Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[QUOTE=Cheapy; 1170994]Go to Mactan, outside of Cebu. Play golf, do the beach and find a girl to take care of your putters.

Buy the girls bikinis and start touring golf courses. Use Google plus always RTFF.

Downside, your stroke will get better but weak knees will cause your game to slump.

Enjoy. [/QUOTE]My advice would be stay away from Mactan if beaches are important. I have stayed at two resorts on Mactan plus visited a couple of others. The beaches are more like mud flats, not very pretty and not so nice for swimming either as the water always seemed dirty to me. You can take a boat trip out to the island where there is a nature reserve and where I believe they have some nice beaches, but forget white golden sandy beaches on Mactan. It is also too far from the action in Cebu City, although there are a few bars on Mactan it lacks the vibrancy of Cebu City. The resorts themselves are very overpriced and you can generally stay at the Marriot or Waterfront hotels in Lahug (both top of the range hotels) for far less than you pay on Mactan.

About the golf I can't advise!

[QUOTE=Tank Not Mt;1170937]I am looking to go for the first time to the Philippines with some buddys-late 50s-for some sun, beaches, golf and pussy. Any advice as to where are the best places to go?[/QUOTE]Go to Davao. Best golf courses in the Philippines.

From another thread.

"You may have noticed the girls will almost always ask if you've been to the Philippines before. Your innocent chats are not so innocent. You're being sized up"

I always get asked this. Does a filipinas view of you change when you tell them yes?

[QUOTE=Makeupaname; 1171720]From another thread.

"You may have noticed the girls will almost always ask if you've been to the Philippines before. Your innocent chats are not so innocent. You're being sized up"

I always get asked this. Does a filipinas view of you change when you tell them yes?[/QUOTE]I think so. I think if you say no, they know another pina has not emptied your life savings. LOL

[QUOTE=Frenzy3;1171729]I think so. I think if you say no, they know another pina has not emptied your life savings. LOL[/QUOTE]What a sad and uninformed comment. Maybe you attract scammers but in 25 years of visiting, living and playing there I never have been scammed. Its all about not acepting every story at face value and listening to what your instinct is telling you.

Theres no such thing as a free lunch and free sex only happens because you create the chemistry to make it happen.

Scams however are also because you let that happen.

You go in a bar and a girl will always ask if its your first time. Sure she's figuring if you know the prices.

She asks where you stay. Higher the price of the hotel, higher the possible return.

Surely any and every guy entering a bar knows this.

But no need to think they all play scams. Develop some instincts and let them guide you well.

[QUOTE=FreebieFan; 1171733]What a sad and uninformed comment. Maybe you attract scammers but in 25 years of visiting, living and playing there I never have been scammed. Its all about not acepting every story at face value and listening to what your instinct is telling you.

Theres no such thing as a free lunch and free sex only happens because you create the chemistry to make it happen.

Scams however are also because you let that happen.

You go in a bar and a girl will always ask if its your first time. Sure she's figuring if you know the prices.

She asks where you stay. Higher the price of the hotel, higher the possible return.

Surely any and every guy entering a bar knows this.

But no need to think they all play scams. Develop some instincts and let them guide you well.[/QUOTE]Lighten up what do you think "LOL" stands for?

Check some of my posts I have gf 1 and gf2 here with me in Cebu.

I love pina

Hello All,

This is my first post to this site. I am a senior member on USAG. I met a 36 y/o woman on DIA and we have been talking live with a webcam thanks to Yahoo for almost 3 months. I am now planning to take a trip and visit her in Cebu. We are both marriage minded. I have spoken with other girls from DIA and the all would like me to send them money. The 36 why / o has not asked me for anything and even when I have offered she has declined. I did send her a birthday card with a small amount of money in it but not becaused she asked. She has never been married but has 2 children and never married, lives with her mother. Unlike other girls I have spoken with she has a computer and the internet at her home and all the others go to an internet cafe, so I am assuming that her family may be better off than most but not having any experience in other parts of the world I am not sure. At first if I even brought up the subject of sex she would scold me and ask if that was all I wanted and if it was to just keep on moving because she was not that kind of girl. After we discussed my visiting she has sent me a few pictures of herself but nothing too revealing than an ass cheek. She has also started to give me details of how she will satisfy me sexually while I am there.

I am feeling confident that this girl is being honest with me but I have read this forum and it has caused me to think more about it.

I would appreciate any advice or thoughts on this subject.

Thanks

@Must be Jelly:

This topic has been addressed many times on various threads, and it's always pretty consistent: go slowly. Take the time to get to know the lady. Take the time to know her family. Take the time to adjust to being here because, if you've not traveled much, it will be different from any place you've ever known. Don't let the great sex warp your judgement, and don't let yourself get pressured into making decisions. That is, recognize that you're somewhat disoriented, and subject to post-coital languor. Remember, this is a culture that you won't understand without a great deal of work, and she's going to try to be your guide, your map in a region you don't know, so the tendency will be for you to rely on her and to trust her.

