Medellin Reports

[Mr Enternational]

I'd like some suggestions on how to "ramp up" or consistently "upgrade" my mongering experience. That is, make each experience with the next girl better than the last one, by upgrading the quality and presumably the price. I want to start out with some girl on the low end, then try some nicer venue, and finally try an upscale chica or brothel. Of course, price is no guarantee of quality and for all I know some trollop off the street can be the funnest thing to happen in my life.

It looks like you are overthinking this shit. You can not make the next experience better than the last. You can not guarantee that with the same person; you damn sure can't guarantee it with two different people in two different venues. The second rule of mongering is Your Mileage May Vary. Just go have a good time and stop trying to strategize the shit.

[KillArmy]

Okay now I think this guy is bullshitting us. No guy is going to do girl shit like that. Definitely sounds like something from a 13 year old GIRL. It is really weird to me when women splice our pictures together and send it to me or put it on their whatsapp.

No, I am definitely not bullshiting any one.

I just wanted to share my pictures to my Facebook friends and family, with 0 words about her, just with comments about Manizales, Pereira, Salento (etc) what I visited, saw, etc. I think it was completely normal to do that. She shared my album in her own wall for a few hours, with some really nice words towards me. Then deleted it for some reason. She is completely fucked up.

The Whatsapp things are something else. I did not personally post anything, but she seems to put image / citations etc. That are clearly meant towards me in her Whatsapp Profile page.

It just pisses me.

My English isn't perfect, might explain some things.

I will stick to what I wrote in my previous post and once again, all of your comments are gold. Thanks.

(And sorry to be a bit trolling the mongering subject.).

[Mr Enternational]

Something that pisses me though, is some facts:

- I made an album in my Facebook wall, almost only with landscapes, etc, just 2/3 pictures of us. She shared it to her wall writing something like 'A few days full of lessons with an incredible person'. She. Deleted the sharing of the album after like 2 hours!

Okay now I think this guy is bullshitting us. No guy is going to do girl shit like that. Definitely sounds like something from a 13 year old GIRL. I have been heartbroken before and I have even cried over a woman before. But putting your business out on facebook like that, especially over someone who does not give a rat's ass about you is on a bi*ch level. Also, It is really weird to me when women splice our pictures together and send it to me or put it on their whatsapp.

[Eszpresszo]

Back to the subject of mongering in Medellin; ya know the good thing about mongering is that you DO NOT have to make an emotional investment in the women.

I am going to be in Medellin from April 12- April 15 on my first visit. Obviously, not a lot of time, so I want to be efficient with it. The Medellin forum has been awesome to read, not just for the details of the women, but the options on accommodations. I'm delighted at all the options available to the monger, not to mention the low price points for service. The options you guys have mentioned here have been exciting, but I'm not completely clear on how they all rank on a price / quality / value scale. I'm assuming I don't want start Day 1 with an upscale stunning chica, and then start trolling for streetwalker, right?

I'd like some suggestions on how to "ramp up" or consistently "upgrade" my mongering experience. That is, make each experience with the next girl better than the last one, by upgrading the quality and presumably the price. I want to start out with some girl on the low end, then try some nicer venue, and finally try an upscale chica or brothel. Of course, price is no guarantee of quality and for all I know some trollop off the street can be the funnest thing to happen in my life. But, I think you guys know where I going with this. I await your suggestions. TIA.

[Wrx2005]

As the saying goes. If you love her set her free. If she comes back she's yours. I agree you should drop it and chase the millions of other tarts out there. As someone else here said, just see what you can get into. Put your energy into having fun. When I visit these places I just see how much fun I can get into, and whatever happens happens. A short while ago I picked up a chica in sportsman lodge. Ended up liking her and doing several weekend trips to Jaco. But when things got strained in the relationship, I said next. Don't get attached. Just see what you can get into.

Ordinarily, ID agree with that strategy. But changing partners or avoiding that woman won't solve his problem. For him its like jumping out of one frying pan into another. He still hasnt escaped himself.

[KillArmy]

Guys,

Thanks again. I won't send that, yes, I guess, pathetic message.

Your guys, with cold head, are right, it's pathetic to start blaming things on her etc, it's her life, she does whatever she wants, and yes, she made it clear she didn't want a relation with me.

I will just not write her anything and. I must admit, hope she will write to me. I will then be cold as hell. Be like 'I am to see someone else tonight, bla bla' and see how things goes. I think it's the only clever thing to do, to let her come to me.

Something that pisses me though, is some facts:

- I made an album in my Facebook wall, almost only with landscapes, etc, just 2/3 pictures of us. She shared it to her wall writing something like 'A few days full of lessons with an incredible person'. She. Deleted the sharing of the album after like 2 hours!

- In her Whatsapp, she puts citations that are, IMHO, clearly aimed at me. Some stuff from Mario Benedetti like 'Maybe he really liked me, who knows, but what is sure is that he had some special ability to hurt me'. She also had an image of a citation saying basically 'what is ours? A complicity, a shared secret, a pact. Not a future marriage or anything. But much more than friendship' .

