Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[QUOTE=Makeupaname;1301572]It's only emails with this giirl? Any filipina with internet will have a web cam[/QUOTE]LOL. Even they know that. Pinay busted my balls the other day for telling her I didn't have a cam:

Be: can I see you?

Mr Enternational: do not have cam remember.

Be: yesterday I just accepted it. But you know very well every pc now has a built in cam.

Be: just don't want to argue.

Mr Enternational: this one is broken so I have one I hook up to it.

Be: why not bring it you know I want to see you.

Mr Enternational: I left home 3 days ago and didn't bring it with me

Thanks guys again for the feedback. Much appreciated. I will report back on what happens either way, whether I go and meet her or not. At this time, it looks like I won't be meeting her as she made some direct request for assistance now and I replied back to her that while I might help her once I meet her, I'm not going to send her anything now as that's against my policy. I'm not really concerned about that one as I've been chatting with some delightful little things in the meantime, some which are educated and quite fun to be with. So either way, I'd have my hands full (no pun intended. LOL) when I get there that I wouldn't even noticed if the soon to be ex-wife is not in the picture. LOL.

Thanks again guys.

Cheers.

Great post WR. There was a time when some folks would suggest stopping contact with a gal who is hinting about gifts, rewards, presents, money. I seemed to be swimming against the current when I suggested that these were the types that might be successfully cultivated. As WR suggests, no reason to dump these gals. The truly evil scammers have moved way beyond begging. A gal who is just hoping that a poreigner can somehow be useful, is a gal you might want to meet with when you visit the country. X.

Ps; thanks wr for the Q contact. Wow!

[QUOTE=Wicked Roger; 1302710]Sprite.

They all say this and the easiest reply is "wait until we meet, see if we get along and then I can help possibly" This will see if she 'genuine'

As for cell phones and pawn shops. And I maybe wrongly informed here so correct me please. But I was spekaing with an old friend the other day who told me she cannot pawn her mobile in any pawn shop now as this practice has been stopped (at least in her province / town). Can't remember the reason but this is what she was telling me.

Also for cell phones I have said to cuties that I have a very basic Nokia with me (cost $25-$30) and she can have that once we meet. I do have this as I find it is fine and works in PI. She may say no as "needs a camera to take pictures" but say this is to text you so should be fine as it is a mobile and she does not have one now. Get her reaction LOL. As this also tells you about the girl. Where I live $25-30 Nokias are plentiful and I carry one as an emergency mobile in case my other phones pack up so can give to any girl (and have done so before). Some are grateful (the good ones) some moan (so you know what to do)

Another hint is to say to her that once you meet you could go to the pawn shop with her to collect it again. This sometiomes worries the cuties (for a variety of reasons!)

But the above is a common list of reasons why you should never do all that until you meet and are happy etc. And she has has directly asked you for financial help Sprite. Just in a subtle way.

Just see her and tell her it all depends on the chemistry. If she really 'serious' she will will turn up and be so nice and loving etc, if she persists with the demands then you have your answer about whether she is genuine IMHO[/QUOTE]

X, tried to PM you, but your inbox is full.

WC

[QUOTE=X Man; 1305034]Great post WR. There was a time when some folks would suggest stopping contact with a gal who is hinting about gifts, rewards, presents, money. I seemed to be swimming against the current when I suggested that these were the types that might be successfully cultivated. As WR suggests, no reason to dump these gals. The truly evil scammers have moved way beyond begging. A gal who is just hoping that a poreigner can somehow be useful, is a gal you might want to meet with when you visit the country. X.

Ps; thanks wr for the Q contact. Wow![/QUOTE]I would stop only if the lady was persistent and showed she could not read plain English. Then most guys would change the channel IMHO. Just need patience and a calm mind to deal with it thats all.

Sorry we missed each other X but glad you had fun, she said you were a nice guy and she is very tasty. And bisexual if that is your flavour LOL

Tasty and naughty and sexy, and a very interesting person all around. Thanks for sharing.

[QUOTE=Wicked Roger; 1305140]I would stop only if the lady was persistent and showed she could not read plain English. Then most guys would change the channel IMHO. Just need patience and a calm mind to deal with it thats all.

Sorry we missed each other X but glad you had fun, she said you were a nice guy and she is very tasty. And bisexual if that is your flavour LOL[/QUOTE]

Okay, this is going to be weird. This is a gal I've known for a long time. I met her in Cebu but she's not from Cebu. She has a professional job. I don't keep in touch much, but I've tasted her.

I don't know much about her current life, but I send her a how ru msg and I get.

Just lost my Belgian Boyfriend a week today. He was killed by a Filipino. So bad.

I'm just blown away. Any comments? Yes, I've asked for details, but this is kind of weird. I've had a lot of bad luck in PI recently. I'm not superstitious, but I'm getting weirded out. (That may be American slang. Weirded out. I feel very uncomfortable because things are getting weird)

X Man

[QUOTE=X Man;1309833]Just lost my Belgian Boyfriend a week today. He was killed by a Filipino. So bad.[/QUOTE]Sounds like a really bad situation. With these weird out feelings quite often we can turn on our minds to see all the bad shit. The good stuff is out there as well.

I'm inexperienced but learning with pinay. My local pinay she lost her boyfriend to a stroke, he has paralyses ad she was never able to visit him again inhis country. When I heard that story it just sounded too cute, it all happened while she was out of the country back in Phils. My thoughts were that he just moved on, sold her a story that she couldn't dispute and without his sponsorship couldn't even get back to that country to find out.

That being said though, Phils does has lax gun laws and the Sunstar publishes regular accounts of such love triangles gone wrong.

We just don't know what lies (if any) the Pinay is telling her family.

