Seeking Arrangements

[VanessasClient]

Met up with a girl recently but the arrangement stuff never came up. I took her out to a bar and then decent restaurant which she enjoyed, then back to mine. I even went bare with her. I already made plans with her again this week. When we were back at mine I was slightly worried about a scam but she seemed genuine and scammers don't usually sit through 3 hours of eating and drinking.

I've had one experience where arrangement stuff didn't come up before but I brought it up when I was taking her home the first time. Now I'm wondering if that was a mistake. That girl later told me she blew the first guy from sa for free hah.

Any tips for how to handle it? I don't want to inflate my ego and think I showed her such a good time she's ok with it, but at the same time maybe she's good with getting taken out?

How do I bring up testing / bc? I usually don't but we were somewhere I didn't have a condom at the time. Do you trust them enough to CIP?

Due to a couple factors, sex wasn't that great. Thinking back I usually don't enjoy sex on first dates that much, probably because I don't know what to expect or I'm worried about a scam. Any tips there? Meet and greet first LOL?

Just me personally, but I don't think it's wise not to have access to condoms. Remember, in life it's always better to have it, and not need it, then need it, and not have it. Same with being in a car, you can wear your seat belt your entire life and not get into a crash. You had it, even though it turns out you didn't need it.

On the other hand, let's say you never carry an EDC, or any other kind of weapon with you, and you go 20 years without ever encountering a gang member. Then one night, 2 to 3 hoodlums confront you, and it turns out they don't want your money. Extremely high probability you are going down, unless you happen to be very skilled martial artist, or olympic class sprinter. And guys like the latter two wouldn't be on a site like this, because they can easily attract women without money. Regardless, this is an example where you didn't have it, but you actually needed it.

There's lots of tales of guys getting unprotected intercourse from Seeking. And there's also lots of tales of people having the winning lottery numbers. You decide how many are true. While the potential repercussions of something going awry are not usually deadly as in the example above, certain STDs and the risk of pregnancy are quite serious. But. If you want to do it, at least you had access to condoms that it turns out you didn't need. Worst case scenario, a small pack of quality condoms maybe cost you $10, and you can save them for later.

Nor would I assume any woman off Seeking isn't there primarily for the money; all else secondary. Otherwise they would probably be on another site like eHarmony, Bumble, or Match. They can have second or third motives, like dinner or emotional connection, but I would always assume money is the queen.

[Buksida]

Yes totally safe. Baires is a wonderful city and these were what we go to seeking for nice regular girls making a buck on the side. No issues.

They were all dinner and a walk and head to room. I am always a dinner to room guy with very rare exceptions regardless of country.

Two were prob 3-4 hr dates and one was three days. Of course it started out as a 3-4 hr date. 😋

OK. Its worked well for me!!

[GoingDumb]

Met up with a girl recently but the arrangement stuff never came up. I took her out to a bar and then decent restaurant which she enjoyed, then back to mine. I even went bare with her. I already made plans with her again this week. When we were back at mine I was slightly worried about a scam but she seemed genuine and scammers don't usually sit through 3 hours of eating and drinking.

I've had one experience where arrangement stuff didn't come up before but I brought it up when I was taking her home the first time. Now I'm wondering if that was a mistake. That girl later told me she blew the first guy from sa for free hah.

Any tips for how to handle it? I don't want to inflate my ego and think I showed her such a good time she's ok with it, but at the same time maybe she's good with getting taken out?

How do I bring up testing / bc? I usually don't but we were somewhere I didn't have a condom at the time. Do you trust them enough to CIP?

Due to a couple factors, sex wasn't that great. Thinking back I usually don't enjoy sex on first dates that much, probably because I don't know what to expect or I'm worried about a scam. Any tips there? Meet and greet first LOL?

[VanessasClient]

I was really reluctant to try and use Seeking again. But seeing as I didn't have any luck on Tinder, the last thing I wanted to do is walk the streets looking for a girl, or go to a brothel.

So, I would up communicating on the site with about 30 women who were in the DR, which was my destination. Then I got contacted by various other girls from different countries, maybe nearly as many as from the DR.

