What is the Name of that Book? Please help!
What is the Name of that Book that has been recommended several times by members on this site to other members who have started believing Filipina Bar Girls and start falling in love. It is about a western man who ruins his life because he is in love with Thai bar girl. The story is told from several people's eyes. The bar is girl is married, and of course the Western man doesn't know this. A policeman gives an expose of the bar girl life. The author usually writes spy novels. I had found it on Amazon but didn't mark it. Please someone give me the name of this book again so I can read it. Also if you know any additional mandatory reading pleas let me know!
Private Dancer by Stephen Leather
[QUOTE=Big Johnson2]What is the Name of that Book that has been recommended several times by members on this site to other members who have started believing Filipina Bar Girls and start falling in love. It is about a western man who ruins his life because he is in love with Thai bar girl. The story is told from several people's eyes. The bar is girl is married, and of course the Western man doesn't know this. A policeman gives an expose of the bar girl life. The author usually writes spy novels. I had found it on Amazon but didn't mark it. Please someone give me the name of this book again so I can read it. Also if you know any additional mandatory reading pleas let me know![/QUOTE]
[url]http://books.google.com/books?id=EkPEu76Me1cC&dq=%22Private+Dancer%22&printsec=frontcover&source=bn&hl=en&ei=qiIUS76VKceVtgeJm-SsCQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=6&ved=0CB4Q6AEwBQ#v=onepage&q=&f=false[/url]
Also read the following books by Neil Hutchison:
[I]Money Number One[/I]
[I]Money Still Number One[/I]
[I]The Fool Is Back![/I]
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[I]A Fool In Paradise[/I]
Give her a Chinese name, Long Gone.
[QUOTE=ManonsanBoy]I went back unannounced. She was not there. She had gone somewhere. Such is life.[/QUOTE]
Don't chase her. Replace her. You're a monger and she is a ho. It was never going to work out anyway. These girls rent the square inches of real estate between their legs. Once you stop paying they'll stop playing. When she burns out she'll find a sucker who doesn't know she sold ass, get married and have a normal life. Face it. Mongering is a lonely game without any love, emotions or commitments.
Importation Of A Filipina
This was taken from another forum.....I thought it was a good read.
[QUOTE=MaxMuscles]So you’ve met your dream Filipina, she’s fun, young sexy, caring, outstanding in bed, takes real good care of you, she’s everything you’ve dreamed of after having suffered through a prior marriage or relationship with a western women. Now you’ve made the decision to take her back to your western home and try a new life.
I married a bargirl and I would like to shed some advice on the things I went through before, during and after. EVERYONE has a different story or type of girl, and not all filipina’s are the same. I just want to shed some light on what some of you can possibly expect. I married my wife in the PI and took her back to the states.
In the beginning as with all new relationships, everything is great, no fights, all is happy, lots of wild sex, and exotic trips. After you’ve made that choice you have to start to support her in-between trips. This is your first step in making a solid commitment. Ranges of support vary from 10000P a month to what I’ve heard up to 50000P a month (to much in my opinion) but anyway.
So now you must support her and start the paperwork which can’t be done all in one trip. It took me 2 round trip flights to complete the paperwork, and she had to drive to manila and do other stuff, passports, ID’s, ect. So on top of all the plane tickets, supporting, and funding trips to manila, I would say this period of waiting and processing with plane tickets, ect.. cost me about $8,000 to $10,000 and took 4 months.
Planning and funding the wedding is next, dress, rings, all the food, and family that want’s to meet you. Do you want any of YOUR family there? I did it without the family, which I found out later was hurtful to my side of the family, but hey I was in love. Expect to pay ALL of the wedding day stuff, pic’s, friends visiting, all of it. But it can be done cheaply if you plan it right. Cost me $800, but could easily be more.
Now you have to fly back and wait for the visa to arrive. It took about 6 months from start to finish before she actually stepped foot on American soil. Then you need to ask yourself. Was spending her money wisely? Did she go back to the bars and work while I was gone? Was there a Filipino boyfriend on the side? Is she using me to get to the states? All this goes through you head up until she arrives. Which could make or break it, and wasted all that money.
Now your beauty has arrived in the states, all that time waiting is finally over, and the fun part can begin. This is actually when for me the hardest part started. Don’t forget the Price of visa fee’s, and the cost of flying her to the states one way. Total cost by now for me was around $15,000.
She arrives, I’m sure most of you are like me and live in the suburbs and have normal jobs that we have go to. Take a minute and study the Filipina culture. They have trikes, jeepneys, close neighbors, karaoke bars, little food markets within walking distance, family, friends, and everything close.
