Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[QUOTE=Jambo]

Personally I want to be able to bury my shaft in a LBFM without having to worry about wearing a raincoat, so thats why I will look for long term relationship with a live in girl and avoid bar girls for the most part.

Keeping a girl on retainer while you are out of town, you might worry if she's playing around. It may not be as bad as some guys say, but its an issue.[/QUOTE]

I guess eventually, I will "settle" in PI. Probably need to be able to escape to HK or where ever. I do not like raincoats either.

[QUOTE=Tansak KTV]The Mentality and thought Process of some Filipina's amaze me.



Per her words... she is thinking she is lucky to meet me as I am only twice her age as most her friends are married to "really old old guys, like 50 and such."

So just remember when you are with a 24 or 25 year old, there are 18, 19, and 20 year olds out there that are also wanting us "old" guys and would be happy to be with some of us. :D So if they start giving some attitude or not being obedient, throw them back in the sea (or threaten too) as I have found that scares them the most.[/QUOTE]

Nice FR Tansak.....but obviously no hope for me of a threesome with your cutie (and she is definitely a cute one gentlemen) as am well over 50 and past my sexual peak...:D

Fortunately as you said there are plenty of others who like really old (and kinky) guys so am never short of company :)

And meewntioning that there are others who will take me as I am and accept me as I am (and younger) is a good way to keep them on track...have used that tack a few times.

See you soon

[QUOTE=Big Johnson2]I have also found that many Filipinos would much rather take your money than go work for themselves. I see extreme laziness based on Western standards. I hear that I can't take that job because it doesn't pay enough. Lots of fathers and brothers letting their daughters/sisters fuck themselves silly instead of working themselves.

Sad.[/QUOTE]

I would say that many families once a daughter/son is working do stop looking for themselves...expecting the sibling to pay for their lazy habits.

Recently a freebie from the UAE returned to PI with some savings and I told her not to tell anyone as basically her greedy family would want to spend it (as Tansak said they cannot budget, no concept of this, live for the day, buy branded goods that can be pawned later if needed).

Sure enough 4 weeks after being back in CDO...she has nothing left. Parents suspected she had cash stacked away in her BDO account and being a good girl she could not lie to them (even though she would/could lie to me and others if needed).

Now she is in CDO no cash no job.....and I gave her a hard chat session telling how crazy she was, how greedy the family was/is etc. And she was remorseful and realises that family are money grabbing low lifes....and wants to find a job soon and move out of the family house (BTW she is not a bar girl)

Another I know who works in Dubai (old friend and fuck buddy) told me that when home in Dumaguete, she was 'courted' by many Pinoys and said she would never marry any because she did not want to work hard to fund their drinking, gambling, smoking etc. She spends her money on land, a house, a nice boob job (very nice boob job :)) and wants a white guy to marry as he will respect her.

She is 28, good brain, sensible and a tad kinky but recognises that most of her family prefer her to work so she can feed the "lazy time wasters" back home. She has resisted this most of the time and as such is doing well. They complain and she ignores them except medicines for her grandmother (and she knows the prices so is never cheated)

[QUOTE=Wicked Roger]Nice FR Tansak.....but obviously no hope for me of a threesome with your cutie (and she is definitely a cute one gentlemen) as am well over 50 and past my sexual peak...:D [/QUOTE]

WR got to see some advance photo's :D But sorry WR there is no chance she'll do a 3 some next week with us. Remember the advanced training is only just beginning, she's only had training by others not by the TKTV or WR standards just yet.

As you know I"m all over SEA for a long time but I posted this for the newbies who are chatting on line or are new in PI etc... Any girl over 24 who is not married is usually looking at her life going downhill from there in Philippines especially if she has no education and is from a poor family. There's no reason anyone needs to take attitude or shit from a Filipina because they think if they don't snag a guy young and early their life is doomed. (not all but many of course)

For every girl that shoots you down or gives you attitude there at 1000's that are just turning 18, 1000's that are turning 19 and have had some training by guys before, and even more that are turning 20 and willing to take care of you and do anything for you just to get away from PI or to help out their family.

