Tips and techniques for sexually arousing women and making them orgasm

[Dan7373]

I found a good example, where the guy masturbates his lady's pussy to arouse her and to get her into the mood with him.

I think this is a good technique, because he doesn't just rub her pussy with his hand. He hugs her, holds her close to him, kisses her, pinches her nipple, and he varies how he massages her pussy with his hand. He does it for a reasonable period of time. And he has a comprehensive approach with her. He does everything with her at the same time.

It's like he doesn't just focus on some part of her. He treats her as a whole woman and goes after all of her womanly charms at the same time.

I had to make several clips out of it. Because he does it for a couple of minutes, but the longest clip I can make at pornhub.com is 10 seconds.

Here are the clips:

https://dl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/018/.../18765081a.mp4

https://dl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/018/.../18765401a.mp4

https://cl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/018/.../18765651a.mp4

https://dl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/018/.../18765861a.mp4

The link below is the whole video from which I've made the above clips:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/ph5b97e34e847f6

Some guys complain about their P4P lady faking it and not being fully into it with them. But I think in most such cases, the problem is poor foreplay for the lady.

It's like you need to massage your lady's pussy, play with her nipple, and kiss her on the cheek, before you take her with you dick.

[Dan7373]

What taboo? You must be too shy. I would have thought this was common place. ...

Guys masturbating themselves is a taboo in porn. Because this is something guys either hide or avoid doing, while on camera. The only exception is at the end of the scene, when the guy sometimes strokes himself to cum on the lady's face.

Perhaps this taboo is about the guy having erection difficulties. Because porn films almost never show you the guy doing it to get an erection going or to make his erection harder, just before he penetrates the lady.

I don't think anybody knows how much of a taboo this is for ordinary guys. Because ordinary people do it in private.

But I would be surprised if ordinary guys are more open and bold about not having a good enough erection for their lady, than even porn-guys, who do it all the time in public.

Perhaps the taboo isn't so much about masturbation, as it is about not having a good enough erection. This is the reason why a lot of guys might not want to do it in front of their lady. It's like this reflects badly on their manhood.

But I think such a mindset is counterproductive. Because basically you avoid doing the most effective thing that might make it better for you.

I can't speak for other guys, but I can say for myself that stroking my cock in front of my lady was a difficult thing to do at first. Because it's something I've never done in front of any lady before. It was almost like being a virgin and feeling anxious about it, when I tried to do it for the first time in front of my lady.

This kind of thing takes some getting used to, not just for the lady, but also for the guy.

[Syzygies]

Stroking yourself in presence of your lady is a big taboo guys. It's such a big taboo, that even sex-advice articles in the media don't mention this as a way to get and keep your erection going with your lady.

What taboo? You must be too shy. I would have thought this was common place. Enlightened girls are not scared to diddle their clit in front of a guy either. I never heard any adverse comments about it.

I would expect any girl to know that a guy's erection is not automatic. If she touches his dick nicely or gives him a nice lick or suck, I expect it probably goes up, unless her technique is bad and painful. Very nice tongue kissing also makes me hard.

However if none of these things happen, you are left with rubbing your cock yourself to get the blood flow going and get it hard enough for penetration or for getting a condom on. Very common for me to be rubbing cock with left hand while right hand is touching her tits or pussy, when she is just lying there a bit lazy. In addition I often show her to tickle my balls, concurrently. I generally don't like hand jobs from girls as most don't do it well enough to be really good, a very light touch is okay To get a hard on going though.

DATY usually gives me a semi hard on but not full. I have done extended DATY thousands of times, so can depend on just how beautiful the pussy is, how excited I am.

Most of us have seen hundreds of naked girls as a minimum, so just her getting naked is not enough to cause natural erections for me. With very restrictive girls, I might not even get a hard on at all, or just a weak one, not adequate.

[Dan7373]

Porn-studs aren't famous for using natural means to keep their erection going. But I've recently seen a porn-scene, where the guy did exactly that.

This guy was about to penetrate his lady from behind in doggy. The camera focused on the lady's pussy and ass. And the guy gave her some quick foreplay. He kissed her nice ass all over the place and slapped her ass-cheeks with his hand.