The fact that she's never asked you for money is a good sign, but it's not definitive or probative. Give yourself the time to reach some rational decisions made with your large brain. I also suggest you resist even thinking about staying at her house where you will be under the careful scrutiny of the family. Stay in a hotel which will give you your own space and do not get sucked into spending every minute with her and her family. Make some time for yourself; take some time away from her and go talk to some of the expats who live there; hit some of the bars so that, even if you don't take any of the girls, you will have a sense of what life can be like here if you're unattached and uncommitted.

This lady could be everything she seems, or not. All you've got so far is a relationship in cyberspace where people can be whatever they want to be. Take the time to verify your assumptions, and to assess what you really want out of this and don't pre-commit yourself to anything irrevocable.

GE

[QUOTE=Must Be Jelly; 1171899]Hello, All,

This is my first post to this site. I am a senior member on USAG. I met a 36 why / o woman on DIA and we have been talking live with a webcam thanks to Yahoo for almost 3 months. I am now planning to take a trip and visit her in Cebu. We are both marriage minded. I have spoken with other girls from DIA and the all would like me to send them money. The 36 why / o has not asked me for anything and even when I have offered she has declined. I did send her a birthday card with a small amount of money in it but not becaused she asked. She has never been married but has 2 children and never married, lives with her mother. Unlike other girls I have spoken with she has a computer and the internet at her home and all the others go to an internet cafe, so I am assuming that her family may be better off than most but not having any experience in other parts of the world I am not sure. At first if I even brought up the subject of sex she would scold me and ask if that was all I wanted and if it was to just keep on moving because she was not that kind of girl. After we discussed my visiting she has sent me a few pictures of herself but nothing too revealing than an ass cheek. She has also started to give me details of how she will satisfy me sexually while I am there.

I am feeling confident that this girl is being honest with me but I have read this forum and it has caused me to think more about it.

I would appreciate any advice or thoughts on this subject.

Thanks[/QUOTE]It does not add up, single mom with 2 kids not married, has computer and internet, lives with her mom where is her father, she has a history to get money like that and the 2 kids, if she was better off she would not be online looking for a man, you think if she was well off she would leave her family to live with you in another country. See if she has fb find out her friends contact them. I would do alot more digging around on this one. Remember it is a career for them, interview them.

I would get a few others you want to meet before you come here, when you do get here ask her for her passwords to DIA and email and YM.

Good luck

But Frenzy, we never know the whole truth here. All we ever get, at best, are partial truths and evasions. This is going to prove true no matter how many women he meets and no matter the circumstances under which he meets them. The fact is, nothing here ever "adds up" completely, or if it does, I've never seen those circumstances. Maybe she's getting money from other guys on line, or maybe her father died and was fairly well off and left some money, or maybe the father or fathers of the children send money. Who knows?

GE

[QUOTE=Frenzy3; 1172022]It does not add up, single mom with 2 kids not married, has computer and internet, lives with her mom where is her father, she has a history to get money like that and the 2 kids, if she was better off she would not be online looking for a man, you think if she was well off she would leave her family to live with you in another country. See if she has fb find out her friends contact them. I would do alot more digging around on this one. Remember it is a career for them, interview them.

I would get a few others you want to meet before you come here, when you do get here ask her for her passwords to DIA and email and YM.

Good luck[/QUOTE]Adds up as quite normal Frenzy. Having a computer is very normal, look at prices of computers in Phils, especially second hand ones. Where is her father you ask. I reckon that at least 30% of Filipino families are separated, father either an OFW or living with another woman. All very normal. I agree that the poster should be very careful before comitting his all to anyone he doesn't really know (and you can really only know someone when you have spent time face to face with them, had fights and arguments, discussed money rationally ). Having a computer at home and no dad however is very normal.

[QUOTE=Must Be Jelly; 1171899]Hello, All,

This is my first post to this site. I am a senior member on USAG. I met a 36 why / o woman on DIA and we have been talking live with a webcam thanks to Yahoo for almost 3 months. I am now planning to take a trip and visit her in Cebu. We are both marriage minded. I have spoken with other girls from DIA and the all would like me to send them money. The 36 why / o has not asked me for anything and even when I have offered she has declined. I did send her a birthday card with a small amount of money in it but not becaused she asked. She has never been married but has 2 children and never married, lives with her mother. Unlike other girls I have spoken with she has a computer and the internet at her home and all the others go to an internet cafe, so I am assuming that her family may be better off than most but not having any experience in other parts of the world I am not sure. At first if I even brought up the subject of sex she would scold me and ask if that was all I wanted and if it was to just keep on moving because she was not that kind of girl. After we discussed my visiting she has sent me a few pictures of herself but nothing too revealing than an ass cheek. She has also started to give me details of how she will satisfy me sexually while I am there.

I am feeling confident that this girl is being honest with me but I have read this forum and it has caused me to think more about it.

I would appreciate any advice or thoughts on this subject.

