Out of Hibernation For the Winter
[QUOTE=Wrx2005;1652477]I'm a preach a little, but mostly I am just sharing my thoughts with you and the board. You mentioned that you told her your schedule / itinerary of where you were going to be. Many of us are usually accustomed to engaging in small talk with chicas as if we are relating in a normal situation. But sometimes, we give info and details that arent really necessary for them to know. Many people that we relate to (in the DR and in general), usually have a different motivation for wanting to know your business. Especially our schedules / itinerary. What that info represents to them, may be distinctly different than them receiving it as us simply making small talk.
Pyscho or not, does a dude really need to or be inclined to offer a casual acquaintance chica info of his schedule? More often than not, she is not a friend, nor somebody that has proven to be one. Many of us where we come from are reinforced with the belief that we should give people the benefit of the doubt in terms of their character, until proven otherwise. To a certain extent that philosophy can be a detriment. IMO and especially in an assbackwards country where too often people are manipulating and scheming for survival, I think it is better to start people off with zero credibility from the jump. And regard most of what they portray as an act in order to gain something or to make a certain impression so you will let your guard down, thus making it much easier to find a way to manipulate you.
This isn't always a conscious decision or move. Enough people lie, scheme and manipulate instinctively. We as mongers have to know this and always be prepared for the worse. It is much better to assess character over a period of time, and not be impressed by little things they do. Like sexing you, or paying for a beer, or acting like they arent interested in your money. Besides years ago forums like this, guys have always discussed not telling chicas,touts,beggars etc too much information, including when they are coming, where they are staying and what day and time they were leaving. By keeping them out of the know / loop, a monger can possibly reduce some risk in a chica, or some other unsavory character with parasitical intentions from monitoring or tracking him.
Remember the dude at Tradewinds that got robbed? What happened to him could have happened to anyone. But I wouldn't be surprised that he got entirely too comfortable with that chica. She may have very well dropped to her knees and sucked his dick with some honey on it. But none of that qualifies as her being someone a monger should consider an ok chica, and think she can be related to like a normal acquaintance. As if a dick suck or having good sex means she can be entrusted with personal information. We have to always be on point, and at the same time know how to not be so rigid and miss out on having a good time.
It doesn't have to be a dominican, a puta, a psycho, it could be anybody. It's never a good idea to tell strangers your personal business that they do not NEED to know.
I was on the playa several weeks ago. I met a nice fella (white guy about 60) that retired there. He took to me instantly all because he liked our conversation, and probably was taken in by my friendly manner. But he was giving me way too much personal information about how much investment income he had, where he lived, a whole bunch of info etc etc. Apparently he was / is very proud of his accomplishments and his current lifetsyle. But may fail see the danger in doing that, especially with a casual acquaintance. With that dude I could have asked him something more personal and he would have told me. Ask him to show me his place, get his phone number, where he hangs out etc. And then set his ass up to get ripped off or worse. I would be completely surprised if he hasnt already shared details and information with chicas that they didn't need to know, trying to impress them. Or not having anything meaningful to talk about except himself.
So I would say to any monger out there. When people approach and start asking questions, or one feels inclined to offer info they don't need in an effort to be friendly or break the ice. Deflect their inquiries if you do not need them to know your information. Notice, I said you don't need them to know. They may want to know, because they can use that info, if inclined. Anything a guy can do to get the job done can work. Ignore the request for info altogether, lie and give inaccurate details, offer feedback but omit details. Or just never be sure of anything, time, dates, ones whereabouts in the moment or in the near future etc. But simply be aware of the inclination or habit of talking to just be talking, and not realizing they do not need to know that information. To throw off a nosy chica from trying to get an exact date out of a dude. A dude can say he bought a one way ticket and have no clue when he's going back. The more personal info divulged, the more one can risk being manipulated or have a problem. Imagine you not divulging your schedule or being with anyone else?
If you notice, chicas sometimes have an edge when they keep us off balance with all of their lies, omission of facts and details. If we knew what they were really doing and thinking most of the time, we would be able to use that info to our advantage to avoid inconveniences and unnecessary BS. So it should be obvious the less they know about us, and pertinent information the more control we have to facilitate keeping them in check. Thats the better position to be in. None of what I said means a guy is exempt from any chica turning psycho. I'm only offering feedback to help those to further mitigate potential problems for themselves. Nobody wants to be seen as a mark. But giving away personal information to those that don't need to know, sure can lead to that possibility.
