Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[Wander Luster]

For those of you that have used the online meeting / dating / marraige / freind Web sites to find woman in the PH that are "good to go" without an extended courting ritual, which sites do you prefer.

I've been using filipina heart, and there are certainly a large number of woman on this. I just wonder whether 95% of these filipinas are just looking for a long term relationship which is not what I want.

What about Freindfinder? If it's very name implies something not too serious like marriage or relationship, is it more fertile hunting ground?

WL

[Slickery]

I ask a while back, what would an 18 year old want with a 46 year old. ( me ) I found out when each of the three ladies ask for money. The highest was eight hundred a month to a low of four hundred a month, u s dollars. All three of these ladies said they loved me very much. i was not opposed to sending them some money, but not anywere near what they were asking for.

How much would be a fair amount to send a lady each month. Assume you were planning to go there in a couple of months a maybe marry if everthing worked out ok.

I don't like to pass judgment on the other fellow but it should have been clear the kind of people he was dealing with when he had to make so many financial commitments before they would agree to the marrage.

True or not it should remind us all to think with our big head and not our little head. And listen to our innervoice we all have.

As in any country there are lots of people out there willing to take your money if you are not carefull.

I am still out there looking and will not allow a few bad apples spoil the whole bunch.

Slickery

[Flying Scotsman]

Read this whole Michael beard story. Emphasis on "story". All I can say is that this guy is definitely not "the full shilling". If true it sounds to me like a guy desperately trying to show his own side to condone the mess he has got himself into. Totally agree with GoodEnough's comments but still cant make up my mind if this story is BS or what!! Pretty girl tho :) never saw her when i was in Athena.

The Flying Scotsman

[GoodEnough]

I just read about half of the story and got bored at that point. If the story is true, then this guy is the most stupid and naive son of a ***** ever to come here. To me, the tale is pretty believeable, and is practically a metaphor for a certain aspect of the local culture here. Alternatively, by taking advantage of the voracious greed of most people, he could probably have bought his way out of trouble at any time. Had the girl's family had any brains, they would have encouraged her to move to the States and then to bleed this guy for all he was worth.

The moral of this story for us expats, who run the risks every day, is probably that if it seems too good to be true, it isn't true and the instant a girl's family starts to get involved, you get out. Of course, I never did hear of any place that had a PhP5,000 bar fine, or of anyone who would be stupid enough to pay it even if asked. They must have seen this guy coming from miles and miles away.

The most appalling part of this story, if true, is not what happened to this guy, who at 41 years of age should have had a modicum of sense. It's about a society, a judicial system and above all, a family that would so callously exploit a child. The family is guilty of child abuse.

[Frequent Flier]

Even though I figured it was BS/Fiction or, as said here already, a one sided view of what really happened.

Based on what I have read about the Philippines at time if your not careful. It is more likly that they would have offered him a plea bargin. Maybe one or two thousand US dollars that would go to the family to drop the case.

I have read about this before on other boards. I kept waiting for that to come up in his report. Also, he speaks many times of losing his entire wealth, yet he is always leaving on a trip around the Philippines while the trial is being dismissed.

Have to admit that pictures give it some credibility, but who really knows where the pictures are from.

FF

[Mookman]

the micheal beard story has been around for a long time. many say it's bs, some say it's real.

from what i heard, that girl was **** and supposedly he was a ****, so what ever happened to him he deserved it. the girl was 14 when he met her and even if she did work at a club it's still no excuse. many say the **** got what he deserved.

mook

[Mookman]

Trim, the sad part is that I did use a web cam like I mentioned in my story. She still looked different. If I think back, the room she was in was kinda dark but still web cams are still low light not very crisp.

Mook

[English Dan]

Tiantain,

Holy *&^%#...What a horrible ordeal that guy Mike went through. I am suddenly feeling real skiddish.

Hank

[GoodEnough]

Texas Joe:

The rumors you're hearing are baseless. There's no restriction of any kind, at least for us civilians, and the place and the places are still wide open.

[Texas Joe]

Hey Everyone,

I went to the PI for the first time last month, and had a great time. Not only in Angels, but manila as well. Thanks for all the help with everyones directions, it was very easy after reading where to go and what to do. Next question I have is that I heard from a military guy that there i a lockdown on the PI this month, is that true. Or is it just for the miltary. I am going again this month, and want to make sure I can get in when I arrive. Getting info in Iraq isnt as easy as you all think, everything is heresay, so I would hate to show up and be turned around.

Thanks again.

Here is a pic from my last trip.

[Tiantain]

This is a very interesting story that I think everyone should read.

http://www.michaelbeard.com/PageOneNew.html

[Mookman]

I'm going to start moving away from the internet dating sites after my last experience. Your're right that it will be better meeting the girls at the internet cafe emailing and chatting with their overseas bf's.

