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Another question comes to mind. This chica says she's no paisa. She's from Monteria, she says she can make more money in Medellin. She sales ladies underwear. My question in, is there a big difference in the attitudes and values between Paisas and Costenas? Some of the coolest and most fun chicas I've meet so far were from Cali!
[QUOTE=Brother P;1177494]Another question comes to mind. This chica says she's no paisa. She's from Monteria, she says she can make more money in Medellin. She sales ladies underwear. My question in, is there a big difference in the attitudes and values between Paisas and Costenas? Some of the coolest and most fun chicas I've meet so far were from Cali![/QUOTE]No doubt about it. The paisas are the most superficial bitches on the planet. They are the worst I've experienced after extensive time in the 4 major cities. They think they are the upper class mainstream Colombians and have a 100 percent, see, want, envious, jealous attitude. I have to admit there are more humble Colombianas in other cities. A lot of this has to do with foreigners invading Medellin and them getting spoiled as well. A few problems arise ONCE a nice humble girl from a humble city arrives to work. She makes friends in Medellin and is QUICKLY TRANSFORMED into a PAISA with a PAISA ATTITUDE and all.
Again I respectfully disagree with a brother. The reason I go to Medellín, IS FOR THE PAISAS. They are beautiful, and aim to please. At least the ones I hang with.
Once again I thank everyone for there input! I'm glad that I can kick it with people who have more experince instead of learning everything the hard way! My next trip isn't until November, but I will post on the results of this little experiment.
brother chess,
thanks for your contribution, i appreciate your help truly. what i'm talking about is the possibilty of having something a little more fulfilling than the usual p4p situation. for sure, the wg paisa give gfe as the norm. but speaking for myself, i'm only good for two pops a day. a brother could use a little company for the other 22! lol! can a dude have a cool amiga to kick it with when i'm in town and not be a western union novio and all that bs?
[quote=chesrep001;1177527]again i respectfully disagree with a brother. the reason i go to medellín, is for the paisas. they are beautiful, and aim to please. at least the ones i hang with.[/quote]
Can a dude have a cool amiga to kick it with when in town and not be a western union novio? I would say no. Not unless you are young, good-looking and rich. But that works everywhere. If you're a normal monger, older, overweight, balding, white, then I would say no. The goal for me is for me to enjoy their youth and beauty, and they get the dough they want and need. Works for me, works for them. You can hang with them to some extent, got out to eat before or after, go to a club, depending on your age, but they should be compensated. If a paisa were hanging with me for free, I would be asking what's wrong with this picture?
But looking for something beyond the slam, bam thank you mam, I understand that. It's a question of how much more are you looking for? One time I watched a movie with a paisa, that was good. I've had paisas spend the night, that was good. I've gone out to eat with them, fun. I've gone on day trips with them, also fun. Something beyond the cloud of dust you do want, and you can get something more, but how much more, that's hard to say. My approach is to get as much as I can squeeze out of a relationship with a working girl. It's fun and no one gets hurt.
As far as sending them money, that's never really advisable, and always up to you.
point taken. thank you sir!
[quote=chesrep001; 1177561]can a dude have a cool amiga to kick it with when in town and not be a western union novio? i would say no. not unless you are young, good-looking and rich. but that works everywhere. if you're a normal monger, older, overweight, balding, white, then i would say no. the goal for me is for me to enjoy their youth and beauty, and they get the dough they want and need. works for me, works for them. you can hang with them to some extent, got out to eat before or after, go to a club, depending on your age, but they should be compensated. if a paisa were hanging with me for free, i would be asking what's wrong with this picture?
but looking for something beyond the slam, bam thank you mam, i understand that. it's a question of how much more are you looking for? one time i watched a movie with a paisa, that was good. i've had paisas spend the night, that was good. i've gone out to eat with them, fun. i've gone on day trips with them, also fun. something beyond the cloud of dust you do want, and you can get something more, but how much more, that's hard to say. my approach is to get as much as i can squeeze out of a relationship with a working girl. it's fun and no one gets hurt.
as far as sending them money, that's never really advisable, and always up to you.[/quote]
[quote=chesrep001; 1177561]can a dude have a cool amiga to kick it with when in town and not be a western union novio? i would say no. not unless you are young, good-looking and rich. but that works everywhere. if you're a normal monger, older, overweight, balding, white, then i would say no. the goal for me is for me to enjoy their youth and beauty, and they get the dough they want and need. works for me, works for them. you can hang with them to some extent, got out to eat before or after, go to a club, depending on your age, but they should be compensated. if a paisa were hanging with me for free, i would be asking what's wrong with this picture?
but looking for something beyond the slam, bam thank you mam, i understand that. it's a question of how much more are you looking for? one time i watched a movie with a paisa, that was good. i've had paisas spend the night, that was good. i've gone out to eat with them, fun. i've gone on day trips with them, also fun. something beyond the cloud of dust you do want, and you can get something more, but how much more, that's hard to say. my approach is to get as much as i can squeeze out of a relationship with a working girl. it's fun and no one gets hurt.
as far as sending them money, that's never really advisable, and always up to you.[/quote]it's very possible to find a cool amiga without being a wu novio. then again i'm younger and in decent shape. i think your idea of a normal monger is off. imo, there are more and more younger mongers. i've met many on my trips and we all like the idea of a nsa relationship. i think that's the attraction and not to get married like some of the older gents. however i do want to point out it is not a good idea to lead the chicas on and promise them marriage and a visa. be up front and you will have a cool amiga without the wu aspect. with the movies coming out about this subject."no strings attached" and "friends with benefits," feel them out. it's easier to do this with chicas close to your age though.