Nowadays, it's fun observing and catching myself, and seeing how easy it was to fall into the habit of telling people things/details they dont need to know, and especially never even asked of me. Happy Mongering![/QUOTE]Where have you been? Did you just come out of hibernation or perhaps somebody poured some honey on your dick and woke you up by licking it up.
You make some interesting points, dealing with a psycho / nympho Chica was different territory for me. I think she has bipolar disorder or something like that as I have never encountered any one like her except kind of like my ex-wife. I'm usually straight up more or less with the Chicas as I had been with Ms. Psycho / Nympho before on my last trip and had no problems so I informed her of my schedule on this trip.
My little head was doing the thinking and I didn't want to miss any of the honey licking action to be had. This one got six leches out of me in 18 hours one night that beat my record of 5 when I was 35 years younger so for a guy over sixty you can imagine which head was doing the thinking.
Day 2 Who can stop the rain
Day 2 a good day. I Started the day at Rockies for breakfast. Next had a nice workout at gym in the casino 200 pesos. To do what I do being in shape makes it all possible. I am running around like I am in my stomping grounds. I hop a public to Caberetti for 2 hours of lounging on the beach. Always a relaxing time. Get back to my hotel and play chess with some fellow mongers while the rain just will not stop.
I broke a rule and relearned a lesson. A chica I had brushed off the night before spotted me in the bar. She was with a friend who had a nice ass. They asked to come to my room to get out of the rain. After much convincing I agreed but no sex. Next thing I know they are pulling my pants off and sucking my dick. I fought as hard as I good but a hard dick will not listen. Happy hours are a bad ideas almost always.
I was a little disappointed that I did not control the situation better but there was a happy ending. After the session I went back to the hotel bar and hung out with some guys from New York. They are close to my age and having a great time. The rain does not let up until 11 an the the streets are flooded. I hop a motto to Rumbas. The rain has put a damper on the turnout. While in Rumbas I see a real nice ass on a pretty Haitian face. I start the interview and move things to the club below Clasicos. I see the DJ and buy his over priced CD but for my 10 dollars I control the music that is played for the rest of the night. My girl is an excellent dancer and will do bachatta and hip hop all night. I pull the trigger and go back to room with her. Do to my earlier activity I did not think much would happen until the morning but I was th wrong. She motivated me the sex was hot. Her moans made glad I had gone to the gym. I rode her hard and she loved it She is wirh me now. I enjoyed her company. The dancing and sex were both exceptional. It was a very good night.
I did not give the bad girl from the night before the extra 500
[QUOTE=Oakie;1652330]I'm usually honest with the chicas, but sometimes a lie can be complimentary, like when she asks, "Do these shorts make my ass look too big?
She gave it her all to snare you and was naturally disappointed when you were leaving her for another chica. And a disappointed chica has nothing to lose but her temper.
You had some good stuff from her, and it's too bad it went sour at the end, but it's all part of the Sosua Samba.[/QUOTE]
Somethings need to be repeated.
[QUOTE=Wrx2005;1652477]So I would say to any monger out there. When people approach and start asking questions, or one feels inclined to offer info they don't need in an effort to be friendly or break the ice. Deflect their inquiries if you do not need them to know your information. Notice, I said you don't need them to know. They may want to know, because they can use that info, if inclined. Anything a guy can do to get the job done can work. Ignore the request for info altogether, lie and give inaccurate details, offer feedback but omit details. Or just never be sure of anything, time, dates, ones whereabouts in the moment or in the near future etc. But simply be aware of the inclination or habit of talking to just be talking, and not realizing they do not need to know that information. To throw off a nosy chica from trying to get an exact date out of a dude. A dude can say he bought a one way ticket and have no clue when he's going back. The more personal info divulged, the more one can risk being manipulated or have a problem. Imagine you not divulging your schedule or being with anyone else?
Nowadays, it's fun observing and catching myself, and seeing how easy it was to fall into the habit of telling people things/details they dont need to know, and especially never even asked of me. Happy Mongering![/QUOTE]Everything that has been stated I know but sometimes I too reveal too much information. I have to do better!