I found that Netopia had the most girls such as the one in Ayala Cebu because there is no minimum such as 30p for 30min minimum, Netopia doesn't have a minimum so a girl can use a computer real quick for 5p.

It's so hard to tell if a photo has been fixed but the best give away is if the girls face is clear and clean, no blemishes at all, if she's between the ages of 18 and 25 she has acne. Sounds gay but I use Shieshedo face wash, I was taking a shower with a girl on my last trip and I asked her what she used on her face, she told me she just used plain soap. Figures since Sheishedo or other face washes cost money and soap does not help with acne much.

For now I'm done with P4P girls, it's too easy meeting regular girls. Sure it's more of a headache but it's been a while since I've been in the GAME. And I have plenty of free time on my hands when I go there.

Attached is a photo of one of the girls that I met through lavalife I think, anyway, in the picture she decent, not a knock out but decent so I met her at the Starbucks at Ayala in Cebu. This girl has so much acne and the amount of foundation she had on could not hide it much at all. In the picture she looks so different than real life. When you look at her in the picture she has a natural beauty, nothing that says wow but she's cute enough. Let me tell you that either the picture is old, touchec up or someone else. Next time as an experiment for here I'll post before and after pictures so that you guys can get an idea.

I'm usually not that mean, I swear, even if I a girl I meet in not very attactive and she totally false advertised, I still have a coffee or a meal with her, chat her up and then make an excuse to get away. And I always give the girl about 200p so she can take a taxi home and for her troubles. But this one I had to ditch instantly, I said there was an emergency, handed her a 100p for a ride home and said to call me later. I'm not going to do that again since it's messed up but I sent her a real non-touched up picture and she should of done the same instead of wasting both our times.


For myself, it's harder to meet regular girls. I'm Asian so I don't stick out as much and the girls don't know that I speak English perfectly so it's harder for me. When I sit at a cafe, I get approached less than someone who is white because I'm not a obvious monger or I don't look like I'm an American. But once I make eye contact and start a conversation, most times it works out. I'm in my late 20's so I'm within the same age as the girls so we have things to talk about for the most part.

I did meet a couple of Japanese and Korean girls in cebu, didn't know there were so many there. It helps that I can speak their language but apparently there is a korean school that teaches english there so college age korean girls come to cebu and even davao to study their english.

Mook

[Frequent Flier]

Hey GE,

You got that one right.

I can only quote, as I have done may times in the past on WSG, Charlie Sheen. The famous actor who was implicated in a Hollywood escort service that was busted some years ago.

When Jay Leno asked Charlie why he would pay for sex. Charlie responded. "Jay, I don't pay for sex, I pay for them to leave after sex."

It is good to keep this in mind when getting that free lay I read many guys posting about. I always give the girl money.

I even picked up a honey in Greenbelt in Makati during my last trip. She didn't ask for a thing, but I gave her $2,000.00 peso any way. Once the money changes hands they understand.

I even had a semi regular in Hong Kong who used to get pissed off becasue everytime we screwed I would give her money when she left. She would say I was treating her like a fucking girl. But, she always took the money and in the end I didn't have to worry.

FF

[GoodEnough]

FF:

Thanks. Maybe I developed the rap to compensate for other shortcomings, like advancing years, a serious fondness for good wine and a general avoidance of exercise. I learned last night though that too much of a good thing be it women or food, can be debilitating.

The woman I pulled out of Gallera is, by a long shot, the best looking woman that I've been with here. We spent a truly exhausting night in my bed last night, and I'm happy to be alone this evening. I had to lie to keep her away tonight, and now she says she loves me. This girl is 22 with a body to die for, an adorable, Spanish face and an appetite for sex that's greater than mine, and mine is pretty gluttonous. The problem is that she is now going to try to move in, move everyone else out, and go on permanent status. This is the last think I want.

I went after her in the first place because she is (a) so gorgeous and because (b) I was told she never goes with customers. Getting with her became a challenge. I am starting to think that it's better to P4P, with no expectations of anything but sex and no obligations. My friend the Slayer is having similar problems. His woman in Cebu is simply outstanding, and, from what he tells me, is also voracious. She apparently though wants to be not only his number one, but his only one and just will not let him breathe.

The Slayer can speak for himself, but at my age, this kind of clinging possessiveness is the last thing I need or want. I know I sound like a spoiled kid in a candy store who'se eaten too much chocolat. Maybe I'll just hide for a few days until my attitude changes and/or I get horny again.

GE

[GoodEnough]

Mook:

Thanks for the post. You confirmed what I suspected but could not prove. It's probably better just to hang around the local internet cafes for a while. At least that way, you can spot the good looking (pre photo) chicks while they're surfing for husbands, boyfriends, supporters or whatevers.