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[QUOTE=WombatEd2;2622608]That's what the unions and other science-denying pendejos want you to believe, but when push comes to shove, very few will actually walk.

Look what happened with New York City employees.[/QUOTE]Well I can't speak for the CBP officers but I think a lot of people that worked the whole time out in the public without a vaccine and risked getting sick or their family getting sick and maybe already getting COVID and having natural antibodies now feel disrespected when they are forced to get a shot.

[QUOTE=BaxterSlade;2622150]Those guys you are talking about with some ID hanging around there neck would sell you a seat on a bus for around $7 to $10 the bus would wait until full and then drive into a bus line where you would sit on the bus until you got to the front. Then you would get off and walk through customs.

These days the douche bag dudes discovered a way to skip the buses and for around $25 dollars they will walk you to the front of the line. I don't want to give to many details how they are able to pull this off but it is certainly not fair to all those people who have been waiting in line.[/QUOTE]Is there a reason to guard this information? I've read on civilian sites that they expedite you by having someone in the line, and you take their place.

I just got back from Tijuana after a week with a regular. No pedestrian line at 3 pm on Friday and the Sentri car lane took 20 min. Not sure when they check for C19 vaccination. All they asked was if I brought anything back. I'll post more about the week with regular, getting Airbnb for 2 months, getting a car in Tijuana, more bar girl insights, and meeting her religious Tya.

[QUOTE=Jmioffe;2622652]Is there a reason to guard this information? I've read on civilian sites that they expedite you by having someone in the line, and you take their place.[/QUOTE]I had a friend who didn't realize how long the line would be and needed to get back to San Diego for something she had going on. When she got out of the taxi at the drop off in Tijuana someone approached her that for $40 they would get her to skip much of the line. She said ok and they told her to get in their wheel chair and they proceeded to wheel her past a block of people. They couldn't go past the border patrol guys checking ID's but saved her maybe 30 or 45 minutes.

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[QUOTE=Sol12;2622631]I think a lot of people that worked the whole time out in the public without a vaccine and risked getting sick or their family getting sick and maybe already getting COVID and having natural antibodies now feel disrespected when they are forced to get a shot.[/QUOTE]I knew a guy like that. He died of COVID. But not before infecting his parents, one of whom lived.

[QUOTE=KoolBeans;2622685]I just got back from Tijuana after a week with a regular. No pedestrian line at 3 pm on Friday and the Sentri car lane took 20 min. Not sure when they check for C19 vaccination. All they asked was if I brought anything back. I'll post more about the week with regular, getting Airbnb for 2 months, getting a car in Tijuana, more bar girl insights, and meeting her religious Tya.[/QUOTE]The border full reopening starts Monday. The last thing I've read was that Tijuana will have 50 extra traffic patrols and 30 police to help conduct traffic on the rápida. Seems like they are preparing people to expect a real "s" show for the first couple of days and hopefully it doesn't last to long. I hope you are enjoying your time living in Tijuana and don't have to deal with crossing on a daily basis. I don't think the Sentri will be as bad.

Thursday I went to Tijuana airport to pick up a regular flying in from GDL. I wasn't quite sure what to expect so didn't book a hotel. I ended up getting a fruit bowl from a street vendor on the side of the street near the airport. The regular texted she was landing and had to get her luggage. I pulled up to the arrivals and she was escorted to the car with her luggage by some guy. Apparently I'm supposed to tip this random guy that helped with her luggage.

She gives me a big hug and kiss and off we went. It is always awkward when I pick her up as not sure what to expect, but she is always warm and friendly. I guess it has to do with my insecurities of dating a bar girl. She is making out with me at every stop and things are back to normal in my mind. I feel at home and she is always so passionate. I ask her if everything is alright and if she got all of her clothes from her friends home in GDL. She went on the short trip to get the rest of her clothes. Her friend rents a 3 br condo in GDL for $150 per month which I found shocking as you couldn't even find a rental in Tijuana for that amount. She asked previously if I was interested in moving, but I have too many obligations in the USA To pull off remote working full-time.

I forgot a lot of things that happened as I spent a whole week together with her, but stayed 3 nights at the Marriott and ate at numerous restaurants (LOS Arcos, El Potrero Carnes, The Park, Nigori Sushi, Cerveceria Chapultepec, Restaurant Mexicano, and numerous visits to Caffenio).