One thing about Filipina's they are fertile and bred like rabbits :D

Took some girls out to eat and sing. At both places they ordered all kinds of food, milk shakes, desert, etc. Then didn't even eat 1/3 of the stuff they ordered. If they were my kids, I'd be scolding them for being so wasteful! Anyway, one girl said she earned 7k php a month as a regular in a dept. Store. She supports her parents and young son as the only wage earner in the family. She gets extra money by working at LAC one night a week. This one girl was kinda pretty, and I gave her 4.5k for LT. 3K for her and 1.5k for her son's bday in a week (or so she claimed). On the way back to Makati, I wanted to go the the Hyatt casino, but she said it was bad. A waste of money, so we went straight back to the hotel. Later on, I found out she spent all the money I gave her on e-games (online gambling) and she was so upset that she was crying and trembling. All these things show me that they're not used to having much and try to live high. At least I got my money's worth.

I have found from my GF that she hates me asking questions. Whether I'm asking where some item is in a large department store or a question about food on the menu, she hates it. Finally she told me don't ask questions, because you'll make the person feel dumb if he doesn't know the answer. Anytime I ask her a question about some business dealing or larger purchase she says "what do you think, I'm not stupid". Is my girl friend too sensitive?

Are there other cultural differences I need to know? I'm trying to be sensitive.

He, he you got played.

[QUOTE=Muff Eater]Took some girls out to eat and sing. At both places they ordered all kinds of food, milk shakes, desert, etc. Then didn't even eat 1/3 of the stuff they ordered. If they were my kids, I'd be scolding them for being so wasteful! Anyway, one girl said she earned 7k php a month as a regular in a dept. Store. She supports her parents and young son as the only wage earner in the family. She gets extra money by working at LAC one night a week. This one girl was kinda pretty, and I gave her 4.5k for LT. 3K for her and 1.5k for her son's bday in a week (or so she claimed). On the way back to Makati, I wanted to go the the Hyatt casino, but she said it was bad. A waste of money, so we went straight back to the hotel. Later on, I found out she spent all the money I gave her on e-games (online gambling) and she was so upset that she was crying and trembling. All these things show me that they're not used to having much and try to live high. At least I got my money's worth.[/QUOTE]

A lot of people don't like questions. Ignorant people especially don't like questions, since they don't know the answer and usually don't understand the question.

Your gal isn't too senitive, she's just trying to hide her dumbness. You should take notes and learn from her.

X


[QUOTE=Big Johnson2]I have found from my GF that she hates me asking questions. Whether I'm asking where some item is in a large department store or a question about food on the menu, she hates it. Finally she told me don't ask questions, because you'll make the person feel dumb if he doesn't know the answer. Anytime I ask her a question about some business dealing or larger purchase she says "what do you think, I'm not stupid". Is my girl friend too sensitive?

Are there other cultural differences I need to know? I'm trying to be sensitive.[/QUOTE]

Thats just the problem. The young ones got smooth skin and look good in the pool, but generally are dumb as fuck. I can play the "take daddys girl shopping" bit only so long. Guess that's the best reason to be with GROs, as they say, you pay them to LEAVE.

That's going to be a concern for me when I take a live-in after I move to PI. What to do with her? I guess my plan is to send her out to classes or on errands/work. And/or I go out to play golf or work out. I don't mind sitting with them and watching DVDs for a while at night. But like my 2nd wife, an empty mind gets bored easily, and then she becomes troublesome.

There are some very intelligent girls in the PI, but its harder for guys like us to meet them because..they're busy working. They don't hang out in malls or spend hours online. And since they are employable being with an old fuck doesn't make them juice their pants like it does for the poor girls.

I hooked up with a smart working girl a few years back. She knew stuff. Where to get sex toys in Manila. Where to find copy DVDs. She dressed well and was a pleasure to take to dinner. She was bi-curious and tried it with another girl and I. Problem was she was late 20s and starting to chubb out.

[QUOTE=Big Johnson2]I have found from my GF that she hates me asking questions... Finally she told me don't ask questions, because you'll make the person feel dumb if he doesn't know the answer... Are there other cultural differences I need to know?[/QUOTE]Well, from my extensive business experience (10+ years) in the Philippines I can tell you that Filipinos almost never admit that they don't know something, even if they don't have the slightest clue. That's the case even if not knowing the answer (and masquerading this fact) leads to common business decisions that endanger their own interest in success. Apparently they hope that the issue will somehow evaporate and everything will still come out fine.

I can recall several occasions of getting so annoyed that I will pressure them until they finally admit to not having a clue which seemingly subjects them to almost physical pain and deep embarassement. Of course you can only do that with people of lesser importance and not high-level politicians (who generally have the least knowledge of anything).

