Seeking Arrangements

[NoBuglyFitches]

for those guys who are married, they are terrified about their spouses discovering their dirty little secret, and probably don't want their profiles up a day longer than needed.

Maybe the old profile was blocked or hidden by some hot SBs. Not because you some issue with them -- they simply left-swiped you in favor of other guys. So a new profile gives you a second chance with them.

I also read of Seeking banning or closing down SD profiles that have been active for a few years. Those guys didn't know if they'd accumulated complaints, or Seeking simply decided that this wasn't the kind of user they wanted on their platform. So, maybe it makes sense to delete your account if you won't be using it for a while and then start anew.

My question for FB, which he didn't really answer, was how was he able to view girls' profiles if closed his account. And if keeps some old account open, just for viewing profiles, does he then open a new account and have two open accounts? I thought having more that one account on Seeking was also a violation which could get you banned.

From my perspective, I'd think it way less likely a member who has been on there for 2 years would be running a scam, as opposed to a profile that is 2 days old.

For paid members, there is an option to hide how long you've been there. I suspect it's commonly used so most SD profiles would be age unknown to SBs. But when you stop paying, that info becomes visible again.

And I got a lot of messages from members I was not expecting.

Scammers and rinsers target new SD accounts, watch out for that.

[VanessasClient]

I obviously had an account. My point is I don't keep an account any longer than I'm willing to pay which is generally a month. The answer to your second question is yes but I'll let you figure that out.

Recently was only my 2nd time using Seeking. I'll only use it when I need it, but I would never do that for a specific reason. There are all sorts of verification you can get on Seeking, anywhere from ID verified, to photo verification check. Also, if you get the criminal background check, the icon stays on your profile, but it also tells female members when the check was performed. Then also they have them for social media accounts like Instagram, etc. But maybe more importantly is when your profile was created. "Member since" at least indicates you likely have not engaged in any behavior that someone felt was bad enough that they reported you, and Seeking banned your account. From my perspective, I'd think it way less likely a member who has been on there for 2 years would be running a scam, as opposed to a profile that is 2 days old.

Anyway, I would imagine if you delete your account, getting some of those verification back if you created a "new account", particularly ID verified and some of the others, would be next to impossible. While I certainly didn't conduct business with all the girls I exchanged messages with, I heard back from almost everyone. And I got a lot of messages from members I was not expecting. And that's considering I did not put my net worth or salary at the maximum setting possible on Seeking. And if I was a woman in this business, regardless of whether I was predatory or legit, I probably would be going for the richest guy possible. I certainly could be wrong, but I'm guessing that a significant number of female members on there won't contact new guy's accounts without any verifications, even if they list their annual income as more than a million, and net worth at more than 100 million. If the girl is legit, I doubt she'd want to put her safety at risk on some guy making grandiose claims, but yet won't even make the effort to get some simple verifications. That being said, I'm sure for those guys who are married, they are terrified about their spouses discovering their dirty little secret, and probably don't want their profiles up a day longer than needed.

[AmericanPi]

With all due respect, I don't know her or your relationship so the following is just a general FYI. On SB boards and forums, a story like this is one suggested tactic to get a guy to raise the PPM: tell him about another guy who "stepped up. " And if the guy doesn't volunteer that raise, she takes the off-ramp saying "I didn't like him so I won't see him again." Would she really turn down another thousand dollars plus extras because the 55-yo guy was showing her off to the waitress?

That's so interesting. I was also puzzled that somebody would turn down such a lavish gift just to hang out and bear with a boor. Now it makes sense.

[FilthyBeaver]

I obviously had an account. My point is I don't keep an account any longer than I'm willing to pay which is generally a month. The answer to your second question is yes but I'll let you figure that out.

How did you see her profile if you'd deleted your account? Is it possible to browse seeking profiles without an active (unpaid) account? As in aside, ime seeking profiles with super hot photos are usually fake or scams of some sort

[NoBuglyFitches]

I recently had a 55 year old guy take my SB on a platonic dinner date and paid her 1 K. Apparently, he also filled up her gas tank and gave her a handbag.

I know this because she told me before going on the date and filling me in details after.

With all due respect, I don't know her or your relationship so the following is just a general FYI. On SB boards and forums, a story like this is one suggested tactic to get a guy to raise the PPM: tell him about another guy who "stepped up. " And if the guy doesn't volunteer that raise, she takes the off-ramp saying "I didn't like him so I won't see him again." Would she really turn down another thousand dollars plus extras because the 55-yo guy was showing her off to the waitress?

[NoBuglyFitches]

As a reminder I delete mine once my subscription expires and start anew when the itch needs to be scratched. There was an amazingly gorgeous girl who was the primary reason for my creating that particular account but she wouldn't give me the time of day..

How did you see her profile if you'd deleted your account? Is it possible to browse seeking profiles without an active (unpaid) account? As in aside, ime seeking profiles with super hot photos are usually fake or scams of some sort

[FilthyBeaver]

Met a girl once, never spoke of money. Conversation was interesting enough but I didn't feel a spark. Slipped 300 in her coat while went to the bathroom and basically pecked her on the cheek good night. Couple hours later she thanked me very much and told me to see her again when I'm in town. So much for my ability to read signals.