After the 2nd or 3rd day together we decided to give living together a try. I booked 2 months at an Airbnb and it is in a rough looking area, but quiet. Also has numerous mini marts and tons of stray dogs that roam at all hours. As the Airbnb is 3 miles from the center of town, I decided to get her a car to use during the week. I had a hard time trying to convert $15 k in USD to peso as every place in the USA Wanted statements, proof, etc. I told them I pulled the cash out that day so a statement would be impossible to provide, so I had to go to 5-6 different exchanges to convert $2 k-$3 k at each location. I am sure these transactions using my SSN is probably flagging some kind of warning with border patrol as most of the time they ask me to roll my windows down and check my trunk.

We ended up finding something we like within the budget and she agrees that she would pay me back in affordable installments if the relationship goes south. She seems happy and sending the photos and video to her family. She still hasn't got her passport for the trip to Paris so we goto the office and find out the enhanced passports are being rolled out and only available to be issued in Mexico City or La Paz. I find it odd that only 2 cities in Mexico offer this service. We booked a trip to Mexico City for end of November as they only had 2 dates available for the appointment.

Since we've been spending a lot on eating out, she wants to cook me every meal (breakfast, lunch, and dinner). She tells me more about her life and how her father used to be a police officer in Sinaloa and the family made decent money, but he left the career behind once the police were being executed, most likely by the cartel. He ended up with a disability and works doing security for some company earning $65 per week. Her mother works at a taco shop and didn't disclose how much she made, but she said she got the family their only car and wants to tile their home since it is mostly barren concrete. I wasn't sure if this was asking for help, but I just acknowledged the dilemma she has regarding family matters. She also has an aunt that hits her up for money to repair a car, but told her she can only help with so much since she isn't working anymore.

One of the week day nights, she invites me to meet her other cousins and religious aunt. I wasnt sure what the religious aunt would think of her dating a gringo that speaks nonexistent Spanish. We arrive at the house and meet her cousin and aunt. Everything is a handshake rather than the family hug. I sit and watch YouTube travel clips with her one cousin that speaks English. Everyone else in the house knows as much English as I do Spanish. They offer me food and drink and they end up playing cards until 2-3am. I was tired and the aunt seemed to like me and kept glancing over at me while I was chatting with a cousin and watching YouTube. At the end of the night, she invites me to come back when she makes some Pozole and tamales. Ive been told she makes the best tamales in Sinaloa, so expectations are high since it is a bold claim. The night ends and I get the same handshake, but this time get the family hug. I am not sure what to think of meeting more aunts, cousins, and possibly her family if they come to TJ.

Later in the week, we end up going to her apartment that she was sharing with other bar girls in Zona Norte and she ends up meeting the landlord. The landlord said she owes $5 k pesos since she used a pair of some shoes and left her luggage when she quit working. She told the landlord lady that I got her a car and she told the regular that I was just going to use her and then end up meeting other ladies. Also that if she continued to work she could buy multiple cars for herself. She told me that she assumed the lady would be happy for her, but she realized the landlady was just using her to keep making money for her. The bar girls pay $2 k pesos per week for room and board at the house and get free breakfast, lunch, laundry, and cleaning services while residing in the home.

I told her that the thought that always lingers in the back of my mind is that she is young and in the prime earning years of her life in the bar girl profession and I wouldn't be upset, but just disappointed if she returned. Also told her the guys from the club probably hit her up to ask when she is working, but she said she tells them she doesn't work anymore. The amazing thing is that the bros wish her well. The sad part is the aunt and landlady wanting to keep using her for the money. Once she stopped sending her aunt money for car repairs, regular communication stopped.

I told her I understand her circumstances with poor family and other monetary requirements being requested from various family members. She said she doesn't like the work and really wants the relationship to work. I am not sure if it is genuine or some sort of desperation or combination of both. She told me in a fucked up way that she would make more money working than being with me, but justifies her love for me as she is willing to stop working in order to make the relationship work. I asked what she wanted and she said she wants to make me happy. I told her it is her life to live and she should focus on herself or she would be resentful trying to please other people.

During the week she made me every meal and clean the apartment. She said she has been on her own since 17 and cooked all of her meals out of necessity since she didn't make a lot of money. The transition from not having to worry about money when she was working to a set amount per month has her trying to take care of her money. We go to Sorianas and Walmart and she complains that I buy too many things that aren't required and she seems annoyed that I don't like staying in the house. She assumes I have an anxiety disorder or don't want to stay in with her at the apartment. I probably do have some kind of disorder, but I hate being a homebody. I like going out and experiencing the world.

I had to leave today back to the USA To take care of things and will be back next week. She seems to love the stability, but doesn't like to ask for money or help either from me or her family, which kind of scares me at times as I told her if she wanted to go back to work, then no problem, but just let me know so I can go my own way. So far things have been going great and waiting for the negative things to pop up.

