Sosua Reports

[QUOTE=RonnyRon; 1542005]Wrx2005,

You posted BAD for her, which I took to mean you had no intent to contact the lady again. You further explained that you do plan on contacting her again, just on your time table. This will be my first trip to the DR. I am just trying to get a take on your mindset. No worries my brother. The game is the game.[/QUOTE]Bro I'm not a lawyer or an educator, although sometimes I think I should have pursued that endeavor, but one of the 1st things I learned doing self study, is that if I want to know someones mindset, I do that by asking for more feedback and getting clarification in order to know what someones mindset is on an issue. Or to make sure I have more facts before assuming wrongly. Most people know, message boards and what people convey is going to be limited. So it makes sense that you may not have all of the facts or information from a single post.

I would not start off with questions like "How hard would it be to get her address etc etc?" That could be considered borderline insulting BTW. And then making the statement about me having "5K to spend in the DR surely you can do that much for her" Thats not how one usually goes about getting a take on someones mindset.

If one were to seek clarification or get better feedback, that is what will help one get a better mindset on someone. Then, when you do that, you won't find yourself starting off saying "Not judging", when clearly when you make statements the way you did, you have indeed made a judgement based on limited information. The not judging statement would not even be needed. But it is needed in instances such as yours.

Plenty of people do that all the time. And it's almost to the point I think some people avoid seeking feedback or getting clarification because they enjoy being misinformed or uninformed, so they can focus only the juicy information in front of them. I'm sure Frannie has that affliction, because he is consistent in that area.

Now, imagine if you had asked this simple question in order to get a take on my mindset. "Do you plan on returning the bracelets to her, if so when or how?" What do you think that inquiry and my answer would have afforded you? A better take on my mindset. To not do that, but go about it the way you did, suggests something else is going on.

I hope you don't take this the wrong way, because what I just conveyed to you is actually useful information in life as well as may be helpful for your upcoming trip. Have a good trip.

[QUOTE=Frannie;1542008]That is OK then. Your prior post did not make it clear that you planned to see her again, return her stuff, or that you had investigated the performance of packet delivery services in the DR on her behalf, or indeed that you were concerned about her opinion of you.[/QUOTE]Your powers of observation are amazing. It's a good thing someone else prompted some clarification. You'd still be stuck on the information in the prior post. But there's a positive side to this. Having many members here to share perspectives with results in enlightenment for those that need it most.

[QUOTE=Jooks;1541906]Are there drawbacks to using a US credit card for restaurants and such? My bank charges no transaction fees.[/QUOTE]No CC usually provide the best currency exchange rate.

[QUOTE=Frannie;1542045]Looks like a pretty useful map, but I wonder if it is a bit out of date,[/QUOTE]<saying slowly> You wonder if it is a bit out of date? You mean after all of that information you just provided about certain locations you are still wondering? Nice way to praise and at the same time discount someones help to a fellow member. You are one pretty smooth cat.

See if it was me? I wouldn't start off saying I wonder if the map is a bit dated. Especially when you know damn well that it is. I would just give the information on the areas I know, and leave it up to others to consider my contribution and update accordingly. But no one can dispute how smooth your method of assistance comes off. LOL

[QUOTE=Wrx2005; 1542135]<saying slowly You wonder if it is a bit out of date? You mean after all of that information you just provided about certain locations you are still wondering? Nice way to praise and at the same time discount someones help to a fellow member. You are one pretty smooth cat.

See if it was me? I wouldn't start off saying I wonder if the map is a bit dated. Especially when you know damn well that it is. I would just give the information on the areas I know, and leave it up to others to consider my contribution and update accordingly. But no one can dispute how smooth your method of assistance comes off. LOL[/QUOTE]Not really, Mr. Spock. The map IS useful and if you had it downloaded to your cell phone, it would give you the layout of Sosua Bay, the street plan of Sosua, the names of the principal streets, the location of the beach and Charamicos and so on, so you could take a nice walk and find the way back to your hotel if you got lost.

