General Info - Nampa

[Deltron]

i recently had two wtf moments with ladies i've met online.

first is the doh! moment. on japancupid earlier this year i met a 40-year-old filipina and had a few fun encounters until she started to get serious. i decided to quietly drift away and move on to greener pastures. i began using skout in may and just recently met a cute, genki filipina in her early 20s. after a playful date, she started inviting me over to her pad and we've been having fun ever since. until last week when she texted me with,"did you fuck my mother?" then she sent me a picture of her mama. doh! let's just say it's time to move on again. lol!

next, the yikes moment was with a japanese gal in her mid 40s from japancupid. she's a "big boned", busty girl with a nice ass and a homely but cute face. we had a karaoke date and she gave me a nice blow job and titty-fuck. i later started doing some house visits until the contact dried up. well, last week i was perusing a japanese porn site and who do i see? that same girl doing "juku" videos! i just sat their speechless. did some checking up on her and she has at least 20-30 clips out there. yikes!

i agree with the other guy. would you mind posting up that video of her?

[Machida]

i recently had two wtf moments with ladies i've met online.

first is the doh! moment. on japancupid earlier this year i met a 40-year-old filipina and had a few fun encounters until she started to get serious. i decided to quietly drift away and move on to greener pastures. i began using skout in may and just recently met a cute, genki filipina in her early 20s. after a playful date, she started inviting me over to her pad and we've been having fun ever since. until last week when she texted me with,"did you fuck my mother?" then she sent me a picture of her mama. doh! let's just say it's time to move on again. lol!

next, the yikes moment was with a japanese gal in her mid 40s from japancupid. she's a "big boned", busty girl with a nice ass and a homely but cute face. we had a karaoke date and she gave me a nice blow job and titty-fuck. i later started doing some house visits until the contact dried up. well, last week i was perusing a japanese porn site and who do i see? that same girl doing "juku" videos! i just sat their speechless. did some checking up on her and she has at least 20-30 clips out there. yikes!

i'm sorry but is there a chance you can dm or post a link to the big boned girl's video?

[OneIpole]

This time I went out around Shinjuko. Did great. Got 3 numbers and I one the girls was all over me, her friend made her leave because she didn't like it I guess. Sucks!

One of the girls is in college now, I hope to give her some education!

I have three dates lined up now. Just is taking time because my stupid ass got a cold. I am resting in bed now.

I am not shy in the first place and am used to going out by myself. That really helps in meeting these girls. As far as meeting them and getting their line number or fb it has been pretty easy. No I have to work on closing the deal. I tried a one night close and the girl said it is only our first meeting. I took that to mean how about the second time!

1. Picked up a doctor (oh yea) at coffee shop. Got her fb and we are communicating. Really easy there to make conversation.

2. Picked up about 5 from JC. We are talking and supposed to meet. It is going ok.

3. No luck on internations yet. But I may go to a event.

4. Picked up a total of 4 at bars. Talking to them on line and fb and setting up dates.

5. Worldfriends sucks- getting no where.

So I have connections but sitting home sick now.

How many closed deals? A big fucking 0. I have 10 days left and hoping a can get one to my apartment.

Just going out to a bar and picking up girls has been a blast and pretty easy. I think it is the best way, its so much more fun than Japancupid and such. But we will see if I close any.

Then I will report back again.

[OneIpole]

I am close to Shinjuku station and heading out hunting. Anybody up for some drinks?

[OneIpole]

Went to Roppongi. Could not find Gasponick or how ever you spell it. Went to international party at Greenland. It was not great. Had 3 Romanian girls try to pick me up. Pretty cute. So here was the problem. Since when do 3 girls try to pick me up. They wanted me to go to another bar with them. I declined and they pushed. One was all over me and said she really likes me. Maybe I am crazy but to good to be true. I didn't trust it and let them go, shiy like that doesn't just happen.