But while he was doing this, I've noticed that out of focus, down below, this guy reached for his cock with his other hand and quickly masturbated it for 10-15 seconds, before he went on to penetrate the lady.

Apparently, this guy did it make himself extra hard for the penetration, so that he could do it quickly and efficiently. Because he already had an erection.

You don't often see this kind of thing in porn, because guys and porn-makers try to hide it from you. But my impression is that this is something porn-guys commonly do. Because in some porn-scenes, where 5 or 6 guys do it with one lady, it becomes hard for film-makers to hide what these guys do. In this type of scene, you often see guys stroking themselves to maintain their erections and to make themselves harder, when it's their turn to penetrate the lady.

And the funny thing about porn is that guys hide their stroking only when they do it to maintain their erection or to make themselves harder for the penetration. But they openly show it to you at the end, when the guy strokes himself to orgasm and cums on the lady's face.

Porn-studs are professionals, who do it for a living. They are very experienced, and they know what they are doing. When you see porn-studs do something, then you can be sure that it works.

Stroking yourself in presence of your lady is a big taboo guys. It's such a big taboo, that even sex-advice articles in the media don't mention this as a way to get and keep your erection going with your lady.

But virtually all guys run into erection problems at one time or another, when they are with a lady. And there is no good reason for this taboo. Why is it okay to make yourself harder with Viagra, but not with your hand? This taboo doesn't make sense to me at all, when you are there to nail the girl.

A lot of P4P ladies nowadays offer you 2 or more cumshots with them. And this is where this technique for maintaining your dick can be especially effective and useful.

Perhaps you don't need to stroke yourself for your first ride and your first cumshot with the lady. But when it comes to your second ride with the lady for your second cumshot with her, then things can get a little dicey.

You can't do it right away for your second time. Because you are too sensitive during your refractory period. You need to wait for at least a minute or two. But you can lose your erection, while you are waiting.

Porn-studs have a solution for this problem. Because they also wait, before they penetrate, during a gang-bang scene. This is where you see guys stroke themselves more than in any other scene. It's an effective technique for maintaining your dick.

I can say from my own experience that it's a lot easier to maintain your erection, while you are waiting for your second ride with the lady, than to let it go down and then try to resurrect it.

And the big advantage of stroking yourself, while you are waiting for your second ride with the lady, is that you don't overstimulate yourself. You do it just enough to maintain your erection. You also know right away when you stop being too sensitive, and you are ready to ride the lady for your second time.

Many P4P ladies are now putting guys into a situation, where they need to perform like porn-studs. Of course, this isn't something to complain about. This is an excellent development. But you need to up your game with these ladies to take full advantage of their 2 cumshot offers.

It's like you need to break some masturbation taboos here and do what the porn-studs do.

[Dan7373]

I found an interesting video, where the lady rides her guy's cock in a special way. It's a way that makes it extra pleasant for her.

This lady actually does it the same way that sex-therapists advise for cocky guys to use, when they want to please their lady with their cock.

It's basically moving your cock around, rather than just pound. This is what gives your lady the best sensation, rather than straight in and out penetration. Because only the upper third of your lady's vagina and pussy is sensitive to the touch. Deeper inside, not so much. Just going in out of the lady's pussy doesn't provide much stimulation for her. She gets far more and better simulation, when you use your cock to move her pussy around and stretch it one way or the other.

That's the way this lady in the video rides her guy's cock. And you can hear from the sounds she makes that she is really enjoying too.

I think you can adapt her technique to ride this way any lady with your dick. You can do it this way in doggy, in missionary, and in many other positions where you are on top of the girl and you have control. Move her pussy around, rather than just pound.

I've tried doing this with a lady I liked. And I found an added benefit of doing it this way. I lasted longer with her, without cumming prematurely with her.

This technique with your dick provides more stimulation for your lady, than for you. That's why you can last longer with her when you do it this way. You can probably orgasm your chick with your dick this way and still be in good shape to ride her some more afterwards. And second time around, you can just pound for a quick finish with her.

