We may fcuk be let us be kind to service providers and all alike
After reading several posts today on a very unpleasant subject I thought of sharing some views, with no offence to anyone.
We have fun with service providers but do we remember that they are also made of flesh, blood, minds and feelings, like all of us mongers? Should we treat them like vending machines? If we think they are scum because they sell their bodies for money, how about us? We go and buy sex all over the place, with most of us having a spouse and children. So we are even with the service providers, or may be, even worse.
Also when someone gives us a contact, we should be thankful to that person and even if the service provider concerned is not to our liking, we should not hurt that person's feelings or do anything to harm the credibility of the person who gave us the contact, in the eyes of the service provider. If the service provider is not to our liking, we could cancel the meet in a diplomatic way and have some consideration for that person incurring a cost and time in coming over to meet, and the cost of her lost opportunities. Having to cancel a meet but still having to pay something out of decency is a risk we should be prepared to take in mongering. If we are not ready to do that, we should not ask others for contacts and spoil their name; we should find our own contacts.
I have seen some mongers here describing their experiences and saying that details would only be given to trusted mongers or trusted seniors, and some getting upset by that, saying that "so-called" or "self-proclaimed" seniors are trying to form a club among themselves, keeping others out. The incident being discussed today is an example of why some of us are very protective of the info / contacts that we have and selective of whom we share same with. It is not a case of seniors vs juniors or selfishness or a club.
Two lessons coming out of this affair are,
1) We should treat service providers as human beings.
2) Info / contacts should only be given to members (senior or junior) , who have proved to be worthy of same - doing their own hard work, contributing to the forum, showing signs of being decent and fair.
I am saying this as a fellow monger, not as a senior or a pandit. I hope no one takes offence and asks me to grow a pair but if anyone does, let his pair fall off.