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Guide for dating thai girls, with more the expat in mind:

1. Don't try to date a bargirl. Just don't. They're for fun. Enjoy them. But leave it at that. Find one with no connection at all to the nightlife. Seems hard at first, but gets easier with time.

2. Be careful with girls under 25. Especially if you're over 40. Thai girls are fairly immature in general, but if she's under 25 forget it. If you're an older guy, thai women in their 30s and 40s seem to make for very happy and stable relationships.

3. Be very firm about money. She will try to test you to see if you're dumb and loose with it. If you are, she will lose respect for you and treat you like an ATM. However, if you are modest and fair then she will respect you. Remember that it doesn't take a lot of money to offer thai girls a better life than what they're used to.

4. Find a girl with a job. Make her keep it. If she sits around your place all day doing nothing, she may become bored, lonely, spoiled, fat and / or unpleasant, none of which will work out well for you.

5. Be extra careful with girls from Isaan. There are certainly many nice ones from there, but there's a reason why that region supplies 95% of prostitutes.

6. If she tells you it's customary to support her family financially, don't do it. And possibly break up with her. This is just a scam.

7. Some more things to watch out for: a "brother" she seems awfully close to. 50 or 100 farang "friends" on facebook / skype / etc. If she's not working but seems to have enough money to live on. Good English despite a very low education.

8. Don't rush into marriage and children. Many of them push these things hard because they want to lock a man down. But take your time.

9. Be prepared that she will be extremely jealous, especially in the beginning. Looking through your phone, calling you constantly to check on you, etc. Once she feels safe that you aren't about to break up with her, she'll relax and give you some leeway.

10. It's somewhat customary and accepted by thai women that their man will play around on the side. As long as it's nothing serious, is discreet and doesn't interfere with her, they'll generally look the other way. Even if she suspects you spent the afternoon at the massage parlour, she'll be fine if you come home to her every night.

11. Thai women flip out and go nutty if you leave them home alone for a few days. They'll even start seeing ghosts. Be careful about long trips unless you want to deal with hysteria.

12. There are nice legitimate girls to be found on the main e-dating sites, but a good number of the girls on there are "grey area" semi-pros. Looking for free holidays, new cell phones, or unusually large taxi bills to come visit your hotel. I've found multiple gogo girls on dating sites before too, even ones I had slept with before. You have to wade through all of this if you want to find a dateable girl on an internet dating site. If possible, it's better to meet girls through work, through friends, or just while out at restaurants or shopping areas (away from Sukhumvit).

Anything I missed?

[QUOTE=GentleBoner; 1259055]Guide for dating thai girls, with more the expat in mind:

1. Don't try to date a bargirl. Just don't. They're for fun. Enjoy them. But leave it at that. Find one with no connection at all to the nightlife. Seems hard at first, but gets easier with time.

2. Be careful with girls under 25. Especially if you're over 40. Thai girls are fairly immature in general, but if she's under 25 forget it. If you're an older guy, thai women in their 30s and 40s seem to make for very happy and stable relationships.

3. Be very firm about money. She will try to test you to see if you're dumb and loose with it. If you are, she will lose respect for you and treat you like an ATM. However, if you are modest and fair then she will respect you. Remember that it doesn't take a lot of money to offer thai girls a better life than what they're used to.

4. Find a girl with a job. Make her keep it. If she sits around your place all day doing nothing, she may become bored, lonely, spoiled, fat and / or unpleasant, none of which will work out well for you.

5. Be extra careful with girls from Isaan. There are certainly many nice ones from there, but there's a reason why that region supplies 95% of prostitutes.

6. If she tells you it's customary to support her family financially, don't do it. And possibly break up with her. This is just a scam.

7. Some more things to watch out for: a "brother" she seems awfully close to. 50 or 100 farang "friends" on facebook / skype / etc. If she's not working but seems to have enough money to live on. Good English despite a very low education.