Going straight in and out is the most pleasant way to do it for a guy. But you often don't last for long, when you do it this way. Which is disappointing. You normally want to get to know the hot chick with your dick for a good 20 minutes or more, before you finish with her.

It's not just about the riding. It's also about enjoying your intimacy with her through a lot of body-to-body contact with her. This is the time to grab your lady's nice ass with your hands and enjoy touching her sexy ass-cheeks. And this is the time to suck on her tits, or just grab her tits and hold on during your long fuck-a-thon.

Spanking your lady's ass-cheeks with your hips in a hard-and-fast doggy ride might be something to do. But you don't truly and fully get to have your sexy lady, until you grind your hips on her sexy ass-cheeks, with your hard cock balls-deep inside her pussy. You need that deep penetration with her and a lot of hips on ass contact with her to feel full intimacy with her.

I think this lady actually orgasms with her guy in the video. And it doesn't take her long to achieve her orgasm. The way she does it really is an effective technique for a guy to please his lady with his dick. Here is the video:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/ph55bb70d54ea7d

[Dan7373]

I found an interesting video titled, "What do sex workers want?" In this video, a sex worker explains why women want to do it and how various laws against them and their clients harm them.

This video is a bit off the topic for this discussion thread. But it's relevant for this whole website and forum. Because guys, who pay for sex, are often accused of doing something wrong, not by sex workers, but by people who claim to be speaking for them.

You don't often hear what the sex workers have to say for themselves and how they see it from their point of view. And that's why politicians and other busybodies often feel free to throw accusations around. It's easy to accuse people who are silent and probably won't reply. Because this is like lynching, where the accusers can do whatever they want.

I think this video is one of those replies from sex-workers that everybody needs to watch and hear. Here is the video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VJRBx0JjM_M

[Dan7373]

I found another video where an older western guy takes a young Thai lady with his cock in the same orgasmic position.

This Thai lady actually crosses her legs with him. Which makes her pussy really tight for him.

He doesn't last long with her, probably because she is so tight. But he lasts long enough to show you how to do it. He even shows you how to get into this sex-position starting at the 1:45 minute in the video.

Here is the video link:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/ph5b2b2ec9ddd80

[HydMong]

This was my first angle in my sex life taught by an aunt.

She always ask me to do this when ever we used to meet later then she prefers other angles.

I found an amateur video, where the guy takes his lady in a special position that provides extra stimulation for the lady's clitoris. This lady is loud, and the video is grainy. But it shows you the basic technique how to make it pleasant for a lady with your dick.

I think this position is extra pleasant for the lady, because the guy moves up his body on her enough to rub her clit with the shaft of his cock. Here is the video link:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/ph5b6e1816e7697

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[Kurre]

I found an amateur video, where the guy takes his lady in a special position that provides extra stimulation for the lady's clitoris. This lady is loud, and the video is grainy. But it shows you the basic technique how to make it pleasant for a lady with your dick.

I think this position is extra pleasant for the lady, because the guy moves up his body on her enough to rub her clit with the shaft of his cock. Here is the video link:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/ph5b6e1816e7697

This was the only position my ex-wife would orgasm in FS. It also provides the man a bit more pleasure if the lady has a loose pussy or if man is inadequately sized. A win-win position.

[Dan7373]

I found an amateur video, where the guy takes his lady in a special position that provides extra stimulation for the lady's clitoris. This lady is loud, and the video is grainy. But it shows you the basic technique how to make it pleasant for a lady with your dick.

I think this position is extra pleasant for the lady, because the guy moves up his body on her enough to rub her clit with the shaft of his cock. Here is the video link:

https://www.pornhub.com/embed/ph5b6e1816e7697

[Dan7373]

I've never had that problem in my life. How about when the lady is too loose for me?

This depends on both the size of the lady's pussy and the size of your cock. It's possible to have the opposite problem. But there is a good solution for this problem too.

The two video clips below show you how to do it. Basically, you need to take the lady's pussy with your cock in the normal missionary position first. Then you need to use your legs to bring her legs together, while you spread your legs over hers.

