Ghana

[IAlvsg]

Hello guys,

I would like spend about a week in Ghana and more especially in a city which is not as big as Accra. Takoradi seems to be a good average but I have a few questions.

International flights only land in Accra; do you advise to go from Accra to Takoradi by plane or with a taxi?
Are domestic flights safe enough? I saw that the company "Viva air" has daily Accra-Takoradi flights and read on the forum that it's not so high.

Which girl friendly hotels near clubs and bars do you recommend?

Thanks,
Ialvsg.

[Naked Gunz]

I am surprised that any guy on this forum would take issue with a lady having another sex partner given that most guys on this forum enjoy having sex with multiple women. What is good for the goose is good for the gander

If it's just sex, then who gives a shyt. When your talking about engaged and giving your hard earned money (much less your life!) to these see see b_tches, keeping her legs closed is the least to be expected.

I (sigh) have sadly learned the hard way about being a sponsor. It's a bitter pill to swallow, but I would not even trust a nun to be my gf anymore unless I have some type of leash on her. Especially 3rd world women.

[WestCoast1]

In the morning my partner and I we are sitting having breakfast and of course we could see the couple next to us from last night coming out of their hat to have breakfast. To my surprise, astonishment or whatever that word should be, the woman is no one else than Abena!

1. If she is so much in love my friend Mark (and I can't explain that here, but take my word for it. I have no doubt that she was deeply in love with him and that is why I can't explain her behavior) , why would she sleep with the other guy / former lover? He didn't even know that Abena was engaged.

2. From the anthropological biology point of view, why would Abena jeopardize a relationship that offers stability to both her and her children for just plain sex? Especially is the casual sex was not as great as that which she had with my friend Mark (we overheard that too)?

Could anyone help please explain? Is it a female thing or is it an African culture / attitude on sex thing? This has been an open question in my mind for years. Actually this (and probably another similar one) has kept me probably for falling deeply in love with an African woman over the years.

Could anyone help?

Thanks

I have slept with more gals both at home and in foreign countries than I can remember who either have had a hidden bf-fiance-hubby, or who openly have / had a bf-fiance-husband. I am unsure the reason why, and I'm not sure that the reason is important. Women are extremely opportunistic. Sometimes the extra "sex-on-the-side" is for money, other times its for sheer joy. Some of those ladies do it while their bf-fiance-hubby is in town (right under his nose). Pics attached of several such gals. While these women are not african, they are indicative of girls everywhere. I have (or, at times, had) married girlfriends, who make their way to me on each visit. Their husbands are older, and a good roll in the hay does everyone some good (no money changes hands). I have an attractive mid-40's local girl where I live who also cheats on her hubby.

Still trust your gf-wife?

[Jiggydus]

This is a real story that happened a few years ago (as in 15). So my friend Mark is dating this Ghanaian woman and they are both really in love with each other. Mark was my 'introduction to Africa". Mark is based in Europe but he is working for an NGO with its african Headquarters at that time in Accra. I know a lot of amazing 'personal details' to the point that I have no doubt in my mind that she- Abena, is also genuinely deeply in love with Mark. Mark has been a real sexual teacher for her. She has done everything for him. First time anal, lactation, female ejaculation, whatever. They have recently engaged (traditional ghanain knocking ceremony) and they are about to get married and move to Europe with both Abena's two children.

I have flown to Accra and then immediately gone to Takoradi because my then date decide to go to the sea. The bamboo huts we stay are exactly that. Bambou construction so we can hear the whole night the couple making passionate love and later an argument. Apparently Nick, the man of the couple next to us after they had sex has been raising his voice arguing with the women because he just found out (after their sex session) that she has been engaged and she is about to get married; based on his sayings he obviously morally doesn't feel good about that whole sexscape thing. Apparently they had a sex fling for the last 2-3 years but they haven't seen each other for a year or so.

In the morning my partner and I we are sitting having breakfast and of course we could see the couple next to us from last night coming out of their hat to have breakfast. To my surprise, astonishment or whatever that word should be, the woman is no one else than Abena!

1. If she is so much in love my friend Mark (and I can't explain that here, but take my word for it. I have no doubt that she was deeply in love with him and that is why I can't explain her behavior) , why would she sleep with the other guy / former lover? He didn't even know that Abena was engaged.

