Puerto Plata

[Member #4398]

The chica is looking for a steady stream of income, a western union novio, an ATM machine. Please go to Youtube and watch all the CubaDave videos on the subject of money & chicas. I tell the chicas that I want to go very slow in the relationship because I respect them and I need to know their personality. I bang them a few times and then move on. Again, the chicas are wanting a steady monthly income because if you are their boyfriend it is your responsibility to provide financial support, thus numerous requests for money. This is a scam at a higher level.

CrazyDave,

You are right on point. If You want the girl as a future regular and she starts requesting money (RFM) is best to do as Cubadave says in one of his videos which is sorry but I can't send you money, but I will treat you well when I return. So you just keep the girl strictly as a service she is giving you whenever you visit and if she keeps pushing the issue of requesting money then move on as there are plenty of other girls looking to provide a good service.

[Tempoecorto]

What is money good for if you have it and can not spend it for the things which make you happy?

Well, the comments of Charles Pooter was strictly tongue in cheek but barring the legal dilemma, my view point is "whatever works". With such differences in age, the younger is always looking at a meal ticket as we know from Donald Trump. Besides, as Tina Turner said, "what has love got to do" with it? Keep it simple, especially on a board like this. Do what is right for you.

[Ozzie1451]

I disagree that a man should be three times a woman age. Especially for serious relationship. That sounds like something only a man would say. I think about my man fresh. He's 45 and his Novia is 22. When they are in the hotel room and not having sex all she does is watch cartoons and she is content. When they're together besides the iPhones the iPad hair, the trips to PC, clothes expensive dinners, jewelry, English classes, and a monthly expense account; he has about $13000 invested in her over the last year. He can afford it and he loves her. Does she love him well I can say she loves what he does for her I can honestly say. She can't elaborate on current events government politics philosophy religion culture or world history. No substance but she looks good as hell in a two-piece. But then again how much can you expect from an uneducated 22-year-old. Is she worth his investment he's paying so she must be. With the recent post by Parkinson and Tempo we can see how in their situation the extra money for passion definitely was not worth the " serious relationship".

I started to realize that the most important thing in life for a man at my age (maybe at any age) is to be healthy and happy. He is happy with her and does not mind to spend over $13000 a year on her (as long as he has money and after 5 years he is not broke) then he is doing the right thing. What is money good for if you have it and can not spend it for the things which make you happy?

[GrownMan1]

I agree. You should ideally be at least three times as old as the chica. Of course, this give problems if you are under 54.

I disagree that a man should be three times a woman age. Especially for serious relationship. That sounds like something only a man would say. I think about my man fresh. He's 45 and his Novia is 22. When they are in the hotel room and not having sex all she does is watch cartoons and she is content. When they're together besides the iPhones the iPad hair, the trips to PC, clothes expensive dinners, jewelry, English classes, and a monthly expense account; he has about $13000 invested in her over the last year. He can afford it and he loves her. Does she love him well I can say she loves what he does for her I can honestly say. She can't elaborate on current events government politics philosophy religion culture or world history. No substance but she looks good as hell in a two-piece. But then again how much can you expect from an uneducated 22-year-old. Is she worth his investment he's paying so she must be. With the recent post by Parkinson and Tempo we can see how in their situation the extra money for passion definitely was not worth the " serious relationship".

[CrazyDave]

How do you handle if a lady asks for a commitment (relacion seria)? I am chatting with ladies on Tagged and Hi5. I am 63 years old and ladies 20-25 years old tell me that they are looking for a serious relationship. I don't know what to say, what kind of serious relationship a 63 years old man can have with a 20-25 years old woman?

The chica is looking for a steady stream of income, a western union novio, an ATM machine. Please go to Youtube and watch all the CubaDave videos on the subject of money & chicas. I tell the chicas that I want to go very slow in the relationship because I respect them and I need to know their personality. I bang them a few times and then move on. Again, the chicas are wanting a steady monthly income because if you are their boyfriend it is your responsibility to provide financial support, thus numerous requests for money. This is a scam at a higher level.

[Frannie]

It may be possible to have a serious relationship when one is 42. But it is completely illogical and does not make sense to have or expect a serious relationship with a 22 years old at 63. I am an honest person and I did not what to say. But what is wrong just saying I am OK with it if you don't have any problem with this relationship then leave the door open. Any way this a a new experience for me and let me enjoy it as long as I can. Time may be running out on me!

Having a serious relationship usually means having a child with the woman in question, and possibly adopting her children. Nothing particularly complicated or intellectual about the matter. Most people on this board are not looking for that, but it is perfectly doable. A guy I know has just recently retired from government employment in the US and retired to live in the Philippines with his young wife and three small children where he can collect his government pension and Social Security and live very well indeed. As far as I know he is perfectly happy, and so are his wife and children. He had a near death experience with cancer a few years ago, but caught it just in time, and now he lives every day as if it is his last, but the children keep him young.

However, 22 is a bit young. Better to wait until they are 25 or older so they can mature a bit.

[Ozzie1451]

I agree. You should ideally be at least three times as old as the chica. Of course, this give problems if you are under 54.

Thanks for the hint and I feel comfortable now to start with 21 year olds!

[Charles Pooter]

But it is completely illogical and does not make sense to have or expect a serious relationship with a 22 years old at 63.

