not so much sex as fun. Again, sex can be fun but how many times is it, and how many times is it expensive and the woman is a pain in the butt? And when you are fucking too much, it can get old and is hardly any fun at all.

Even though I am with one gal, we have fun, and the sex is still amazing but the pride of conquest and the new is gone which does diminish things sexually I have to admit.

The other day though Nancy texted me, and I know she was looking for money. Even though she is great in bed, I would love to fly her and I down and see Flo in Cancun. Yes, the sex with them was great, but it was the fun that mattered the most. With Flo living down there, she probably knows more great places than ever.

I just wonder if that is what is going on with you. I was sure it was a sex deficit in my life when I strayed when married but it was a fun deficit. My ex was such a buzz kill. If you are really having fun in your monger life or your personal life, I think that is what matters. I just cannot get the concept of working hard and not playing hard too.

[Elvis 2008]

Have you guys ever been in the situation where you are just about to get laid, but then the gal says that she suddenly got her period? Happened to me twice recently. When this happens, do you guys think we are being played?
Anyways, just wanted to come on here to vent.

Depending on the girl, I would often just say so what and go ahead and play. She would get a towel and put it on the bed, and I would wear a condom. As long as you do not mind the site of blood, IMO it is not that big of a deal.

Other thing is that it really is not that big of a deal at day 4 or 5 usually. Thankfully, my gal has an implant and has no periods now.

[Steve 9696]

I have been mongering so much this year, fucking about 1-3 times per week on average. My work is suffering big time. I even lost a work gig, and when I reflect on it, it is probably because I spent too much time mongering rather than working. I also have almost no friends now. I used to get invited out for drinks or dinner quite a lot, but whenever I have free time, I use it to monger, and now no one invites me to hang out now.

I am thinking about cutting back on my mongering. In fact, I did not fuck anyone yesterday and today, and I do not plan on fucking anyone for the rest of this week, and maybe for the rest of this month, so that I can catch up on my work.

How about you guys? You guys doing a good job balancing your monger life, work life, and personal life?

I guess my problem is that I treat mongering as my main priority, and I schedule everything else around it.

Normally I advise to make time for your girls life. For me it's the favorite part of my life at this point so I try to prioritize it. But in your case I'the say yes you have gone too far. I thought I was a bit of a horndog but can't imagine trying to work in 1-3 times a week (ok maybe 1 per week). In fact I saw Liz recently and will see Kayla soon. Uma was pinging me wanting to meet and I just told her I couldn't. I would have had to possibly impact work or make another excuse which would have been awkward. So I had to push her out. I am glad I did because my stress level immediately went to zero.

The good news is what one poster once said holds true. "Less sex less sex. More sex more sex". What he meant was when you are having more sex you are always wanting it. And when you have less it seems less important. I've def found this to be true. I'the suggest trying to cut back to weekly (biweekly seems a stretch) and really try to stick to it. I think the most important benefit will not only be work and home life but your stress level. I think you will be surprised how much that makes a difference.

And surprisingly I think you will adjust to the new schedule and even look forward more to your dates which can be a joy in itself.

[Midwestern]

I have been mongering so much this year, fucking about 1-3 times per week on average. My work is suffering big time. I even lost a work gig, and when I reflect on it, it is probably because I spent too much time mongering rather than working. I also have almost no friends now. I used to get invited out for drinks or dinner quite a lot, but whenever I have free time, I use it to monger, and now no one invites me to hang out now.

I am thinking about cutting back on my mongering. In fact, I did not fuck anyone yesterday and today, and I do not plan on fucking anyone for the rest of this week, and maybe for the rest of this month, so that I can catch up on my work.

How about you guys? You guys doing a good job balancing your monger life, work life, and personal life?

I guess my problem is that I treat mongering as my main priority, and I schedule everything else around it.