2. From the anthropological biology point of view, why would Abena jeopardize a relationship that offers stability to both her and her children for just plain sex? Especially is the casual sex was not as great as that which she had with my friend Mark (we overheard that too)?

Could anyone help please explain? Is it a female thing or is it an African culture / attitude on sex thing? This has been an open question in my mind for years. Actually this (and probably another similar one) has kept me probably for falling deeply in love with an African woman over the years.

Could anyone help?

Thanks

I have to say that I have personally connected with a few ladies in different countries. With the exception of one lady with whom I will have multiple children, I know for certain that most of the other ladies have sex with locals and foreigners. Does that fact bother me? Not in the least. I love that these ladies I get with know how to properly suck my cock, are willing to have sex with me shortly after saying hello, and who are open to my kinky desires. It is naive to think that a pool of sexually attractive and pleasing ladies would be total puritans. Furthermore, I am surprised that any guy on this forum would take issue with a lady having another sex partner given that most guys on this forum enjoy having sex with multiple women. What is good for the goose is good for the gander (I hate cliches but that one fits the bill, no pun intended). I just communicate openly with my female friends, and even the ones that don't flat out tell me they are dating (I. E. Fucking) other guys, I just tell them to be careful and safe.

My trips this year were interesting and varied. I will likely become more of a lurker since my life situation has changed. But I still will be traveling a lot to various African, South and Central American, Caribbean, and Far East Asian countries in the next few years (assuming I am blessed to be alive). I just will have little time to write reports.

[Slowalk]

Could anyone help?

Thanks[/QUOTE]I ca speak from personal experience. This woman will leave her husband in his country immediately as soon as convenient. She will never be loyal and will acvuse him of being abusive.

[Sure Thing]

I agree with Sure Thing's account if the lady is a Whoe / P4P / player.

Lets assume, for the argument, that she is not a player but just some girl without much money but has a nice body and nice to be with. Most likely she is from the "village" (there are villages in the middle of cities in Africa) and has not been much affected by the Western way of life along with the moralizing and all the rest. The rule for such girls is very simple. If the husband / boyfriend is not around, then resort to plan B, which is a previous lover of some kind. Both men and women in many African countries, including the ones who attend church regularly, do this. They are not working girls in that they are not available to just anybody. They stick with several regular partners for years on this basis.

To illustrate this kind of behaviour, the following scenario was found to be the case back in the 1980s / 90s when the epidemiologists (those who study epidemics) were trying to find out why HIV was spreading so much faster in certain African countries. Their natural assumption, as in natural to Westerners with all their prejudices, was that it was the men who were going to brothels, getting infected through unprotected sex and then passing it on to their wives / gfs...

I agree with you 100% percent. I feel bad for the guy because looks like he gave his all to the relationship and I'm pissed for him. One think you are also right about is she was truthful with the guy she was cheating with. Maybe she knew this guy could handle it I suppose? Stories like this pisses me off and I'm not even the guy.

Even though it must sound like I think badly about Ghanian women, I believe out of all african woman Ghanian women are at the top when it comes to how they treat their men. If you find the right one (and you are with her constantly LOL). My next trip is Kenya. I will be swinging back through soon. When I was on the bus ride to cape coast there were so many small town and village women who were knock dead gorgeous. No make up or fancy clothes just natural beauty. Their bodies were brick houses. It was many times I wanted to get off the bus in mid travel and offer these women what ever they needed for their time LOL. Yep, that's what I will do next time I'm back in Ghana.

[Simian]

some people have an issue with me saying this but why be captain save-a-whoe? in one of the other boards this guys was trying to have an argument about how prostitutes could change and be house wives. for some reason some guys fall for the gfe experiences and think that what they have is real.

don't be captain save-a-whoe.

i agree with sure thing's account if the lady is a whoe / p4p / player.

lets assume, for the argument, that she is not a player but just some girl without much money but has a nice body and nice to be with. most likely she is from the "village" (there are villages in the middle of cities in africa) and has not been much affected by the western way of life along with the moralizing and all the rest. the rule for such girls is very simple. if the husband / boyfriend is not around, then resort to plan b, which is a previous lover of some kind. both men and women in many african countries, including the ones who attend church regularly, do this. they are not working girls in that they are not available to just anybody. they stick with several regular partners for years on this basis.