When she brings her legs close together, then this makes her pussy more tight for you. And you can even get the lady to cross her legs, so that her legs are really close to each other to make her pussy really tight for you. I've seen one lady cross her legs like that in a video. Here are the links to videos:

https://cl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/011/.../11366271a.mp4

https://dl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/011/.../11366241a.mp4

[Smoothy]

When the lady is too tight for you.

I've never had that problem in my life. How about when the lady is too loose for me?

[Firebird]

Dan7373, you have made excellent observations on how to please a lady. When you make sure the girls are happy and "excited", they work twice as hard to please you. So Congratulations to ALL your recent reports!

Stay safe and Enjoy!!

[Chacal60]

Dude, agree this is one of the better positions. Ladies enjoy the face to face intimacy and the angle of penetration is more likely to stimulate her to orgasm. Side by side spooning with penetration of her vagina from behind is also a great technique.

Thai ladies always respond well to new positions and attention to their pleasure! They are so use to quickies or standard mish or doggy that you can hit the jackpot if you only take a little extra time to give her pleasure.

https://dl.phncdn.com/pics/gifs/016/...)16253502a.mp4

A Thai massage lady showed this position to me. She got me to take her pussy this way. And like it a lot, I certainly did.

It's a very intimate experience, with a lot of body-to-body contact, just like a good massage should be. If you like body-to-body massage, then you will love this position with your massage lady. Because this is like continuing your body-to-body massage with her, except now you have your cock inside her pussy.

I like this position so much that I want to do this with other ladies too. But this position is hard to explain with words. What you really need is a clip, like the one above, to show your lady what you want with her.

[Dan7373]

One way to last longer with your lady is to help her relax her pussy with you.

Because tight pussy gives you too much stimulation. And too much stimulation is what makes you cum prematurely.

A lot of guys focus on themselves, when they want to last longer with their lady. They try to improve their endurance. But this is just one way of looking at it. Because you can also say that the problem isn't your lack of endurance. The problem is that the lady's pussy is too tight for you. Tight pussy gives you too much stimulation, and that's why you don't last.

If you can get your lady to relax her pussy with you, then you will get less stimulation during penetration. And that's why you will last longer with her, even with your normal endurance.

And the technique for getting your lady to relax her pussy with you is actually quite simple and easy.

You just need to penetrate your lady's pussy all the way to your balls and then wait for 5-10 minutes. And to make it entertaining for yourself and the lady, you can continue your foreplay with her. You can play around with her tits, suck her nipples, massage her body, and massage her clitoral area with your hand once in a while.

And the reason why this works for relaxing your lady's pussy is because her pussy is surrounded by a special type of muscle, called the smooth muscle. This type of muscle works automatically, without any conscious control. It basically relaxes slowly over time, when you stretch it and hold it stretched. And it relaxes only enough to accommodate whatever is stretching it. Which, in your case, is your cock.

This is why the woman's vaginal canal can stretch enough even to accommodate the birth of a baby. Which is a lot bigger than any man's cock. But after giving birth, the lady's pussy slowly contracts back to its minimum size.

The only thing about pussy relaxation is that it works very slowly. You can't hurry it up. And that's why you need to penetrate and wait 5-10 minutes, before you start riding your lady. It takes this long for her pussy to relax and become just the right size for your cock, without being too tight.

Some ladies might not be okay with you waiting with your cock inside their pussy this long. They might want you to ride them right away. But then you can try to get around this problem by getting the lady to ride you on top.

Because women are usually slower and more relaxed, when it comes to riding a guy. The lady might be slow enough with you that you will last for 5-10 minutes with her. And then her pussy will be relaxed enough that you can take over and ride her the way you want.

The main thing is to spend 5-10 minutes with your cock inside her pussy, without cumming with her. Because as long as your cock stays inside her pussy, then this will make her pussy relax and become just the right size for your cock. And an added benefit of doing it this way is that it's probably better for the lady, because it reduces friction for her.

When the lady is too tight for you, and you try your best to last longer with her, then this can lead to too much friction for her from your condom and some injuries for her. That's why I say that it's better to relax your lady's pussy, than to work on your endurance with her. It works better for both you and her.

This is definitely something to try, especially if you've already tried increasing your endurance, and it didn't work for you.