8. Don't rush into marriage and children. Many of them push these things hard because they want to lock a man down. But take your time.

9. Be prepared that she will be extremely jealous, especially in the beginning. Looking through your phone, calling you constantly to check on you, etc. Once she feels safe that you aren't about to break up with her, she'll relax and give you some leeway.

10. It's somewhat customary and accepted by thai women that their man will play around on the side. As long as it's nothing serious, is discreet and doesn't interfere with her, they'll generally look the other way. Even if she suspects you spent the afternoon at the massage parlour, she'll be fine if you come home to her every night.

11. Thai women flip out and go nutty if you leave them home alone for a few days. They'll even start seeing ghosts. Be careful about long trips unless you want to deal with hysteria.

Anything I missed?[/QUOTE]I think that you have covered all the major points very well.

Just ONE THING that I would add.

In my experience of Thai girls they do have just as many problems in understanding Farrang Culture as we do in understanding them!

What, to THEM, seems perfectly normal behaviour, to us guys is completely CRAZY!

And, by the same token some of the things that WE do, say and think must seem absolutely incomprehensible to them.

Just TRY to accept that we are so, so different and just accept that you will NEVER completly understand Thai behaviour and you will not be far wrong!

Enjoy,

Hotman.

[QUOTE=Syzygies;1259020]Forgive me if I misinterpret your desires, but Latin girls seem like wild go-ers to me.[/QUOTE]I am not entirely new to BKK, as I spent two nights and three days there a few years ago. I don't think Latin girls are "wild go-ers" any more than the Thai girls I met. There are many major differences between the scenes, such as the Go-Go bars I saw in Soi Cowboy, the soapy and the Blow Job Bar I went to (NOTHING like these exist in Latin America). The Medellin Mansion is nice because there are almost always really nice chicas who are hanging around there ready for a customer. There is no bar fine for mongerers at the mansion either, and the prices are only slightly higher than in the clubs. What I was referring to in comparing LL to the Mansion was only that girls are easily available on the premises.

One major difference that I did note was that non-pro Thai girls were very hard to conquer for the traveler in BKK. In contrast, with a little internet preparation (tagged, badoo, etc) , I have never fail to get a non-pro in Latin America who is half my age, even if I am there only a few days. Even though I plan to be in BKK an entire week, I doubt I will succeed in conquering a non-pro (I would be delighted to take advice on this if someone thinks they can help!).

Thanks for the advice guys. I think I will book my room with Giotto.

[QUOTE=Forest; 1259075]One major difference that I did note was that non-pro Thai girls were very hard to conquer for the traveler in BKK. In contrast, with a little internet preparation (tagged, badoo, etc) , I have never fail to get a non-pro in Latin America who is half my age, even if I am there only a few days. Even though I plan to be in BKK an entire week, I doubt I will succeed in conquering a non-pro (I would be delighted to take advice on this if someone thinks they can help!).

Thanks for the advice guys. I think I will book my room with Giotto.[/QUOTE]You might want to try more online dating sites in addition to Baddoo and Tagged. Also try not to shoot for the moon and go for a 20 something Hi-so girl. Hell even a young hansum Brad Pitt look alike would have a hard time pulling that. Try for a nice looking MILF in their 30's and you might find better luck.

[QUOTE=Forest; 1259075]I am not entirely new to BKK, as I spent two nights and three days there a few years ago. I don't think Latin girls are "wild go-ers" any more than the Thai girls I met. There are many major differences between the scenes, such as the Go-Go bars I saw in Soi Cowboy, the soapy and the Blow Job Bar I went to (NOTHING like these exist in Latin America). The Medellin Mansion is nice because there are almost always really nice chicas who are hanging around there ready for a customer. There is no bar fine for mongerers at the mansion either, and the prices are only slightly higher than in the clubs. What I was referring to in comparing LL to the Mansion was only that girls are easily available on the premises.