Went to Black Horse and picked up a jgirl right away. We were talking and touching each other, was going very good. She was up against me dancing in the tiniest place that was jammed packed. Then it went bad. Some dumb ass English or aussie guy keeps pushing against me over and over. He thought he was really good looking and had a attitude like he was the shit. I finally tell him what the fuck. Get off of me. He gets smart with me and I grab him by the neck and shove him. His buddy tries to stop us but to late I am mad. I punch him in the face and then they separate us. Both of us kicked out. Why jgirl is gone and I am on the street in the snow- fucked up. Try to at least get a ass whopping in but the guy won't fight and his friend is in between us. What a dumb ass I am!

Then back to Greenland but it is pretty crowd. Talked to some girls but no luck.

[AussieGaigin]

No offense to anyone's religious or cultural sensitivities, but I've always liked Japan explicitly for its refreshing, distinct lack of Judeo-Christian morality that often can intrude into and interfere with such (though of course not all) M-F interactions in many Western countries. Yes, there are some Christian people and other assorted sexually conservative types in Japan, and what they do is their business in terms of how their attitudes govern their sexual behavior, and there are of course always exceptions to every rule and assumption. I'm not saying that Christian or similarly Western-influenced Japanese are necessarily more resistant to nampa, or that Buddhists endorse nampa as a doctrine, but IMHO, the way of thinking for a majority of Japanese thankfully stems from that non-judgmental (or less judgmental) Buddhist heritage, which is not necessarily governed by the aforementioned Western puritannical mores and bodes well for receptiveness to nampa.

As for targeting, the topic of marital status may or may not arise, but it seems not to be a major factor after said targets are properly groomed to be receptive to nampa advances. But as with so many other things in Japan, success is contingent on knowing the right buttons to push, literally and figuratively, which in the nampa context should be aimed at making the target feel comfortable even if initially resistant. That understanding of which buttons to push, and the ability to implement it on the nampa battlegrounds, might not come overnight, but in due course over time I've found that things tend to fall into place, and that focus, determination and single-mindedness can work wonders. Whether to disclose marital status is a judgment call, dependent on circumstances, necessity and the judged trustworthiness of the target. If grooming an ongoing relationship that began with nampa, or the subject of marital status came up in conversation in the initial encounter, it might be a straightforward fact that one should have little trouble with disclosing. OTOH, if targeting a gyaru or someone younger or less stable you're hitting on for the sole purpose of a one night stand or quickie, then it might not be advisable.

All just my POV / two yen.

Cheers and good luck, gentlemen!

Kerfuufle.

You have hit the nail on the head with this.

Japanese are generally not bought up with the belief that sex is morally or socially unacceptable.

I have been playing the "nampa game" for 30 years, and most of the literature I have read on the subject reinforces these attitudes.

I have been in long term sexual relationships with many, and they can walk away with no emotional hang-ups whatsoever.

[Kerfuffle]

Hi guys,

Looking for some feedback from your experience.

Are there some married guys here who like Nampa?

Do you state if you're married or not? I heard actually its easier when you do so with J-ladies. Do you confirm it with your experience?

If you're married, are there some specific targets which are easier?

Thanks!

No offense to anyone's religious or cultural sensitivities, but I've always liked Japan explicitly for its refreshing, distinct lack of Judeo-Christian morality that often can intrude into and interfere with such (though of course not all) M-F interactions in many Western countries. Yes, there are some Christian people and other assorted sexually conservative types in Japan, and what they do is their business in terms of how their attitudes govern their sexual behavior, and there are of course always exceptions to every rule and assumption. I'm not saying that Christian or similarly Western-influenced Japanese are necessarily more resistant to nampa, or that Buddhists endorse nampa as a doctrine, but IMHO, the way of thinking for a majority of Japanese thankfully stems from that non-judgmental (or less judgmental) Buddhist heritage, which is not necessarily governed by the aforementioned Western puritannical mores and bodes well for receptiveness to nampa.

