Sosua Reports

[QUOTE=Yanqui69;1757135]No pills, but as a young man, I learned there were creams available to deaden the sensation, and prolong things. You can find such stuff on the net. Rather than shell out for some "stay-long" cream, any cream with LIDOCAINE will do the job. Just go online and search CREAM LIDOCAINE and you'll see what is there.

Apply just a drop or so to Mr Happy's head, and use sparingly. The potential problem is your tool may be so numb, you (or she) may get blisters before you get off..[/QUOTE]That would really put the dampers on his vacation, so perhaps that would not be the time to try this method.

Some great info has been given to newbies lately but they rarely listen and do it their way. With this said I've scaled back from reporting because I think there is a certain " break in period" that usually has to occur where a newbie sees what we were trying to tell him. Hell, my first trip in 2006 I discarded all the advice given and did it my way and it completely went south on me. My next few trips I started to appreciate more what the veterans were saying after having boots on the ground. Transportation, money exchanging, girls prices and safety should mainly be shared prior to a first trip. Interacting with girls in the bedroom, sexual performance, etc will be developed over time after several visits to develop your own style. Everyone wants to be helpful and pound their chests proving their monger savvy, but I see it as wasted energy now. The newbie needs to do his own homework by going over the forum top to bottom for the last year and pay his membership fee to be a part of the community and have PM services. Going the back channel (Pm) is an under used asset to reach out to certain members for personalized advice.

As a teenager getting a girl pregnant was a major taboo so it affected my sexual performance because not getting a girl pregnant was on my mind more than having good sex. In my 20's I became more of a style fucker meaning I was just fascinated that I was getting pussy. Watching the dick go in and out, watching myself in the mirror, I would even laugh at girls having orgasms. Having kids and child support was another adjustment I had to make as it made me aware of the financial implications of fucking recklessly. In 2005 I got a vasectomy and it eased some of my sexual worries. The limitations now are that its very hard to have great sex with a condom but safety first. After knowing girls I chanced it in the past which lead to me having great sex with no inhibitions. What I've learned over the last 5 years of having great sex (where you can completely let yourself go and experience that ultimate sex zone) is that it is very intoxicating and addictive and only temporary before other dynamics come into play.

[QUOTE=Frannie;1757099]On reflection, this is part of why I don't think it is a such a good idea for people to get into sex for pay at a young age, like before 35. When I mentioned this before, you said you were sexually experienced and had made a decision to devote yourself to your career rather than pursuing relationships, or something like that, I don't remember the exact wording.

Now it seems likely that you have never been in love and have never lived with a woman, which are kind of basic components of what it means to be sexually experienced. You can probably get over your problem of coming too quickly by practicing the sex act at Blackbeards, but it would be better to overcome it in the context of a relationship, where you can get to the point that sex is a natural part of life and not something that has to be quantified in terms of how many minutes you last, or how many strokes it takes to make a woman come, or stuff like that. These things are not really important, because good sex is to do with two people communicating each other's needs to each other and providing mutual satisfaction, not running a stopwatch on your fucking so as to be able to compare it with someone else's numbers. Maybe I am naive or old-fashioned, but I think these things can be learned better in the context of a "normal" "romantic" relationship than in a pay-for-sex environment. However at BB you may meet quite a few very nice girls who would be happy to help with this problem, them having a lot more experience than you, but you will be very vulnerable to falling in love with the first one who really hits the spot for you. Or if you do learn to be sexually skilled first in a pay-for-sex environment, it could be difficult to transfer the skills to a regular relationship. On this last point, I don't know, I am just speculating.[/QUOTE]I'll have to respectively disagree with this. I actually lost my virginity at 21 to my girlfriend. It was long distance and I flew her over to visit me eventually. We were going at it 3 times a day and it went something like this. Round 1= 30 secs round 2= 1 min round 3= maybe 2 minutes on a good day. I only lasted more than 10 minutes one time with her. And it was near the end of our relationship when I started getting used to it. I think it's like those animal tests where the ejaculation times are way faster with a new partner I think it's excitement. Even when I masturbate its over very fast I get too excited. Maybe I'll try creams or pills but I rather solve this on my own and I have 6 months to train haha! Appreciate the feedback and be thankful you guys can last while banging hot chicks it really sucks when it's over so fast!

[QUOTE=Frannie;1757195]Anything is worth a try. You had the same problem and the cream worked for you. You think the cause is simply that his nerve endings are too sensitive. Well, does he also come off very quickly if he masturbates with a lubricant? If so then you could be right. On the other hand, if he can take his time when masturbating, then the root cause is more likely to be psychological than physical. Anyway, any remedy is worth a try and if it doesn't work for him, then he can try something else.[/QUOTE]As you say, its more psychological than physical, depending on his level of experience with sex, he's likely already so mentally excited, a hot woman almost only has to look at him and he could blow his load. The beauty of that is being so young, he's ready again in minutes and the second time will be longer.

For this reason, I would say go for oral sex, to be followed by the main event. A couple hundred extra pesos to the chica, and he gets off twice.

