Seeking Arrangements

[The Cane]

You're probably right. Girls prob spend 2 seconds looking at our profile and deciding whether they like the look, height, age, etc and then respond. Why would I assume they're any less superficial than I am?

I have met so many women over the years who claim women don't care about looks, and they're totally full of shit. Women can be, and usually are, just as superficial as men are. If a man cares about looks 95% of the time, then a woman cares about looks at least 90% of the time. And as far as I'm concerned, that's a difference that makes no difference! Women are superficial and care about looks, especially with women's lib and their newfound freedoms and independence, and don't let them snow you into believing anything else in an effort to make themselves appear not superficial, and therefore "better" than men. [Deleted by Admin]

[Voodoo Jones]

Totally fair point.

That's kinda like saying I like girls who are interesting and sensual and feminine and all of that. But it's BS. I'm looking for a cute face and hot body and no level of written perfection in a girls profile will supersede whether I'the bang her right now.

You're probably right. Girls prob spend 2 seconds looking at our profile and deciding whether they like the look, height, age, etc and then respond. Why would I assume they're any less superficial than I am?

I do agree with your points about showing them you can pony up and looking better than the average guy on the site. This go around my main picture is of me at a famous location with my back towards the camera. I used this last time too, but it wasn't my main one and it's definitely giving me better results. My other public picture is a closer shot of my body (face still obscured) to show I'm in shape and not just another fat gringo.

As I think about it I guess I dont view SA as transactional when u get it right. It may sound weird but Id say I am in some sort of relationship with 3 of the 8 and care about the other 5 in some relatively deep way. Ive given branding and e-commerce advice to two of them. Loaned money (and paid back!) twice to one (dont make a habit) and given more boyfriend/ family advice than I probsbly should. Its a really personal and satisfying part of my life to know these girls and their lives.

This is why I'm back on Seeking: you can find a wider range of women. Of course, you'll find some of the same girls on other sites and pros, but you'll also find normal women with normal jobs. I made an unexpected trip back to Bogota a month after my first visit so I could repeat with some of the women I met. I still text with one and will meet up with her again next year. I paid her nothing when we last saw each other for an entire weekend. I covered the cost of the AirBnB and our daily expenses, but that's to be expected if she's spending 3 days with you.

[Steve 9696]

Totally fair point.

That's kinda like saying I like girls who are interesting and sensual and feminine and all of that. But it's BS. I'm looking for a cute face and hot body and no level of written perfection in a girls profile will supersede whether I'the bang her right now.

You're probably right. Girls prob spend 2 seconds looking at our profile and deciding whether they like the look, height, age, etc and then respond. Why would I assume they're any less superficial than I am?

I guess I look at it differently. I mean they are looking for $$ more than looks but they want someone they won't dread spending time with and vice versa. My experience is if we don't vibe and really chat and "get along" on text then it's not going to work for a date. Girls who just respond with Hey. Yes. No. Ok sounds good. To me these are non starters. Maybe some of these girls would be ok to fuck but dinner would be a real chore. I try to really establish a BF GF vibe. And when it succeeds, man does it deliver. And can last. I've got girls in 8 different cities that I can just drop in on and we will pick up like old lovers. So target rich In fact that next week I'm bringing sand to the beach. LOL.

As I think about it I guess I don’t view SA as transactional when u get it right. It may sound weird but I’d say I am in some sort of “relationship” with 3 of the 8 and care about the other 5 in some relatively deep way. I’ve given branding and e-commerce advice to two of them. Loaned money (and paid back!) twice to one (don’t make a habit) and given more boyfriend/ family advice than I probsbly should. It’s a really personal and satisfying part of my life to know these girls and their lives.

[AmericanPi]

All my opening messages are "hola, como estas" and nearly all of them respond. This is like when women on Tinder complain that men's first message is "hey" but then on Bumble (where women message first), they open every conversation with "hey."

Totally fair point.