However if the first thing that you wanted to do on arrival was to get a local SIM card for your phone, it might be a bit less helpful, because businesses tend to relocate or close down over time. That's all.

[QUOTE=RonnyRon;1542059]I touch down on the 25th. Really looking forward to getting away for a week. Only traveling I have done international of late is crossing the broader into Tijuana for dental work and some fun at Hong Kong. Thanks again.[/QUOTE]Clean your message box out playboy.

Anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with women who stalk you. It almost feels like they are trying to "strong arm" or force themselves on you. How do guys deal with aggressive chicas. I find if you make a mistake and keep seeing them it becomes a huge mistake. Any advice?

[QUOTE=Frannie;1542045]Looks like a pretty useful map, but I wonder if it is a bit out of date, because the position of Orange telecom (#6) seems a bit out of place and I think it ought to be between the Playero minimarket and Banco Popular.[/QUOTE]I'm sure the map is outdated, I got it for my first trip 4 years ago.

But the map does give a sense of how small the town is and I think the hotels are still in the right place.

And the name of the streets are still right on.

If I was a computer wiz, which I am far from, I would try to fix the not so important errors.

[QUOTE=RonnyRon; 1542059]TomJackin,

Thank you for the map. I touch down on the 25th. Really looking forward to getting away for a week. Only traveling I have done international of late is crossing the broader into Tijuana for dental work and some fun at Hong Kong. Thanks again.

RR[/QUOTE]Like Mr. E said, clear out PM box and send me a message.

I have more info for you.

[QUOTE=Tomjackin;1542230]But the map does give a sense of how small the town is and I think the hotels are still in the right place.[/QUOTE]Yes it does and yes they are. It's still a good map. I have a copy somewhere too!

[QUOTE=Frannie;1542191]it might be a bit less helpful, because businesses tend to relocate or close down over time. That's all.[/QUOTE]I'm confused. Are you still wondering if the map is a bit outdated, or are you now acknowledging that was all along?

[QUOTE=Tomjackin; 1542237]Like Mr. E said, clear out PM box and send me a message.

I have more info for you.[/QUOTE]Tomjackin & Mr. E, I have cleared up my PM.

RR

I spent the first week of August last year in Sosua at Rick's Blues and BBQ- great place. I ran into this little cutie having dinner with her girlfriend and didn't see any reason to look further. I will say that as much as I enjoyed to hotties per square inch on the main strip in Sosua, they don't hold a candle to the hotties in Medellin. Whoa, baby! Much love to CubaDave for his great advice, and I don't challenge his take on Sosua. I just found a little bit of heaven in the incredibly gorgeous Paisas of Medellin.

[QUOTE=Tarriqq;1542221]Anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with women who stalk you. It almost feels like they are trying to "strong arm" or force themselves on you. How do guys deal with aggressive chicas. I find if you make a mistake and keep seeing them it becomes a huge mistake. Any advice?[/QUOTE]Can you supply more background and feedback on the situation? Where are you hooking up with these women? Sosua, met them online, where? Describe what they are doing and how you respond?

In general, I have encountered some aggressive chicas that like to approach and put the moves on you to take them. 1st off, I avoid making long eye contact with chicas I think might be trouble or I don't find attractive. Any prolonged eye contact many will take that as an invitation to stop and turn towards you. If I see one of these types, and they are easy to spot, I may give one look, a quick nod but turn my attention away. If they still come over, I say as little as possible. I don't answer any questions ( or avoid answering specific questions I consider prying ) , but I may tell them I am waiting for a chica or my girlfriend.

Or I say anything to get them to keep it moving. The main thing is not to be concerned about them acting offended because you aint biting. Many aggressive types like to bust out with attitudes as if you are doing something wrong not allowing yourself to be charmed by their approach. Or they may give you their spiel and in the next instant ask you to buy them some beer, or give them money to eat. Risk offending them. Just say "no gracias". Let them walk off in a huff. They werent your friend or going to be your friend anyway. They are just opportunists looking for a way in so they can get something.

