Medellin Reports

[KillArmy]

Guys,

Thanks again. I won't send that, yes, I guess, pathetic message.

Your guys, with cold head, are right, it's pathetic to start blaming things on her etc, it's her life, she does whatever she wants, and yes, she made it clear she didn't want a relation with me.

I will just not write her anything and. I must admit, hope she will write to me. I will then be cold as hell. Be like 'I am to see someone else tonight, bla bla' and see how things goes. I think it's the only clever thing to do, to let her come to me.

Something that pisses me though, is some facts:

- I made an album in my Facebook wall, almost only with landscapes, etc, just 2/3 pictures of us. She shared it to her wall writing something like 'A few days full of lessons with an incredible person'. She. Deleted the sharing of the album after like 2 hours!

- In her Whatsapp, she puts citations that are, IMHO, clearly aimed at me. Some stuff from Mario Benedetti like 'Maybe he really liked me, who knows, but what is sure is that he had some special ability to hurt me'. She also had an image of a citation saying basically 'what is ours? A complicity, a shared secret, a pact. Not a future marriage or anything. But much more than friendship' .

- If she really wants it, she will write me. If she does not care, she will not. End of the game.

I apologize for looking like I didn't read all your clever advices guys. I did.

Now, it's time to move on. She is not the only one in this planet and, actually, I plan to see a girl almost every night during this week (including one from Bello I have already fucked). This is the best cure.

Cheers to all of you guys.

[BatInTheCity]

Check out Tom Leykis Show. He is a no holds barred radio personality with a shitload of YouTube podcasts that might shock you back into learning to love yourself 1st before you love another. Coach Corey Wayne is another one with a lot of You Tube podcasts that may help you see how you are going in the wrong direction as a man.

It's seems obvious you are very emotionally attached to that female. You don't know what to do, except go by your impulses. Your impulse is go by your feelings. Which is maintaining the bleeding instead of helping you learn the lesson, and move on. Especially with the intent of never allowing yourself to stoop so low as a man again. Be honest with yourself. What do you expect to accomplish by contacting her? And why shame her for her behavior?

This is the time for you to take responsibility for your behavior and what you allowed, and for being blind. She's allowed to be as fucked up as she chooses to be. She's not obligated to meet your expectations. You are supposed to know how to carry yourself as an individual, and as a man. And if you missed some lessons in how a man adapts to situations appropriately, its time to recognize this possibility. Good luck.

As the saying goes. If you love her set her free. If she comes back she's yours. I agree you should drop it and chase the millions of other tarts out there. As someone else here said, just see what you can get into. Put your energy into having fun. When I visit these places I just see how much fun I can get into, and whatever happens happens. A short while ago I picked up a chica in sportsman lodge. Ended up liking her and doing several weekend trips to Jaco. But when things got strained in the relationship, I said next. Don't get attached. Just see what you can get into.

[Wrx2005]

I really hope that this guy is not playing with you because honestly, you should try to think with rationality, not with passion. He is 36 years old, always lived in Medellin, and he has never been able to find the women of his life? How can you think you could be different for him? How can you think this will finish well? I really hope for you that you won't suffer from this. I really hope you will be strong. Not like the 2 first time you were in love.

Actually: I really hope that you will stop to be like me! Too passionate in love. Too much sentiments. Too much questions.

XXX, Yes, I still want to see you so much. But I know you are. Dangerous for me. YES, I miss so much your beautiful smile, I miss to see you laugh, I miss to feel your body next to me. But at the same time, I know you are making me too crazy. XXX, I wish I could be forever your very best friend and be stronger than the risks this involve because as I told you once: [Non-English text deleted by Admin]'.

I still want to see you but life goes on. I do not want to forget you but if this is what has to happen, it is fine for me. Whatever happen, once again, I hope you find happiness and stability in your life.