That's kinda like saying I like girls who are interesting and sensual and feminine and all of that. But it's BS. I'm looking for a cute face and hot body and no level of written perfection in a girls profile will supersede whether I'the bang her right now.

You're probably right. Girls prob spend 2 seconds looking at our profile and deciding whether they like the look, height, age, etc and then respond. Why would I assume they're any less superficial than I am?

[Voodoo Jones]

Agreed. I have lately taking to asking girls on the first date what it's like on the other side of the app.

Apparently they are inundated with guys messages. I ask how they filter and they filter out guys who do simple messages like what's up, and also guys who show indications they won't pony up (I go for hot girls).

All my opening messages are "hola, como estas" and nearly all of them respond. This is like when women on Tinder complain that men's first message is "hey" but then on Bumble (where women message first), they open every conversation with "hey."

[AmericanPi]

I completely ignore all favorites. Any girl worth her salt is getting assaulted by tons of guys and has no time to browse for partners. And if she did she would surely not choose you. Or me. LOL. Yes. Ignore all. For sure.

Agreed. I have lately taking to asking girls on the first date what it's like on the other side of the app.

Apparently they are inundated with guys messages. I ask how they filter and they filter out guys who do simple messages like what's up, and also guys who show indications they won't pony up (I go for hot girls).

Girls that favorite me I assume are garbage because hot girls have plenty of options on the site. Too many to respond to.

I also learned that girls who don't pay can respond to messages but they just can't initiate. So girls who message you first are honestly probably scammers or pros.

[DramaFree11]

Unfortunately, I have high standards for optics so I'm willing to pay more or put up with more bullshit to meet them. Out of all the pics posted to this forum, only yours pique my interest.

My current thinking is that if Colombia doesn't work out, then my next step is a quick stop in San Jose CR (closer to my preferred timezone but probably too small), and then finally CDMX where I suspect that while the hot women will be much more expensive, at least they'll behave in a civilized way and there'll be enough selection that I don't get bored.

I'm in Cartagena now and the pickings on SA are slim. Medellin seems much better and I've made a number of contacts there, but those appear to be at best acceptable as opposed to exceptional. I hope that by focusing on age 25+ girls this time around they'll be more mature, punctual and communicative than the early 20's kids I experienced in my last trip there.

Move on to Mxico. So much better and less bull shit then Colombia. Especially if you have a decent budget you will love it.

The only reason to go to Colombia is if you are into Fake Asses or you are cheap. If you have any standards, you will probably hate Colombia and all the be. S. That comes with it. Sorry Elvis.

I am on the plane as we speak, leaving MTY on the way to CDMX.

[TedFerguson]

If Colombia does not work out for you, Ted, and I hope it does, then I would do Santa Cruz next and Lima after that. Sad to say, but the fuckery in Colombia is only a shade below Argentina but you will not find it in Peru or Bolivia.

Unfortunately, I have high standards for optics so I'm willing to pay more or put up with more bullshit to meet them. Out of all the pics posted to this forum, only yours pique my interest.

My current thinking is that if Colombia doesn't work out, then my next step is a quick stop in San Jose CR (closer to my preferred timezone but probably too small), and then finally CDMX where I suspect that while the hot women will be much more expensive, at least they'll behave in a civilized way and there'll be enough selection that I don't get bored.

I'm in Cartagena now and the pickings on SA are slim. Medellin seems much better and I've made a number of contacts there, but those appear to be at best acceptable as opposed to exceptional. I hope that by focusing on age 25+ girls this time around they'll be more mature, punctual and communicative than the early 20's kids I experienced in my last trip there.

[Voodoo Jones]

So this one Medellin woman favorited me and I messaged her. She asked "what are you willing to offer?" and because I know never to discuss money on the site, I gave her my normal response of "mutual benefits and let's meet to see if we like each other". Now I probably messed up my usual wording because she assumed I just wanted to have a dinner date without going back to my hotel. Again, I watch what I say so I don't get banned and my usual responses have worked. They know what I really mean and we talk specifics after I get her number. But this one had the audacity to ask for 200 K just for dinner to "make sure it's worth her time".