Of the 30 from the site who were in my applicable area, I probably moved the communication from the site to Whatsapp with about 10 to 15 of them. Of those 10 to 15, I was eventually able to narrow it down to about 5. And I only wound up seeing 1 of the 5, mainly because the other ones just weren't offering what I wanted, either looks wise, price wise, or initial meeting preference.

She's nearly 20 years younger than me, and has a very strong work ethic. Highly motivated to make a good life for herself. Also, had absolutely no problem spending extra time with me, without asking for additional compensation. It was a very informal arrangement. But also she very much appreciated me and what I was doing for her. I would describe her as bubbly, humorous, and playful. She's still chatting with me now, and is not asking for money. I certainly have no plans on a long term commitment with anyone, be it this girl, or anyone else. But, this experience at least shows me the potential is out there. But, at the same time it took me almost 3 week of incessantly taking to various women, and paying for a membership that costs more than the price of the most expensive sex worker from Sosua or Chiviricas, just to be able to find 1 person. It's like comparing shooting fish in a barrel, to deep sea fishing. Hell, if you go out into the middle of the ocean, there's no guarantee you're going to catch anything at all. You could spend hours out there, all for naught.

From browsing around the site though, it does seem like it might very well be the best option for Puerto Rico. Got lots of messages from Colombia, and I strongly suspect many are from either fake profiles looking for online cash, or predatory women.

[FilthyBeaver]

And nothing worse than morning breath

Early morning bang has never really been my thing. I get horniest when drunk and have a custom made set of beer goggles. 😜 Morning my sex interest is low. But I think I am quite a bit older than you. I do just enjoy having a PYT to snuggle and then have breakfast with and bang the next nights.

[Steve 9696]

We're very similar there. THough I usually require / insist the date go till morning so that there's an early am bang also and I start my day off right. You ever do that?

Early morning bang has never really been my thing. I get horniest when drunk and have a custom made set of beer goggles. 😜 Morning my sex interest is low. But I think I am quite a bit older than you. I do just enjoy having a PYT to snuggle and then have breakfast with and bang the next nights.

[AmericanPi]

Yes totally safe. Baires is a wonderful city and these were what we go to seeking for nice regular girls making a buck on the side. No issues.

They were all dinner and a walk and head to room. I am always a dinner to room guy with very rare exceptions regardless of country.

Two were prob 3-4 hr dates and one was three days. Of course it started out as a 3-4 hr date. 😋

We're very similar there. THough I usually require / insist the date go till morning so that there's an early am bang also and I start my day off right. You ever do that?

[Steve 9696]

I have had good luck with Seeking in San Jose Costa Rica and in Mexico City. Did you feel safe and secure with them? How much time did you spend with them? Did you take them for a meal to check them out or just meet at your hotel?

Yes totally safe. Baires is a wonderful city and these were what we go to seeking for nice regular girls making a buck on the side. No issues.

They were all dinner and a walk and head to room. I am always a dinner to room guy with very rare exceptions regardless of country.

Two were prob 3-4 hr dates and one was three days. Of course it started out as a 3-4 hr date. 😋

[FilthyBeaver]

I never haggle over the price. Their price is their price for who knows what reason. What I will do is say I want x amount if time (generally a min of overnight if not days) for that price. I don't see clock watchers, they're basically prostitutes or prostitutes who have convinced themselves they're not prostitutes. There are much easier ways to find them than using seeking. Of course to do this I need to be reasonably sure she'll keep my attention for that long and to some extent vice versa. Basically there needs to be some common chemistry that's why I try to have a conversation before we even discuss money. It's very time consuming but it works for me. Every girl I've ever negotiated a long meeting (overnight or multi-day) has been a success in my eyes, except one. Last thing I want is someone I'm uncomfortable with and same for them. I can't perform if we're not on the same page anyway so I see no reason to ask for a time guarantee. If they like you they'll stick around, if not they'll bolt. Why would I want to keep an unhappy girl around?

You are absolutely correct knowing they're there because they want to be and not because they're expected or compensated to be is the holy grail of this form of mongering. And for the record I have had multi-day and several overnights with girls who didn't speak english and I spoke little to none of their language. I'm talking about soapy girls in Bangkok & strippers in Eastern Europe. Very rarely was money even discussed once they agreed to see me outside of work I just gave them what I felt like and never had any of them complain.

