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[QUOTE=Fast Buck Artist]"Can I bring my friend" and how to deal with it..

I would like some experience sharing on the annoying issue of chaperones where the girl insists on dragging along her friend/gay cousin/mum to her first date with you...

In my experience such proposal means several things none of them good:

- The girl is not comfortable with you
- She's too shy to talk and needs to drag along somebody who can actually talk
- She is an overgrown baby in need of a nanny and cant get mums permission to go out alone (at a tender 26 years of age!)
- The friend(s) will be doing all the talking with you in english while the girl just chats with them in tagalog/visayan ignoring you
- You are expected to pay for the entertainment and dining of the entire happy group

Not exactly what we have in mind for a fine evening right?

Here is what I usually do when I get the dreaded "Can I bring my fren" sms..
1. Swear and curse with f words
2. txt her back saying "You are welcome to bring your friends dear if they pay their bills"
3. "friends" immediately lose interest in meeting you at first mention of paying bills
4. At this point the girl either begrudgingly accepts to meet you alone or (more often) refuses

Share some wisdom, oh Wise Old Patriarchs?[/QUOTE]

Like so man things in the Phils it all depends on a number of factors, but generally you are right it's not good news.

I agree with WR its important to find out exactly who their freind is and what their purpose of being there is.

Often it will be a Lady Boy often described as a cousin which may or not be true. If it's a LB the most common case is that the LB wants to insert himself in some sort of middleman role. Many LBs have female friends and it is common if you find that your chatmate is an LB and you make it clear you are not interested, for him to say , but I can give you a nice girl. The purpose in this case will generally to make a few bucks as an intermediary in terms of taxi or lunch or fuck off money. he will often take the lead in conversation and be interested to push up the price that you may pay, but on a more positive note, he will also usually be keen for you to fuck his friend as long as he gets what he sees as a reasonable cut. Things can sometimes turn nasty in terms of blackmail situations with young girls or I'm not leaving your room until you give me some m omney etc so I try to avoid this scenario if possible. However like everything there are exceptions and a friend has been with a wonderful girl for 3 years now that he was originally introduced to via a scamming LB. The girls who have LB friends will often be young and naughty.

If the chaperone is an older female relative, its most likely to be a proper chaperone role, sometimes they just want to see you are an OK guy and that you have met her (remember plenty of guys make dates then just dont show up leaving the girl in the lurch). If you pass the sniff test either she can be told to take the jeep back perhaps after a jollybees or you can meet the girl alone on a second meeting.

The third scenario is a simialr age female freidn and i usually ask how old she is, her weight, figure and whateher she is open minded about sex, so sometimes this can result in a threesome but often it is the most likely scanario to result in nothing.

[QUOTE=Radical Guy]For a lot of ladies, it simply means they have lost their virginity.[/QUOTE]

my understanding is that this phrase was originally popularised on a game show such as WowWowWee,

By and large it means that there is something about her which she sees as meaning that she is not the ideal partner.

This can be:

She is a lady boy

She is a poor girl

She is an unmarried or divorcee mum

She is not educated

She is not so cute at least in Phil eyes (could mean short, dark skinned, too skinny too fat)

She is from a "simple", unsophisticated background

The 5ft 5in, college educated, fair skinned girl with perfect body and no baby from a wealthy family would probably never say this, but as such girls are in a 1% minority that leaves plenty who might.

I had been corresponding with two girls from Talisay on DIA. One was 19 and the other 21. After I reached Cebu, I put Plan A and Plan B into action,hoping to score with at least one of them. After several messages back and forth, 'The penny dropped.' I got the feeling that they were sisters.

I asked the 21 yr old if she was related to the other. In her reply, she confirmed that this was so. "Do you want me to come to your hotel ?"
she asked.

"Just you, or with your sister?"

"With my sister, but if you want to fuck, then fuck me, coz my sister is still a virgin." she replied.

So, they did, and I did.

On my next visit, I hope to score with the younger one, or both. LOL

[QUOTE=GregLondon]The third scenario is a simialr age female freidn and i usually ask how old she is, her weight, figure and whateher she is open minded about sex, so sometimes this can result in a threesome but often it is the most likely scanario to result in nothing.[/QUOTE]

Great comments guys.. lots of good comments.

