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[QUOTE=OldKool;2545371]I no longer stay in hotels when in the DR. Uber and Airbnb are game changers I use to stay close to El Conde because it was safe easy to fine. With Uber and Airbnb the whole city is inplay. You get way more for your money and no hassle.[/QUOTE]I'm an Airbnb host and a guest. And having stayed off the tourist track, I must say that I'm found that Zona Colonial, Gazcue, Piantini and El million are the spots to stay at for decent internet and no to little Blackouts.
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I am going to be in SD for a few days soon and would welcome your thoughts on the right approach. I have a fair amount of experience in other latin American countries but DR seems a little different so I am still deciding what approach to use.
My primary purpose for the trip is not sex, so I am not looking to bang a whole parade of girls, but I am not going to miss the opportunity in a place like this either. I am more looking for one or two relaxed encounters, and maybe some one to hang out with a bit, get dinner and drinks. I don't really want to overpay if I don't have to, but cost isn't a major constraint either if it's only a couple times. My priority is on having an enjoyable time with an attractive woman. I do have other things that I need to get done with my time there, but my schedule is relatively flexible.
In other places I have either been able to use agencies, which I don't see much mention of here (I assume they aren't legal? Recommended girls from online forums (which people don't seem to share much for DR), or had contacts that hooked me up with trusted options, so this will be a new experience for me. I see a lot of people setting things up with dating apps—is that really practical for a three day trip? I have signed up for DominicanCupid but haven't done much more than look around yet. I have also seen references to things like Skokka, which seems to carry a pretty high risk of disappointment. Traveling alone I'd rather not visit strip clubs and brothels on my own if I can avoid it, given the sketchy elements in those places, though I have dealt with it elsewhere. Would it be practical to just pick girls up in bars? I am mid-40's, and relatively fit, if a little softer around the edges than I once was, and I think I am decent looking for my age, but I don't find myself overwhelmed by attention from much younger, attractive women in my everyday life. I am hoping as a foreigner with money to spend I might do better in DR. I speak okay Spanish—no one is mistaking me for fluent, but it is pretty functional.
I was thinking of staying at Palacio, but if people think an AirBnB is a better idea I'd consider that.
Anyway, I have been researching here and coming up with options but I would welcome any thoughts from the wise and experienced minds of this forum.
Thank you in advance!
[QUOTE=JHS42;2554351]I am going to be in SD for a few days soon and would welcome your thoughts on the right approach. I have a fair amount of experience in other latin American countries but DR seems a little different so I am still deciding what approach to use.
My primary purpose for the trip is not sex, so I am not looking to bang a whole parade of girls, but I am not going to miss the opportunity in a place like this either. I am more looking for one or two relaxed encounters, and maybe some one to hang out with a bit, get dinner and drinks. I don't really want to overpay if I don't have to, but cost isn't a major constraint either if it's only a couple times. My priority is on having an enjoyable time with an attractive woman. I do have other things that I need to get done with my time there, but my schedule is relatively flexible.
In other places I have either been able to use agencies, which I don't see much mention of here (I assume they aren't legal? Recommended girls from online forums (which people don't seem to share much for DR), or had contacts that hooked me up with trusted options, so this will be a new experience for me. I see a lot of people setting things up with dating appsis that really practical for a three day trip? I have signed up for DominicanCupid but haven't done much more than look around yet. I have also seen references to things like Skokka, which seems to carry a pretty high risk of disappointment. Traveling alone I'd rather not visit strip clubs and brothels on my own if I can avoid it, given the sketchy elements in those places, though I have dealt with it elsewhere. Would it be practical to just pick girls up in bars? I am mid-40's, and relatively fit, if a little softer around the edges than I once was, and I think I am decent looking for my age, but I don't find myself overwhelmed by attention from much younger, attractive women in my everyday life. I am hoping as a foreigner with money to spend I might do better in DR. I speak okay Spanishno one is mistaking me for fluent, but it is pretty functional.[/QUOTE]Go on [URL]Skokka.com[/URL].
I was just looking at Santo Domingo ads on there a few hours ago thinking how nice it would be to visit.
