Tips and techniques for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm

[Dan7373]

Barry Komisaruk, PhD, a behavioral neuroscientist at Rutgers University and author of The Science of Orgasm, says that the doggy position works better than the missionary position for pleasing women and making them orgasm.

http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex...-world/slide/9

When the lady bends her hips, then this results in better contact between her clitoris and your cock. But the thing I really like about the doggy position is that you can easily reach with your hand between your lady's thighs and finger her clit, while you are nailing her pussy with your cock. As long as you have some lube on your hand, then you can make it very pleasant for the lady.

This might actually be a good way to prolong your sex with the lady, when she allows you only one cumshot with her. Because when you get close to cumming with her, then you can just stop and stay inside her with your cock, while you finger her clit. And then you can bang her some more, until it's time to take another break.

It's awkward to stop and just stay inside the lady with your cock, without doing anything. But if you are fingering your lady's clit every time you stop, then this isn't awkward at all. You are just pleasing the sexy girl. And you can last this way with her for a long time indeed, even when she allows you only one cumshot with her.

Delay while you play, and then bang her some more. That's the way to last, when your sex is hard-and-fast.

Some people would say that slowing with the lady and doing her nice and slow is the way to last for a long time with her. But this doesn't work well in practice for a lot of guys. Because your peak pleasure with the lady is when you are banging her hard-and-fast. And there is no way you can feel such pleasure with the lady, when you slow down with her. Slowing down with the lady often means that you don't get much pleasure with her. Which is no good for guys.

The ideal situation is when you bang your lady hard-and-fast and achieve your peak pleasure with her. Then you stop, before you pop, and you play with her clit to give yourself some time to recover. And then you bang the lady some more to achieve another peak pleasure with her. This way you can have many peak pleasures with your lady. Which is a lot better than slowing down with the lady and not feeling much pleasure with her at all.

[Dan7373]

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Beno69 disagreed with me about what the G-Spot is. And I realize that many people still believe in its existence. But I find it hard to believe in something that contradicts the latest medical and scientific studies on this subject. Because science is usually right, especially when there are a number of studies saying the same thing and not just one study.

http://www.salon.com/2014/09/16/the_...o_bed_partner/

[Captain Solo]

Well, at least we agree that the G spot exists, and is on the upper vaginal path, under the pelvic bone. It's part of the vagina, whereas the clitoris is the tiny protruded knob inside a hood.

The girls get very aroused, and most times reach powerful climax, when I caress that spot with my index finger.

I think the male penis evolved into a long shaft, with and upward curve, and a cap at the end, a perfect shape to manipulate that specific G spot in female's vagina. Males are just equipped with the right tools to attract and retain females.

I think the so-called G-spot is actually the woman's clitoris. It's a just different name for the same thing. Because if you look at the woman's anatomy picture that I've attached below, then you will see that the woman's clitoris is just below her pubic bone, which is where the G-spot is also reportedly located.

[Dan7373]

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The G spot inside the vagina under the pelvic bone is allegedly a very erotic area, probably the main source of arousal and orgasms. A virgin girl friend would not let me penetrate, but asked me to apply pressure with the flat of my palm on her pelvic bone and shove it around. She got roaring wet and came every time. I would then lay my engorge dick on her pelvic bone and ride her that way....

I think the so-called G-spot is actually the woman's clitoris. It's a just different name for the same thing. Because if you look at the woman's anatomy picture that I've attached below, then you will see that the woman's clitoris is just below her pubic bone, which is where the G-spot is also reportedly located.

I've attached another picture that shows the woman's clitoral anatomy. And this picture shows that most of the woman's clitoris is internal. Her clitoral tissue goes under her pubic bone and splits up into two parts that form her external pussy-lips.

The woman's clitoris is actually similar to the man's cock in terms of its parts. The head of the woman's clitoris is the external part that you see. And it's equivalent to the head of the man's cock in terms of its pleasure and sensitivity. And the internal parts of the woman's clitoris are equivalent to the shaft of the man's cock. They get erect, and they produce a feeling for the woman, but they are less sensitive than the head of her clitoris.

And of course, the reason why a woman's clitoris can be so sensitive, more sensitive than the head of a man's cock, is because the woman has the same number of nerve endings in the head of her clitoris as a guy has in the head of his cock. Her nerve endings are concentrated in a much smaller area, which makes it more sensitive.

Using the flat of my hand to massage the woman's whole pussy is actually my favorite way to arouse a woman sexually and possibly bring her to orgasm. I've learned to do it this way from my Thai massage ladies. Because I noticed that whenever my Thai lady spread her legs and massaged me with her pussy a lot, then she would get wet and ready for the ride with me that followed. These ladies weren't just pleasing me by massaging me with their pussies. They were getting themselves wet and ready for the ride with me. This clearly worked for my massage ladies.