Well thanks for the update on things. Yeah Mexico has lots of guys at the airport to help with luggage especially single ladies. So it sounds like you really need to get over this her working at a bar if you want something more. She may have worked at a bar but it doesn't define who she is, just the same than you went to that same bar and would be with multiple women doesn't men you are a bad guy. You are getting to know the real her and from what you have said before she amazes you and I think you need to just imagine that you meet her at a office or something and had no idea what she did would you have such a hard time being with her. When I was with my ex the hardest thing was taking her to work before we got serious. I would never talk with her about work and when she left it was never mentioned. It was her past and mine as well and we moved on.

Not sure what part of GDL she lived in but it is pretty inexpensive. The girl I know stays in a nice area and told me sh pays 4000 pesos a month for a studio type place that she has to share a bathroom and kitchen with. You should take a little trip to GDL sometime with her just so she can show you around.

Congrats on the roommate thing and hope it works out. The money thing is total BS. Damn government. When I travel I usually just go to multiple places changing $500 at a time sm they don't bug me with all the questions. Last trip to GDL I didn't have time and just wanted to change $1000 and the girl had to ask me all the stupid questions and how I got the money etc.

I'm very confused on her paying you back if things go south as you seem to have a very negative mindset on what's going to happen. Also how can you get the money if she bails and you never see her again. I don't want to put more negative thoughts in your head but girls have been known to sell all the furniture in the apartment and leave. So that's why I advise to just spend or give what you can and don't break the bank to provide things. I imagine since they are a new type of passport is why you have to go to CDMX.

Good job with the family. Now just work on your Spanish. If her tamales are that good you might end up leaving your girl for the aunt. LOL.

The landlord sounds like she's seen many girls get used by American guys. Just like most guys say all bar girls are liars and only want money. I'm sure the landlord will soon have some other girl to rent to. Usually those type of places cater to the bar girls and they feel comfortable being with other girls and not having to live in a place where the others look down on them knowing what the do.

Well seems things are going well all in all. You didn't say much about her cooking to I would assume it wasn't anything special but it's just nice that she cares enough to make the effort. Try not to be so negative on everything and think that all the stories you here from others on this site will happen to you. I only suggest you work on the Spanish more and come t grips with her past and enjoy these 2 months and the New Years trip. Be the time you return from Paris you should have a good idea on what you want and if her feelings are real.

Good luck.

They say the prettiest women in Mexico come from GDL. My family is from there. The Spanish blood has mixed well with the natives. From your reports this girl seems very genuine. Her mannerisms are typical of Mexican women which is good, she's acting like a normal girl not a bar girl. Like the thing you said about her just wanting to please you. From an American perspective that sounds weird to us because women in America aren't like that, we are a more selfish culture. Non western women are more feminine and devote themselves to their man. My father was a cop in Mexico too, he fled to the USA for similar reasons. He arrested the wrong guys and had a price on his head. Meeting the family and getting hugs is a very good sign. Also the landlord situation, people can have some serious hate / jealousy in their hearts. A guy like half your age doesn't need to tell you this but just keep your wits about you. Having like 15 k on you in Mexico is no joke, I have read on these forums people finding out who a person is just by the stories we post. I say this not to be a bummer but I genuinely hope your relationship works out, I mean if yours works out then maybe my future relationships with bar girls can too. Think of it like this, she knows she can make more being a BG but she chooses you over the cash. That's huge. Yes we can say she would rather just bang you then all the guys as a bar girl but still. She's making a choice and its you.

Concerning the six month visa thing. I'm on my third go around and I think it's a deal if you go to play in Tijuana often. Careful though. The last time I renewed the dude said he could not accept my global entry card. He said I had to have passport. After a bit of a stare off and the fact that I had $30 out he accepted my idea of using the info off the expired one. I doubt heavily that money ever makes it to the national treasury.

[QUOTE=Sol12;2622978]Well thanks for the update on things. Yeah Mexico has lots of guys at the airport to help with luggage especially single ladies. So it sounds like you really need to get over this her working at a bar if you want something more. She may have worked at a bar but it doesn't define who she is, just the same than you went to that same bar and would be with multiple women doesn't men you are a bad guy. You are getting to know the real her and from what you have said before she amazes you and I think you need to just imagine that you meet her at a office or something and had no idea what she did would you have such a hard time being with her. When I was with my ex the hardest thing was taking her to work before we got serious. I would never talk with her about work and when she left it was never mentioned. It was her past and mine as well and we moved on.[/QUOTE]She mentioned taking me on tours of GDL since she has a friend that works for Volaris and can get discounts. I understand I need to get over my insecurities and my past as well as hers. It is just strange to me that she is so hot, passionate, and obsessed with me, but maybe my exwife was a different type of Mexican and grew up in a more privileged class as they had maids and she didn't go without. This girl was genuinely crying at the dinner table trying to explain to me she understands the worth of a dollar and appreciates the help I offer. She has been on her own since 17 and never asked her family for assistance as she knows they have their own debts and challenges. She doesn't want to burden anyone.

