Seeking Arrangements

[The Cane]

I also think that they are mixed, but why are you guys assuming that the mix is between Black and White? The question they are answering as mixed is ethnicity. There are other ethnicities besides Black and White, American Indian or Alaska Native, Asian, Hispanic or Latino and Native Hawaiian or Other Pacific Islander.

It was AmericanPi who made that faulty assumption. For purposes of replying to his specific post on the matter only, I went with that, but obviously all kinds of "ethnic mix" is possible (and actually is). A broader point I make on it now is that so many of the profile pictures featuring supposedly "mixed" women are of women so white in their appearance that if they were trying to hide or deny something, as AmericanPi suggests, then why not just say they're white / Caucasian then? Because nobody would know any different based on their looks. They could "pass" without being questioned. Seems like I may have stirred up a hornet's nest here, but it was a serious inquiry about a phenomenon I'm seeing on SA. And I mean a lot! If it was like only a few profiles here and there OK. But I'm seeing a hell of a lot of them from women who claim to be living in my metro area (saying they're "mixed" but look like Marilyn Monroe LOL), and I was wondering if anybody else had noticed the same thing and had wondered about it like I have. That's all.

[Houston Player]

Well personally I think they are mixed. To me it's the silliest thing in the world that in the US if you have any black at all you are considered black. What nonsense. If a white guy and a black girl get together and have a kid that kid is mixed! African w N European say. To say they are black is patently silly. We dont do this with any other ethnicity. Why this exception?

I also think that they are mixed, but why are you guys assuming that the mix is between Black and White? The question they are answering as mixed is ethnicity. There are other ethnicities besides Black and White, American Indian or Alaska Native, Asian, Hispanic or Latino and Native Hawaiian or Other Pacific Islander.

[Steve 9696]

I think it may just be a matter of semantics. What really makes a SB a mistress? Does a monthly allowance qualify? In Asian culture, guys with financial means usually tend to keep a mistress. They will pay for the girl's apartment plus monthly allowance, and will visit them when they feel like it. It sounds like the arrangement you currently have right now.

By the way, did your mistress made any request that you stay exclusive with her or maybe she's just okay with you meeting other girls?

Yeah I don't really know the definition. Point was we have moved to a new level in our relationship. Completely new territory for me. Including meeting up and just hanging out, because we can have sex some other day that week (once a week is enough for me on a regular basis). To be clear I don't pay her anything beyond her rent. No extra allowance. Tho I do treat her like a girlfriend like the TV broke and I bought a new one.

At some point I had the don't ask don't tell conversation with her. That I don't expect exclusivity — she has a life after all. But if she sees other guys I don't want to know about it. The presumption is this goes both ways. Don't ask don't tell.

[Ggekko2009]

To start with Shayla is officially my mistress. No more PPM. She's a kept woman. I pay for her place and she is the best girlfriend a guy could ever ask for. Didn't think I'the ever get to this level but 40 Seeking girls later I officially have a mistress.

I think it may just be a matter of semantics. What really makes a SB a mistress? Does a monthly allowance qualify? In Asian culture, guys with financial means usually tend to keep a mistress. They will pay for the girl's apartment plus monthly allowance, and will visit them when they feel like it. It sounds like the arrangement you currently have right now.

By the way, did your mistress made any request that you stay exclusive with her or maybe she's just okay with you meeting other girls?

[Steve 9696]

Let's be politically incorrect for a second.

In my experience, most of the girls who claim to be mixed, are actually black. If I'm being honest I think they mark mixed to not be weeded out by guys who don't dig black chicks so much. But they're clearly black.

I don't need to hear that you yourself love black chicks and the world is a rainbow. Just calling the shots as I see them.

Well personally I think they are mixed. To me it's the silliest thing in the world that in the US if you have any black at all you are considered black. What nonsense. If a white guy and a black girl get together and have a kid that kid is mixed! African w N European say. To say they are black is patently silly. We don’t do this with any other ethnicity. Why this exception?

[The Cane]

Let's be politically incorrect for a second.