I consider myself generous (in some eyes I'm probably a chump) and I do try to do fun things with them outside of the bedroom and that really helps to disarm them. Think plays, comedy shows, multi-course tasting menus, guided walking tours, etc. Basically anything that makes both of us not focused on the fact that there's money involved. That has worked wonders.

I was chatting w Blue Moon and he almost always discusses amount of time they will spend together. Like gets a different price for 4-5 hours vs overnight. Obviously in Bangkok or the like there is the ST or LT thing. But with Seeking I never discuss amount of time (we'll I prob have 5-10% if the time). Personally I love this. It's prob less than 50% of the time but def more than 10% that a girl chooses to stay over. And of course it's the same $300-500 or whatever regardless.

I find that soooo satisfying. To know that she's there because she wants to be not because I'm paying her. What about you? You discuss hours? Evening vs overnight? What's your normal modus operandi?

[Buksida]

I have done Buenos Aires Seeking three times. All were great. It's not cheap $200-300. But OMG very hot girls and good English.

I have had good luck with Seeking in San Jose Costa Rica and in Mexico City. Did you feel safe and secure with them? How much time did you spend with them? Did you take them for a meal to check them out or just meet at your hotel?

[Sean EZ]

SA / Seeking was great 5-10 years ago, I got laid so much and often for free. Especially in London. It is now horrible, scammer and a mix of frustrated sb's and escorts.

Glambu I used extensively in south america over the past 12 months, especially in Argentina. And now the app appears to have shut down.

I wonder what is next big thing.

[Steve 9696]

I was chatting w Blue Moon and he almost always discusses amount of time they will spend together. Like gets a different price for 4-5 hours vs overnight. Obviously in Bangkok or the like there is the ST or LT thing. But with Seeking I never discuss amount of time (we'll I prob have 5-10% if the time). Personally I love this. It's prob less than 50% of the time but def more than 10% that a girl chooses to stay over. And of course it's the same $300-500 or whatever regardless.

I find that soooo satisfying. To know that she's there because she wants to be — not because I'm paying her. What about you? You discuss hours? Evening vs overnight? What's your normal modus operandi?

[Steve 9696]

I am not discriminatory at all. I am friendly to all communities although my sexual preferences are typically white / Caucasians.

Of late, I have this lady chatting me up. She is super nice, friendly, and we have an organic chat going on. She is a transwoman.

I have never been in that kind of dynamic before. Dragging my feet on meeting her.

What are your thoughts / tips? Should I meet? If I do, should I keep it a dinner only or take her to room?

My worst fear is that I am treading into unknown and I don't want to do something stupid that I end up offending a nice person. If nothing, she and I can be friends, I guess.

FYI there is an ISG prohibition about discussing trans people. I can't recall the specifics but I've seen reports pulled as a result.

That said my concern would be setting the wrong expectations. If your OK going with a pre op — that's cool no judgment. But I don't think I would move to dinner etc unless you are. It's just going to be an expectations mismatch. So I'the say unless you are comfortable having sex w this person then cut it back to platonic clearly ASAP. So as to not disappoint them.

[Gfefan]

I am not discriminatory at all. I am friendly to all communities although my sexual preferences are typically white / Caucasians.

Of late, I have this lady chatting me up. She is super nice, friendly, and we have an organic chat going on. She is a transwoman.

I have never been in that kind of dynamic before. Dragging my feet on meeting her.

What are your thoughts / tips? Should I meet? If I do, should I keep it a dinner only or take her to room?

My worst fear is that I am treading into unknown and I don't want to do something stupid that I end up offending a nice person. If nothing, she and I can be friends, I guess.

[Gfefan]

I recently noticed that although I am selective in girls I reach out to, I notice that if the girl has a picture reading a book, I inevitably reach out. Funnily, my top 3 SBs (my favorites all time) all have such a pic. Weird I picked myself on this pattern just now. Maybe, I have a book fetish.

On the contrary, I see myself not reaching out if the girls have only selfies. And a definite no even if one of that pic is in a toilet / washroom and no effort to crop it out.