As for targeting, the topic of marital status may or may not arise, but it seems not to be a major factor after said targets are properly groomed to be receptive to nampa advances. But as with so many other things in Japan, success is contingent on knowing the right buttons to push, literally and figuratively, which in the nampa context should be aimed at making the target feel comfortable even if initially resistant. That understanding of which buttons to push, and the ability to implement it on the nampa battlegrounds, might not come overnight, but in due course over time I've found that things tend to fall into place, and that focus, determination and single-mindedness can work wonders. Whether to disclose marital status is a judgment call, dependent on circumstances, necessity and the judged trustworthiness of the target. If grooming an ongoing relationship that began with nampa, or the subject of marital status came up in conversation in the initial encounter, it might be a straightforward fact that one should have little trouble with disclosing. OTOH, if targeting a gyaru or someone younger or less stable you're hitting on for the sole purpose of a one night stand or quickie, then it might not be advisable...

All just my POV / two yen...

Cheers and good luck, gentlemen!

[AussieGaigin]

Hi guys,

Looking for some feedback from your experience.

Are there some married guys here who like Nampa?

Do you state if you're married or not? I heard actually its easier when you do so with J-ladies. Do you confirm it with your experience?

If you're married, are there some specific targets which are easier?

Thanks!

I can't recall that I've ever been asked, but if it was to be a one off encounter I would probably deny it.

Maybe some girls have suspected it, but it hasn't been an issue.

Might be a different scenario if you were a long term stayer in Japan, and looking for a long term relationship.

Some married J ladies don't seem to have issues with having a bit on the side, so guess it works both ways.

[Herpes]

Hi guys,

Looking for some feedback from your experience.

Are there some married guys here who like Nampa?

Do you state if you're married or not? I heard actually its easier when you do so with J-ladies. Do you confirm it with your experience?

If you're married, are there some specific targets which are easier?

Thanks!

[OneIpole]

Dating sites have been in Japan. On other sites I kill it, but in Japan its a lot of work. Finally got JC working for me. I have about 10 girls who want to meet, but nothing under 30. It is a process though.

World friends has sucked ass for me. I am getting nothing there. I tried so many different approaches and still nothing.

All in all I will be pretty good I think when I get there in Feb. Still though I am looking forward to hitting the bars and clubs to see what I can stir up.

[OneIpole]

I was reading back a bit and there was some good advice and talk about being in shape to help your game. I wanted to add to the good advice.

I box and play sports and do what I can. I am over 40 now and as you know it takes much longer to recover.

One thing that has been pretty good for me all around has been adding a few supplements. I do the standard protein shake after working out like everybody, but I also do a testosterone booster. I have tried a few and found one I really like and it does help quite a bit. I have more energy for workouts and throughout the day. It has even improved my sex also. More energy and stronger hard on's.

If your over 40 you may want to look into it.

[OneIpole]

I just joined as a regular member. I will soon my my firt report of being in Tokyo.

Maybe I am not so smart but I had no idea Nampa meant picking up girls!

[AussieGaigin]

I unintentionally did some train nampa one day a few years back. I asked an attractive lady in her twenties, in Japanese,"Excuse me does this train go to, so and so?" She answered me, then asked me if I had free time to go with her that day.

I`m sure just for a coffee or a stroll. I was really flattered but explained I was on my way to a friend`s house. But it seemed like a decent way to meet a nice woman.

Missed opportunity. Such encounters can well end up with more than just a "coffee or a stroll". Shame you couldn't follow through, or get her to meet up with you later.

Try it again sometime.

[Member #4328]

I unintentionally did some train nampa one day a few years back. I asked an attractive lady in her twenties, in Japanese,"Excuse me does this train go to, so and so?" She answered me, then asked me if I had free time to go with her that day.

I`m sure just for a coffee or a stroll. I was really flattered but explained I was on my way to a friend`s house. But it seemed like a decent way to meet a nice woman.

[AussieGaigin]

I have found that most J girls have some English ability, and it is much more "fun" teaching them as you go along. Knowing "sukoshi Nihongo" will earn you points, if you can switch between the two in your conversation.

There are no hard and fast rules in this game; every girl is different. You just have to learn to adjust to situations as they occur. It took me a few years of "study" and practical experience to get a good success rate.