One major difference that I did note was that non-pro Thai girls were very hard to conquer for the traveler in BKK. In contrast, with a little internet preparation (tagged, badoo, etc) , I have never fail to get a non-pro in Latin America who is half my age, even if I am there only a few days. Even though I plan to be in BKK an entire week, I doubt I will succeed in conquering a non-pro (I would be delighted to take advice on this if someone thinks they can help!).

Thanks for the advice guys. I think I will book my room with Giotto.[/QUOTE]Non Pro is easy. I am in my 50's and get them in their low 30's. Thai friendly and Thai Lovelinks. Easy pickins.

[QUOTE=Fon Tok; 1251741]Thais don't care who gives them money, though, they do like the big spenders better.

Probably a lot easier to get the "farang" and cheap charlie dip shits to leave first.

Funny thing, from the looks of things these days, they already are![/QUOTE]How do you know this? Are you guessing? Is there any reasearch to support your comments?

[QUOTE=Mooris7;1258213]Well I beg to differ. I think your question should be."I don't understand why I can't pick up a hot freelance chick for only 1000Baht". I have been to Insomnia, Thermae, and Climax. Climax is where I have had the most luck. When I mean luck, I mean with finding hot freelancer chicks, but unfortunately for you, not for 1000 Baht. Here is an example. Last weekend I went to Soi Cowboy and picked up a girl in Rio. Before going back to my place we decided to have a few drinks and listen to the band at Climax. Well this cutee got so drunk she could not go with me. I had to salvage my evening and this night there were so many hot girls there. I ended up finding another girl for 3000LT. She stayed until 2pm the next day. We talked about this very issue. She told me many guys will offer her 1000Baht or 1500Baht LT like it is a fortune to them. She does not even counter offer. She told me in her eyes they are cheap and it turns her off. She only does this part time and does not want to compromise on price when she can get more. Sometimes she goes to Hong Kong and can get 2000HKD or more LT so why would she accept 1000Baht or 1500Baht that these so called freelancers get who hang out in parking lots and beer gardens? Guys it is simple, most of the time if you want quality you have to pay unless you get lucky and find a freebie. LOL but even then you have to pay. For example I met a real cutee on Badoo. We went for dinner at CDC, Wine I Love You restaurant. The bill was 2700Baht. So guys in the end you pay for quality no matter what. If you want to spend 1000-1500Baht your girls looks will reflect that price. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so to each their own. Anyone can spend a few Baht to get a simple lay, however I monger to fuck hot chicks, it is easy to pick up the average ones for free. To find a real beauty you have to wine and dine them sometimes for weeks to get into their pants and sometimes I would just like to skip all that. Paying a higher premium just seems to do the trick for me. In the end I get to fuck some really hot chicks.[/QUOTE]Wow where do I start with this post.

After the girl you barfined from Rio got too drunk (on your bill), you paid 3000 LT to a Climax girl, bragging about how she stayed until 2PM? Wahahahaha.

You paid 2700 for dinner with a girl from Badoo? Ahahahaha.

And then on top of that, you posted a photo of a completely average looking thai bargirl.

Treating hoes like princesses. This is how places get ruined.

[QUOTE=Forest;1259075]One major difference that I did note was that non-pro Thai girls were very hard to conquer for the traveler in BKK. In contrast, with a little internet preparation (tagged, badoo, etc) , I have never fail to get a non-pro in Latin America who is half my age, even if I am there only a few days. Even though I plan to be in BKK an entire week, I doubt I will succeed in conquering a non-pro (I would be delighted to take advice on this if someone thinks they can help!).[/QUOTE]It depends on the quality of girl you like. There are a lot of non-pro throw backs to be had for free.

If you spend some time in BKK and look around where couples usually hang out together, you'll RARELY notice a QUALITY non-pro Thai girl with a foreigner. For the most part, non-pro Thai women have zero interest in foreigners. There is no need anymore for them to waste there time on non-thais. Thai men have enough money now to keep the goods to themselves. Thailand is not conducive for hooking up with non-pros unless you like the scraps.