to illustrate this kind of behaviour, the following scenario was found to be the case back in the 1980s / 90s when the epidemiologists (those who study epidemics) were trying to find out why hiv was spreading so much faster in certain african countries. their natural assumption, as in natural to westerners with all their prejudices, was that it was the men who were going to brothels, getting infected through unprotected sex and then passing it on to their wives / gfs. but it was clear that this couldnot be the explanation because the transmission rate was too fast for the number of brothels and sex workers actually existing at the time.

the experts eventually discovered the following scenario: each man would have a regular girlfriend / wife who they would live with. when he visited his home town, he would check out his childhood sweetheart; when the wife was away, he would check out the mistress, when he went to another city he would visit another regular from before. the same occurred with the women whenever the husband or regular be / f was away. this created a network of regular sexual partners who would have sex many times with each other and would not think of using condoms because they knew each other so well. everything would be fine until one person in the extended network got infected with hiv. then the perfect storm occurred as hiv would run through the entire network at great speed. this explained how hiv was transmitting so fast with very little involvement of in brothels or prostitution as such.

coming back to the lady in question, why would you presume that someone from a different culture from yours will automatically act in the same way as someone is supposed to act according to the rules of your western culture, as in serial monogamy? we all know that many western men and women do not obey the rules of serial monogamy in our own western culture anyway.

in the example you mentioned, the girl was open and honest with the man, which makes me think that she was not gaming him or, in her mind, anyone else, including the guy she was engaged to. if she were a real gamer, she would have kept her mouth shut on the subject of being engaged.

moral of the story. if you must marry in africa, expect your wife to play around if you are absent for extended periods. you could marry a girl who is not into sex but that would be kinda messed up! and it is possible that some middle-class african women won't play around as much because they have absorbed western ways.

so, if you marry a girl from the "village" and you don't want her to play around, you must always be around and bring her with you when you go away. this will mean that you will not be able to play around yourself, or at least not much. alternatively you could become the kind of person who likes the idea of you and your wife having extra-curricular interests. if you cannot take that and you too want to fool around, then either don't marry or be real careful if you do. remember, fooling around without discretion causes gossip and brings the family into disrepute, especially if they have middle-class aspirations, even if most of them fool around too when they get the chance!

btw, i use the word "you" in the general sense, the way the english used to use the word "one." it is not meant personally to the reader as i have no idea of your personal circumstances and would not comment on them anyway unless invited to.

[Nguvu2]

Some people have an issue with me saying this but why be Captain Save-a-Whoe? In one of the other boards this guys was trying to have an argument about how prostitutes could change and be house wives. For some reason some guys fall for the GFE experiences and think that what they have is real. You may think this girl is a non-pro as us ISG members would put it but I beg to differ I will get to that later. I'm going to make some points with some of your paragraph below.

Bottom line she played you guys. Don't be captain save-a-whoe. As men be careful out there don't turn soft because a sweet young thing with a tight body claims she loves you. In a poor country why trust her? She is doing what she has to do to survive for her and her family. So do what you have to do.

Don't wife her up unless you are staying there in the said country with her.

Don't take her out of the country.

Don't be a WU boyfriend, trust me she has probably 10 others

If you don't stay there, don't believe she is being an angel and waiting for you. Be fair, why would she?

Now I'm not saying that a happily ever after fairy tail doesn't happen now again but I've never seen it. It always goes bad, especially when they bring them out of the country. Unless you are tom cruise or brat pitt why believe this girl is in love with you and not sneaking around? Some of us are not the young whipper snappers we use to be so play the game as such. Tell your friend to back off and come back to his senses it's not too late. Don't be captain save-a-whoe.

Mate, good instruction. Should be posted from time to time. Thank you! Sure, there are exceptions, but probably very few and far between....

[Sure Thing]

This is a real story that happened a few years ago (as in 15). So my friend Mark is dating this Ghanaian woman and they are both really in love with each other. Mark was my 'introduction to Africa". Mark is based in Europe but he is working for an NGO with its african Headquarters at that time in Accra. I know a lot of amazing 'personal details' to the point that I have no doubt in my mind that she- Abena, is also genuinely deeply in love with Mark. Mark has been a real sexual teacher for her. She has done everything for him. First time anal, lactation, female ejaculation, whatever. They have recently engaged (traditional ghanain knocking ceremony) and they are about to get married and move to Europe with both Abena's two children.