Yeah right now I scoff at these guys that pay for platonic. I don't know I would ever get there. But I can def visualize myself at 80 w a hot live in girlfriend and we don't ever have serious sex. Just watch her booping around in her bikini. Giving me the doe eyes at dinner. Sweet kisses cuddling and affection. Maybe a BJ a couple times a month. I'the be good. Happy to pay her and keep her happy for that.

[Steve 9696]

Yeah right now I scoff at these guys that pay for platonic. I don't know I would ever get there. But I can def visualize myself at 80 w a hot live in girlfriend and we don't ever have serious sex. Just watch her booping around in her bikini. Giving me the doe eyes at dinner. Sweet kisses cuddling and affection. Maybe a BJ a couple times a month. I'the be good. Happy to pay her and keep her happy for that.

[VanessasClient]

I think our community here is in the dark to a certain extent.

I recently had a 55 year old guy take my SB on a platonic dinner date and paid her 1 K. Apparently, he also filled up her gas tank and gave her a handbag.

I know this because she told me before going on the date and filling me in details after.

I was expecting her to go "So, I think our deal of 300 for non-platonic ppm needs revisited" and I was fully prepared to walk off. Then, she went, "But that guy was disrespectful in how he spoke to me at dinner table. He was also showing me off to the waitress as if I am his trophy. I am glad I have someone like you who treats me with respect even when we have sex. I am not going to see that guy anymore".

I breathed a sigh. This girl has a good head on her shoulders. Keeping her.

Before she left the industry and found a conventional job that pays well (but has horrible work shifts), Ainara used to chat with me about getting elderly clients who "didn't hire her for sex, but just wanted to hang out with a beautiful girl" While she never got into too many details, I got the impression these guys were maybe 70+ or substantially older, and their "man parts" probably no longer functioned, maybe due to prostate cancer or something else that made sex not viable. What she didn't tell me is if these guys paid her the same price to spend time with her, that I paid her for a romp on the bed. I assume so, but I also recall a woman from Hawaii who used to advertise "cocktail rate" which she described as hanging out at a bar for drinks, was 1/4 the price of full service. I never paid the Hawaiian women for either, but I found her advertisement unusual.

That's too bad about Ainara. While she didn't have the most beautiful face in the world, she had wicked sexual technique, a perfect height to weight ratio body, and an ability to connect with me that few women have rivaled, despite English being her second language. Then she goes off to a highly demanding medical job with long hours, right before Covid hits the world, and health care workers start pulling double shifts. Yet I haven't seen any indication that she's made an attempt to return. Oh well, life happens.

[FilthyBeaver]

A reliable, respectable SD is worth a thousand douche bags every day of the week. There isn't a woman on the planet that wants to be treated poorly. Your attitude and personality is #1, reliability is #2, resources is #3, appearance is somewhere below those.

Douche bag guys are about as interesting as fat lipped bimbos with profiles full of pics from some hypocritical Arab country.

I've never insisted on anything exclusive, I've wanted it one or twice but never said it. I want them to meet these loosers so I look that much better and appreciate me more. The fact of the matter is most guys that monger this way have way more game than some rich nerd with no social skills who's had his head buried in a book for30+ yrs. I'll take the chance / make that bet that I'm overall better than some other guy all day long.

I think our community here is in the dark to a certain extent.

I recently had a 55 year old guy take my SB on a platonic dinner date and paid her 1 K. Apparently, he also filled up her gas tank and gave her a handbag.

I know this because she told me before going on the date and filling me in details after.

I was expecting her to go "So, I think our deal of 300 for non-platonic ppm needs revisited" and I was fully prepared to walk off. Then, she went, "But that guy was disrespectful in how he spoke to me at dinner table. He was also showing me off to the waitress as if I am his trophy. I am glad I have someone like you who treats me with respect even when we have sex. I am not going to see that guy anymore".

I breathed a sigh. This girl has a good head on her shoulders. Keeping her.

[DramaFree11]

I think our community here is in the dark to a certain extent.

I recently had a 55 year old guy take my SB on a platonic dinner date and paid her 1 K. Apparently, he also filled up her gas tank and gave her a handbag.

I know this because she told me before going on the date and filling me in details after.

I was expecting her to go "So, I think our deal of 300 for non-platonic ppm needs revisited" and I was fully prepared to walk off. Then, she went, "But that guy was disrespectful in how he spoke to me at dinner table. He was also showing me off to the waitress as if I am his trophy. I am glad I have someone like you who treats me with respect even when we have sex. I am not going to see that guy anymore".

I breathed a sigh. This girl has a good head on her shoulders. Keeping her.

I hear these stories as well. Maybe 5-10% are true, if that. Now, I believe guys promise the world on-line and never deliver. I think this is a bigger issue then the guys that actually spend this kind of money, for no sex.