Thanks[/QUOTE]Don't let the stirrings in your drawers become stirrings in your heart. Keep a tight hand on your wallet. This woman sounds like an expert angler. The really skilled ones have the patience to act conservative and the discipline to avoid asking for money or gifts. At 36 yrs of age she is an old hand at the game. She is playing for the jackpot, marriage, so she is experienced enough to hold out until she gets that visa and the license to fleece you. At the start she scolds you for wanting sex but now she dangles it like a carrot on a stick in front of a hungry donkey to entice you along on that trip. She is not that kind of girl but she has 2 kids and has never been married, something that would be considered scandalous in Philippine society. So, it's perfectly acceptable for the Filipino guys to fuck and flee but the foreigner has to marry and take ownership of the mess they left behind?

Why not have some fun and gain experience in the region before getting marriage minded? Do some research on Dragon Ladies, it might save you a lot of money and more than a little pain. Don't limit yourself to the foreigner hunters on the dating sites.

[QUOTE=Must Be Jelly; 1171899]Hello, All,

This is my first post to this site. I am a senior member on USAG. I met a 36 why / o woman on DIA and we have been talking live with a webcam thanks to Yahoo for almost 3 months. I am now planning to take a trip and visit her in Cebu. We are both marriage minded. I have spoken with other girls from DIA and the all would like me to send them money. The 36 why / o has not asked me for anything and even when I have offered she has declined. I did send her a birthday card with a small amount of money in it but not becaused she asked. She has never been married but has 2 children and never married, lives with her mother. Unlike other girls I have spoken with she has a computer and the internet at her home and all the others go to an internet cafe, so I am assuming that her family may be better off than most but not having any experience in other parts of the world I am not sure. At first if I even brought up the subject of sex she would scold me and ask if that was all I wanted and if it was to just keep on moving because she was not that kind of girl. After we discussed my visiting she has sent me a few pictures of herself but nothing too revealing than an ass cheek. She has also started to give me details of how she will satisfy me sexually while I am there.

I am feeling confident that this girl is being honest with me but I have read this forum and it has caused me to think more about it.

I would appreciate any advice or thoughts on this subject.

Thanks[/QUOTE]Are you bored, lonely and desparate?

Think with your brain. There are plenty of girls in Phi without any kids baggage looking for serious relationships. Age difference if any does not matter to them.

Many women have computer at home nowadays or they can rent from their friends. One 18 year old girl I met had her own. It is possible a foreigner gave it to her in exchange for sex.

Before you get all gooey eyed with love, try to talk more girls, take trips to Phi and then decide with whom to settle down.

36 year old acting coy on sex-give me a break and two kids to boot.

All she wants is to angle you in for support for her and her kids. Your life will be miserable if you marry her.

@must be jelly.

CM and Sammon are both speaking my mind 100 per cent. I also think of this lady as an expert hustler.

You say you are both marriage minded, which causes another concern. Are you ready to quit your job and move to RP to find a new one?

As many others have aired earlier; Never take a pinay to your place, as this will cause you pain as soon as she has a permit to stay permanently and you father a child (basta, as they say).

[QUOTE=Chocha Monger; 1172158]Don't let the stirrings in your drawers become stirrings in your heart. Keep a tight hand on your wallet. This woman sounds like an expert angler. The really skilled ones have the patience to act conservative and the discipline to avoid asking for money or gifts. At 36 yrs of age she is an old hand at the game. She is playing for the jackpot, marriage, so she is experienced enough to hold out until she gets that visa and the license to fleece you. At the start she scolds you for wanting sex but now she dangles it like a carrot on a stick in front of a hungry donkey to entice you along on that trip. She is not that kind of girl but she has 2 kids and has never been married, something that would be considered scandalous in Philippine society. So, it's perfectly acceptable for the Filipino guys to fuck and flee but the foreigner has to marry and take ownership of the mess they left behind?

Why not have some fun and gain experience in the region before getting marriage minded? Do some research on Dragon Ladies, it might save you a lot of money and more than a little pain. Don't limit yourself to the foreigner hunters on the dating sites.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=GoodEnough; 1172100]But Frenzy, we never know the whole truth here. All we ever get, at best, are partial truths and evasions. This is going to prove true no matter how many women he meets and no matter the circumstances under which he meets them. The fact is, nothing here ever "adds up" completely, or if it does, I've never seen those circumstances. Maybe she's getting money from other guys on line, or maybe her father died and was fairly well off and left some money, or maybe the father or fathers of the children send money. Who knows?

GE[/QUOTE]Hi Guy's, Thanks for all the advice. I just want to clear a few things up.

1. I do intend to visit and meet her but not marry her. I plan on this being a vacation and plan to spend time with others while I am there.

2. Her father is dead according to her.

3. Her computer was given to her by an american BF.

4. I have no intention of moving to the Phils.

5. I have no doubt this woman has a past and I am keeping that in mind.

6. I have already told her that I will not spend all my time with her while on vacation.

7. I am not about to open my wallet for her and have told her that. I will however treat her the same as I would treat a woman in my home country while on a date which would include dinner, drinks and paying for any activities.

8. Yes, I am marriage minded but am taking my time.

No matter where a woman is from they never tell you everything and I would not tell them everything either, this is something I would expect to find anywhere in the world.

Thanks again everyone