Greg, I also found that a female chaperone of the same age usually leads to "nothing".. She'll bring the uglier, fatter and much more talkative college friend with the idea that "oh if he dont like me.. maybe Grace will.." causing an awkward date triangle that usually does NOT lead to a hot threesome. The girl doesnt want to look like a $lut in front of her friend and will decline the invitation to go to the hotel, with rare exceptions. I'd rather have her bring mommy lol... at least its clear who is on a date and who is in chaperone role.

And very interesting prospective on ladyboys in a pimp role.. up to now my interaction with ladyboys was limited to "fuck off faggot" but I now realise I should stop being a hater and explore their social network for opportunities :)

Don't ever turn down the sister visit. If your GF is having her period, she may offer up the sister to keep you happy. Don't be shy to even ask. You will be

Surprised.

Recently my GF and I went to LA Cafe (Manila Bay whatever) and we picked up a 3rd. Because my GF was having her period. We did photos and vids of the nite. Will post later.

My Aussie friend is currently doing sisters, because one is having her period.

Ah. Good family relations is a wonderful thing. He moved to a bigger room with a king size bed.

Cheapy

[QUOTE=Questor55]I had been corresponding with two girls from Talisay on DIA. One was 19 and the other 21. After I reached Cebu, I put Plan A and Plan B into action,hoping to score with at least one of them. After several messages back and forth, 'The penny dropped.' I got the feeling that they were sisters.

I asked the 21 yr old if she was related to the other. In her reply, she confirmed that this was so. "Do you want me to come to your hotel ?"
she asked.

"Just you, or with your sister?"

"With my sister, but if you want to fuck, then fuck me, coz my sister is still a virgin." she replied.

So, they did, and I did.

On my next visit, I hope to score with the younger one, or both. LOL[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Fast Buck Artist]Great comments guys.. lots of good comments.

Greg, I also found that a female chaperone of the same age usually leads to "nothing".. She'll bring the uglier, fatter and much more talkative college friend with the idea that "oh if he dont like me.. maybe Grace will.." causing an awkward date triangle that usually does NOT lead to a hot threesome. The girl doesnt want to look like a $lut in front of her friend and will decline the invitation to go to the hotel, with rare exceptions. I'd rather have her bring mommy lol... at least its clear who is on a date and who is in chaperone role.

And very interesting prospective on ladyboys in a pimp role.. up to now my interaction with ladyboys was limited to "fuck off faggot" but I now realise I should stop being a hater and explore their social network for opportunities :)[/QUOTE]

I agree, as a rule the "friend" tends to be less attractive in some way, which of course makes complete sense from the girl's perspective. Bringing along a hotter girl obviously risks being marginalised if you turn out to be a good prospect. Sometimes the intention all along is to have a threesome and the second one is tagging along trying to pick up business on the coattails of her more attractive friend. In other cases the intention all along is to check you out and score a Jollybees, so why not score two Jollybees? In less touristed areas it maybe that meeting a foreigner is itself a novelty and her they are just sharing the experience.

Personally I am wary of the girls introduced by LBs. They will typically be young and "open minded", however the LB will generally try to control the situation to maximise his own profit. Often such girls do not speak great English (and thus be more dependent on a mediator). sometimes she will not really be his "friend" at all simply someone he has picked up from one of the local oriented hooker areas. Of course there are always exceptions and you must judge each situation as best you can.

"I am not here for games"

This is gotta be THE most common line I read on profiles. Not talking about poker and sudoku I guess :) from what I gathered this is translated as "looking for a husband"

For those of you who just look for a quick shag (thats most of us here) .. do you bother chatting with "not for games" girls.. or move on to easier pickings?

[QUOTE=Fast Buck Artist]"I am not here for games"

This is gotta be THE most common line I read on profiles. Not talking about poker and sudoku I guess :) from what I gathered this is translated as "looking for a husband"

For those of you who just look for a quick shag (thats most of us here) .. do you bother chatting with "not for games" girls.. or move on to easier pickings?[/QUOTE]I've found that the "not for games" girls are just as easy to bang as the rest. I'm sure they prefer the "not for games" boys but in the end it's "up to you".