I agree. You should ideally be at least three times as old as the chica. Of course, this give problems if you are under 54.

[Ozzie1451]

With that age difference hmmm. But first I would ask what her family would say. Then I would say I want what you want. I tend to talk in circles a lot and rarely give concrete answers. That is why most women say I am mysterious. But that is just my personality and my game. I wouldn't tell you to try the same thing.

I'm 42 and the last time I was in Santiago I spent time with a 22 year old. At the end of our date I took her home. I was like what the hell. I can't be meeting her parents and be their same age. But they were cool; simple people. And upon seeing her siblings I knew that she was the good looking one in the family. I tried to give her the taxi money (200 pesos) that she spent to come see me, but she would not accept it. I keep asking her about sleeping together. For instance last night we were talking and she said she was cold. I said we can sleep together then. Her answer, "No podemos dormir juntos." I was thinking about crossing her off the list. I just sent her a message asking why not though.

She says she wants to make things clear. Yo te conoci why puedo decir que Eres educado amable respetuoso. Yo noto enti que tu no busca nada serio pot ahora. Tu quieres una mujer que cuando vengas al pais tenga relaciones sexuales contigo. Pero nada serio.

It may be possible to have a serious relationship when one is 42. But it is completely illogical and does not make sense to have or expect a serious relationship with a 22 years old at 63. I am an honest person and I did not what to say. But what is wrong just saying I am OK with it if you don't have any problem with this relationship then leave the door open. Any way this a a new experience for me and let me enjoy it as long as I can. Time may be running out on me!

[PvrFederico]

How do you handle if a lady asks for a commitment (relacion seria)? I am chatting with ladies on Tagged and Hi5. I am 63 years old and ladies 20-25 years old tell me that they are looking for a serious relationship. I don't know what to say, what kind of serious relationship a 63 years old man can have with a 20-25 years old woman?

I am in my sixties and I have dated 14 women this year from Latin American Cupid, in four Spanish speaking countries. Their ages were between 38-50. All were interested in serious relationships. When the question comes up (it always does), I tell them the truth. "When I meet a woman whom I can't live without, I won't. " This tells them that I am serious, but puts the pressure on them.

[Tempoecorto]

.... anyone would bother to call their city "San Felipe de Puerto Plata" when the shorter option exists.

Jee, never knew the city of Puerto Plata had such a long name. Thanks for this series of exchanges.

[Mr Enternational]

How do you handle if a lady asks for a commitment (relacion seria)? I am chatting with ladies on Tagged and Hi5. I am 63 years old and ladies 20-25 years old tell me that they are looking for a serious relationship. I don't know what to say, what kind of serious relationship a 63 years old man can have with a 20-25 years old woman?

With that age difference hmmm. But first I would ask what her family would say. Then I would say I want what you want. I tend to talk in circles a lot and rarely give concrete answers. That is why most women say I am mysterious. But that is just my personality and my game. I wouldn't tell you to try the same thing.

I'm 42 and the last time I was in Santiago I spent time with a 22 year old. At the end of our date I took her home. I was like what the hell. I can't be meeting her parents and be their same age. But they were cool; simple people. And upon seeing her siblings I knew that she was the good looking one in the family. I tried to give her the taxi money (200 pesos) that she spent to come see me, but she would not accept it. I keep asking her about sleeping together. For instance last night we were talking and she said she was cold. I said we can sleep together then. Her answer, "No podemos dormir juntos." I was thinking about crossing her off the list. I just sent her a message asking why not though.

She says she wants to make things clear. Yo te conoci why puedo decir que Eres educado amable respetuoso. Yo noto enti que tu no busca nada serio pot ahora. Tu quieres una mujer que cuando vengas al pais tenga relaciones sexuales contigo. Pero nada serio.

[Manizales911]

One reason they would do that is because they assume a tourist would never have heard of their own village / small town, not because they think of themselves as living in "Puerto Plata".

I do the same thing when Dominicans ask me where I am from. I tell them Boston even though I am from Connecticut, they all have heard of Boston because of the many Dominican baseball players that have played there, if I say Connecticut they look at me like I have three heads.

[Camaro1257]

Is that like Boca Chica / Andres.

Both Boca Chica and Andres are towns that are in the Province of Santo Domingo. If a person was from Andres or Boca Chica and they were asked by a gringo "de donder eres?" they might respond "Santo Domingo" and they would be right because although they do not live in the city of Santo Domingo they live in the Province of Santo Domingo.

[GrownMan1]

In general Dominicanas regardless as to where they are from will either want a commitment (relacion seria) or some type of PFP situation. I had a smash and go in Santiago that cost me drinks and dinner but she was the exception to the rule. You are right about Puerto Plata in that I saw many Sosua PFP chicas at the clubs there, however I would not sleep on Puerto Plata because there are some gems there that HATE Sosua with a passion! Personally my goal is to find something in-between where both parties needs can be met which will be my goal going forward.

My comment about the difference between POP city and POP province was more of an observation about geography. For example I will be living outside Charamecos but if I am in Santo Domingo describing where I live I would say I live in POP which is true because Charamecos is in POP province but not in POP city. My point was that many chicas will tell you they live in POP but it may not be the city it could be Montellano, Imbert or anywhere in POP province.

Is that like Boca Chica / Andres.