I have been coming to this site for years now
[QUOTE=Haven123;1688952]Hello all. Particular thanks to Charles Poota (haha) and all those who helped me on my first trip to DR last year.
I have now spent about 4 1/2 months in total in the Puerto Plata area over the last 14 months. About 1. 5 -2 months in Costambar and the rest in Sos.
I used to love the D Latins and was very disappointed it shut down after my second trip. For now, I like Classicos and After 1 as I am a late night guy and love music, dance and ambiance of the sexy looking pro chicas!
Finally, I decided I want to learn Bachata and hope to take lessons this upcoming trip and also practice with some Cupid Chicas. I love the ambiance of all the chicas at Classicos, After 1 (Thur. , Fri. And sat after about 245 am until 5 am) and the Latins I loved while it was open. I only interact with the pros on the dance floor and buy drinks etc. But limit myself to the Cupid chicas for companionship. Yeah, I am a bit different, perhaps even strange and maybe a dud! Who knows? I can only do what works for me. FWIW.
I enjoy the true dominican culture, the food like rice and beans and just observing the families on the beaches. I've also spent some time at the all inclusive resorts on many occasions with Cupid chicas and did BB for 5 days on my first trip (did not care for it). The pros don't work for me at all, and other than on my first trip while at BB's and 2 at the DLatins, the rest have ALL been the semi or ocassional pros. I've kind of got this Cupid thingy working for me. I never mention money and discretely put it in their purse when they leave. I do bring gifts like 100 ML brand name perfumes, earrings and so far 3 cell phones, shirts / blouses / Brazilian bikinis and a for / with a few some shopping locally. However, in the end, they all do better with me than the 2000 they might get in a day and I treat them well to fish at the beach at top resturante or at a Baileys etc for good meals and quality drinks. And I have only stayed at Casa Cayena or apartments in Costambar, within 3 minute walk to the beach and the chicas all get breakfast and meals while with me.
I see some chicas on follow up trips and it is usually 1/3 from previous trips and 2/3 new chicas. I don't care at all (zero for the 1-2 hour thing) and prefer 1-3 days at a time. So, the total number of chicas I have been with are probably a fraction of most guys here. But that's what I like and what works for me.
The intent of this post is to share. Since I hadn't in some time. And also to suggest (like some others here) that staying away from the hard core pros, venturing into the quiet and low key Dominicanas (I stick to between 4-8 on the top 1-10 scale, and stay away from the 9's and 10's. Because I like the personality of the 6's and 7 's the best) and perhaps trying to show some of them a good time (the non hard core pros) , not mentioning pesos upfront, and always making it pesos Płus gifts worth at least 1000 pesos each per Chica for each 1-2 days and still ensuring they leave happy and exceed their expectations (by discreetly giving them about 2000 per day of cash, so they leave with at least 5000- 7000 or more for each 2-3 days, besides meals and good entertaining times).
In my solo and subjective opinion, the hard core chica situation in SOS is pretty sad and I strongly believe that visitors who are coming now are reaping what the visitors who came before them have sowed. Meaning many, if not most, treated them poorly, the chicas live in their Echo chamber of the other chicas, ricocheting stories off each other while at Rumbas, or on the phone and via texts.
Guys come and guys go...back to their regular non DR lives....but these chicas have to live it day in and day out....there are no jobs and the education system in the DR in school is shit! They have no skils and no opportunities. These chicas cannot survive anywhere other than in the DR, even the non pros. But, if we collectively keep up, not at least trying in some small way, to give them some little thing to hang their mental hat on....something that says we did not treat them poorly....then things will only get more and more trashy in SOS 1-3-5 years down the road. If you don't care, then they don't care. Of course, please nobody end up trying to marry these pros or semi pros, or trying to change them, or take them out of the DR or whatever....in 98 % of the cases it simply will NOT work. But, perhaps trying to bring some temporary brightness and lift up the spirits of the non hard core chicas is worth doing? This is just my opinion, from my observations, and interactions while there with both chicas and amigos. And of course, reading the posts here. Sorry state of affairs I must say....the playing field is soggy, quite a bit muddied up and the pro chicas are learners .....and they have learned the hard way with what many have been shoved with.
I am sure many will not like what I say and will disagree strongly. And that's fine...and I happy to be slapped around here....but guys please think about changling the approach some ?? Please.....
May be another way to approach the Non pro DR chicas. If Cupid chicas bring up pesos or ask me to wire them dineros or ask me to bring them an iPhone I just delete that one and focus on the others. I never ask them to send me pics (because Cupid has pics and in 2/3 of the instances I also get to see their Facebook pages. I review everything carefully to form a composite view (subjective, of course) of each chica by seeing the FB posts, the ones by their friends etc and also branch out by contacting their FB friends and friends of friends.
Anyway, in closing, one request, if anyone has any suggestions for me or where, with whom, when and how to really learn Bachata well, when I am Sos in the coming weeks (for 2-3 weeks) I would really appreciate it. Of course, I am happy to pay chicas for helping me learn Bachata. My interest in this is longer term, because I think I am really liking this dance form / expression and it gives me different ways to experience and live the culture and enjoy life in a more diverse and interactive way. And of course it has greater staying power for pleasure and enjoyment, versus say a 30 minutes quickie.
I have taken a lot of time to observe, gather feedback, look at facts and reflect on all of this for more than a year. So, I am not just posting without having thought about all of this for quite some time and critiqued myself, as well as my observations. And, these are just my observations and suggestions. Take it for FWIW or just delete, say pass, or chuck it mentally into a mental trash can. Irrespective, it is worth some reflection on the part of all and maybe some small slight adjustment in approach. The chicas will not do this...they are incapable of doing anything, because they have no options, and find themselves at the receiving end of an experience.
Sure, yeah, there are bad chicas, who will take an amigo for all they've got, rip them off, steal whatever....but IMO 75 pc of the chicas are not crooks, thieves or bad apples. They are just trying to survive and many probably do enjoy a lifestyle of fun and excitement...clothes, dance, music, booze and whatever. After all, they are all pretty much in the 18-28 range.[/QUOTE]And your's is the best report I have ever read! Honest. To the point. And your conclusions are inescapable. I believe you are so right on I shall begin building a statue of you in my front yard. Hummmmm. I will need a picture. Ha ha.
Seriously, your post was a breath of fresh air. I would love to buy you a beer sometime. I hope to be there in DR within a few weeks. Lonely.