I have flown to Accra and then immediately gone to Takoradi because my then date decide to go to the sea. The bamboo huts we stay are exactly that. Bambou construction so we can hear the whole night the couple making passionate love and later an argument. Apparently Nick, the man of the couple next to us after they had sex has been raising his voice arguing with the women because he just found out (after their sex session) that she has been engaged and she is about to get married; based on his sayings he obviously morally doesn't feel good about that whole sexscape thing. Apparently they had a sex fling for the last 2-3 years but they haven't seen each other for a year or so...

Some people have an issue with me saying this but why be Captain Save-a-Whoe? In one of the other boards this guys was trying to have an argument about how prostitutes could change and be house wives. For some reason some guys fall for the GFE experiences and think that what they have is real. You may think this girl is a non-pro as us ISG members would put it but I beg to differ I will get to that later. I'm going to make some points with some of your paragraph below.

A. Mark was my 'introduction to Africa". Mark is based in Europe but he is working for an NGO with its african Headquarters at that time in Accra.

First mistake is he doesn't live there, why think she will be the perfect little angel while you're gone?

B. I know a lot of amazing 'personal details' to the point that I have no doubt in my mind that she- Abena, is also genuinely deeply in love with Mark. Mark has been a real sexual teacher for her. She has done everything for him. First time anal, lactation, female ejaculation, whatever.

He has just successfully turned this girl into a freak. If he has open her world up to sexual pleasure if he is not there where is she going to get it? Sex is like a drug hard to wait once you have had a taste and it was good.

C. They have recently engaged (traditional Ghanain knocking ceremony) and they are about to get married and move to Europe with both Abena's two children.

Taking her out of her country to another, bad mistake. The only reason you have control is that she is there in her country. Plus are these two kids his? If not she is already a freak. He didn't teach her anything.

D. Apparently Nick, the man of the couple next to us after they had sex has been raising his voice arguing with the women because he just found out (after their sex session) that she has been engaged and she is about to get married; based on his sayings he obviously morally doesn't feel good about that whole sexscape thing. Apparently they had a sex fling for the last 2-3 years but they haven't seen each other for a year or so.

As you have said in this last sentence they have been having a sex fling for 2-3 years and this goes back to what I was saying in the beginning. This is a non-pro right? Apparently she is a pro. WU pro and probably has 3 or 4 more guys she plays for money and just hit the jack pot with your friend to go to Europe.

1. If she is so much in love my friend Mark (and I can't explain that here, but take my word for it. I have no doubt that she was deeply in love with him and that is why I can't explain her behavior) , why would she sleep with the other guy / former lover? He didn't even know that Abena was engaged.

You say you can't explain her behavior? Well that explains it all, she fooled all you guys with her GFE. These girls know how to play us especially if we are soft! Don't fall for it. I don't care what secrets you know about them being in luv it doesn't matter don't fall for it.

2. From the anthropological biology point of view, why would Abena jeopardize a relationship that offers stability to both her and her children for just plain sex? Especially is the casual sex was not as great as that which she had with my friend Mark (we overheard that too)?

All women are like this all around the world. Women like jerks. Don't like being treated like a queen on a consistent bases. Doesn't matter if it's Africa or not women do what they have to do for financial gain and security

Bottom line she played you guys. Don't be captain save-a-whoe. As men be careful out there don't turn soft because a sweet young thing with a tight body claims she loves you. In a poor country why trust her? She is doing what she has to do to survive for her and her family. So do what you have to do.

Don't wife her up unless you are staying there in the said country with her.

Don't take her out of the country.

Don't be a WU boyfriend, trust me she has probably 10 others

If you don't stay there, don't believe she is being an angel and waiting for you. Be fair, why would she?

Now I'm not saying that a happily ever after fairy tail doesn't happen now again but I've never seen it. It always goes bad, especially when they bring them out of the country. Unless you are tom cruise or brat pitt why believe this girl is in love with you and not sneaking around? Some of us are not the young whipper snappers we use to be so play the game as such. Tell your friend to back off and come back to his senses it's not too late. Don't be captain save-a-whoe.

