Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[GoodEnough]

Pinay Lover:

Too bad about the lousy timing, but I will be here for quite a while. As to Thailand, I've spent a couple of months there this year after a hiatus of about 5 years and was struck by how little the place had changed in regard to the sex scene. Patpong, Soi Cowboy and Nana Plaza were all pretty much as I had remembered them. Some bars have closed, others have opened, but plus ca change plus que la meme chose. In a sense, I think I enjoy the Philippines more from that standpoint. It's less overtly commercial here, a little more gentile, and everyone speaks some English. The Thai girls may be prettier, but the Filipinas are enthusiastic and anxious to please.

[Pinay Lover]

Goodenough,

My timing really must suck the past couple of months. I'm sorry to inform you that I'll be leaving for Thailand, the land of smiles. First thing Monday morning. I'll be there for the week before heading for the States (San Francisco) fo attend a company meeting (and file my taxes, too). Go see my Mom across the Bay while I'm over there as well.

I'm really going to miss the Philippines while I'm gone but I'll make it up in Thailand. It has been a couple of years since I've been there so I know there has been some changes. Probably put up a post or two in the Thai board once I'm done.

Enjoy your stay in Manila and thanks for the tip about the place across the street from the LA Cafe. Did not notice it before. Cute girls.

[GoodEnough]

Pinay Lover:

I will be coming to Manila tomorrow and staying for a couple of nights. If you're there and you want to hang out a bit, drop me a PM and let me know how to contact you. I'm glad that the situation with you Marketing Manager worked out for the best. You created an excellent solution that helped her salvage her pride and dignity.

[Pinay Lover]

Thanks Goodenough,

I'm glad to let you guys know that the new marketing manager is adjusting very well to her new promotion. She is back to par at 110% and her sisters are working out in their new positions rather well.

Now I can concentrate on my hobby that many of us in this board share. With the school session coming to a close in a month or two, there will be a influx of college students out there pretty soon.

[GoodEnough]

I too haven't visited here in a while so this is the first I heard of Pinay Lover's solution to the problem of the young lady. Way to go man! You have probably created the opportunity she and her family needed for a decent life. I'm sure you're changed her life and that of her family forever, and that you helped them gain some dignity for which they will be forever grateful.

[Cute_Tsinito]

haven't been to this forum in a while. but after reading some of the posts, just wanted to add some comments about the kidnapping situation. kidnappers will take anyone that they think they can make money off of. it doesn't matter whether the person is chinese or caucasian--as in the case with that american guy that goodenough mentioned. i recall from the papers that there was also another case where there was even a video made of some poor expat's ear being cut with scissors to expedite his company's ransom payment.

so it it not really correct to think that kidnappers are worried that they will cause some sort of "international incident." only the philippine department of finance department right now cares about foreign opinion. kidnappers only care about being paid ransom money.

it is always best to be prudent in all situations. have read recently in some competing sites of foreign guys wandering around in the cubao area trying out some clubs. thats really foolish...

[Genuis8]

PinayLover,

I am glad to see that you found a creative solution to her problem by providing extra work for her siblings. This is a good sign of a decent woman who did escorting due to financial needs, and is looking for a way out. My kudos to you and Firedick on his excellent suggestion.

[Firedick]

You are welcome Pinay Lover. I'm very glad to hear that things worked out. I wish we had more nice guys like you as Expats.

FD

PS: If it is appropriate to post your business, do so. I'm sure a few of us could send you some business. You may have to do it on the personal ads board to keep Jackson happy.

[Pinay Lover]

Thanks guys, appreciate your support.

Speaking about Thailand. Yes, the women there are much cuter, sexier and prettier than their filipina counter parts. But when it comes to having sex, the experience with filipinas is, in my opinion, more realistic. Another plus is that most filipinas speak a decent to fluent english.

And those guys on the Thai Board are really hard on their women.

[Sainter]

Here, here well done dude. At least you guys here have a bigger heart than my compatriots in the Thailand section. :)

[Cheapskate]

Pinay Lover, you are a man with a BIG HEART, and you will be blessed.

I also wish to thank Firedick and Genius8 for coming to your aid as soon as they did.

[Ilongo_boy]

You're a GOOD man PL. Cheers!
IB

[Pinay Lover]

Thanks, FD and genius,

Since I couldn't talk to her at work, I visited her this past weekend at her house. Met her mom and family. Oldest of five and bread winner of the family. Her Mom just retired last year. Dad passed away a couple of years ago. Too make things short. I was able to talk to her about staying. She was reluctantl and agreed to listen. I asked her if she has plans to get out of her "other" job but regretably she still needs it to make ends meet.

I found out her Madame get 50% of the take. And they charge the client (mostly koreans and japanese) anywhere from P 5,000 and up. Boy, those guys sure know how to hurt the market. And she only works two to four clients only per month. Now knowing how much she makes and needs, I made her an offer. A promotion and a modest increase in her salary. Plus part-time jobs for her two younger sisters after school in another department to help her out. I'm glad to let you know that she took it. Her sisters start orientation next week and she will ask her madame to remove her from the listing.

Thanks for all your help guys. It is truly appreciated.

[Firedick]

I would do exactly what genuis8 said with the addition of a promotion. This demonstrates your sincere desire to keep her. You may get away with a title change with no or a token increase in pay.

Good luck.

FD

[Genuis8]

PinayLover,

Is her performance as a manager in your company very good that you want to keep her? Then call her in for a heart-to-heart talk. Tell her that her secret is totally safe with you, and not to quit right away. Ask her to keep up her prior work quality in the office, and as far as you're concerned, her extra work outside your company is her own private business.

Tell her that there is no need to save face and keep the shame from her family, because you are not going to tell anyone else. And there is no need for her to quit, because you really value her contribution to your company.