Stay in the Piantini area. Pretty sure that's the nicest area. I don't know which hotels are girl-friendly because I stayed in an Airing when I went in 2018. Back then, I just got drunk and cab drivers brought me to clubs where I could sleep with the girls upstairs, but I was too drunk to remember the locations and if I went back, I'd do Skokka cause it's easier and cheaper.
[QUOTE=JHS42;2554351]My priority is on having an enjoyable time with an attractive woman.
I see a lot of people setting things up with dating appsis that really practical for a three day trip? I have signed up for DominicanCupid but haven't done much more than look around yet. I have also seen references to things like Skokka, which seems to carry a pretty high risk of disappointment.
[/QUOTE]I would definitely go with the Cupid approach. Just line several of them up in case the primary or secondary choice flakes.
[QUOTE=MrEnternational;2554368]I would definitely go with the Cupid approach. Just line several of them up in case the primary or secondary choice flakes.[/QUOTE]Thanks! I appreciate the advice! Been a long time since I was in the online dating world, kind of intimidating to put myself back out there. But I guess that's how it's done. Is it safe to assume anybody contacting me knows what's up? I don't want anyone shocked and disappointed when this isn't the beginning of a serious relationship.
[QUOTE=JHS42;2554384]Thanks! I appreciate the advice! Been a long time since I was in the online dating world, kind of intimidating to put myself back out there. But I guess that's how it's done. Is it safe to assume anybody contacting me knows what's up? I don't want anyone shocked and disappointed when this isn't the beginning of a serious relationship.[/QUOTE]Just my two cents.
Remember prostitution is legal in DR. You can avoid "relationships", if you visit the locales where you will find the ladies that ply their trade, bars, restaurants, clubs, around the hotels, and even walking the streets. Negotiate openly for P4 P up front, and pay only for services rendered.
The "dating" apps are called that for a reason. Many chicas posting there will expect regular dating protocols, such as meals, transportation home, and other common courtesies, if you ask them to meet you.
Unless you have time on your hands to sort out the wheat from the chaff, keep it simple. No obligations of any sort.
[QUOTE=MrEnternational;2554368]I would definitely go with the Cupid approach. Just line several of them up in case the primary or secondary choice flakes.[/QUOTE]Dominican Cupid and Tinder Can be a resourceful items to have to meet chicas. Shokka can also be affective for less talking matters. Because you speak a little better Spanish than the average gringo, you should fare better in your communications. You say you only have three days? I suggest you use all three apps and set up as many meetings with chicas of your liking as you can. 20 to 30 is a good number. I would start doing this a week or two prior to me leaving.
Since you are not new to this game disregard this suggestion. But newbies when you're in this situation of a short vacation don't try to look for serious relationships. Avoid all females that said their looking for serious relationships. You don't have time to date. As flexible as we can be on vacation our time is really limited. Who wants to spend days coordinating with a nice chica, Taking her out, and spending valuable short time vacation time with her for companionship? She is looking for something serious and don't plan on having sex with you in the first second or third encounter.
I would use Tender and pick many of the chicas that are in close proximity to my location. You don't have time to do a lot of coordinating with chicas that live on the other side of the country.
Once you're on the ground your time is going to go by quickly. It's better to have sex set up than have a date set up. You can play the dating game when you have more time to spare.
Be straight up with the chica. Tell her you're not looking for a prostitute but you plan on taking care of the woman who takes care of you. These chicas are not stupid. They will not read between the lines they will know what that means. I've lost so many opportunities playing with my time, money and Chicas instead of getting straight to business. Remember the five P.S. Prior planning prevents poor performance.
[QUOTE=JHS42;2554351] <Snip> My primary purpose for the trip is not sex, so I am not looking to bang a whole parade of girls, but I am not going to miss the opportunity in a place like this either. I am more looking for one or two relaxed encounters, and maybe some one to hang out with a bit, get dinner and drinks... [/QUOTE]Based on what you wrote, I would do it a little different than the other suggestions, with all due respect to those too. It doesn't sound like shooting your milk in a latex bag is your top priority. Id spend the opportunity to get a shot at the higher quality stuff the country has to offer.