- If she really wants it, she will write me. If she does not care, she will not. End of the game.

I apologize for looking like I didn't read all your clever advices guys. I did.

Now, it's time to move on. She is not the only one in this planet and, actually, I plan to see a girl almost every night during this week (including one from Bello I have already fucked). This is the best cure.

Cheers to all of you guys.

[BatInTheCity]

Check out Tom Leykis Show. He is a no holds barred radio personality with a shitload of YouTube podcasts that might shock you back into learning to love yourself 1st before you love another. Coach Corey Wayne is another one with a lot of You Tube podcasts that may help you see how you are going in the wrong direction as a man.

It's seems obvious you are very emotionally attached to that female. You don't know what to do, except go by your impulses. Your impulse is go by your feelings. Which is maintaining the bleeding instead of helping you learn the lesson, and move on. Especially with the intent of never allowing yourself to stoop so low as a man again. Be honest with yourself. What do you expect to accomplish by contacting her? And why shame her for her behavior?

This is the time for you to take responsibility for your behavior and what you allowed, and for being blind. She's allowed to be as fucked up as she chooses to be. She's not obligated to meet your expectations. You are supposed to know how to carry yourself as an individual, and as a man. And if you missed some lessons in how a man adapts to situations appropriately, its time to recognize this possibility. Good luck.

As the saying goes. If you love her set her free. If she comes back she's yours. I agree you should drop it and chase the millions of other tarts out there. As someone else here said, just see what you can get into. Put your energy into having fun. When I visit these places I just see how much fun I can get into, and whatever happens happens. A short while ago I picked up a chica in sportsman lodge. Ended up liking her and doing several weekend trips to Jaco. But when things got strained in the relationship, I said next. Don't get attached. Just see what you can get into.

[Wrx2005]

I really hope that this guy is not playing with you because honestly, you should try to think with rationality, not with passion. He is 36 years old, always lived in Medellin, and he has never been able to find the women of his life? How can you think you could be different for him? How can you think this will finish well? I really hope for you that you won't suffer from this. I really hope you will be strong. Not like the 2 first time you were in love.

Actually: I really hope that you will stop to be like me! Too passionate in love. Too much sentiments. Too much questions.

XXX, Yes, I still want to see you so much. But I know you are. Dangerous for me. YES, I miss so much your beautiful smile, I miss to see you laugh, I miss to feel your body next to me. But at the same time, I know you are making me too crazy. XXX, I wish I could be forever your very best friend and be stronger than the risks this involve because as I told you once: [Non-English text deleted by Admin]'.

I still want to see you but life goes on. I do not want to forget you but if this is what has to happen, it is fine for me. Whatever happen, once again, I hope you find happiness and stability in your life.

KillArmy, aside from other parts of your post, this is difficult to read. I feel kinda sorry for you. You tell her that she should try to think rationally, not with passion. Something you failed to do for yourself. Then you tell her actually, you wish she would think more like yourself, too passionate. You don't see the masked desperation ooozing out of your words? Pretending to be fine, and dandy with the way things turned out. But broadcasting that you will set everything aside, if she decides to throw you a bone. And giving her all of this information about how you feel about her blah blah blah. Expressing how she manipulated you ect. You don't see anything weak or pathetic about any of this? You don't care about how this makes you look? Not only to her, but to yourself? IMO, the only way you may transform yourself into an aware male is not necessarily to chase women, monger or avoid this woman. You need to get yourself together 1st. Anything else is a distraction from you learning and reinforcing the discipline of manhood.

[NewGuy3]

I used to listen to Tom Lykis radio show a lot. He was funny, witty, and he knew quite a bit about women. It looks like he no longer does radio shows. I will check his podcasts. Never heard of Corey Wayne, will check him out. Thanks.

Tom Leykis still has his show on his website and his app. Google his name or "blow me up Tom". I've been listening to Tom over ten years. Every man needs to, especially guys who are hopeless romantics. It'll save you a lot of pain and you'll learn how to treat a woman and how not to.

To the guy with the girl problem: you should never cry in front of a girl, you loose all her respect. Remember, girls like to be fucked by he bad boys, eventually they'll settle down with the reliable nice guy to pay their way through life. Who do you want to be? The sucker she settles for or the dude she lusts after?

[JjBee62]

Are you that big of a fool? You've received a lot of excellent advice from several people. Did you fail to understand? Did you even read any of the advice?

Nowhere in all of the advice did any say "Go crying and begging to her like a 5 year old boy and then blame everything on her. " Not only is your plan incredibly stupid, it's pathetic.

This woman gave you very clear signals that she has no interest in a relationship. The only way she could have made it clearer was to scream, "I don't want a relationship with you. " When you tried to force her into a relationship she made it even clearer and just gave you a couple of hand jobs so you would stop crying.

To make everything worse, you're trying to blame her about a relationship with some other guy, when it's none of your business, because she doesn't want a relationship with you.