[QUOTE=Amjeck; 1259213]It depends on the quality of girl you like. There are a lot of non-pro throw backs to be had for free.

If you spend some time in BKK and look around where couples usually hang out together, you'll RARELY notice a QUALITY non-pro Thai girl with a foreigner. For the most part, non-pro Thai women have zero interest in foreigners. There is no need anymore for them to waste there time on non-thais. Thai men have enough money now to keep the goods to themselves. Thailand is not conducive for hooking up with non-pros unless you like the scraps.[/QUOTE]

Some truth to this, but not entirely.

They don't have a lot of interest in sleeping with men twice their age wearing shorts and flip flops and a tattered t-shirt who looks like he just stumbled out of a taxi that came from the nana hotel.

There is interest in a respectable employed farang not here on holiday with an age not so far away from hers.

[QUOTE=GentleBoner;1259055]Be extra careful with girls from Isaan. There are certainly many nice ones from there, but there's a reason why that region supplies 95% of prostitutes.[/QUOTE]The reason that there are so many working girls from Isaan is not that they are naturally inclined to prostitution. If is because Isaan is the most poverty-stricken region of Thailand and the only marketable commodity for many families is their daughters' pussies.

[QUOTE=GentleBoner; 1259209]Wow where do I start with this post.

After the girl you barfined from Rio got too drunk (on your bill) , you paid 3000 LT to a Climax girl, bragging about how she stayed until 2PM? Wahahahaha.

You paid 2700 for dinner with a girl from Badoo? Ahahahaha.

And then on top of that, you posted a photo of a completely average looking thai bargirl.

Treating hoes like princesses. This is how places get ruined.[/QUOTE]I would be interested in seeing pictures of some girls you dated? This girl is 100 percent hotter and cuter than any girl I have seen posted by others in this photo gallery. Put your money where your mouth is a post some photos of your conquests. Thai girls by the way don't need a lot of alcohol to get drunk. I store a bottle at climax and she drank 3 drinks from it, and since she does not drink too much she got toasted! The girl from Badoo was someone I was dating for a while. I like to go to nice places, and not back packer alley like most expats in Bangkok. Anytime you want go looking for freebies together and see who can pick up the hottest one you can PM.

[QUOTE=Dazednconfused;1259223]The reason that there are so many working girls from Isaan is not that they are naturally inclined to prostitution. If is because Isaan is the most poverty-stricken region of Thailand and the only marketable commodity for many families is their daughters' pussies.[/QUOTE]There are many NE TH / Isaan villages where very few, or no, women go to work as prostitutes. How do you explain this?

There are many Thai prostitutes that are not from Isaan. Thai men actually prefer women from north Thailand, and the domestic "entertainment" business dwarfs the one for foreign customers.

You could write a dissertation (and many have) about the roots of poverty in Thailand. Your statement,"the only marketable commodity for many (Isaan) families is their daughters' pussies," is a very simplistic view of reality.

Every "working" Thai woman I've met and gotten to know has a different story.

[QUOTE=Luvpuss;1259193]How do you know this? Are you guessing? Is there any reasearch to support your comments?[/QUOTE]I live in central Bangkok, have for years, and see it everyday. I know a lot of "working girls" as friends. And, I am trained in sociological and economic research.

So, not guessing.

Research? On Thai working girls preferring money spending Asian men over "cheap charlie" farang? That's funny.

One only has to spend a little time on Soi Thaniya, or in Soi Cowboy's Baccara, to figure this one out.

Btw, I do my research with a cold beer and a high performance camera!

[QUOTE=Dazednconfused;1259223]The reason that there are so many working girls from Isaan is not that they are naturally inclined to prostitution. If is because Isaan is the most poverty-stricken region of Thailand and the only marketable commodity for many families is their daughters' pussies.[/QUOTE]I understand that. But it also makes it more likely that a girl from Isaan will want to date a foreigner for all the wrong reasons ($$$).