Also, I don't allow those aggressive types to interrupt me when I am engaged in conversation with another person. That goes for touts and venders too. A quick acknowledgement of their presence followed by,"were talking here" or "no gracias", and then I turn my attention back to who I was talking to.

These are some things I do in general.

In your case, you are talking about women you've smashed. The only thing I can think of offhand ( without more feedback ) , is that perhaps there is something you are doing that makes them feel they can stalk you? With women I encounter and intend to see again, I usually initiate a conversation with them, letting them know I know why they are here (Sosua) and I let them know why I'm here. I am not looking for a GF or a wife. I may tell them that up front, if I feel there could be a problem down the road. I tell them, I aint jealous of any man you spend time with, and I don't want you acting jealous or crazy seeing me with other chicas. If I see you with a guy, no problem, I can see you another night. At the end of that convo, I try to get acknowledgement that they understand and agree.

The other thing that I think is important is remembering you have the right to be with anybody you want to be with. If you are manifesting weaknesses with those women, like letting them make you feel like you are doing something wrong by not seeing them on YOUR own time, then you need to nip that shit in the bud. Also, don't be telling these women that you will see them later or tomorrow when you really dont want to, or not sure.

When later or tomorrow comes and you don't take them, now you might find yourself defending yourself. Which makes you look weak, IMO. They have a tendency (and this also applies to venders and touts beggars etc) to try to hold a person to their word. Meanwhile they can lie their asses off any time it's convenient. But you, your word is supposed to be your bond. Fuck that. You have the right to keep your business to yourself too. You don't have to give anybody any information. For instance, if they ask you where you are, just tell them you are out. Or with friends. You don't have to tell them exactly where you are and what you are doing in that moment. Letting them keep tabs on you is a subtle form of control being exercised towards you.

So never say shit like later when you really don't want to be bothered or you arent sure when you want to see them. I usually say "Cuando mi lista por ti, yo llamarte" I don't know if that is correct. But I am trying to tell them. When I am ready for you, I will call you.

Just last night a chica I was with 3 weeks ago came up to me and asked me how come I haven't called her. The reason I havent called her, is because I do not want to be with her. It's that simple. And the only reason she came up to me is because it was a slow night on the strip. She purposely avoided eye contact every time I spotted her somewhere. But now all of a sudden she decided to "see" me sitting on a bar stool and came over. My answer to her was, "Estoy no lista por ti." "Cuando estoy lista, voy a llamarte" If she says when? "no sabe" and shrug my shoulders. Meaning, I dont know. Playing dumb can help in a lot of situations too.

The thing is, most of these women try to act like there is some personal interest involved when they inquire about you not calling them. The real deal though is that the main thing they are focused on is getting their next client in order to earn some cash. And includes keeping a client, and earning as much dinero with that client as possible. That even goes for enough of the real sweet nice ones that may not come to Sosua. You can have a sweet chica say "you haven't called me, how come?" I may tell them I don't have much dinero tonight, I will call you another night. Instead of them saying, thats ok I still want to be with you, money is no problem, enough will usually agree to seeing you another night. That there is your reinforcement that it aint really about you with many of them, no matter how much sexual chemistry you think you have with a chica, it's mostly about the financial benefit you have to offer when spending time with them.

Bottom line, how you carry yourself may be the crux of why you are getting stalked. Analyze that, and the chicas in question and maybe there are things you havent considered. Things you can change this instant.

However, your feedback and info can help the board perhaps be more helpful in giving you better advice in your regard. This is just some stuff that comes to mind.

[QUOTE=Wrx2005;1542500]Can you supply more background and feedback on the situation? Where are you hooking up with these women? Sosua, met them online, where? Describe what they are doing and how you respond? In general, I have encountered some aggressive chicas These are some things I do in general.[/QUOTE]Jesus, how can you enjoy yourself when you have to constantly employ such tactical maneuvers dealing with that shyt. I hated that ghetto f*ckin vibe from Sosua and am happy to be dealin with African / Asian women in this part of the world. I really did not like Sosua. Thugged out women not my style. You fellas take care over there.