The fact that she listed an amount on the site gives me another reason to not even reply. I could ask for her number and try to clear things up, but she's already fucked things up.

Otherwise, things are going well on the site and I'm getting more results than in Bogota. I only met up with 3 Seeking women in Bogota (didn't want to over schedule, which I now know was a mistake), but they were all great experiences. One of them I saw 6 different days over 2 trips and we still text time to time.

[The Cane]

I may be wrong, but it doesn't count as a profile view if the person doesn't actually go to the full page profile. They can still browse your pics in preview mode (when your profile is like a pop up on top of the browsing page). I don't show my face, but my main pic is me standing in front of a famous monument and I've gotten favorites without them viewing my profile.

But I don't have a public picture. Making it all the more reason why I feel I should ignore anyone who favorites me without even looking at my full profile. They're just "speed favoriting" trying to suck in and scam a sucker.

[CarloRogue]

I would probably say my seeking experience in both Manila and Angeles were both duds. So, I would not recommend using it in Philippines.

Manila: The girls are demanding too much in relation to where the values are. Most are asking for 10 to 15 K. Approx USD 200 to USD 300. Thanks but not thanks for this amount in this city. Maybe in European cities but not here. Plus you will never know what you are getting, kind of like a box of chocolates per Gump. If anything, verify your goods with a videochat, always.

Angeles: The pool in itself is small and given the alternatives of large pool of bar girls, it is not even worth the time to look up for one in this city. Bar fine a few girls from the selection of bars and bring them to the Aqua club, and you would suddenly have a pool party atmosphere.

For a counterpoint, I did quite well with SA in the Philippines. As anywhere else, if you only pursue the 9's and 10's (and there are some stunners on there), you have to be aware that they already know their worth and are pursued accordingly. I met several sweet young ladies there, more of the GND type, but they can be just as fun (sometimes more so) and usually more down to earth. Now I also can't resist taking a few shots at the dime-pieces, but I keep my expectations low (I did, and minimized the time wasted).

[Voodoo Jones]

Steve,

What is your view on "women" favoriting your profile without ever having looked at it a single time (I say "women" because you never know, especially unless and until you meet or do a virtual Zoom session or something)? I mean, ordinarily the site will tell you if and when somebody looked at your profile, and the last time when they did so. Sure sign of a fake or no? A red flag at least?

I may be wrong, but it doesn't count as a profile view if the person doesn't actually go to the full page profile. They can still browse your pics in preview mode (when your profile is like a pop up on top of the browsing page). I don't show my face, but my main pic is me standing in front of a famous monument and I've gotten favorites without them viewing my profile.

[Elvis 2008]

Nearly all of the girls I met had this expectation that I would be some kind of weirdo sexual predator and upon seeing that wasn't the case, immediately switched into "how can I milk this situation to my maximum benefit" mode. There's a lack of anything but superficial warmth that makes Buenos Aires unsuitable for my idea of sugar dating relationship. However, if you're comfortable treating these girls with fake politeness masking the same mercenary behavior they exhibit, you might be happy here.

LOL. Good one, Ted. I wonder if you would have had better luck with some of the Paraguayans in BA.

I felt like Venezuelans had much the same attitude. Here you had two countries that were previously rich and then became poor through political management, and there was this like no negative attitude towards stealing / scamming. Thing is unlike Venezuela, Argentina has one of the greatest oil finds in the world AND great agricultural land. They should be rolling in dough but you just know that somehow the country will stay poor while some president puts billions away in some Swiss bank account just like Chavez did.

For what it is worth, I did not find that attitude in Peru or Paraguay. The best looking Paraguayans I saw were in Bolivia, and I heard a lot moved to Chile. I doubt Chile has that scammer attitude of Argentina / Venezuela though I have not been there.