And that's how I got the idea of massaging the woman's whole pussy with the flat of my hand. When a Thai lady massages you with her pussy, then she massages you with her whole pussy and not any specific part of it. And that's the way I do it, when I lay the flat of my hand on the woman's pussy. I basically re-create the woman's pussy-massage experience, except I do it even better with my hand. With my hand, I can vary the speed and the pressure, and I can use my fingers to massage around her clitoris. Or I can just slide my fingers between her pussy-lips to spread them apart and use my whole hand to massage the inside of her pussy. The great thing about using your whole hand on the lady's pussy is that you cover all of the bases with her every time. Her clitoris is somewhere in there under your hand, and you are bound to massage it in some way.

Now that I recall my pussy massage experiences with various ladies, I can say that massaging the lady's pussy from side to side, rather than up and down, seems to work better for the lady. I didn't realize this before, but this is actually a confirmation of the suggestion that you should lick across the woman's clitoris, rather than up and down. Some sex-studies have found that in cunnilingus, it works better for the woman, when you lie perpendicular to the woman and lick across her clitoris. Such cunnilingus sounds awkward to me, but massaging across the woman's clitoris with your hand is no trouble at all. Side-to-side is even easier to do, than massaging her pussy up and down.

[BionicMan]

According to Dr. Patti Britton, PhD, clinical sexologist and co-founder of SexCoachU.com, you should lie perpendicular to the woman and lick across her clitoris, rather than lie between her legs and lick her clitoris up and down. Because women are 50% more likely to orgasm, when you lick across their clitoris, rather than up and down.
http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex...-world/slide/8

DATY is Definetely a winner and what mentioned above finds results. My Asian FB likes being licked a lot and no shy to demand to have clot sucked just like in a BJ. Even to be lightly bitten.

[Captain Solo]

A very cute, petite, sexy and verbal girl in Tijuana, named Zwannee, was coaching me how to arouse and give girls pleasures.

She prefers a tongue or a wet finger, gently caressing either sides of the clitoris, not directly on the clitoris, but on the sides. She said it really drives girls horny. A girl in Hollywood had problems getting orgasms, despite a couple drawers full of powered sex toys. She said when she's aroused, her clit would become too sensitive and painful to the touch. I was kissing her, alternately licking and sucking her nipples, and caressing the sides of her clit for half hour before she had her shuddering orgasms. She was embracing and kissing me, almost crying, thanking me endlessly. From then on, I would warm her up with foreplay and vaginal intercourse, then give her orgasms with my finger on her clit.

The G spot inside the vagina under the pelvic bone is allegedly a very erotic area, probably the main source of arousal and orgasms. A virgin girl friend would not let me penetrate, but asked me to apply pressure with the flat of my palm on her pelvic bone and shove it around. She got roaring wet and came every time. I would then lay my engorge dick on her pelvic bone and ride her that way.

With a pretty Mexican girl, I would suck on her nipples and insert my index finger deep into her vagina, gently caressing the textured area on the roof, allegedly the G spot. After 2 minutes, she would get very wet; her whole body would go limp; her eyes close shut, but her face would twitch and contort with pleasures.

Another Mexican girl, pretty like a movie star, would enjoy the treatment so much, she would be gasping, her eyes roll back all white, mouth gape open, head roll left and right. She would talk some of the sexiest things to me out loud. She's one of the best fucks in my life. I miss this sexy little girl so much.

Caucasian and Mexican / Spanish girls tend to be far more expressive in beds, making sex with them more satisfying compared to Asians, who are taught to hold back emotions and expressions, My experiences are empirical but my sex theories may be full of shit.

[Dan7373]

Dr. Patti Britton, PhD, clinical sexologist and co-founder of SexCoachU.com, says that you should rock with your cock, rather than pound, when you are having sex with your lady. Because this will make it more pleasant for her.

http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex...-world/slide/9

I think what she means to say is that instead of plunging in an out of the lady's pussy in a straight line, you should go deep inside during your ride and then use your cock to move her pussy around, up and down and from side to side. The stretching and the moving of her pussy stimulates her clitoris and makes it very pleasant for her. If you make this rocking action rhythmic and repetitive, then it might be enough to make her orgasm.

I've tried a variation of this with a Thai lady. I took her pussy in the missionary position and then used my legs to bring her legs close together, with my cock still deep inside her pussy. Her pussy gripped my cock so tightly that I couldn't slide in and out of her anymore. When I moved my cock, then I moved her pussy, instead of sliding in or out. So, I just lay on top of her and rocked my hips to move her pussy with my cock in a rhythmic way. After a few minutes of this, she begged me to stop and give her a couple of minutes to rest. She said that she orgasmed, and she needed a short break.

She seemed to really like what I did with her. But the funny thing was, I had no idea that she orgasmed, until she told me. Apparently, women's orgasms aren't always violent and obvious. Or perhaps, she was trying to be lady-like, and she controlled her orgasmic reaction enough to hide it.