Every place we go she wants to hand out money to the less fortunate, but I told her you'll go broke doing that and some people need to find their own work instead of a handout. She said everyone in Mexico relies on tips. We went to the car wash and the guy that sprayed the car down got a tip along with the guy that dried the car off. I told her you only tip at the end. Also paying for parking everywhere is annoying in Mexico. I don't understand how these large malls have to nickel and dime you for parking. I got to experience getting license plates in Tijuana and apparently you have to pay everyone a "tip" to make the process more smooth. It took her 3 hours to get the placas and some people said they had been waiting over 6-8 hours. It is like the Wild West where everyone requires a tip to reduce the hassle of dealing with the more rigid process.

She did tell me that if we are serious than I should meet her family, but if not then I could at a later date. She doesn't want her family to meet someone that isn't serious. She seems to have an extensive family all over Mexico. I haven't experienced any negative things from her which is odd as I'm just waiting for the cold and heartless woman to reveal themselves. Who knows what will happen? She seems genuine and seems to have a normal relationship with her family and cousins.

Also any suggestions on must do in Mexico City would be appreciated. We will be in the city for 4 days and only 1 of them we have to make getting the passport a priority in Coyoacan.

[QUOTE=BigMagick;2623010]They say the prettiest women in Mexico come from GDL. My family is from there. The Spanish blood has mixed well with the natives. From your reports this girl seems very genuine. Her mannerisms are typical of Mexican women which is good, she's acting like a normal girl not a bar girl. Like the thing you said about her just wanting to please you. From an American perspective that sounds weird to us because women in America aren't like that, we are a more selfish culture. Non western women are more feminine and devote themselves to their man. My father was a cop in Mexico too, he fled to the USA for similar reasons. He arrested the wrong guys and had a price on his head. Meeting the family and getting hugs is a very good sign. Also the landlord situation, people can have some serious hate / jealousy in their hearts. A guy like half your age doesn't need to tell you this but just keep your wits about you. Having like 15 k on you in Mexico is no joke, I have read on these forums people finding out who a person is just by the stories we post. I say this not to be a bummer but I genuinely hope your relationship works out, I mean if yours works out then maybe my future relationships with bar girls can too. Think of it like this, she knows she can make more being a BG but she chooses you over the cash. That's huge. Yes we can say she would rather just bang you then all the guys as a bar girl but still. She's making a choice and its you.[/QUOTE]She is actually from Sinaloa and cares more about me saving money than I do. When we are out I want to eat out and she says she is going to make me something at home. The money was used for the car. I don't carry $15 k with me and at most $1 k and only in Vegas I'd have $10 k bundle for blackjack. The way she treats me like a king only reminds me of my time in Thailand where the bar girl drove me around town, fucked the shit out of me everyday, did my laundry, and cooked for me. It actually makes me cringe when she has to tell me it isn't about the money or she would still be working at the bar.

I noticed people are more friendly in Mexico than in the USA As everyone greets each other by saying buenos dias, tardes, or noches. The regular would try to give the greeting of the day to Americans at the various locations we've vacationed and they didn't return the greeting. I told her it is normal for some Americans to be stuck up and not acknowledge you. The only challenge we have is she has to transfer schools to Tijuana as the Sinaloa university is going to start in person classes next year. I told her if she can't transfer, then the relationship is most likely going to be over as I don't do distance well. I guess it will be the real test if she can walk away from 3 years of knowing the professors and classmates. She also mentioned that Tijuana university may be more challenging which made me laugh as education isn't supposed to be a cakewalk.

I guess Americans are a more selfish culture, but I tried to explain to her that she should focus on what makes her happy and not my happiness. The family thing is strong for her to make sure they are comfortable, but she tells me it isn’t my responsibility. I guess time will tell how it works out, but I rarely meet people that are so passionate and wants to please you. If you happen to find it, then hope it works out for you. It feels like a dream at times as she is so good to me.

[QUOTE=KoolBeans;2623038]maybe my exwife was a different type of Mexican and grew up in a more privileged class as they had maids and she didn't go without.[/QUOTE]Where I grew up, these people were called "cremosas," and when they got here they either got humbled or turbocharged into gigantic girls.

