I disagree with GE, and think about it before you reply.
I can't agree. You're not decades older than me. And, I like some of the pop music.
And by all means, develop a strategy (for yourself). Meet people, have fun, make contacts, have meals with someone, and please get laid. And then get laid again. X.
[QUOTE=GoodEnough;1833135]I've been reading these reports with some bemusement, not only because of the diverse viewpoints, but also because in 11 years of living here, I've never experienced any of the apparently recurring behaviors lots of posters described. I'm likely decades older than many posters, am neither tall, nor gwapo nor particularly fit. Yet, I seem to have few problems securing partners, and though individual tastes differ, I am quite picky. Further, I never negotiate up front. I've never been ripped off, and I've never much worried about the "face" I need to wear in a bar.
Since the older I get the less I appreciate what passes these days for popular music, I try to get out of the bars as quickly as I can, return to the ABC with the lady and have quieter drinks by the pool. Though I don't always succeed in fi, nding what (who) I'm looking for, I usually do and I'm rarely disappointed. Now it may be, though I don't think so, that in my advancing years my standards have lowered. I do find however that if I just treat the girls as I would like to be treated, I have good experiences. So, my advice is to avoid developing strategies, treat the girls like human beings and relax.
GE.[/QUOTE]
Exam of the external urethral meatus
[QUOTE=NapaSlapper;1833489]With all due respect, if everyone in the bar industry had a vested interest in checking their girls for aids. Std, s why is it not being done? clearly no checks for aids / stds are made at all, how could they be, no blood is taken, unless you know of a way to test without taking blood? The hygeine test that is carried out weekly at the moment is a pap smear test only (smear) [/QUOTE]I agree with you when you said that we are not MD's. However the cost of HIV testing is much less than it was say 15 years ago. You can purchase an over the counter kit in Thailand for probably under $5 US. Perhaps they are now being sold in the PI as well. Some kits use saliva so there is no need for blood. Other STD's can be tested by using vaginal swabs or by testing any exudate from the external urethral meatus, male or female. But what about that nasty chancre sore on the roof of the mouth? Are they testing for herpes and related dermatologic STD's? Are you kidding? But watch out for DFK unless you can fit your tongue in a condom and kiss with that. Oh, BTW, I would not put much stock in what you hear from these girls; they are not MD's either.
Wastel and and Ne'er-do-well
[QUOTE=GoodEnough;1833135]I've been reading these reports with some bemusement because in 11 years of living here, I've never experienced any of the behaviors lots of posters described. I'm decades older than many posters, am neither tall, nor gwapo nor particularly fit. Yet, I seem to have few problems securing partners, and though individual tastes differ, I am quite picky. I try to get out of the bars as quickly as I can, return to the ABC with the lady and have quieter drinks by the pool. So, my advice is to avoid developing strategies, treat the girls like human beings and relax. GE.[/QUOTE]I have been reading your posts here and on another "worldly" forum for many years. I can recall when you were in Vietnam. I imagined you to be large and formidable. You command a lot of respect-indeed lionized-on the forums and although that is not entirely your doing, it is my nature to react against anyone who is the object of such obsequiousness. That is an apology for any of my posts which may have challenged your points of view. You wrote not so long ago that you were in a "satisfying and fulfilling relationship. " Now it sounds like you are an active monger. Oui ou non? I, like you, like to get the hell out of the bar as quickly as I can. But I fear that makes me seem too eager to get laid and scares away some otherwise likely prospects. Oh, BTW, you were in Vietnam and Mindanao for business. It is none of my beeswax, but are you a mining engineer? Oui ou non? That would be my guess. Me? I am a wastrel for a living.