the answer: fight speech with more speech. not censorship
[quote=jimmy boy 99; 1452541]i just stated what happened to me after visiting these clubs (due to the latency period of gonorrhea and the bareback sex, it is almost certain that i got it there). where is the warning for people to stay away, since i said i would return? having uncovered sex is risky, and the more uncovered it is, the higher the risk. we all should make a cost / benefit analysis of having uncovered sex, decide how much risk we are willing to take, and accept the results.
your argument that someone reading this a month or year from now is going to be scared off is ridiculous, because as you yourself said, by that time the problem will have been solved, so where is the risk?[/quote]i agree wholeheartedly with jimmyboy. more information is always better so that the forum members can be more fully informed about the nature of the activities we are engaging in.
if there is a problem posed the information that jimmyboy is sharing about his experiences, then the answer is to cure that risk with more speech, not censorship or discouraging jimmyboy from sharing information. if jimmyboy's information poses a risk (for example, badmouthing a club or raising a false warning) , then the answer is to do exactly what swingerlover did, that is, share the reasons why a club's name should not be maligned and why there is or isn't a danger to be concerned about. the forum members can make up their own minds after hearing all of the information from everyone.
the forum members are not so dull-witted that they need to be protected from exposure to jimmyboy's experiences because they will not be able to understand or correctly process swingerlover's astute observations. ok, maybe i have gone too far with this assumption, but i would like to give most of the folks here the benefit of the doubt.
i encourage the sharing of all such experiences if for no other reason than the fact that such vigorous discussion will give us pause to think about such things and to be more fully informed about the risks we face.
i have been lucky so far and haven't caught anything. i hope that if i do ever catch anything that my fellow forum members will at least indulge me with a forum to share my worries and concerns (if not to sympathize with me). i imagine that some of this stuff can be scary for folks to go through, so we shouldn't discourage discussion around these points, especially if these discussions have the potential for allaying fears or helping folks get through stressful situations.