If your girl comes from humble roots, she's most likely going to be the exact opposite of what your ex-wife was like. Poor and lower-middle-class people from that part of Mexico are amazing, especially if they manage to stay humble. Enjoy the ride.

[QUOTE=KoolBeans;2623038]She mentioned taking me on tours of GDL since she has a friend that works for Volaris and can get discounts. I understand I need to get over my insecurities and my past as well as hers. It is just strange to me that she is so hot, passionate, and obsessed with me, but maybe my exwife was a different type of Mexican and grew up in a more privileged class as they had maids and she didn't go without. This girl was genuinely crying at the dinner table trying to explain to me she understands the worth of a dollar and appreciates the help I offer. She has been on her own since 17 and never asked her family for assistance as she knows they have their own debts and challenges. She doesn't want to burden anyone.

Every place we go she wants to hand out money to the less fortunate, but I told her you'll go broke doing that and some people need to find their own work instead of a handout. She said everyone in Mexico relies on tips. We went to the car wash and the guy that sprayed the car down got a tip along with the guy that dried the car off. I told her you only tip at the end. Also paying for parking everywhere is annoying in Mexico. I don't understand how these large malls have to nickel and dime you for parking. I got to experience getting license plates in Tijuana and apparently you have to pay everyone a "tip" to make the process more smooth. It took her 3 hours to get the placas and some people said they had been waiting over 6-8 hours. It is like the Wild West where everyone requires a tip to reduce the hassle of dealing with the more rigid process..[/QUOTE]Your ex sounds like the typical upper class in Mexico. It's definitely a class structure and the upper class treat the lower class like a and some of the ways I've seen how they treat people made me very angry. Especially the light skinned getting priority over darker skinned Mexicans. That's why a huge amount of bar girls like lighter skinned guys especially if you have colored eyes.

My ex wasn't they type to hand out money to everyone and often got upset with me for over tipping. When in GDL the girl, I would hang out with would definitely hand out money to people on the street. Don't be mad about the malls for the parking, I know it's different than the US abut they aren't trying to nickel and dime you it's a way to keep your vehicle from getting stolen. I mean they usually charge about 5 pesos for 3 hours. It's a good way to get rid of your change since I would usually just leave all my change in the car for thes little tips.

Well I've only been to CDMX once last year but it was mostly closed due to COVID. Some of the things I wasn't able to do was visit the castle, and visit the ruins. On the CDMX page I shirt time ago one guy mentioned he took a hot air balloon ride over the ruins that was just over $100. I remember you don't like heights so that may not be for you but a cool experience. For me mostly just did a lot of walking. Started in the Zocalo where the old famous church is and the government buildings. They have a couple of restaurants that you can at at that over look this area that are highly rated. From there you can walk over there the Bella's Artes building which is nice. If you continue to walk you run into a build that for a small fee take an elevator about 4 stories up the enjoy the view. I'm sure others have done more but with COVID closing things and only a few days I didn't do much.

[QUOTE=KoolBeans;2623042]I noticed people are more friendly in Mexico than in the USA As everyone greets each other by saying buenos dias, tardes, or noches. The regular would try to give the greeting of the day to Americans at the various locations we've vacationed and they didn't return the greeting. I told her it is normal for some Americans to be stuck up and not acknowledge you. The only challenge we have is she has to transfer schools to Tijuana as the Sinaloa university is going to start in person classes next year. I told her if she can't transfer, then the relationship is most likely going to be over as I don't do distance well. I guess it will be the real test if she can walk away from 3 years of knowing the professors and classmates. She also mentioned that Tijuana university may be more challenging which made me laugh as education isn't supposed to be a cakewalk.

I guess Americans are a more selfish culture, but I tried to explain to her that she should focus on what makes her happy and not my happiness. The family thing is strong for her to make sure they are comfortable, but she tells me it isnt my responsibility. I guess time will tell how it works out, but I rarely meet people that are so passionate and wants to please you. If you happen to find it, then hope it works out for you. It feels like a dream at times as she is so good to me.[/QUOTE]I have always loved that part of Mexico and going to out and seeing how the people acted towards one another is one thing I genuinely miss. I'm happy that you can see the difference so quickly and in smaller cities it's even better. It's how I imagine people are in small parts of the south and the so called southern hospitality.

So I'd imagine since she is so tight with family and her age that she has talked to you about having a kid, with your past and age I'm sure you have thought about this and my guess is that maybe you not wanting a child would be the downfall of your relationship. Just talking from experience.