Hell, 500 pesos in the jacuzzi is only $12 US!

The alternative, the cream, he can experiment with. As I said, a tiny bit rubbed into the head is enough.

He can always experiment, starting with a tiny amount, and after the first session it wears / washes off and he can decide how to continue.

The best option is probably the "oral relief" followed by the longer session.

Ya can't lose there.

Ah, the problems of youth.

[QUOTE=MrGogo;1757226] The limitations now are that its very hard to have great sex with a condom but safety first. After knowing girls I chanced it in the past which lead to me having great sex with no inhibitions. What I've learned over the last 5 years of having great sex (where you can completely let yourself go and experience that ultimate sex zone) is that it is very intoxicating and addictive and only temporary before other dynamics come into play.[/QUOTE]This is one of the great unspoken truths about mongering, the elephant in the room, if you like, in many discussions on these boards, and probably one of the main reasons guys lose interest in mongering over time. That and hairy pussy.

[QUOTE=MrGogo;1757226]Some great info has been given to newbies lately but they rarely listen and do it their way. With this said I've scaled back from reporting because I think there is a certain " break in period" that usually has to occur where a newbie sees what we were trying to tell him. Hell, my first trip in 2006 I discarded all the advice given and did it my way and it completely went south on me. My next few trips I started to appreciate more what the veterans were saying after having boots on the ground. Transportation, money exchanging, girls prices and safety should mainly be shared prior to a first trip. Interacting with girls in the bedroom, sexual performance, etc will be developed over time after several visits to develop your own style. Everyone wants to be helpful and pound their chests proving their monger savvy, but I see it as wasted energy now. The newbie needs to do his own homework by going over the forum top to bottom for the last year and pay his membership fee to be a part of the community and have PM services. Going the back channel (Pm) is an under used asset to reach out to certain members for personalized advice.[/QUOTE]A monger board like this one is good for exchanging logistical information, like prevailing prices, where and when to stay, where to eat, how to get around, and of course where to find the chicas.

What it is not good at, and where it is always guaranteed to bring out the pissing match, is dispensing advice to strangers, on personal choices, values, and attitudes.

Everybody ultimately does their own thing, because everybody is different. It's not that they don't appreciate all the advice, it's just that most of it doesn't apply to them.

Just show them where the buffet is. Don't try to tell them what to put on their plate, or how to eat it. LOL.

We all roll differently, as you can see everyday here.

I hate that military term.

Came to Sosua. For a short two nights stay. I will be on my way back to Santiago by Metrobus this morning.

Casa Valeria had no space so went over to Romanoff. Interestingly, for those who favor the women on the hotel premises bit, might find this place interesting now. Lots of women rent rooms here in one specific wing facing the main street. So while lounging at the entry, I found one around 4 PM yesterday, that appealed to me, look wise but once inside had the usual, no to this and no to that. So attitude is a big thing for me and she scored low. There were many others too but by the time I come to Sosua, my libido has waned and I do not have the time.

The main drag was rather quiet on Thursday night. Last night I went to eat at an Italian place, next to Mamajuana cafe. Had a nice plate of pasta. As I was eating, a girl was walking by, recognized me and came and said Hello. Once my meal was over, I called her and we went back to the hotel for an hour. She too stays at Romanoff, speaking of coincidence. In general, Sosua is live and kicking. Not too many males and plenty of women. I stayed away from Rumba, that effing music kills me, except the ribs of the rumba guy, which were delectable that I ate on Thursday night.

By the way, the other side of mamajuana, there is a bar and at least 3-4 pretty, slim young women who were belting songs of Romeo Santos, on full blast as usual. I checked but their job apparently is to persuade you to buy drinks. I told one, I would buy one in exchange of her phone number. She demurred. Others on this forum may get luckier. Pretty women, Santiaguera kind!

[QUOTE=Oakie;1757511]A monger board like this one is good for exchanging logistical information, like prevailing prices, where and when to stay, where to eat, how to get around, and of course where to find the chicas.

What it is not good at, and where it is always guaranteed to bring out the pissing match, is dispensing advice to strangers, on personal choices, values, and attitudes.

Everybody ultimately does their own thing, because everybody is different. It's not that they don't appreciate all the advice, it's just that most of it doesn't apply to them.

Just show them where the buffet is. Don't try to tell them what to put on their plate, or how to eat it. LOL.

We all roll differently, as you can see everyday here.[/QUOTE]I beg to differ, sir.

That kind of discussion is what this board is all about. Yes, it is about logistics information. I always turn here when visiting a place I haven't been yet. But its also about discussion about philosophy and approaches. When posters give unsolicitied advice, the answers are rhetorical in nature, and not meant to be "telling anybody what to do. ".

Personally, what I can't stand are overly detailed field reports. If I want soft core porn, I'll read penthouse letters. And all these photos. Close ups of crotches. And guys showing pictures of girl they are in head over heels love with, and they look like a cow. JC.

[QUOTE=Manny51;1757716]I beg to differ, sir.

