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Lucifer:
Great post! That's the first time I have ever seen this list, and it reconfirmed my commmitment never to marry a Filipina! I have noticed many of the same things with live-in girlfriends, which may explain why I do not hang on to any of them very long.
Lucifer, GoodEnough,
Great post Lucifer. Its amazing what you can learn even when its meant to be funny. GE, your right. I have always thought filipinas were best kept as LBFM and leave the marriage part to other guys. Sad, but most likely true.
I love banging filipinas the best of any I have had, but I really believe that for an American, a latina is probaby the best bet in the crapshoot that is foreign marriage. My OP only.
Dragon Slayer,
Dude, your right. I have been busy banging japanese broads, but I have tried to write you. Your inbox seems to always be full, and I did try writing to your other email and I dont know if you got it or not, but I did send it.
Mikster
Mikester:
The other thing I have recently noticed (and experienced) here is the aggressive and really unpleasant jealousy of women, when one has a relationship with a foreigner and the other, who wants such a relationship, does not have one. Even the best of friends, it seems, will go to great lengths to undermine each other in an attempt to destroy the relationship of the lady with the foreign boyfriend. Though I have lived here for the better part of a year now, this is the first time I've observed this phenomonon, and having discussed it with other expat friends here, I'm convinced that my experience is not unique.
It appears to me that the penchant for wanting to destroy that which the "other" has, even though such destruction offers no benefit to the underminer, is more prevalant here than I had realized. I finally decided just to divorce myself from the whole mess and to refrain from commenting on the stories, allegations, distortions and general lies being circulated about me. It seemed to work, as I simply refused to provide anymore fuel to the fire.
Maybe the situation exists because there is a limited number of foreign men here and the competition for their affections, and their wallets is fierce. Or maybe the situations like this fester because the women have so little else to occupy their time. Whatever the reason, such situtions create hurt feelings and unnecessary hassles,
GoodEnough
Hahahahahahah, I see you have learned grasshopper. That is true what you speak. Its called the crab mentality of the filipino people. If one person starts to get ahead and rise up, the others will grab them and bring them back down to their level.
Like you said even though there is no monatary gain for the crab in doing this they still like to grab onto them and drag them back down to the bottom where they dwell. No one there likes to see another succeed above them before they do.
Your experience is not unique my son, it is probably one of the most non thought about practices that happens, its just second nature to them. Just count it as a good day that you learned something. Thats just the way it is and it ain't gonna change in our life time. Thanks for the honest report. It helps all.
I met my wife in the New York club in Kinville Okinawa in 1989 while there as a Marine, I brought her here in July of 1990 on a fiancee visa and we were married in Aug of 90, she now has US citizenship, in retrospect I should have followed my Grandmother's wish and request that 'Don't bring one of those asian girls home'
My wife has 4 brothers and 4 sisters, and the amount of support that has been sent has increased along with my income, my wife has not really contributed into the marraige, her income for the first ten years was her own (when she worked), plus she had to have money from me. Then when she was convinced to join her income with mine to pay off bills she could not live within her allowance, and complained that I was spending the money.
She has changed from being a LBFM to a frigid, coniving, controlling *****. Her priorities are to support her brothers and sisters families, (one of her sisters has 8/9 kids) and now I pay for her younger sisters appartment with refridgerator and the works, while her sister and brother sit on their ass.
I went once to meet her family and it was a non-stop flow of people daily asking for money.
Once my sister needed some help and my wife was enraged that she might have to help my family. I loaned one of my brothers a thousand dollars and my wife acted like I gave away our life savings, my neice is asking to come and stay with us to have a new start for her and her two kids and my wife is acting like its the end of the world.
I don't mind helping people, and I don't mind helping my wife's family, but I do mind providing for people that won't hellp themselves.
My Advise to everyone is to fuck them and leave them there.
Ljohnson,
It was mostly told of the hazards of being married to a fillipina, that they are extreemly one sided and very narrow minded.
I don't give them money, my exwife did which is why she lives in an apartment and I have the house.
And lets add one and one, you say you have been married for thirty years, yet your in here?, sounds like something is missing
I do understand that they have not had much, but that is mostly due to the selfishness and petty bickering these people do.
Wildeone59:
I agree with Ljohnson. Why not "just say no." The only two possible outcomes seem to be that your wife, seeing some steel in your backbone, backs off and stops hassling you, or she leaves, which seems to be a conclusion that you would have no problem accepting. What's the worst that could happen? You get diviorced and she gets half your income as alimony? Sounds from what you said that this would amount to less than you're paying now. Tell her to fuck off and see what happens.
Wildone59
What happend with you ? You can not say NO ?? What are you afraid off ?
Do not complain to anybody about the things happend to you. You make your own mess.
Learn to say NO
Wildone59?
Or more likely Whimpone01.
I believe you have possibly heard enough already from fellow mongers here.
If not, and since I live here in the USA and I am guessing you do also, let me be the one to come kick you in your ass and get your manhood rebooted.
I will of course sedate this with some beer.
Holy shit my friend. I would love to come help you with moral support. Yes, that is right. Moral support. Because what your going through is a crime.
In the mean time I will also take some of your wife's female relatives and show them the realities of life as well.
Just let me know if you need some help with your backbone.
FF
Ljohnson,
This was intended as an example of how these broads can be, if I had a dollar for every fight my wife and I had when I said no and she went and did it anyway I would not be missing the money.
As I stated in the first post, you can't help but have some empathy for these people, but then again most of them don't set themselves up to go anywhere.
I gave my wife the benefit of multiple chances due to her being abandoned and forced to work this way by her family, and also having an abusive BF before me, and her resultant bi-polar disorder due to the neglect and abuse.
Marraige is also supposed to be a commitment until death.
Yes, I do have backbone, she is soon to be an ex-wife.
I am curious as to why you are here in this type of forum if you have been so happily married for 30yrs
GoodEnough,
'just say no', I have said NO, No, No, so many times and so many ways to her that I thought that 'No' was the main word in the english dictionary.
When she agreed that I was right and then she did it anyway, typical filipina style, was when I realized that it woud never work with her.
Wildone59
Wildone59:
Sorry for my off the cuff comments. It's always easy to give perfct advice when you know nothing about the context or the people involved. I'm glad that you finally dumped her. It sounds to me like you did everything you could to make it work.
GE
Wildone - "cheaper to keep her". Mine would get close to 1/2 mill if we split "Happily"? (but non-Asian)
Regarding Filipinas and women of many cultures: Do what's good for you.
Many women, U.S. and other, are going to try their best to exploit you through feelings of sympathy. It's in our nature, as men, to act to a degree lke guardians and protectors.
But also remember that many women will not only tell you tales of woe and abuse, but they'll also entirely invent them. So take it with a grain of salt when your girly tells you she was in an abusive relationship before you came along.
And if your girly's family is overseas, the chance that her father needs help with his hospital bills is more likely that he wants a shiny DVD player, or if he's a brighter fellow, maybe a new deck.
There are exceptions to the rule, but in many cases, you can take the girl out of the favela, but you can't take the favela out of the girl. And in the favela, sometimes the only assett a girl has is her sweet body and smile. That unfortunate truth breeds a lot of conniving putanas.
At 34, I've had my heart broken a few times. My credit rating is still intact.
Hi guys!
Does anyone know how difficult it is for filipina girl to get a visa to visit me in the USA for a week or two? IS there much paperwork involved in this or is it pretty straightforward? Thanks for the advice here.
Hank
Hank Stram:
On the off chance that your post is not a joke, I can tell you that the chances are between slim and none. The entire process takes at least 6 months and the percentage actually granted visas is quite small.