I live on the road in a RV and I sell a product in military bases and gun show and good swap meets but I am wondering if you are looking
For an normal woman around 30 or 45 and there seems to be a lot of them where I am looking and some are really nice looking. Can anyone who live in
Medellin contact me at Skype or By email [email]opticguard@gamil.com[/email] And give me some true scoop about about Medellin. I am more interested in.
Friends With Benefit or living together. Frank Casio is selling rooms so I know he is busy I will probably stay with him when I am in Medellin.
My Spanish is fairly good and I know spanish culture. But I hope to get a friend on skype
Thanks a lot.
TOM
[QUOTE=Optic Guard; 1177728]I live on the road in a RV and I sell a product in military bases and gun show and good swap meets but I am wondering if you are looking
For an normal woman around 30 or 45 and there seems to be a lot of them where I am looking and some are really nice looking. Can anyone who live in
Medellin contact me at Skype or By email [email]opticguard@gamil.com[/email] And give me some true scoop about about Medellin. I am more interested in.
Friends With Benefit or living together. Frank Casio is selling rooms so I know he is busy I will probably stay with him when I am in Medellin.
My Spanish is fairly good and I know spanish culture. But I hope to get a friend on skype
Thanks a lot.
TOM[/QUOTE]As you stated about women 30 to 45. There are a ton of them in Colombia as the local men want the younger girls. If you stick to the older women you will have more than you know what to do with. One thing you must be careful of. Even some of the older girls are either P4P or have done it when they were younger. Of course it does not appear you are looking to get married so I would not let a girls past stand in your way if she fits the bill.
[QUOTE=Hioctane;1177619]It's very possible to find a cool amiga without being a WU novio. Then again I'm younger and in decent shape. I think your idea of a normal monger is off. IMO, there are more and more younger mongers. I've met many on my trips and we all like the idea of a NSA relationship. I think that's the attraction and not to get married like some of the older gents. However I do want to point out it is not a good idea to lead the chicas on and promise them marriage and a visa. Be up front and you will have a cool amiga WITHOUT the WU aspect. With the movies coming out about this subject."No Strings Attached" and "Friends With Benefits," feel them out. It's easier to do this with chicas close to your age though.[/QUOTE]Too bad that youth is wasted on the young. Then again, I'm not younger and questionable "decent" shape. My point is that there is no such thing as an NSA relationship. Everyone has expectations that run the gamut of marriage and living happily after to just having some time with an enjoyable companion. Unfortunately, perhaps, all parties have expectations. It's as simple as this: give what you have to offer and take what is freely given to you. And, along the road, if you can do things that make these girls or maybe just one girl's life a little less stressful, a little less difficult, and maybe with a little hope for the future, then the narcissistic component of an NSA relationship is diminished. The NSA becomes I feel good about myself because I've cared about another human being.
Only good energy!
The paisas are some of my favorite peoples here, I find the costeñas to be the ones who are shallow and materialistic and uninformed. I like the rolas for intellectual stimulation and the paisas for warmth and the WOW factor. The costeñas remind me too much of the chickenheads I left behind in NYC.
[QUOTE=Legal Tender; 1177788]Too bad that youth is wasted on the young. Then again, I'm not younger and questionable "decent" shape. My point is that there is no such thing as an NSA relationship. Everyone has expectations that run the gamut of marriage and living happily after to just having some time with an enjoyable companion. Unfortunately, perhaps, all parties have expectations. It's as simple as this: give what you have to offer and take what is freely given to you. And, along the road, if you can do things that make these girls or maybe just one girl's life a little less stressful, a little less difficult, and maybe with a little hope for the future, then the narcissistic component of an NSA relationship is diminished. The NSA becomes I feel good about myself because I've cared about another human being.
Only good energy![/QUOTE]I think you can have an NSA defined as a relationship where what each has to offer the other is no more no less than sex. BUT both parties have to be very much attracted to each other and enjoy each other immensley in the sack.
I understand that sex isn't the only thing, but I enjoy older woman and from what I can see young men like young women and young woman
Like money and young men rarely have that I myself have am not looking for marriage as its not in my gene's But friends are a lot better for
Me that way we can have a honest relationship I am not a GREEN CARD. That being said I see on some sites that there are so many nice looking
30 to 45 year old's that need some good loving. Young girls are ok but they don't have very good communication skills. My spanish skill are good
Enough to have a good conversation and not get bored. I have a site that is free and wow some of them woman are out right hot young guys
See age and then not interested but older woman will be a lot more interesting because of the chase and catch LOL.
Thanks
Tom
[QUOTE=Bango Cheito;1177808]I think you can have an NSA defined as a relationship where what each has to offer the other is no more no less than sex. BUT both parties have to be very much attracted to each other and enjoy each other immensley in the sack.[/QUOTE]What you describe is lust, not a NSA relationship. Sure, two folks can be so attracted to each other that they literally can't keep their hands off of each other. When I was much younger, I remember going to see Bo Derek in the movie "10." I went with my dad and a couple of his buddies. I was old enough to lust after Bo as did my dad and his friends. I overheard one say to the other: "Just remember guys, no matter how hot she is, there's some dude who is tired of fucking her. And so it goes. As for the lust laden maiden of which you refer, sooner or later she will be thinking,"what am I getting out of this other than great sex"? Women want security and protection. That's not me saying that, it's biology. If you haven't read it, I highly recommend Robert Wright's "The Moral Animal: Why We Are the Way We Are: The New Science of Evolutionary Psychology." The closest "relationship" to an NSA one is the one with a sex worker: I will give you X if you spend Y time with me which includes sex. And, please act like there is some passion, even if you are thinking about your Colombian novio while your're sharing your body.
NSA. It doesn't exist. Ain't nothing free from some anticipated benefit.
Only good energy