A small observational guide for anyone who gets involved with them after leaving.
A small observational guide for anyone who gets involved with them after leaving.
Field Notes: Emotional Control Dynamics in Working-Girl Interactions.
Over the past several weeks, I ran a few experiments to observe behavioral patterns. I won't say which encounters were part of this study, but the results have been remarkably consistent. These women have emotional control down to a science. One even told me, "I'm a psychologist of men," after the masks came off.
I had a bit of extra money lying around and, knowing Tropical Storm Melissa was forming in the Caribbean, decided to "donate" in my own way.
Phase 1: The Hook.
It begins simplysome friendly "holas" and nostalgic callbacks to create emotional warmth.
The goal is to make you feel comfortable, valued, and generous. Once that connection is established, they let you believe you're the one choosing to give.
Phase 2: The Subtle Ask.
Soon come the indirect hints: "I need groceries," "The hotel is slow," or "I've been sick."
These are not overt pleasthey're controlled suggestions. They maintain ownership of how the request is presented. Within days, the "automated teller" reflex kicks in money sent and they believe they're steering the dynamic.
Phase 3: Emotional Disarmament.
Once they feel secure, they open up: photos, video calls, personal talk. That's when their own insecurities begin to surface body-image issues, complaints about men's habits, subtle digs meant to transfer self-doubt onto you. You're not doing enough.
The goal is psychological leverage.
The counter is to call it out calmly and directly; never let them secure an emotional advantage.
Phase 4: Comparative Triggers.
Never bring up another woman ever. Comparison is their emotional tripwire.
They constantly measure themselves against friends, coworkers, or rivals. Mentioning another man or suggesting others send them things is equally dangerousit challenges their image of control and desirability.
Remember: they talk to each other constantly, comparing how happy they are within their circles. Reputation matters more than truth. Every conversation is a reconnaissance mission.
Phase 5: Control Reversal.
After a few days of peace, they return sweet and affectionatea classic equilibrium reset. Then they drop something casual like, "I went to look for a Halloween costume. "
That's your cue.
Here you flip the script.
Send money or support before any request. Acting first confuses them because it removes their ability to choreograph the ask. Their confidence wavers; you've broken the rhythm.
Expect a small argument afterwardthat's the guilt-trip mechanism re-engaging. Stay detached and unreactive.
Phase 6: The Unprompted Gift Breaking Their Script.
Once intimacy deepenssexting, private photos, personal confessionsstrike with unpredictability.
Send money without any prompt, reason, or context. Do it completely out of nowhere.
This single act destabilizes their entire system of control. Their pattern depends on initiating the ask; it's how they stay dominant in the exchange. By acting first, you remove that power:
They can't claim they "earned" it.
They can't guilt you lateryou already gave.
They can't predict your behavior, and that loss of certainty rattles them.
Usually, they'll respond by manufacturing a large argument to re-establish emotional control. Don't engage. Stay calm; keep your tone neutral.
If you want to twist the knife subtly, frame the gift as empathy:
"I know things are tough with the storm coming hope this helps a little. ".
It makes you appear thoughtful and in control, while forcing them to question whether they ever had leverage at all.
If you're socially connected to people around the bartenders, motoconchos, security staff, taxi drivers remember that Dominican men tend to have a strong "bros-before-hoes" mentality when respect is shown. That deepens the unease. They hate the idea that you might know what's happening behind the scenes.
Phase 7: The Breakdown.
At this point, expect projection and backlash. They'll accuse you of manipulation, mind games, or being "crazy."
That's the moment of collapse. You've mirrored their own tactics back, and they can't handle losing control in their own arena. The game was learned from them so give a respectful bow.
Years of travel and observation have taught me one truth: this is emotional commerce, not romance. Their currency is attention, guilt, sex, and control. Understanding that makes you immune to illusion.
Once you see the pattern, the spell is broken.
Ending: Debrief & Takeaway.
Not every woman in that hotel operates this way. Some are genuine, hardworking, and simply doing what they must to survive. Just be aware when you start to recognize the patterns because once you see them, you can't unseen them.
These are street smarts; they are well-versed.
Every pattern observed leads back to one principle: control is the real currency.
The money is secondary it's the symbol of who dictates the pace, the tone, and the outcome.
They operate through emotional engineering reward, withdrawal, and re-engagement until the rhythm feels natural to you. Once that happens, you're no longer thinking logically; you're responding emotionally. That's when they own the exchange.
By recognizing the phases and breaking their sequence especially through the unprompted gift you seize the narrative. You become unpredictable, and unpredictability is fatal to manipulation.
It's not about revenge or moral victory. It's about clarity. Once you understand the structure, there's no emotional illusion left to sell. The attachment dissolves, and what remains is observation without involvement.
You walk away seeing the machinery for what it is transactional affection wrapped in performance.
And once you've seen behind the curtain, you can't go back to believing the show.
Still fun, though.
Never Stop Stopping.
Blackbeards over Halloween
I was at BB for 8 days including Halloween. I must say manager in charge now Paul has done great things. His personality is opposite of the now deceased Ted. He is friendly. With all and loves to talk in depth with customers. His goal is to bring BB back to what it was when John was owner. Paul is only there half the time because he is an accountant in the states. No more bands for anyone. Outsiders can now come and take a chica out. It is up to the chica what she charges (think it will be 5-6000 p) instead of normal minimum 3000 p. Chicas can now see gringos outside on their own time no problem. My buddy brought an outside chica in with no fee. Don't know if they let him get by or not.
They have new tables and chairs in the dining room. Also added cushions & drink holders in the 'window sill' next to the bar where Michelle & Endi sit. LOL. New entrance awning. They have a 2 seat golf cart you can take out an hour or two no charge. Just check with the guard. Lots of painting done. In a week there will be a new masseuse using the old short time room towards the kitchen. Also taxi drivers bringing cruise guest will receive some sort of compensation. Breakfast there was excellent with potatoes crispy not soggy like before & omelette was good. My favorites include fried chicken wings and pork cutlet Parmesan. They have a new item whole fried red snapper on the menu & it was good. Wednesday night was an actual wet t-shirt contest with 6 contestants 7 a victim who poured water over them. He got worked over by all the contestants. Winner determined by applause. It was a fantastic time. Halloween night was a blast too. Mamasans Hilda & Krystal worked hard along with chicas decorating the whole place. Chicas went all out on costumes and had prizes for the best. Even guys had a contest & the guy that won was an outsider dressed as a chica complete with high heels which he kept on all night.Lol. Fantastic time! If you were there I was the one with an inflable dick🤣 then Sat night they had Ms Universe contest a gain a blast. I passed out many 1’s to the contestants.