And I have to admit that my rocking sex-action was all for her pleasure and not for mine. My pleasure was mostly psychological. Because my cock was so firmly anchored inside her pussy that I was just jerking on her pussy with my cock, without moving in and out of her at all. I didn't feel much physical pleasure in this sex action. But after she asked me for a break and told me that she orgasmed, then I waited a couple of minutes, as she asked, and then I used my legs to spread her legs wide apart to get her into the traditional missionary position, and I nailed her pussy for my own pleasure the way guys usually do.

The lesson I've learned from this experience is that using your cock to rock the lady's pussy doesn't give much physical pleasure for the guy. It's almost like doing cunnilingus on the lady. The lady gets most of the physical pleasure. You do it for the lady and not for yourself. But once you make her orgasm, then you can give her a short break and nail her the traditional way for your own pleasure. It's okay to take turns at having pleasure, rather than try to make it simultaneous and not do a good job of it.

[Dan7373]

According to Dr. Patti Britton, PhD, clinical sexologist and co-founder of SexCoachU.com, you should lie perpendicular to the woman and lick across her clitoris, rather than lie between her legs and lick her clitoris up and down. Because women are 50% more likely to orgasm, when you lick across their clitoris, rather than up and down.

This sex-tip is very surprising for me. Because I've never seen any guy lick across the woman's clitoris in porn-movies. And my own instinct is also to go in between the woman's open legs and lick her up and down, rather than across.

But now that I think about it, I can see why licking across might work better than licking up and down. When the lady opens her legs for you, and you spread her pussy for licking, then most of your licking ends up below her clitoris, rather than on it. Licking her pussy lips and inside her open vulva might feel mildly pleasant for the lady. But this isn't nearly enough to bring her to orgasm. What the lady needs is a good licking of her clitoris. And that's what she gets, when you lie perpendicular to the lady and lick her clitoris from side to side. This position forces you to concentrate your licking on the woman's clitoris and discourages you from spending much time and effort on the less sensitive parts of her vulva.

On a personal note, I'd like to add that if you are going to have your mouth and tongue on the woman's clitoris, then you might as well give her a good "clitoral-kiss" once in a while. A clitoral-kiss is when you seal your lips around the woman's clitoris and create some negative air pressure around it with your cheeks. This negative air pressure gives the lady an instant clitoral erection and the pleasant sensation associated with it. It works the same way as when the lady seals her lips around your cock and creates some negative air pressure around it with her cheeks.

http://www.mensfitness.com/women/sex...-world/slide/8

[Dan7373]

Very good idea.

Women want to feel loved and fucked at the same time.

If you can give women earth-shaking orgasms, they will latch into you for life like leeches.

So do go into the arts and science how to give women great pleasures, besides giving them money.

The big advantage of having such a discussion here in this forum is that guys from this forum can go out and try various sex tips and techniques with Thai P4P ladies and then report back here about how well these tips and techniques worked in real life with real women.

There is no shortage of sex-advice on the internet. Everybody has some ideas about how to do it. But some of this advice is contradictory. Which makes it hard to know what to believe.

You need real experiences to know what's true and what's not true. And this is where guys in this forum can help a lot. If many guys go out and try various sex tips and techniques with P4P women and report about it here, then we will have enough statistical evidence to say what sex techniques work best for making women orgasm.

There is so little experimental sex-evidence out there, that even real scientist might become interested in this information and use it for their scientific studies and scientific reports.

[Captain Solo]

Very good idea.

Women want to feel loved and fucked at the same time.

If you can give women earth-shaking orgasms, they will latch into you for life like leeches.

So do go into the arts and science how to give women great pleasures, besides giving them money.

According to Jezebel.com, casual sex isn't that great for women. Because women don't get much pleasure out of it.

http://jezebel.com/how-can-we-make-c...men-1736110076

This article says that men don't try much to please their women. And that's the reason why women aren't into casual sex as much as men are.

It's hard to say for sure, if this opinion is right or not. But it is a little surprising to see that even at a sex-website such as this, there is little or no discussion among guys about what works and what doesn't work in terms of sexually arousing women and making them orgasm. Some people would take this as circumstantial evidence which shows men's lack of care for women's pleasure and orgasm.

And to correct this situation, I'm starting this thread where guys can share their tips and experiences for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm. I think it's in the interest of guys to make casual sex more pleasant for women, so that women would want to do it more.

[Dan7373]

According to Jezebel.com, casual sex isn't that great for women. Because women don't get much pleasure out of it.

http://jezebel.com/how-can-we-make-c...men-1736110076

This article says that men don't try much to please their women. And that's the reason why women aren't into casual sex as much as men are.

It's hard to say for sure, if this opinion is right or not. But it is a little surprising to see that even at a sex-website such as this, there is little or no discussion among guys about what works and what doesn't work in terms of sexually arousing women and making them orgasm. Some people would take this as circumstantial evidence which shows men's lack of care for women's pleasure and orgasm.

And to correct this situation, I'm starting this thread where guys can share their tips and experiences for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm. I think it's in the interest of guys to make casual sex more pleasant for women, so that women would want to do it more.