The two great civilizations of Latin America were in Mexico and Peru, and the Peruvian women like the Mexican ones are great in the world of art and in the kitchen. And while they do typically max out at a 7 looks wise, I remember having one who was an 8 in a massage parlor there and a 9 in a strip club. They could have been Colombian women. I did not ask.

Still, you are not going to have that degree of fuckery in Peru. The women in Peru are sweet, very sexual, and talented. They just do not look that good. LOL. Mr. Enternational famously does not really pay much heed to looks and that is why Peru may be his favorite country. The only other caveat is that prices on hotels and food in Peru are more in line with the USA than Mexico or Colombia.

So Ted, if you are willing to sacrifice a little looks wise, Lima, Peru is an interesting place. Thing is the temperature is moderate but there is a lot of fog and not much sun.

I had a Paraguayan SB in the USA whose pic is below and besides her near perfect figure, she was horny as fuck. Santa Cruz, Bolivia has about the same climate as Medellin, but the people in Bolivia are much nicer. There are a few strip clubs there and there were several Paraguyan women I met with figures similar to my sugar baby.

So I go to a strip club and find one with a figure like this and pull her to my place for a few hours. We are in the cab, and I usually can get a feel for a woman by how horny she is in the cab. Well, this gal grabs me by the neck launches her tongue down my throat and with the other hand grabs my hand and forces me to play with her pussy.

We go at it twice in two hours in my hotel and I am beat. I can still remember that tight, tight ass and her screaming while I grabbed her hair and banged her from behind. I missed the read on this on though. She would have stayed and fucked me all day long had I invited her to, and I could have had her bare. Oh well.

The nicest hotel was actually a condo complex called Buganvillas. One of the things I noticed in Colombia with sugar baby prospects is how much more willing they are to hang out if you have a nice hotel. My favorite was the Marriott in Bogota with its great restaurants, indoor pool, great gym, and nice bar. Buganvillas was like that. The gal would have stayed just for the pool and bar.

And the food is fantastic. You can grow anything in Santa Cruz, and the steak I had there was the best I have had in all of South America.

If Colombia does not work out for you, Ted, and I hope it does, then I would do Santa Cruz next and Lima after that. Sad to say, but the fuckery in Colombia is only a shade below Argentina but you will not find it in Peru or Bolivia.

[The Cane]

I completely ignore all favorites. Any girl worth her salt is getting assaulted by tons of guys and has no time to browse for partners. And if she did she would surely not choose you. Or me. LOL. Yes. Ignore all. For sure.

Well now that I think about it, with the one smashing success I had, she was getting slammed by contacts and was almost ready to quit the site. She didn't favorite me until after we started talking. Hmmm. Just thinking of strategies for how to make it better if and when I decide to try it again. I mean some tactics are easy. If a girl tries to tell me she's from my town, but I can see that the last time "she" was on she was coming from Morocco (and she's too stupid to use the site tools to hide her location), then that's an automatic block. I guess I'm trying to come up with a set of rules I feel confident with in order to decide relatively quickly who should be blocked immediately without question. Blocking somebody who favorited me without even looking at my profile seems to be a good one. Was just wondering if you had seen that, and how you handled. You have a lot of experience with SA, and I always appreciate your input and perspectives on it.

[Steve 9696]

Steve,

What is your view on "women" favoriting your profile without ever having looked at it a single time (I say "women" because you never know, especially unless and until you meet or do a virtual Zoom session or something)? I mean, ordinarily the site will tell you if and when somebody looked at your profile, and the last time when they did so. Sure sign of a fake or no? A red flag at least?

I completely ignore all favorites. Any girl worth her salt is getting assaulted by tons of guys and has no time to browse for partners. And if she did she would surely not choose you. Or me. LOL. Yes. Ignore all. For sure.