KillArmy, aside from other parts of your post, this is difficult to read. I feel kinda sorry for you. You tell her that she should try to think rationally, not with passion. Something you failed to do for yourself. Then you tell her actually, you wish she would think more like yourself, too passionate. You don't see the masked desperation ooozing out of your words? Pretending to be fine, and dandy with the way things turned out. But broadcasting that you will set everything aside, if she decides to throw you a bone. And giving her all of this information about how you feel about her blah blah blah. Expressing how she manipulated you ect. You don't see anything weak or pathetic about any of this? You don't care about how this makes you look? Not only to her, but to yourself? IMO, the only way you may transform yourself into an aware male is not necessarily to chase women, monger or avoid this woman. You need to get yourself together 1st. Anything else is a distraction from you learning and reinforcing the discipline of manhood.

[NewGuy3]

I used to listen to Tom Lykis radio show a lot. He was funny, witty, and he knew quite a bit about women. It looks like he no longer does radio shows. I will check his podcasts. Never heard of Corey Wayne, will check him out. Thanks.

Tom Leykis still has his show on his website and his app. Google his name or "blow me up Tom". I've been listening to Tom over ten years. Every man needs to, especially guys who are hopeless romantics. It'll save you a lot of pain and you'll learn how to treat a woman and how not to.

To the guy with the girl problem: you should never cry in front of a girl, you loose all her respect. Remember, girls like to be fucked by he bad boys, eventually they'll settle down with the reliable nice guy to pay their way through life. Who do you want to be? The sucker she settles for or the dude she lusts after?

[JjBee62]

Are you that big of a fool? You've received a lot of excellent advice from several people. Did you fail to understand? Did you even read any of the advice?

Nowhere in all of the advice did any say "Go crying and begging to her like a 5 year old boy and then blame everything on her. " Not only is your plan incredibly stupid, it's pathetic.

This woman gave you very clear signals that she has no interest in a relationship. The only way she could have made it clearer was to scream, "I don't want a relationship with you. " When you tried to force her into a relationship she made it even clearer and just gave you a couple of hand jobs so you would stop crying.

To make everything worse, you're trying to blame her about a relationship with some other guy, when it's none of your business, because she doesn't want a relationship with you.

Nothing you do is going to change the obvious fact (repeated again) She Doesn't Want A Relationship With You. However, go ahead with your plan (which sounds like something dreamed up by a 13 year old). It won't accomplish anything, but everyone she fucks for the next 5 years will laugh their ass off when she tells them about you.

Or, here's an idea. Why not act like an adult, accept your loss and move on? There are 1000's of women in Medellin who will be more than happy to give you something else to think about.

[Lefeu]

I just recently returned from my first trip to Medellin and stayed at the Mansion (M2) which is up a big hill from the M1 the main place. I would suggest to try to stay at M1 because of the hill. Also the girls hang out at the pool and bar at M1. Like you I've always gone to the DR for the last 5 years or so, with many trips to BB and Field of Dreams. I got GFE from all the mansion girls for 150 K (3200/$1), so about $50. It's similar to BB, but the girls have no schedule. So you can have as few as 3 or as many as 20 there. They come in and out as they please. The girls in Medellin are hotter than the DR. Also I usually visited casas in the AM and they are cheap from 45 K to 140 K of the ones we visited. Also Medellin is a modern city unlike the 3rd world DR.

You listed all the drawbacks of M2, but none of the benefits. You must be a newbie. I prefer M2 over M1. First, the hill is not a big deal and I look at it as my daily exercise. It's correct that more girls hangout at M1 (the Mansion) but someone staying t M2 can go down to M1 anytime. The advantages of M2? Quiet and discreet. Many girls prefer M2 because of that. And M1 can really be noisy, if you get a room close to the bar or close to the pool.

[Lefeu]

Check out Tom Leykis Show. He is a no holds barred radio personality with a shitload of YouTube podcasts that might shock you back into learning to love yourself 1st before you love another. Coach Corey Wayne is another one with a lot of You Tube podcasts that may help you see how you are going in the wrong direction as a man.

I used to listen to Tom Lykis radio show a lot. He was funny, witty, and he knew quite a bit about women. It looks like he no longer does radio shows. I will check his podcasts. Never heard of Corey Wayne, will check him out. Thanks.

[Wrx2005]

Guys,

Thanks a lot for all the amazing messages. I feel in the limit of stupidity when writing so much in here but all your reactions are so nice, not judgmental, etc. , I really appreciate it. Even better if some can learn out of my story.