Now your vacation is out and you have to go to work to support this new family. Well now she’s stuck, at home, alone. No car, no job, missing her family, and missing tagalog movies. Our society is based around having things in our house, big TV’s, many channels. She will be used to going out a lot and being social. Here in the states it’s hard for them to adjust at first.
Fighting off this initial period of boredom is very hard. You go through lots of phone cards calling home, and sending money to her family that she is worried about. I’m not a rich guy, but I do alright. There is a dilemma where you want to save to get her a car, and do stuff but sending a monthly budget of money to her family is cutting into that. The epic battle of saving money for your life here, or sending money to a Filipino family begins.
She only arrived with two suitcases. Do you have room in your closet for all her clothes, makeup, and girly things? You will soon be buying a huge amount of girl stuff, hair dryers, hair curlers, makeup stands, make up. Think about all the stuff you have in your closet over the years. She only came with two suitcases and has no job, it’s up to you to get her all the things she needs in her new life. This is expensive trust me. Going to malls is costly, and keep in mind you just spent almost $15,000 up until now just to get her their with you, and she wants to send money to her family too.
How about driving? Does she know about insurance? She asked me, “Why do I have to pay insurance if I never plan to get in an accident?” Then she asks, “If I never get in an accident why don’t I get that car insurance money back at the end of the year?” She isn’t stupid, she just was never taught about all those things we learn in our school system. There is a ton of information we know that they don’t that you have to know to live in a western society. And you have to teach her all this, everything.
Back to driving, do you have two cars? Can you afford to have two car payments, two car insurances, and two gas pump bills? In order for her to work she must have a car to drive right? Do you co-sign for her car loan? Does she need her own credit card? Does she understand the rules of credit and credit history? All these things plagued me as an average income person, and struggled to get her to understand.
Now she has a job, has a car, now she needs some friend’s right. So naturally you want her to have some Filipina friends to make her feel welcome and comfortable. Probably your Filipina is young or younger, there are many older filipina’s in the states from when the US military had permanent bases there in the Philippines. Since most of those bases closed, all the girls now are in their late 30’s early 40’s. Filipina’s are competitive. I found that most older filipina’s were jealous or hateful of my wives youth and beauty and they would put her down or make her feel bad because they had more material things than she did. They would brag about their collections of things in their house, and always emphasize the price of what they paid or their husband would pay. She felt she needed/wanted or had to have what they had to be equal.
I found most Filipina friends to be more of an enemy than a friend. Besides the fact of putting her down, they would tell her info on things she can do and rights she has here in the states. For example, how to get a credit card without my permission. Rights she has if we were to get divorced. All this was going on in the first weeks of our marriage!!! What the fuck right!!! She got filled with all kinds of negative info from those girls. So be careful when it comes to Filipina friends.
Now you have age difference, I was 25 and she was 18, 7 years. I know many of you on this board have larger age gaps. Which is fine, I never considered age a factor. Now many of you live or do live near major cities. Be careful of letting them go to clubs/disco’s. Filipina’s love nightlife and a few trips to a club and lots of attention from younger American guys will give her the illusion of power to replace you. See she doesn’t know that most guys in that club are just giving her lip service and only want to fuck her. She is used to Filipino guys, and not used to being treated so good at a club. Here is where you can lose her, the transfer of power that western women have is coming to her. She will watch and see what other western/white women do and how our society gives women more power.
The sweet, do everything for you Filipina, will start to become slowly westernized. The very reason you married her was to avoid the whole western women bullshit right. This will never happen to my Filipina, she’s different, and she won’t change right? Fella’s there are a few cases, but for the most part they all will change. Whether that is bad or good is for each man to decide. As for me, I love filipina’s in their natural state in the Philippines. I feel they become too corrupted here in the states, and they lose what drew me to them in the first place.
Listen, every guy here and every Filipina is different. But we will all share some of the same problems along the way. For me it was almost like adopting a child, I had to do everything from teaching, to explaining culture, driver training, entertainer, provider, everything. It’s a huge undertaking that looks good and fun at the beginning. I hope and like to see marriages with filipina’s work out. Some do some don’t. I hope I’ve shed some points for you guys that are about to take the plunge to think about, and prepare yourself for.
There are ton’s of more examples I can give, but I think I made my point. For me in the end, my wife got very corrupted by her friends, and western living, racked up credit debt. And eventually we divorced. But don’t let this discourage any of you. Filipina’s are the best, I just got unlucky or wasn’t prepared for the full marriage thing, had we lived in the PI it would have been way easier.
Good luck with any of you getting married, just be prepared!!! [/QUOTE]