In my experience, most of the girls who claim to be mixed, are actually black. If I'm being honest I think they mark mixed to not be weeded out by guys who don't dig black chicks so much. But they're clearly black.

I don't need to hear that you yourself love black chicks and the world is a rainbow. Just calling the shots as I see them.

Did you actually read what I wrote? You certainly didn't comprehend it. I said that there are women marking themselves as "mixed" who look white as rice, and that there are a lot of them with that kind of look doing it, raising my suspicions about those profiles as being fakes (along with other things I have come to view as fraud indicators). There's no way in hell anybody would look at them and view them as being "actually black" as you put it, thus subjecting them to being weeded out by guys who don't like black women. So, my question is why? What is going on here with these profiles? Why are they doing this? As for myself, and for your edification, I'm not sexually attracted to most black (or Asian) women. The Latinas and the white girls are the ones who float my boat. It's why I've paid any attention to these profiles in the first place. The women look "actually white" to me LOL! Here is an example of what I'm talking about. Does she look "actually black" to you? And there are plenty of others indicating "mixed" whose skin is as white as feta cheese! What's the deal? Doesn't pass the smell test. Something fishy going on here. Hmmm?

https://members.seeking.com/member/b...9-6cedbd948d26

[AmericanPi]

Let's be politically incorrect for a second.

In my experience, most of the girls who claim to be mixed, are actually black. If I'm being honest I think they mark mixed to not be weeded out by guys who don't dig black chicks so much. But they're clearly black.

I don't need to hear that you yourself love black chicks and the world is a rainbow. Just calling the shots as I see them.

What's the deal with all of these profiles that I see of allegedly "mixed" women whose pictures are of women who are as white as rice? There are a ton of these types of profiles lately, at least in my corner of the universe. Virtually all of these "mixed race" profiles tend to be very recently established on the site and strike me as being as fake as the assertions of mixed blood being claimed.

[The Cane]

Sorry, Cane I would have to disagree with your post. Steve is looking for a good experience, plus mongering. I do the same. He also like to meet girls more then once if he has a good experience or there is chemistry.

Was said mostly in jest bro. But the fact of the matter is that Steve is far, far more interested in having "relationships" with these girls than most of us here on this site are. Not a criticism. Just the facts. Fact is, most of us mainly just want to fuck. A lot! LOL! Of course, it's obviously a bit different for a higher percentage of the SA users it seems, of which this thread is all about.

[Steve 9696]

Sorry, Cane I would have to disagree with your post. Steve is looking for a good experience, plus mongering. I do the same. He also like to meet girls more then once if he has a good experience or there is chemistry.

Well I do hate the word monger because it's a complete misuse of the word. Monger means to market / sell. And I'm buying not selling! So yeah def not a monger. But I like the term girl enthusiast and I think that describes me well.

Despite being lip locked with Shayla, I've notched 36 other girls this year, some multiple times. And I'm going to up that count by at least 10-15 more before the end of the year.

So yeah. I'm a one woman guy when I'm at home. But on the road? Well I'the say my track record speaks for itself. LOL.

[DramaFree11]

Steve you're not a monger. At least a hardcore one you're not. I've always felt this way about you. A hardcore monger needs to think not once, not twice, but at least thrice about even repeating, let alone keeping a woman! Nope, you're no hardcore monger. You only play one on ISG LOL!

Sorry, Cane I would have to disagree with your post. Steve is looking for a good experience, plus mongering. I do the same. He also like to meet girls more then once if he has a good experience or there is chemistry.

[The Cane]

To start with Shayla is officially my mistress. No more PPM. She's a kept woman. I pay for her place and she is the best girlfriend a guy could ever ask for. Didn't think I'the ever get to this level but 40 Seeking girls later I officially have a mistress. We cooked Italian together at our place and it was soooo fun. Followed by epic sex.

Steve you're not a monger. At least a hardcore one you're not. I've always felt this way about you. A hardcore monger needs to think not once, not twice, but at least thrice about even repeating, let alone keeping a woman! Nope, you're no hardcore monger. You only play one on ISG LOL!