This will and really is helping me. I will come back to read some of your guys whenever I feel bad again (like this morning.) to make me feel up again. So much to be learned.

'Learn to be sure to understand the signs a girl is showing to you before you do anything crazy about her'.

Check out Tom Leykis Show. He is a no holds barred radio personality with a shitload of YouTube podcasts that might shock you back into learning to love yourself 1st before you love another. Coach Corey Wayne is another one with a lot of You Tube podcasts that may help you see how you are going in the wrong direction as a man.

It's seems obvious you are very emotionally attached to that female. You don't know what to do, except go by your impulses. Your impulse is go by your feelings. Which is maintaining the bleeding instead of helping you learn the lesson, and move on. Especially with the intent of never allowing yourself to stoop so low as a man again. Be honest with yourself. What do you expect to accomplish by contacting her? And why shame her for her behavior?

This is the time for you to take responsibility for your behavior and what you allowed, and for being blind. She's allowed to be as fucked up as she chooses to be. She's not obligated to meet your expectations. You are supposed to know how to carry yourself as an individual, and as a man. And if you missed some lessons in how a man adapts to situations appropriately, its time to recognize this possibility. Good luck.

[Kyrawz]

Subscribe just for PM me?

I'm dgear on youppie.

Completely agree with Cerebro, don't do this letter at a colombian girl and she will be completely close.

The thing about you show your sentiments, it's not a problem generally. Just she's 22. It will no same with a more of 25 yo girls who want serious relationship.

[Member #4398]

Killarmy,

Please don't write that letter. You definitely sound like a drama queen and pathetic. If you write such a letter to her, she will think you super pathetic, and she will show it to all her friends, maybe facebook friends, her circle, etc just for fun as.

The most pathetic guy she has ever met. That letter is quite pathetic in my opinion. I have a better suggestion. I know you are urging to talk to her since you wrote that you will contact her in 3-4 days which is a lot to you, but that is.

Too early to contact her. It is best to ignore her, but not for a couple of days, and instead ignore her for a couple of years. Just delete her whattapp, unfriendly her on facebook, etc. And don't contact her at all.

You will be surprised of how she may react with this approach and just watch her reaction and possible desperation once she sees you don't want anything with her. And don't respond or explain anything. She may become as pathetic and.

Infatuated as you. If she asks you what's going on, or why you don't call, just ignore. If you respond, a one liner is enough, like you are busy and not the 5000 words essay of explanations.

Also if you decide to respond, do it after a few months or more. Don't explain anything to her. Never tell her you miss her. Learn to be rude. Believe me she may start going crazy once you start treating her like.

Shit. Learn to be inconsiderate. Learn to be unattached. Keep mongering and having pussy fun. Be realistic with yourself. You are not ready for a relationship just like many of us.

You failed badly the Paisa relationship 101 class. Just get back to mongering and prepare for next time.

[Husker Dude]

Hello Gentlemen,

New to this part of the forum. I have extensive reviews and stories over in the Puerto Plata DR section, but have never ventured over to Colombia.

I am thinking about my first trip here at the end of May or June, however I have a few questions.

First off this would be my first trip to Medellin or Colombia for that matter, I am a vet in the DR with an uncountable trips under my belt. When I go to the DR I am looking for relaxation,
and a very chill environment. That is why I usually go to Sosua for the first day or two, then wind up going to Black Beards for about 5. That combo works for me.
When I land I party, HARD, then after two days of that I am ready for the vacation to start.

All that being said, I have done some research about the Mansion here in Medellin, which to my understanding is the Hotel Medellin Plaza. I am curious if any of you fine gentlemen have ever.
Been to Blackbeards and the mansion, are they similar? Is one better than the other, could you give me any info on it in regards to comparisons?..

I just recently returned from my first trip to Medellin and stayed at the Mansion (M2) which is up a big hill from the M1 the main place. I would suggest to try to stay at M1 because of the hill. Also the girls hang out at the pool and bar at M1. Like you I've always gone to the DR for the last 5 years or so, with many trips to BB and Field of Dreams. I got GFE from all the mansion girls for 150 K (3200/$1), so about $50. It's similar to BB, but the girls have no schedule. So you can have as few as 3 or as many as 20 there. They come in and out as they please. The girls in Medellin are hotter than the DR. Also I usually visited casas in the AM and they are cheap from 45 K to 140 K of the ones we visited. Also Medellin is a modern city unlike the 3rd world DR.