[QUOTE=Fast Buck Artist]"I am not here for games"

This is gotta be THE most common line I read on profiles. Not talking about poker and sudoku I guess :) from what I gathered this is translated as "looking for a husband"

For those of you who just look for a quick shag (thats most of us here) .. do you bother chatting with "not for games" girls.. or move on to easier pickings?[/QUOTE]Ignore the phrase and continue as if she hadnt written it. In her " perfect world" she would find a sweet soulmate walk on the beach sap, but in her relaity she knows her chance of love is slim, so she will settle for a bonk in a Sogo, as a sign thats shes loved.

[QUOTE=Fast Buck Artist]"I am not here for games"

This is gotta be THE most common line I read on profiles. Not talking about poker and sudoku I guess :) from what I gathered this is translated as "looking for a husband"

For those of you who just look for a quick shag (thats most of us here) .. do you bother chatting with "not for games" girls.. or move on to easier pickings?[/QUOTE]

I have had 2 girls with this line in their profiles turn out to be exceptionally hot and horny.
One of them was using a friend's profile but didnt bother to change it for herself. My profile was very explicit so when she sent me a message I questioned why she had written to me as our profiles didnt match.
She then told me the story, and that she was actually horny and keen to meet.
The other one put that line in because she had read it on other profiles but didnt know what it meant.
Go figure.

Bottom line: Disregard what they say in their profiles. Many (most?) girls have got no idea what they are saying anyway

[QUOTE=Fast Buck Artist]"I am not here for games"

This is gotta be THE most common line I read on profiles. Not talking about poker and sudoku I guess :) from what I gathered this is translated as "looking for a husband"

For those of you who just look for a quick shag (thats most of us here) .. do you bother chatting with "not for games" girls.. or move on to easier pickings?[/QUOTE]For sure if the lady is hot.

Incidently, I have been contacted by girls who state on their profile that they are engaged/have met someone/not looking for anyone blah blah. The fact that the girl has a foreign boyfriend overseas does not detract them from shagging others - as senior members of this board have indicated.

Red Kilt,

I could not agree more. They all have it and they all spread their legs on the second date (where the first is a quick HI when stopping by the mall for five minutes).

[QUOTE=Red Kilt]I have had 2 girls with this line in their profiles turn out to be exceptionally hot and horny.

Bottom line: Disregard what they say in their profiles. Many (most?) girls have got no idea what they are saying anyway[/QUOTE]
Some will mean it ("not here for games"). Others will not. Some will not even know what it means. I've had any number of CB girls who had that in her profile, yet she contacted my 'bad boy' profile ("I'm just in town looking for fun for a few days; contact me if you want the same") looking for a hookup. The same girls that wrote "not here for games" will also say later, in chat, after agreeing to sleep with me, "Maybe you can help me my problem?"

Ignore the profile. Its just a way to get her YM address.

[QUOTE=Fast Buck Artist]"I am not here for games"

This is gotta be THE most common line I read on profiles. Not talking about poker and sudoku I guess :) from what I gathered this is translated as "looking for a husband"

For those of you who just look for a quick shag (thats most of us here) .. do you bother chatting with "not for games" girls.. or move on to easier pickings?[/QUOTE]

Some will mean looking fro a serios relationship
others will simply mean not being lied to and in particualr trying to avoid guys who say they are looking for a long term relationship/marriage but just using this as a way to get a quick and possibly free shag.

For others it's just another one of thosse phrases that others put in their profile so why shouldnt i

[QUOTE=GregLondon]Some will mean looking fro a serios relationship
others will simply mean not being lied to and in particualr trying to avoid guys who say they are looking for a long term relationship/marriage but just using this as a way to get a quick and possibly free shag.

For others it's just another one of thosse phrases that others put in their profile so why shouldnt i[/QUOTE]

Isnt every single woman looking for a serious relationship? Doesnt really need to be clarified, the search for a long term mate is hardwired into every female brain. Even the most hard grinded prostitutes deep inside are hoping one of the customers will fall in love with her and start a serious relo.

Maybe Red Kilt is right and we should just ignore whatever is written in the profile.. half of them have no idea what they wrote anyway. What a pond of "quality" we are fishing in aye..