Nothing you do is going to change the obvious fact (repeated again) She Doesn't Want A Relationship With You. However, go ahead with your plan (which sounds like something dreamed up by a 13 year old). It won't accomplish anything, but everyone she fucks for the next 5 years will laugh their ass off when she tells them about you.

Or, here's an idea. Why not act like an adult, accept your loss and move on? There are 1000's of women in Medellin who will be more than happy to give you something else to think about.

[Lefeu]

I just recently returned from my first trip to Medellin and stayed at the Mansion (M2) which is up a big hill from the M1 the main place. I would suggest to try to stay at M1 because of the hill. Also the girls hang out at the pool and bar at M1. Like you I've always gone to the DR for the last 5 years or so, with many trips to BB and Field of Dreams. I got GFE from all the mansion girls for 150 K (3200/$1), so about $50. It's similar to BB, but the girls have no schedule. So you can have as few as 3 or as many as 20 there. They come in and out as they please. The girls in Medellin are hotter than the DR. Also I usually visited casas in the AM and they are cheap from 45 K to 140 K of the ones we visited. Also Medellin is a modern city unlike the 3rd world DR.

You listed all the drawbacks of M2, but none of the benefits. You must be a newbie. I prefer M2 over M1. First, the hill is not a big deal and I look at it as my daily exercise. It's correct that more girls hangout at M1 (the Mansion) but someone staying t M2 can go down to M1 anytime. The advantages of M2? Quiet and discreet. Many girls prefer M2 because of that. And M1 can really be noisy, if you get a room close to the bar or close to the pool.

[Lefeu]

Check out Tom Leykis Show. He is a no holds barred radio personality with a shitload of YouTube podcasts that might shock you back into learning to love yourself 1st before you love another. Coach Corey Wayne is another one with a lot of You Tube podcasts that may help you see how you are going in the wrong direction as a man.

I used to listen to Tom Lykis radio show a lot. He was funny, witty, and he knew quite a bit about women. It looks like he no longer does radio shows. I will check his podcasts. Never heard of Corey Wayne, will check him out. Thanks.

[Wrx2005]

Guys,

Thanks a lot for all the amazing messages. I feel in the limit of stupidity when writing so much in here but all your reactions are so nice, not judgmental, etc. , I really appreciate it. Even better if some can learn out of my story.

This will and really is helping me. I will come back to read some of your guys whenever I feel bad again (like this morning.) to make me feel up again. So much to be learned.

'Learn to be sure to understand the signs a girl is showing to you before you do anything crazy about her'.

Check out Tom Leykis Show. He is a no holds barred radio personality with a shitload of YouTube podcasts that might shock you back into learning to love yourself 1st before you love another. Coach Corey Wayne is another one with a lot of You Tube podcasts that may help you see how you are going in the wrong direction as a man.

It's seems obvious you are very emotionally attached to that female. You don't know what to do, except go by your impulses. Your impulse is go by your feelings. Which is maintaining the bleeding instead of helping you learn the lesson, and move on. Especially with the intent of never allowing yourself to stoop so low as a man again. Be honest with yourself. What do you expect to accomplish by contacting her? And why shame her for her behavior?

This is the time for you to take responsibility for your behavior and what you allowed, and for being blind. She's allowed to be as fucked up as she chooses to be. She's not obligated to meet your expectations. You are supposed to know how to carry yourself as an individual, and as a man. And if you missed some lessons in how a man adapts to situations appropriately, its time to recognize this possibility. Good luck.

[Kyrawz]

Subscribe just for PM me?

I'm dgear on youppie.

Completely agree with Cerebro, don't do this letter at a colombian girl and she will be completely close.

The thing about you show your sentiments, it's not a problem generally. Just she's 22. It will no same with a more of 25 yo girls who want serious relationship.

[Member #4398]

Killarmy,

Please don't write that letter. You definitely sound like a drama queen and pathetic. If you write such a letter to her, she will think you super pathetic, and she will show it to all her friends, maybe facebook friends, her circle, etc just for fun as.

The most pathetic guy she has ever met. That letter is quite pathetic in my opinion. I have a better suggestion. I know you are urging to talk to her since you wrote that you will contact her in 3-4 days which is a lot to you, but that is.

Too early to contact her. It is best to ignore her, but not for a couple of days, and instead ignore her for a couple of years. Just delete her whattapp, unfriendly her on facebook, etc. And don't contact her at all.

You will be surprised of how she may react with this approach and just watch her reaction and possible desperation once she sees you don't want anything with her. And don't respond or explain anything. She may become as pathetic and.

Infatuated as you. If she asks you what's going on, or why you don't call, just ignore. If you respond, a one liner is enough, like you are busy and not the 5000 words essay of explanations.

Also if you decide to respond, do it after a few months or more. Don't explain anything to her. Never tell her you miss her. Learn to be rude. Believe me she may start going crazy once you start treating her like.

Shit. Learn to be inconsiderate. Learn to be unattached. Keep mongering and having pussy fun. Be realistic with yourself. You are not ready for a relationship just like many of us.

You failed badly the Paisa relationship 101 class. Just get back to mongering and prepare for next time.