[KillArmy]

Guys,

Thanks a lot for all the amazing messages. I feel in the limit of stupidity when writing so much in here but all your reactions are so nice, not judgmental, etc. , I really appreciate it. Even better if some can learn out of my story.

This will and really is helping me. I will come back to read some of your guys whenever I feel bad again (like this morning.) to make me feel up again. So much to be learned.

'Learn to be sure to understand the signs a girl is showing to you before you do anything crazy about her'. So true. I missed this point with her though she probably manipulated me a bit.

Kyrawz: I hear you man. But: if you got some Spanish skills, if you go out of Parque Lleras (I was really luck when I met my girl there), if you do as some wrote, do some day game, in the parks, commercial centers, etc. , you will find something.

I wish I could PM you.

I have a question though: If I do subscribe to be able to send a PM to someone that as not subscribed, will he be able to read my message / answer me?

I plan. And have already written a message I will sen to her after like 4/5 days without any message. I will share it to the community. And yes, I know, I should go on and maybe just never write her again. But this is difficult and you know it.

I am pretty sure this is what I want to tell her but if there is something that you so disagree with, please feel free. I hope I don't sound like a drama queen and I so much appreciate your guys support, will never write it enough. There you go:

Hey xxxx.

I will write in English because I know your level is good enough. I also want you to feel what it is when you are not sure to understand someone, like when you got frustrated because I wouldn't understand your Spanish.

I wanted to give you some time to clear your her head, put your ideas back in place. Some time so that you could think back with 'rationality' about everything that happened in your life since I met you.

Now that I think again about the time we had together, I can write I enjoyed it so much to go in el Eje Cafetero together. I enjoyed to see you so happy to be living this trip. I think I have brought something positive and nice in your life.

Unfortunately, the very few times I started to like a girl in my life, I always end up fucking things up. XXX, I am too emotional, too passionate, I always have to express my sentiments. I showed too much my neediness and wish for a relation and this killed the initial passion between us. I think 'the flame' is gone now. Damn, I even cried in front of you. I am ashamed. But that is how I am.

I honestly wish I would be one of this many guys that never seem to have any sentiments or express them. I wish I could be able to not start to feel sentiments when having sex with a fantastic girl like you are. Or a liar, just playing a game, to make sure that you get as crazy of me as possible, even if I do not care about you, even if all I wanted was sex with you. Would you have preferred that?

Before our trip, you told me a few amazing things that maybe no girl before ever told me. ([Non-English text deleted by Admin]).

I got a bit crazy in my head and went to this trip with too much expectations.

XXX. I have been thinking so much about you since we hugged and said 'adios' in the bus terminal. I miss you a lot.

BUT, also, I have realized that 'sin darte cuenta', you really played with me!

Before the trip, you should have been honest with me and telling me that 'it was only vacations con derechos', to 'have fun times', like really good friends, with nothing more to expect because you were in love with another guy!! For me, it would have been fine! I still would have gone with you and we still would have had good times! You probably wouldn't end up not wanting to make love with me any more like it happened.

I can't believe we could have had all the moments we had together before our Eje Cafetero trip, all the smiles, beautiful moments, complicity, trust and beautiful sex. I think you were honest about this times. But at the same time, you were with another guy? You really played and manipulated me. Even if you did not realize it!

And don't tell me you are still young and still want to see a lot of guys / girls, that you are free. You just met this Colombian guy 2 months ago, you spent little time with him, and all you show to him seemed to me like love, passion, craziness, a wish to be in a relation, etc. No, XXX, you are not free! You are like almost everyone! You want to feel love, to feel good, to have someone to take care about you, to make you feel like you are the most beautiful person in the world, you want to be happy. Happy!

I really hope that this guy is not playing with you because honestly, you should try to think with rationality, not with passion. He is 36 years old, always lived in Medellin, and he has never been able to find the women of his life? How can you think you could be different for him? How can you think this will finish well? I really hope for you that you won't suffer from this. I really hope you will be strong. Not like the 2 first time you were in love.

