Ask what you want to know, to aviod even more embarrasement and conflicts later on.
[QUOTE=Vitrea;1667552]Don't take this the wrong way but your direct approach will almost never work in Latin America. On Facebook, they are all "non pros". They would not appreciate you treating them that way (applies to most). Also, like the other poster said you may be risking offering to non pros.
Best approach on Facebook is to invite the ones you like and take your chance. You spend thousands of dollars to get to CO and lot on food and hotels. Don't over analyze regarding few bucks. Some you will score and some you will loose but treat them all the same. If the Facebook friends tell each other that your a nice guy, on your next trip you will have a line of "friends" waiting for you.[/QUOTE]Mention $. If offened she will forgive you. You need to ask to know what's her game.
I started with respect and got tons of disrespect from girls and families also, ending up with my current attitude; ask directly.
You can spend time and money on what you think is a potential girlfriend while she is only spending time with you just to figure out to get her hands on your money; presents, simply just take your wallet and gone in a few seconds, put you in a position where you promise a lot in front of her family, who plays along.
You look for Perfect 10's and 9's. They don't need much skills or experience since you don't act intelligble.
Looking for perfect 10's is realistic, you will find your Dreamgirl, your Pocahontas, but along the way you will suffer heavy losses, that's life.
Doens't matter if you are handsome or not. Money is in short supply in Colombia, handsome men are everywhere.
She can get a handsome novio when she wants. She probably already have a Colombian boyfriend. Or 2! You are easy pray.
Colombians, though many are respectful, there are those who totally lack respect, and 100% of them take contact with gringos, while descent people requires more time.
Therefore you will meet a lot of bad girls. They all say they are from Bello.
If she wants to meet you, then assume she is a "interesada".
The view these type of Colombians have on foreigners in combination with the IMPULSE, is that you are some kind of St Claus, Papa Noel. This childish behaviour is typical Colombian and I have not met it in equally poor Peru, not in Brazil, Argentina or Uruguay.
Ask what you want to know, to aviod even more embarrasement and conflicts later on.
They use simple social tricks to make you waste so much money as possible before you get it.
Sweetnees is weakness! 75% of your perfect 10's are from Estrato social 1-2 which means they and their families lives on minimumwage-level.
They are used to being abused and humiliated and have nothing to loose.
If she is serious, even a poor barrio girl can be serious, she will understand why you ask such questions in a very direct way.
In todays Colombia perfect 10s doesnt want to get married to escape poverty. Some want to consume luxury items and travel. For 5 years. Then they are wasted, they are unable to force themselves to the disciplince university studies requires.
The more forward looking once doesnt want to marry either, they want you to help to pay the tuition to a private university.
With this possibilites; luxury consumption, travelling, university studies to make a career; marry a gringo is a boring option.