Tinder is kind of a hassle because you get tons of matches and most of them are hookers pretending not to be hookers. In other words, they want to come to your place and fuck for 3000 pesos, but she'd be pissed if you said she's a prostitute. Nothing wrong with that of course, I'm not knocking that behavior whatsoever. There's an endless supply of single mothers for 2-3 K DOP for three hours. Pay the 30 bucks to see who liked you, and you'll spend the remainder of your time before you leave messaging chicas.
However, that said, if what you said is true, I would Only choose the ones that claim to be looking for relationship. And you may want to word your profile that you're not looking for fast sex. Because the vast majority of them are available for a short time anyway. Her expectations are easily adjusted (probably), you're just the one that gets to adjust them. I would stick mostly to Cupid, better quality in my experience. (If you're looking for hookers you can match in the morning and be at your place in the afternoon, Tinder is better). When you're chatting her, tell her you don't really expect sex, but you're a romantic guy and you expect to kiss her all over. That way when it comes time she's begging for it, you won't need a rubber (whatever that is).
You don't have to lie but you don't need to mention you're only there for three days until it's time they need to know. When that happens, the reason is you're checking it out for a place to live, and if you like it you're going to come back. That's true, isn't it? You got a lot better chance of getting quality poon in the low 20's (or 19 or 18) without babies, the kind you would actually want to spend time with, as you suggested, rather than someone who's only coming to your place to collect money. And you're probably not going to want to bury your face in that stuff anyway. Once you get her to your place, she's probably going to want to shag once things heat up. If not, it's not the end of the world anyway, right? You might still have a lot of fun, and then shag like rats tomorrow.
And in the end, if you really need a hole to finish in, that's easy.
[QUOTE=JHS 42;2554384] .. I don't want anyone shocked and disappointed when this isn't the beginning of a serious relationship.[/QUOTE] I wouldnt be too worried about breaking some poor Dominican girls heart, shes not likely to get too overwhelmed. Just dont give her some big lie.
Planning on my first trip to the DR as the Philippines are off limits. Was planning on Puerto Plata but that cost for round trip flight there in June from ATL is over $1000 now. The cost for Santo Domingo is under $500 for a flight. I might try to do an AirBNB if not then hotel. I'm doing a lot of research as like I said I am new visiting DR. Doing Dominican Cupid so just thinking to meet a lady that would be cool to hang out with and do things with just for my first visit and get my sea legs. Just got to make sure she knows what I want from her while I'm there so she got to be on point looks and body wise. I mean I'm a 53 year old man but looks younger (black don't crack). Been reading the forums and I think I might just like visiting there. How do you get the PCR test for Covid coming back to the USA I should be good as I got both moderna shots so hopefully want get that crap. Hotels and areas for the first timer if you can provide some advice or any advice for a newbie. Thanks all.
Wow. I really appreciate how helpful everyone has been. There are other forums on this site that would have given me no more than dismissive instructions to read the forum. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts at length.
And the message is clear:
I should use dating apps, or maybe I shouldn't use dating apps. I should be straight up with girls about my intentions or I should indicate I'm interesting in a long term relationship. Or I should pick up girls off the street and in bars. Or I should use Skokka. Etc.
Ha! Not exactly a consensus! But you've given me so many leads and information to consider, I feel pretty confident that I'll have lots of options when the time comes. After all, all of these methods are working for you guys.
Many thanks!
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You don't have to lie but you don't need to mention you're only there for three days until it's time they need to know. When that happens, the reason is you're checking it out for a place to live, and if you like it you're going to come back.[/QUOTE]I will be very cautious about this approach. While I agree not sharing your true itinerary with a chica is smart ; however, not letting her know that your time is limited can come back to haunt you. Many of these chica have never been on vacation. They don't have a Conscience for someone's time being limited.
It's a big cultural shock when many of us are in the DR. It’s a big adjustment for many of us who frequent and live there. People seem to move slower with no respect for someone else's time. That's mostly throughout the country that I have experienced. Especially when it comes to dealing with chicas of First second and third encounters. Many of them never had a 9 to 5 where punctuality is essential. When someone other than a gringo gives me a time I ask them are they on Dominican time or American time. In Dominican time 20 minutes can easily be 2 hours and 30 minutes. Or I will meet you on Tuesday can very easily turn to Thursday.