[Gfefan]

I think our community here is in the dark to a certain extent.

I recently had a 55 year old guy take my SB on a platonic dinner date and paid her 1 K. Apparently, he also filled up her gas tank and gave her a handbag.

I know this because she told me before going on the date and filling me in details after.

I was expecting her to go "So, I think our deal of 300 for non-platonic ppm needs revisited" and I was fully prepared to walk off. Then, she went, "But that guy was disrespectful in how he spoke to me at dinner table. He was also showing me off to the waitress as if I am his trophy. I am glad I have someone like you who treats me with respect even when we have sex. I am not going to see that guy anymore".

I breathed a sigh. This girl has a good head on her shoulders. Keeping her.

Try as I might, I have yet to find this unicorn that is the man willing to pay a girl for a platonic sugar relationship.

I'm not saying they don't exist. They must or these profiles wouldn't exist. Somebody must know somebody who knew somebody who knows somebody who knew somebody who once talked to somebody who had a sugar daddy that did that. But I can't imagine what dude gets into that and how shitty his life must be to even consider it.

[Elvis 2008]

I've stumbled upon the fact that Jakarta seems to be loaded with low priced hotties in clubs like Classic. Like Bangkok used to be. Very active thread here. I hope to sample soon and will report back to my Seeking buds. Let me know if anyone gets there first!

I was not in the game when I was in Jakarta, but when I was in Paraguay, there were so many abundant hot women that promoters would pay them to promote cereals ETC in the grocery store. Can you imagine that in the USA? A hot 16 year old standing in the cereal aisle being paid to just stand there and wear a t-shirt promoting a cereal?

In the USA if you want help at a department store, a lot of times you have to jump on the counter and wave a red flag and yell. Okay, I am exaggerating slightly. Granted it was a while ago, but when I was in Indonesia, there were scores of hot women. If you were in the cologne department at a store, you could not look at anything without being swarmed with offers by beautiful women to help.

Thing is Jakarta's the definition of third world shithole: crowded, hot, humid, and polluted. It was weird traveling from Singapore to Malaysia to Indonesia in that the amount of resources went up but the amount of wealth went down. I mentioned that to an English guy who lived in Asia for decades, and he said, "Yes, but the other thing is the wealth goes down where there are fewer Chinese", and this was right before China blew up.

If I wanted to do mass fucking, I would suck it up and stay in Jakarta. But if I went the sugar baby route, I would find women in Jakarta and fly them to Bali. Still, people think that beautiful spiritual holy island is a wonderful place free of corruption, but as the author of Eat / PrayLove found, scamming in Indonesia and Bali is rampant.

My favorite kind of women are those that can move their hips fast. When I think of those kinds of women, the two places you could always find them were Latin American and Polynesia / Hawaii. Thing is when I was in Bali, they had a group that did a song and dance Hello, and the women moved like the Hawaiians.

Where I have found the best women is often off the beaten trail: Sao Paulo over Rio, Bogota over Medellin, and if I were hunting sugar babies in Asia, my first stop would not be somewhere in Thailand or the Philippines but Indonesia and Jakarta in particular. And part of that is less competition. Who the hell wants to go and stay in Jakarta?

When I was in Colombia, another country where scamming is rampant, and was looking for women, I ran into a few women who went out of there way to show they were not scammers. I would think and bet that there are some women in Indonesia who would be like that too.

[FilthyBeaver]

Interestingly, my last seeking account was the only account that I never made any meaningful connection or meet-up. As a reminder I delete mine once my subscription expires and start anew when the itch needs to be scratched. There was an amazingly gorgeous girl who was the primary reason for my creating that particular account but she wouldn't give me the time of day. No response, no FU, nothing. A couple weeks in she changed her profile to say something to the effect that she's only looking for a platonic relationship and anybody worth her time would understand. Just before I closed the account that absurd statement was gone.

I'm guessing they get educated really quick and if they want the money they figure out how to rationalize it. If they don't, they delete their profiles and it's off to dating broke college guys.

Try as I might, I have yet to find this unicorn that is the man willing to pay a girl for a platonic sugar relationship.

I'm not saying they don't exist. They must or these profiles wouldn't exist. Somebody must know somebody who knew somebody who knows somebody who knew somebody who once talked to somebody who had a sugar daddy that did that. But I can't imagine what dude gets into that and how shitty his life must be to even consider it.

[AmericanPi]

I've been doing seeking for about 4 years in a tier one coastal city so there's no shortage of hotties but I am seeing absurd profiles that say platonic and other nonsense of the like. I guess if you're 80 and can't get it up it may work for you but those girls ate just plain delusional.

Try as I might, I have yet to find this unicorn that is the man willing to pay a girl for a platonic sugar relationship.

I'm not saying they don't exist. They must or these profiles wouldn't exist. Somebody must know somebody who knew somebody who knows somebody who knew somebody who once talked to somebody who had a sugar daddy that did that. But I can't imagine what dude gets into that and how shitty his life must be to even consider it.