So, yes, I do think there is a cultural component to that. This may or may not have to do with the general importance of keeping face in Asia or the specific deep Filipino inferiority complex of fearing not being able to compete especially with Western societies.

[QUOTE=Samar 2009]The mentality in the majority of Philippinas is the same. They are tryng to get a foreigner even if he's older than 55 to take care of them. But as soon as they feel comfortable with the said foreigner they look around for a younger guy or guys.

To them lying, comes naturally. They are pre_ programmed as soon as they are born. If they had the power of having what we have. Eg. Money, good job. Etc. Etc. They will be fucking a different guy or guys every night. Believe me. I wouldn't trust a Philippina in a convent.

They also get spoiled very easily and they can't budget from day to day.

Just go to Phils, have a good time there. And don't ever commit yourself.

Samar[/QUOTE]


Last year in Europe, I met a couple of Swedish ladies in their late twenties like that. Both of them had been studying at various universities, spoke at least five languages well (as their studies had been all over Europe). So, maybe it is a personality thing rather than a Pinay thing. When I read your post, I just thought *snap*.

[QUOTE=Ajacobson]Well, from my extensive business experience (10+ years) in the Philippines I can tell you that Filipinos almost never admit that they don't know something, even if they don't have the slightest clue. That's the case even if not knowing the answer (and masquerading this fact) leads to common business decisions that endanger their own interest in success. Apparently they hope that the issue will somehow evaporate and everything will still come out fine.

I can recall several occasions of getting so annoyed that I will pressure them until they finally admit to not having a clue which seemingly subjects them to almost physical pain and deep embarassement. Of course you can only do that with people of lesser importance and not high-level politicians (who generally have the least knowledge of anything).

So, yes, I do think there is a cultural component to that. This may or may not have to do with the general importance of keeping face in Asia or the specific deep Filipino inferiority complex of fearing not being able to compete especially with Western societies.[/QUOTE]
I have worked with a few Pinoy males, and use to get so frustrated with their inablity to admit they are wrong. It is almost impossible for them to admit they wrong, even after you Google some information and show them the facts, they will always keep arguing.

Now I just let it go, 99% of the time, it just isnt worth the hassle.

I drank a few beers with the male relatives of my BF in AC when we visited Cebu. Moalboal is a lovely place. Initially, I had wanted to treat them to a meal and drinks at one of the resorts but they took me into town to a more rustic place. There were grand fathers (my age), cousins beyond description, uncles but no father. Absent fathers is so common in Philippines.

My BF coached me about what to do. Cartoons of cigarettes first. Beers and then make an offer to the kitchen at this place; offer them 50 % more than what they make normally. Include the people already there; shout them too. Anyway, we had a riot..............the food came, the beers flowed, the relatives came.............and BF and family kept the owner honest. In the end, around 50 people drank and ate for hours for 150 USD.

We had a great time and BF was displaying me like a prize. I felt like 21. I did wonder what if I never returned. I said we met at Hong Kong airport but no one was fooled, I think.

I listened, I commiserated, I scolded, I laughed............hours passed quickly.
They did not think much of Arroyo; hated Marcos and thought Aquino was a saint. Life was hard and simple. One chap even said not much to do except boom, boom.



Life and its meaning is just a little different. Be kind.

[QUOTE=Tansak KTV]
Remember the advanced training is only just beginning, she's only had training by others not by the TKTV or WR standards just yet.

One thing about Filipina's they are fertile and bred like rabbits :D[/QUOTE]

And we both know how exacting and demanding our training standards are.....

As for fertile etc, had 2 of my favourites tell me very openly this week they wanted my baby and they are ready for it (the baby not my todger ..althought the 2 must be linked :))...even though I am not.

They really want kids despite the fact that I dont and one said it made no difference if I did not support the child as it would be white and remind her of me (why on earth would any want another of me it beyond my wildest imagination)

They are no longer on my 'to do' list....

[QUOTE=Bob Bowie]I have worked with a few Pinoy males, and use to get so frustrated with their inablity to admit they are wrong. It is almost impossible for them to admit they wrong, even after you Google some information and show them the facts, they will always keep arguing.

Now I just let it go, 99% of the time, it just isnt worth the hassle.[/QUOTE]
I'm with Bob. It's not appropriate, within the context the the local culture, to back folks into a corner and you gain nothing from it. You embarrass them and they resent you. However, once you've established a decent relationship with a local colleague, there's a chance that he or she might accept the Western perspective, that it's perfectly acceptable to admit you don't know.

GE