Actually: I really hope that you will stop to be like me! Too passionate in love. Too much sentiments. Too much questions.

And do not compare me with him please. Yes, I have 32 years old but I have travelled all the world, I am living in different countries for 7 years, etc. When I will be lucky enough to find real love and a city / country where I will find happiness, I will just stay. Medellin?

XXX, Yes, I still want to see you so much. But I know you are. Dangerous for me. YES, I miss so much your beautiful smile, I miss to see you laugh, I miss to feel your body next to me. But at the same time, I know you are making me too crazy. XXX, I wish I could be forever your very best friend and be stronger than the risks this involve because as I told you once: [Non-English text deleted by Admin]'.

I still want to see you but life goes on. I do not want to forget you but if this is what has to happen, it is fine for me. Whatever happen, once again, I hope you find happiness and stability in your life.

Blabla (personal joke about her father LOL.).

Cheers guys.

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[JjBee62]

Thinked it was me who wrote the post. Same age, nationality ;)

This experience doesn't happen to me for the moment. You were lucky to find a girl educated who don't want you pay for her. Actually I didn't find any of this type of girls and I'm a little desperate.

If you plan to stay in MDE, you probably continue to see her and with the time she can change. I can understand with his age she wants to have more fun. Us we are 30's so we want to start serious relations.

If you're in your 30's and want to start a serious relationship, stop chasing the 20 year olds. You can have your pick of women just a few years older than you and they'll do just about anything to keep you happy.

The 20 year olds are either just looking for a good time, or are looking for a good source of money. The few who want a serious relationship are looking for someone their own age.

[Kyrawz]

Hello everyone,


I am 32 y old; super tall; OK looking and European. My first language is French but I speak quite well Spanish. I am living in Medellin for 2 months....

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Thinked it was me who wrote the post. Same age, nationality ;)

This experience doesn't happen to me for the moment. You were lucky to find a girl educated who don't want you pay for her. Actually I didn't find any of this type of girls and I'm a little desperate.

If you plan to stay in MDE, you probably continue to see her and with the time she can change. I can understand with his age she wants to have more fun. Us we are 30's so we want to start serious relations.

[Balboa]

So, I just read KillArmy's story and some of the responses.

Finally: I think your problem is you come off a bit desperate and needy, it even seeps through your report. My advice is cool off with some meaningless sex; do a type of mongering that you've never done before, something that will stretch your skills, whether it's street girls or casas or after hours spots. Just get laid a bunch of times and stop worrying about finding true love. Most men are unhappy in their marriages and relationships, so don't idealize or romanticize the situation. There are many ways to solve your problem but it won't guarantee happiness or a perfect life; being with a woman, even a good one, is always a challenge.

Great response to KillArmy, as well as the other guys' responses.

I remember, being new in Colombia, over 15 years ago now, falling for a beautiful girl from Cali.

About the same as KillArmy, I was all sappy, lovey dovey, etc.

She too, told me about some Colombian dude she "loved" and wanted.

Yep, she was still nice to me, just like KillArmy's girl to him, but I was basically the dreaded "amigo". LOL.

Anyway, to make a long story short, I had my cry (yep I was a dork), then got strong, toughened up, mongered my booty off, had fun!

Learned from my experience big time.

Told myself I would never allow myself to be stupid nor allow myself to cry again, like a dork.

Way way way too many girls out there for that crying nonsense!

If I start feeling a girl giving me drama or grief or the amigo BS, I just move on now. No huss, no fuss. Ciao baby!

Like the other posters having been saying as well, these girls can feel your being too thirsty for Love.

Mellow out a bit, be more mysterious and have more of a IDGAF attitude, and they dig ya all the more.

My Cali girl, eventually got dicked over and dumped by the Colombiano, just like KillArmy's girl will most likely be.

She came running back, and by then, I was over that nonsense, had met a gazillion more babes.

I, of course, did her the favor of some good sex, LOL again, however, I just saw her as a sex "amiga" now.

That felt good!

Enjoy life KillArmy!

Just keep having fun, lay low on the drama for a bit, you'll see, you'll be laughing at this episode shortly.