That kind of discussion is what this board is all about. Yes, it is about logistics information. I always turn here when visiting a place I haven't been yet. But its also about discussion about philosophy and approaches. When posters give unsolicitied advice, the answers are rhetorical in nature, and not meant to be "telling anybody what to do. ".

Personally, what I can't stand are overly detailed field reports. If I want soft core porn, I'll read penthouse letters. And all these photos. Close ups of crotches. And guys showing pictures of girl they are in head over heels love with, and they look like a cow. JC.[/QUOTE]Exactly. Any advice offered is only notionally addressed to the OP, but is just in the nature of an open discussion that may be enjoyed by many lurkers who never contribute a word.

[QUOTE=Manny51;1757716]I beg to differ, sir.

That kind of discussion is what this board is all about. Yes, it is about logistics information. I always turn here when visiting a place I haven't been yet. But its also about discussion about philosophy and approaches. When posters give unsolicitied advice, the answers are rhetorical in nature, and not meant to be "telling anybody what to do. ".

Personally, what I can't stand are overly detailed field reports. If I want soft core porn, I'll read penthouse letters. And all these photos. Close ups of crotches. And guys showing pictures of girl they are in head over heels love with, and they look like a cow. JC.[/QUOTE]Personally, what I can't stand are posts which contain overly detailed complaints about what other posters post, LOL.

[QUOTE=Tempoecorto;1757524]I hate that military term![/QUOTE]Thanks for the report. Sosua alive and well is always good.

I too hate that term, Boots on the Ground.

Sounds like a military expedition, with drills, manuals, a years training etc.

I go there for fun!

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[QUOTE=Oakie;1757100]It's normal for a young guy.

He should enjoy it while he can, because once he's older, he may be banging for an hour before gets off, LOL.

If she's THAT good, just climb back on. He needs to find a TLN who's up to it.[/QUOTE]First of all I do not believe a young guy should take a trip exclusively for mongering whatever his sexual hang ups are?

He needs to experience normal girlfriends. It is a learning curve. Yes, there are times before the age of Viagra I have failed. Why? I do not know. Maybe I am interested in the girl or alcohol or any number of factors. Yes girls do seem disappointed and ask me if I do not like them. But there are some who are patient and arouse me and we have great sex. Very seldom you will find patient girls in P4 P situation. Over time we get confident and can perform in any situations. By dating normal girls we find out every girl is different when it comes to sex.

Personally I like young girls irrespective of how old I am. They are juicy, fun to be with and can be taught how to have fun. This is the reason I make frequent trips to mongering destinations. Majority of the girls are normal ones I meet at dating sites. Irrespective of what they write in their profile they all enjoy sex with whoever. Some teach me good sex as well like a 18 year old in Costa Rica with big boobs. She is telling me how I should handle her boobs when she is on top of me. Couple of girls in China teaching me art of cow girl sex. It is all learning. Prostitutes unless they are into you do not have the patience to make sure you are happy. If you last only a few seconds it is better for them.

[QUOTE=Sammon;1757963]First of all I do not believe a young guy should take a trip exclusively for mongering whatever his sexual hang ups are?

He needs to experience normal girlfriends. It is a learning curve. Yes, there are times before the age of Viagra I have failed. Why? I do not know. Maybe I am interested in the girl or alcohol or any number of factors. Yes girls do seem disappointed and ask me if I do not like them. But there are some who are patient and arouse me and we have great sex. Very seldom you will find patient girls in P4 P situation. Over time we get confident and can perform in any situations. By dating normal girls we find out every girl is different when it comes to sex.

Personally I like young girls irrespective of how old I am. They are juicy, fun to be with and can be taught how to have fun. This is the reason I make frequent trips to mongering destinations. Majority of the girls are normal ones I meet at dating sites. Irrespective of what they write in their profile they all enjoy sex with whoever. Some teach me good sex as well like a 18 year old in Costa Rica with big boobs. She is telling me how I should handle her boobs when she is on top of me. Couple of girls in China teaching me art of cow girl sex. It is all learning. Prostitutes unless they are into you do not have the patience to make sure you are happy. If you last only a few seconds it is better for them.[/QUOTE]That's why I prefer a regular. After 7 years we are fine tuned to each other's needs. And not just about sex.

What activities we like, which people we like to be around (mostly family, friends, but no mongers) how much alcohol we drink, when we are tired and ready for bed, when we are hungry, when we want to go out, and when we want to stay home. When we rise in the morning.

All important in an ongoing relationship.

The only habit we don't share is she likes a siesta from 4 to 6, which is when I go to the bar, have a beer, and look around, say hello to a monger, and try to stay out of trouble :)

[QUOTE=Sammon;1757963]He needs to experience normal girlfriends. It is a learning curve.[/QUOTE]I am with you completely. A regular woman will teach and learn together and will be patient. Looking for paid sex at an young age is counterproductive.

The Sosua experience this time itself was a pointer. There are boundaries everywhere which stifles exploration, an important part of quality sex, not just hump and dump. Sure it takes time and other resources but boy, is it worth?

On the other hand, as Oakie (and Gogo, his post was insightful) states, we can opine as much as we want but history never teaches anything.