Take a plunge if you want
If you know that she's bad with money, then you might also know that it's hard to get it back. When she's struggling for making money, then if you keep asking for it in future then you will be in a mess. As you are thinking that it's not insignificant to you, you better keep it with you and tell her (basically lie to her) that you bought something and you paid for it. And you still need money for that. That will keep you out of this loop. She can't complain as you didn't say no to her and also you're not inside the fence. Chill. Ignore if my suggestion sounds stupid.
[QUOTE=ManInMumbai;2883919]I have been frequenting an Indie for more than an year now. Developed quite a rapport. GFE during meets is just amazing due to all the ground work. Met her almost once every month till now. Gave her a birthday gift as well.
I do understand that she's always a bit in financial crunch. She's bad with money.
Today she called and asked for a loan of 25 k and that she will return it on 10th of this month as she's going to get some money from some where.
Now I have lost a fair share of money giving handouts to friends, relatives and colleagues, and now I only give when I know the amount is insignificant to me and when I don't expect it back.
But 25 k is not insignificant to me to not expect it back. But am also worried that refusing might break our connection and will lose my one good indie.
Anyone else faced this predicament? How did you handle it?[/QUOTE]
Can't Expect that much money back
[QUOTE=ManInMumbai;2883919]I have been frequenting an Indie for more than an year now. Developed quite a rapport. GFE during meets is just amazing due to all the ground work. Met her almost once every month till now. Gave her a birthday gift as well.
I do understand that she's always a bit in financial crunch. She's bad with money.
Today she called and asked for a loan of 25 k and that she will return it on 10th of this month as she's going to get some money from some where.
Now I have lost a fair share of money giving handouts to friends, relatives and colleagues, and now I only give when I know the amount is insignificant to me and when I don't expect it back.
But 25 k is not insignificant to me to not expect it back. But am also worried that refusing might break our connection and will lose my one good indie.
Anyone else faced this predicament? How did you handle it?[/QUOTE]That much money usually won't come back from a working girl.
Try to give some amount that is a little above insignificant for you or twice you pay her for each visit and cook up some story like you had a tough month too this way you won't lose contact and use the leverage for some meets too.