Seeking Arrangements

[Ggekko2009]

If things are not going well for you in the USA, try fishing in a different pond. Not only did I get great leads in Mexico, I was talking with some hotties in Canada. That country might be worth looking at more now that the Covid hysteria is down.

I have given up on the US. I have pretty good experiences in Colombia and having a blast with all these college girls now that many of them are on their break. Tempted to check out CDMX next time since there are some positive postings from some members. Canada is interesting. Which cities would you suggest, though I reckon their ppm will not come cheap.

[Elvis 2008]

I keep getting girls from SA who would proclaim that they were either robbed, drained of funds, etc etc at a statistically high frequency. A ploy to try play into your pity with the hope of soliciting help. Yeah right.

In any case, this is the time when I would have my spidey sense up and either ignore them completely or block their sorry ass.

I know that there are times in the USA that I would get so few hits that helping one of these women was something I considered. It is always a bad idea. You may as well flush your money down the toilet. IMO if they ask for money up front, you block them and move on to the next. If things are not going well for you in the USA, try fishing in a different pond. Not only did I get great leads in Mexico, I was talking with some hotties in Canada. That country might be worth looking at more now that the Covid hysteria is down.

[Elvis 2008]

So was in SFO and Sonoma this week and tried SA. Got some decent leads and a few wanted to meet. They made it very clear it was $800-1 K per meet. The lowest was at $500 and she was so DTF. The high priced girls were hot 8. 5-9. 0 but didn't want to chance it.

LOL. Yeah, and I am getting shit in the Colombia forms because I spend $1200 total on my gal in Colombia for a month. And I know my girl is better looking and better in bed then anyone I would meet from the site in California. When I hear a girl is from California, I almost marked her off my list mentally because I assumed the amount she would want would be sky high.

The one good thing about California though is that it is close to Mexico. One other plus in the past was it used to be the capital of desirable porn stars but now like three in four porn stars are fat and asking for $2000. Occasionally you will see a porn star on SA, but I cannot imagine how much they would want now.

[Ggekko2009]

I keep getting girls from SA who would proclaim that they were either robbed, drained of funds, etc etc at a statistically high frequency. A ploy to try play into your pity with the hope of soliciting help. Yeah right.

In any case, this is the time when I would have my spidey sense up and either ignore them completely or block their sorry ass.

[GoingDumb]

IMO it's all about confidence and charisma. When I was in my thirties I looked better but probably had about 25% of the confidence and charisma I have now later in life. And it develops more and more with each date. I think back to my early first 10-20 dates and how I was much more unsure. And while the dates generally went well I couldn't sweep a girl off her feet like I can now. I can think of five dates offhand that would have gone totally differently if the current me was on those dates.

A couple other thoughts. Just let it flow and don't give one fuck about what others think. Like dancing. I used to be intimidated to be at a club with a ton of twenty somethings and dancing with my girl. Thifany changed my life. Now I dance like a madman with no fucks to give and girls love being a part of that confidence. Just go for it and don't look back.

Second I highly recommend Nanpa (Japanese pick up game) to increase your confidence. Just search "Attraction Japan Playbook". I learned so much about how women think and how to flow a date and stuff that now is second nature. And honestly it's not like some set of slick moves where you are tricking a girl or something. It's just adjusting your style in a way that women find very attractive.

Hope this helps some.

P.S. for all: No more OT STD talk please? Let's focus on those amazing SBs!

Thanks, I'll look into nanpa. I'll be in london the next few weeks and have been hitting up girls but it's a lot of work. May just use diva instead since you've recommended so many steve.

[FastMdSter]

So was in SFO and Sonoma this week and tried SA. Got some decent leads and a few wanted to meet. They made it very clear it was $800-1 K per meet. The lowest was at $500 and she was so DTF. The high priced girls were hot 8. 5-9. 0 but didn't want to chance it.

The $500 girl was a 6. 5-7 in real life. I was not attracted to her, but she made me horny with our conversation and drinking. So I brought her back to the room. 2 rounds, CIP both and face fuck between. She wanted to stay the whole night but I asked her to leave after 3 hrs. She was 40 yr, listed at 28, looked 40 in real life. She told me she was recently laid off and divorced, who knows. I believe it, because was intelligent and well dressed.

Didn't have time for more because of work. I think a hot escort would have been better.

[HumbleHal]

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[Steve 9696]

Do you guys think being a younger guy, early 30's, looks mid / late 20's though is harder on SA? I've gotten comments I'm younger, some girls say it's a plus and filter out guys over 45 but I'm not having crazy experiences like you guy are describing.

IMO it's all about confidence and charisma. When I was in my thirties I looked better but probably had about 25% of the confidence and charisma I have now later in life. And it develops more and more with each date. I think back to my early first 10-20 dates and how I was much more unsure. And while the dates generally went well I couldn't sweep a girl off her feet like I can now. I can think of five dates offhand that would have gone totally differently if the current me was on those dates.

A couple other thoughts. Just let it flow and don't give one fuck about what others think. Like dancing. I used to be intimidated to be at a club with a ton of twenty somethings and dancing with my girl. Thifany changed my life. Now I dance like a madman with no fucks to give and girls love being a part of that confidence. Just go for it and don't look back.

Second I highly recommend Nanpa (Japanese pick up game) to increase your confidence. Just search "Attraction Japan Playbook". I learned so much about how women think and how to flow a date and stuff that now is second nature. And honestly it's not like some set of slick moves where you are tricking a girl or something. It's just adjusting your style in a way that women find very attractive.