Another thing is why would your professional friend reply with such a message. What about just replying with "things aren't good. Will tell you about it one day." Not as dramatic but also just keeps you away without the involvement.

BD

But you lied to her because you know I'm not a nice guy and then she obediently lied back to you because she knows that I'm not a nice guy. Would you kinky pair please stop ruining my reputation!

[QUOTE=Wicked Roger;1305140], she said you were a nice guy[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=X Man;1309851]But you lied to her because you know I'm not a nice guy and then she obediently lied back to you because she knows that I'm not a nice guy. Would you kinky pair please stop ruining my reputation![/QUOTE]And how can we ruin a reputation that is already ruined LOL.

But agree with the comment kinky pair.

So the comment about how horny your were was also untrue? LOL.

As for the other post, just sympathise and ask more. Then see if she asks for cash. Am always cynical when I hear this unless I really know the person very well and just tasting is not "very well" in my book

No, I've known her for years and she's never asked for anything. It turns out that the guy was a long term expat and was seperated but still married. I suspected a murder for hire, but she doesn't think so.

You go thru life asking other people how they are and it's kind of shocking when you first hear."oh, the bf got murdered, and how are you?" (my paraphrase).

[QUOTE=Wicked Roger;1309868]As for the other post, just sympathise and ask more. Then see if she asks for cash. Am always cynical when I hear this unless I really know the person very well and just tasting is not "very well" in my book[/QUOTE]

Don't lose your cool. I personally find it humiliating to express too much sympathy, to give too much assistance, only to find that the sad story is untrue or exaggerated. In this case, exaggeration is impossible, the BF was either murdered, or he was not. If he was, confirmation, either paper or digital, should be easy to come by. It will be in the news, it will be discussed online and available by google search by name. Your choice: either listen politely to the story and then forget about it, or ask for details and seek confirmation. If the dead man were a husband or relative, she should have confirmation in the form of a death certificate--and funeral photos. However, there is no need to seek confirmation unless she has a followup, some version of "Give me money."

[QUOTE=X Man; 1309833]Okay, this is going to be weird. This is a gal I've known for a long time. I met her in Cebu but she's not from Cebu. She has a professional job. I don't keep in touch much, but I've tasted her.

I don't know much about her current life, but I send her a how ru msg and I get.

Just lost my Belgian Boyfriend a week today. He was killed by a Filipino. So bad.

I'm just blown away. Any comments? Yes, I've asked for details, but this is kind of weird. I've had a lot of bad luck in PI recently. I'm not superstitious, but I'm getting weirded out. (That may be American slang. Weirded out. I feel very uncomfortable because things are getting weird)

X Man[/QUOTE]

Check back issues of SunstarCebu (local online paper). Google it.

Cheapy

[QUOTE=Cbea20;1310863]Don't lose your cool. I personally find it humiliating to express too much sympathy, to give too much assistance, only to find that the sad story is untrue or exaggerated. In this case, exaggeration is impossible, the BF was either murdered, or he was not. If he was, confirmation, either paper or digital, should be easy to come by. It will be in the news, it will be discussed online and available by google search by name. Your choice: either listen politely to the story and then forget about it, or ask for details and seek confirmation. If the dead man were a husband or relative, she should have confirmation in the form of a death certificate--and funeral photos. However, there is no need to seek confirmation unless she has a followup, some version of "Give me money."[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Cheapy;1310954]Check back issues of SunstarCebu (local online paper). Google it.[/QUOTE]No story of a Belgian expat being murdered in Cebu posted recently. If there was such a story it would be breaking news on GMA's 24oras and ABS's TVPatrol and all over the local press.

[QUOTE=X Man; 1309833]Okay, this is going to be weird. This is a gal I've known for a long time. I met her in Cebu but she's not from Cebu. She has a professional job. I don't keep in touch much, but I've tasted her.

I don't know much about her current life, but I send her a how ru msg and I get.

Just lost my Belgian Boyfriend a week today. He was killed by a Filipino. So bad.

I'm just blown away. Any comments? Yes, I've asked for details, but this is kind of weird. I've had a lot of bad luck in PI recently. I'm not superstitious, but I'm getting weirded out. (That may be American slang. Weirded out. I feel very uncomfortable because things are getting weird) [/QUOTE]The old saying goes, be more valuable alive than dead in the Philippines.

Also there have been a few incidents where an idiot expat thought he was king s*it and put all the locals down. The kind of guy who would visit a bar in his local barangay and hit on filipinas even if they were in the company of local guys. The kind of guy that gets drunk, loud and all the locals hate him. He walks around with a target on his back and has no idea. In a country where bullets are cheap and there are so many guns it's a miracle more foreigners don't end up dead. Rant over.

[QUOTE=Stroker Ace88; 1311721]No story of a Belgian expat being murdered in Cebu posted recently. If there was such a story it would be breaking news on GMA's 24oras and ABS's TVPatrol and all over the local press.

The old saying goes, be more valuable alive than dead in the Philippines.

Also there have been a few incidents where an idiot expat thought he was king s*it and put all the locals down. The kind of guy who would visit a bar in his local barangay and hit on filipinas even if they were in the company of local guys. The kind of guy that gets drunk, loud and all the locals hate him. He walks around with a target on his back and has no idea. In a country where bullets are cheap and there are so many guns it's a miracle more foreigners don't end up dead. Rant over.[/QUOTE]Agree with you SA.

See this link.

[url]http://www.sunstar.com.ph/search/google/belgan[/url]%20murder? Query=belgan%20murder&cx=002466650891154542549%3A1kyajibber0&cof=FORID%[url]3A11&sitesearch=www.sunstar.com.ph&safe=off[/url]

No mention of any Belgian being murdered and if he was it would be front page news so I checked Google and nothing either. Cheapy post the link please