I would suggest you let her know that you're only in the area for a few days before you go to another part of the country to check that area or meet friends. If you don't put her on a time restriction she will treat you like your time is free and unlimited (like your wallet) and only expect something for her time. A chica with long-term goals with a man on a short time vacation is a recipe for blue balls.
I would suggest setting up a short timer P4 P with no strings attach with another Chica. Next if you like go and play "date" and see how long you want to tolerate wining and dining the other chica after your balls have been relieved. Please come back and let us know how things went.
Yes we have gringo time and Latina time. I dated a Venezuelan woman in the states for two years and she was always late but she had the goods LOL. As she said, "she's not always late, I'm the one who is always early".
[QUOTE=GrownMan1;2555211]I will be very cautious about this approach. While I agree not sharing your true itinerary with a chica is smart ; however, not letting her know that your time is limited can come back to haunt you. Many of these chica have never been on vacation. They don't have a Conscience for someone's time being limited.
It's a big cultural shock when many of us are in the DR. Its a big adjustment for many of us who frequent and live there. People seem to move slower with no respect for someone else's time. That's mostly throughout the country that I have experienced. Especially when it comes to dealing with chicas of First second and third encounters. Many of them never had a 9 to 5 where punctuality is essential. When someone other than a gringo gives me a time I ask them are they on Dominican time or American time. In Dominican time 20 minutes can easily be 2 hours and 30 minutes. Or I will meet you on Tuesday can very easily turn to Thursday.
I would suggest you let her know that you're only in the area for a few days before you go to another part of the country to check that area or meet friends. If you don't put her on a time restriction she will treat you like your time is free and unlimited (like your wallet) and only expect something for her time. A chica with long-term goals with a man on a short time vacation is a recipe for blue balls.
I would suggest setting up a short timer P4 P with no strings attach with another Chica. Next if you like go and play "date" and see how long you want to tolerate wining and dining the other chica after your balls have been relieved. Please come back and let us know how things went.[/QUOTE]
Hi All,
New to the forum. Heading to DR in a couple weeks. Wanted to get your feedback on the best neighborhood to stay in Santo Domingo based on the following priorities: 1. Safety 2. Internet / No Black out 3. Access to "higher quality" 8+, under 25 no kids etc.
Apologies in advance if I missing something or make any newbie errors.
Thanks in advance for any guidance you can offer.
Bespoke.
[QUOTE=Ibespoke;2555469]Hi All,
New to the forum. Heading to DR in a couple weeks. Wanted to get your feedback on the best neighborhood to stay in Santo Domingo based on the following priorities: 1. Safety 2. Internet / No Black out 3. Access to "higher quality" 8+, under 25 no kids etc.
Apologies in advance if I missing something or make any newbie errors.
Thanks in advance for any guidance you can offer.
Bespoke.[/QUOTE]Sorry to be rude but why don't you take a few hours out of your busy life and read the board? Why should anyone take 10-30 minutes of their own time to answer your questions when you won't invest any of your own time to at least attempt to find out the answers to your own questions?
[QUOTE=Qualude;2555741]Sorry to be rude but why don't you take a few hours out of your busy life and read the board? Why should anyone take 10-30 minutes of their own time to answer your questions when you won't invest any of your own time to at least attempt to find out the answers to your own questions?[/QUOTE]The whole entire point of the forum is help spread knowledge so mongers can help each plan the best trips possible for themselves. Hostile and rude attacks like yours keep people from posting on this "Public forum". If there was 50 posts a day for people asking for help in making their decisions, I would be more inclined to agree with your post, but there's like 2 posts a day on the SD forum, so what is the big deal? For all we know, you could have scared off a poster who has some great intel on SD or another mongering destination that he could have shared with the forum. I also understand the concept of RTFF and I support it 100%, but new info comes up all the time, new bars, agencies, strip clubs, places close, move locations, etc. Maybe a person is just trying to get the latest info on a particular destination. Too much toxicity and hostility is unnecessary in my humble opinion. Who would of thought mongers could be so selfish? Haha, jk. Best of luck to all.