[The Greek]

In Tamale for a bit. This town is a tough nut to crack. Hardly any taxis at night and limited options of places to hang out or meet someone. If anyone has any kernels of wisdom, I'm all ears.

I have managed to meet someone through Badoo. We met up for drinks on my last trip and we are meeting up for the second time tonight (the first time was pretty prim and proper). She has a pretty strong personality and strikes me as an idealist. Not sure this is going to work out. So much easier to link up with women in Accra.

I just came from Bolgatanga where there was a decent bar around the corner from my hotel. I flirted with the waitress who was clearly interested, so I waited around for the bar to close. She was more than willing to follow me back home. Tamale seems more conservative.

There are 338 women in Tamale at Twoo. I hope you can manage to hook up with at least one of them.

Good Luck!

[The Greek]

This is a real story that happened a few years ago (as in 15). So my friend Mark is dating this Ghanaian woman and they are both really in love with each other. Mark was my 'introduction to Africa". Mark is based in Europe but he is working for an NGO with its african Headquarters at that time in Accra. I know a lot of amazing 'personal details' to the point that I have no doubt in my mind that she- Abena, is also genuinely deeply in love with Mark. Mark has been a real sexual teacher for her. She has done everything for him. First time anal, lactation, female ejaculation, whatever. They have recently engaged (traditional ghanain knocking ceremony) and they are about to get married and move to Europe with both Abena's two children.

I have flown to Accra and then immediately gone to Takoradi because my then date decide to go to the sea. The bamboo huts we stay are exactly that. Bambou construction so we can hear the whole night the couple making passionate love and later an argument. Apparently Nick, the man of the couple next to us after they had sex has been raising his voice arguing with the women because he just found out (after their sex session) that she has been engaged and she is about to get married; based on his sayings he obviously morally doesn't feel good about that whole sexscape thing. Apparently they had a sex fling for the last 2-3 years but they haven't seen each other for a year or so.

In the morning my partner and I we are sitting having breakfast and of course we could see the couple next to us from last night coming out of their hat to have breakfast. To my surprise, astonishment or whatever that word should be, the woman is no one else than Abena!

1. If she is so much in love my friend Mark (and I can't explain that here, but take my word for it. I have no doubt that she was deeply in love with him and that is why I can't explain her behavior) , why would she sleep with the other guy / former lover? He didn't even know that Abena was engaged.

2. From the anthropological biology point of view, why would Abena jeopardize a relationship that offers stability to both her and her children for just plain sex? Especially is the casual sex was not as great as that which she had with my friend Mark (we overheard that too)?

Could anyone help please explain? Is it a female thing or is it an African culture / attitude on sex thing? This has been an open question in my mind for years. Actually this (and probably another similar one) has kept me probably for falling deeply in love with an African woman over the years.

Could anyone help?

Thanks

[The Greek]

Yes, my friend.

I had been using Ghanaweb and had the opportunity to meet a girl when I was in Accra, a very sweet and honest one.

Another one I have met in Italy because she lives here in Parma.

I was on the point to meet another girl from London but I have not yet convinced her to travel.

Ghana Web is very quality.

Thanks Roman!

[Living Abroad]

In Tamale for a bit. This town is a tough nut to crack. Hardly any taxis at night and limited options of places to hang out or meet someone. If anyone has any kernels of wisdom, I'm all ears.

I have managed to meet someone through Badoo. We met up for drinks on my last trip and we are meeting up for the second time tonight (the first time was pretty prim and proper). She has a pretty strong personality and strikes me as an idealist. Not sure this is going to work out. So much easier to link up with women in Accra.

I just came from Bolgatanga where there was a decent bar around the corner from my hotel. I flirted with the waitress who was clearly interested, so I waited around for the bar to close. She was more than willing to follow me back home. Tamale seems more conservative.

[Roman Guy]

Dear Gents,

Does anyone had any experience using either GhanaWeb or Twoo? Successes?

Thanks

Yes, my friend.

I had been using Ghanaweb and had the opportunity to meet a girl when I was in Accra, a very sweet and honest one.

Another one I have met in Italy because she lives here in Parma.

I was on the point to meet another girl from London but I have not yet convinced her to travel.

Ghana Web is very quality.

[The Greek]

Dear Gents,

Does anyone had any experience using either GhanaWeb or Twoo? Successes?

Thanks