Hope this helps some.

P.S. for all: No more OT STD talk please? Let's focus on those amazing SBs!

[Alex7J]

It's funny because I thought once I had a set of girls in the various cities I visit I'the be super happy. But here I am with girls in at least 6 cities where I can meetup on a moments notice and it will be comfortable amazing girlfriend sex. But it's killed my daily life!

I used to spend a few hours a day researching and chatting up hotties. Now I am totally smitten with my home girl. No local research needed. And literally everywhere I might go at the moment also sown up. Even my upcoming trip I wasn't so thrilled with the selection and flying Sylvia in. But that's killed the daily browsing!

It's funny. I guess a guy is never satisfied. But I find myself a bit bored having a girl in every port. LOL.

We are Hunters mate: never stop hunting and meet the regulars only once a month maximum. Will keep them on the edge to meet you and be with you, see the passion they have.

New pussy is always interesting and intriguing so never stop that Quest.

Cheers.

Peace.

Disfruta.

I Miss the Chicas in Latin America: wish I come back:

Ciao.

[GoingDumb]

One thing I haven't seen mentioned is PreP, the pre exposure prophylactic. If I knew I was going to bb different women I'the get on it to reduce the risk of catching HIV. I'm pretty sure it's the same drugs they put HIV positive people on to keep the virus levels low enough where it's undetectable. You have to take it every day but small cost for some peace of mind. I took PeP, the post exposure drugs, for a month after bb'ing an escort. That freaked me out pretty good so I got the drugs just to put my mind at ease.

I've only bb one girl from SA out of 8. I was a little worried after about HIV but got a test 6 weeks later and was neg. I was more worried that she lied about the pill since she let me cip.

There were 2 others that offered but one had a drug habit and one looked pretty trashy so I put the rubber on. I try to do at least a urine test once a month for chlyamidia and gonorrhea.

Do you guys think being a younger guy, early 30's, looks mid / late 20's though is harder on SA? I've gotten comments I'm younger, some girls say it's a plus and filter out guys over 45 but I'm not having crazy experiences like you guy are describing.

[Mongerer88]

HIV cannot be transmitted thru unbroken skin. That pores stuff is utter nonsense. Look it up.

I agree with you on the pores. The end of of penis is a mucous membrane and if vaginal fluid is allowed to seep into the mucous membrane for a long enough time, transmission can occur. This is why most heterosexual transmission to men occur among married men having unprotected sex with a wife. They often roll over and go to sleep. Any washing of the penis within a reasonable period of time eliminates the risk, which modt Johns and Sugar Daddies do. Countries with relatively higher circumcising rates and more frequent showering have lower HIV rates among heterosexual married men. The seeping in period reportedly takes a long time for a penis, much longer than the vagina or the anus.

[Akibono]

HIV cannot be transmitted thru unbroken skin. That pores stuff is utter nonsense. Look it up.

That cannot be said for anything oral since gums can bleed. But saliva and stomach acid do protect against the virus.

[Steve 9696]

It's funny because I thought once I had a set of girls in the various cities I visit I'the be super happy. But here I am with girls in at least 6 cities where I can meetup on a moments notice and it will be comfortable amazing girlfriend sex. But it's killed my daily life!

I used to spend a few hours a day researching and chatting up hotties. Now I am totally smitten with my home girl. No local research needed. And literally everywhere I might go at the moment also sown up. Even my upcoming trip I wasn't so thrilled with the selection and flying Sylvia in. But that's killed the daily browsing!

It's funny. I guess a guy is never satisfied. But I find myself a bit bored having a girl in every port. LOL.

[Gfefan]

He might have a point, Steve. We all have an aperture.

If cum can go out, virus can get in.

Just a thought. Not trying to argue here as none of us are doctors.

HIV cannot be transmitted thru unbroken skin. That pores stuff is utter nonsense. Look it up.

[AmericanPi]

Everyone has his own strategy. But I can't imagine not talking about what my expectations are before the meet up. I would not want to waste my time. You see how many girls on SA say they aren't looking for intimacy, or not right away? Hell naw. I say right up front that my expectation is dinner and a few hours at my place after. I think it's clear I don't mean Netflix. I've never once regretted being direct. It's always paid off. Even when the girl says she's looking for something else, great thanks for not wasting either of our time.

To that other dude who showed up to the girl who was 6 months pregnant, damn dawg. Sorry. That's bad on her. Not sure how she thought that was going to play out but whatever she thought she was dumb. Unless a dude had a pregnant chick fetish. Which I just do not understand and cannot relate to.

I've had some good success with seeking here in my home town in the past few weeks. Usually when I've joined seeking I send messages to everyone vaguely suitable in my area. This time I have sent limited messages just enough to have a good number of meet and greets and hookups. I have a few potentials on the hook and that is going well.

I got busy with a few girls and lost some focus on a few girls that seem nice. Conversation was good, we both just lost the connection. I got busy getting a morning BJ from my breakfast meet and greet. The other SB potentials are probably busy with my competing SDs.

Also to summarize a couple of good strategies that are working:

When she asks, what's on offer, PPM etc. Taking it off seeking to WhatsApp, and then not discussing until the meet and greet.

When she asks what Am I expected in an arrangement?. Turning it around and saying, its more polite if I ask you what you are expecting. I don't comment on it, then get them for a meet and greet.

What is a good come back line to re-open my stalled conversations? A way to let them know to message me when they have stopped fucking the other SDs.