[Steve 9696]

So I wrote more extensive write up but my phone died and it was lost in the ether. Let's try again.

To start with Shayla is officially my mistress. No more PPM. She's a kept woman. I pay for her place and she is the best girlfriend a guy could ever ask for. Didn't think I'the ever get to this level but 40 Seeking girls later I officially have a mistress. 😋 We cooked Italian together at our place and it was soooo fun. Followed by epic sex.

I still can't believe what a horny beast this girl is. I have to get her going by kissing, tits, or pussy rub but 15 seconds later she is on fire and we are lit for epic sex. Last night was particularly excellent. Best of my life actually. Yep. We smoked a couple bowls before which. Never hurts. But we literally went at it non stop and I do mean nonstop for one and a half hours. Five times we swapped between sex in various positions and her BJing for an extended period. Amazing combo of both. And two shots. I didn't think the second was possible. But she did. LOL.

A couple highlights. One. We are kinda in between rounds and face to face and she is just kissing and kissing and kissing me. We have literally been kissing for like a half hour nonstop and she's still making out heavy. She says "god I just love to kiss you". Yes ma'am. I got ya!

Two. Again at a lull. I'm thinking maybe we pack it up. She's on her back vibing herself (we got that out about midway) and she says "can you put it inside me just for a few more minutes. Please? Well of course this leads to another half hour of BJ and fucking. Good lord she's a dynamo. I am in love!

P.S. Thete was this big argument in the Medellin thread. Some guys said chemistry doesn't matter. Sex is sex. And others argued chemistry is key to good sex. My POV is it's like cake and ice cream. Both are independently good to most people. Some like cake better. Some like ice cream together. But for a lot of people the combo is best. And so it is with sex. If you have chemistry and the sex bites well that's not great. If you have sex without chemistry yeah it's prob good if she's good at it even without chemistry. But put the two together great sex technique and great chemistry and voila. Magic.

[AsianPursuits]

SNIP During the drinks, she mentions she has a BF at home and they are in an open relationship. She's a swinger and her dude thinks Seeking is a great idea for her..

I had an initial lunch date with a SB prospect. She had lots going for her. She told me she about her marriage, her kids, her interests and that she's allowed to play. Went parking for a while and trying to get things happening. Nothing felt natural at all. I dropped her back to her home and texted her after thanks but no thanks.

Maybe the swingers' game is different to the SB / SD game.

[The Cane]

What's the deal with all of these profiles that I see of allegedly "mixed" women whose pictures are of women who are as white as rice? There are a ton of these types of profiles lately, at least in my corner of the universe. Virtually all of these "mixed race" profiles tend to be very recently established on the site and strike me as being as fake as the assertions of mixed blood being claimed.

[Steve 9696]

Curious to know if anyone has met SB who has really fallen for you (and maybe you having that same feeling), that she actually tears up when you leave, and she really enjoys the time when you are together. I meant more than just spending one night, but spending the week on a trip etc.

Definitely a few of these. Alexa and I def adore each other. Fallen a bit both ways. But still practical that we are long distance and enjoy it when together. We did initial two nights in Vegas, then I flew her to Miami for a weekend. Then three epic nights back in vegas.

Sarah def had fallen a bit for me. Was in daily text contact. Always wanting to figure how to meet up. To be fair I flew her to the Mediterranean after one weekend together. Hard to not love that. LOL. We are a bit sexually incompatible tho and def winding it down. We did the long weekend, a few days in the Mediterranean, and a night here or there.

And Shayla is def a hard fall in both directions. She wants to see me even tho we are non transactional on payment. She always whines a little (in a nice way) if I can only stay a couple hours rather than 4 or 5. When we've been apart she rushes to me and showers me in kisses. We have def transcended the usual sugar baby genre. We in new territory here. And loving it. We’ve seen each other pretty close to weekly since January. And with a new living arrangement we will see each other more. Prob won’t happen every week but saw her three times this week.